Wired That Way: A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Maximizing Your Personality Type

by Marita Littauer, Florence Littauer

Do you want to better understand yourself, maximize your strengths, and improve your relationships? Understanding how we are wired can enrich our lives and our relationships, helping to overcome differences that can seem irreconcilable. Instead of terminating jobs, friendships, or marriage on grounds of incompatibility, it is possible to turn these relationships from dying to growing. For more than 25 years, Marita Littauer, with her mother, Florence Littauer, has helped thousands of men and women with their personal and professional relationships. In Wired That Way , Marita brings together in one book a comprehensive overview of the personality types that speaks to anyone who wants to understand and to be understood.

Genres: Personal Development, Nonfiction

280 pages, Paperback

First published May 8, 2006

Reviews

[Emily Christian · Rating 4 out of 5]

I absolutely enjoyed this book and learning about the different personalities. Was so interesting to find out what my personality’s are and I have even started pin pointing those around me. I’ve learned a lot about myself in the process of reading this book and found that I have worked on myself a lot but I now can see new areas that I can work and better myself in. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is curious about themselves or people in general.

[Tara Beck · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was an interesting read for sure! I took the personality profile, and I do feel that it was quite accurate for me. I have a little bit of a hard time with "personality studies" because it seems that people use that as a crutch (i.e. "This is just how I am."), but I like that this one talks about the strengths and weaknesses of each personality and specifies that the goal is to gain each strength and lose each weakness. So there's still plenty of room for a growth mindset over a fixed mindset in this approach to personalities. I would recommend giving it a read!

[Jalie · Rating 4 out of 5]

While I started out a little frustrated with the personality quiz (my personality type came back confusing) this book gave some great insights about people and how we are different. I will be implementing some of her advice in bettering relationships in my own life. I also appreciated the last chapter on the personalities and Christianity.

[Michael Hutton · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book should be read by everyone who wants to understand people. While I don't necessarily agree with the "Christian" slant, the analysis is true and correct of our personalities and how to better understand each other.

[Michael · Rating 4 out of 5]

People are driven by elements of the personalities they're born with and their learnt behaviours. It's essential to understand people's personality types as a foundation of creating connection. A great read.

[Kennneth Carter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Truly Eye Opening

This book has helped me understand my partner better and has allowed us to have a better relationship because i now understand what she needs.

When you read this book you will laugh at how accurate the personalities are to your current behaviors.

[Jacquelyn Coronado · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good book to understand the four humors from a Christian perspective.

[Beth Zirbes · Rating 4 out of 5]

Learned a lot

This book really helped me understand the people around me a little better - for both professional and personal relationships.

[Jamie Scott · Rating 5 out of 5]

Always good to reread

I have read this before and I read again. I will need to read annually to really keep these things in mind. It is that good.

[Tullius · Rating 5 out of 5]

Pending

[Alexander Gil · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great extension of personality plus. Enjoyed the insights into my personality and understanding how to interact with others.

[Wendy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Such an interesting book for anyone who wants to understand their personality better and those around them. It really teaches you how to focus on and play your strengths. It’s also helped me understand where the challenges I have in my relationships come from. I’d definitely recommend this

[Sarah♥ · Rating 1 out of 5]

Having now finished, I must note that I had to switch to the audiobook, as I found the narrator much more helpful. NOTE FOR PARENTS: DO NOT listen with children present, as extremely inappropriate situations are discussed, which I was horrified at the lack of warning or presence of mind due the author, considering the book is presented from a faith point of view.

Overall, it was a battle between helpful information and complete bias. The author does not strike me as a writer, and maybe that was the disconnect due editing staff. She made her husband sound very insecure and domineering, and herself a happy-go-lucky steamroller. I more appreciated the outsourced stories as examples of the different personalities. I will be way more interested to hear the original personalities book by her parents, if I am able to find it.

-Update: I look back, and I find this incredibly limiting and foundationally incorrect on many levels. What people don't realize (I didn't), is that sometimes the personalities we adopt are not even our own. I do find that regardless of the caviats by the authors, "don't let your personality be an excuse," the opposite frequently happens. There are too many "personality" profiles that are actually rooted in false religion, or are completely against who God says we are.

The fact is, if you feel like you have something influencing your life for the worse, you probably have some literal demons to get rid of, curses to break, and heading healing to obtain. I used to find personality stuff fun and intriguing, now however, all of it is wrong if for no other reason, than I shouldn't be listening to anyone telling me about myself. I need to read the Word and find out what God says about me, whether written, or in spirit. I divorce myself of all of this other rubbish.

[Dawn McNutt · Rating 4 out of 5]

Had me pegged.

Learning these personality types may already be helping me improve communication with others and I plan to have my sons take the personality test as well. I took the test a couple of times and it definitely identified my true personality. I enjoyed the book but wanted even more communication.

[Matt Soderstrum · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this book! It explores in depth personality styles - and gives specific, concrete advice on how to best communicate based on not only our own personality style, but on that of the other person. Fascinating stuff!

[Shayne Rogers · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing and very insightful.

I loved taking the personality profile attached at the end of this book. It really helps as you read along.