This is the account of two men who believe that we are created for deep, meaningful, and emotionally intimate relationships. The authors have found these relationships with their wives, and they are models for their children. They experience this kind of relationship with each other. They share how vital these relationships are through their Someone To Tell It To. They create safe environments for people to share the stories of their lives openly and unashamedly. They encourage others to find safe people in their lives to foster relationships that provide true support, unconditional love, and grace. This book shares the authors' stories and the stories of others who are seeking meaning and purpose in their lives, especially when faced with challenges and questions. Someone To Tell It To may remind us that we are not alone in our fears, or in our feelings of inadequacy and uncertainty. Readers may be motivated to create more vital connections in their lives, connections that can be life-giving and soul-enriching, that can bring peace in the dark seasons of our lives. "Having someone to tell it to" as author Miles Franklin writes, is "one of the fundamental needs of human beings"
This book was originally recommended to me by someone I truly respect for all that she does to create safe spaces and also contribute to the "Someone to Tell It To," message. Soo much goodness to this book! The main idea is simple; just listen! Listen to the stories of those around you, be present in conversations, relationships and just TRULY listen. There doesn't always have to be a piece of advice when someone is unpacking their troubles with you. There doesn't even have to be a word! The chapters that really hit home for me were focused on authenticity. Being true to oneself is such a powerful message. Each chapter also features at least one or two quotes as an intro. Who doesn't love a good inspirational quote every now and then?
I find it hard to read books by people I know or have connections to in real life. I feel like there is some sort of expectation that I will love it (and trust me, that is all on me.. not on the authors!). So, admittedly, I was nervous. I have a love/ hate relationship with Christian "non-fiction" books. I expect to love them and usually end up not finishing them or hating them.
Someone to Tell it to reminds me of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books that were popular 15 years ago. It is a collection of memories from the authors as well as brief stories from people they have worked with and listened to. It was incredibly engaging and full of heartbreak.
Did I learn some sort of huge theological breakthrough? No. But where this book is strong is in its simplicity. Someone to Tell it to is exactly what it promises to be- proving the point that EVERYONE has a story to share and everyone is worthy of being heard. It is such a powerful statement- going to the bare bones of every person's deepest needs. We need to be heard. We need to know we are worthy and that we are someone.
I truly enjoyed this book- the authors write beautifully. Their writing could be considered an art- the words are incredibly lyrical and chosen carefully, to extend the fullest meaning. It is obvious that this book was written with care and close consideration.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone- I think it crosses genres. Fans of fiction, non-fiction, Christian writings, and mainstream writings all share the same need- to be heard by someone else. I honestly can't think of anyone I WOULDN'T recommend this book to.
On a side note, from what I have experienced of these authors- they are truly wonderful people. This is a book where I believe both the writing and the people deserve to be supported.
This book will make you laugh, it will make you cry but most importantly it will remind you that you're not alone and someone out there has been through what you're going through. This book is healing and validating and encourages you to connect with one another rather than withdraw and retreat and wither way.