As she breaks 200 pounds, and not in a good way, 29-year-old Rita finds herself married to a self-focused widower with two difficult kids and a mother who almost makes Rita’s own mother look like a role model—which is really saying something. Graham’s first wife, being dead, just keeps getting better and better in everyone’s memories while Rita just gets fatter and more aggravated. She’s tried every diet in the book, but it’s not until a family crisis forces her out the door that she discovers that the easiest way to lose weight is to get rid of the baggage on the inside. Funny and insightful, RITA JUST WANTS TO BE THIN is sure to make readers of all shapes and sizes feel better about themselves—and ultimately maybe even about Rita.
Mary W. Walters is the award-winning author of 4.5 novels, a collection of short stories, a non-fiction book about grant-writing for academics, and hundreds of essays, articles and blog posts on a host of subjects. She has been executive director of a writers’ organization, awards facilitator at at university, a writing teacher, a freelance writer, editor and grants consultant – and, throughout it all, she has been a fiction writer.
Mary has won a Writers Guild of Alberta award for excellence in writing and been shortlisted for several other writing awards. She has won an Achievement Award from the Province of Alberta, and is listed in Who’s Who in Canada. She lives in Toronto and on the Internet.
I am going to say at the outset that I was impressed immediately with way the opening pages grabbed my attention. Rita is a young woman of 28, but she is like so many other women. She smokes too much, her addiction to food has tipped her into the morbidly obese category, and her life has gone to hell because of it.
Only a few years before, when she was young and svelte she met and fell in love with a widower who had two young children. Her husband, Graham, is a journalist, and his two children, Ida and Simon, resent her presence in their lives. The ghost of her husband’s dead wife looms large in Rita’s life—appearing as an unseen but ever-present specter whose perfection can never be matched no matter how she strives to do so. She cooks and cleans and does everything a mother does with none of the gratitude or respect. Her sole place of comfort has become her green sofa, her cigarettes and food.
Severely depressed, she goes to her regular doctor only to find him gone. The new, snarky nurse informs her she will have to see Dr. Graves or wait weeks. Dr. Graves takes one look at her and unleashes a diatribe which destroys Rita, humiliating her and telling her if she wants to die she should just do it.
Each section opens with the diet Rita is attempting to stick to that month, and the final one is seems the most sensible one when you look at it.
Rita’s journey to self-discovery is a compelling character study by the mistress of character studies. Her struggles with self-doubt, self-loathing and addiction to both food and cigarettes are vivid descriptions of the daily torments so many women endure. The place where Rita at last begins the final steps to healing is the last place anyone would ever think she would find refuge.
For Rita there is no magic bullet, no perfect diet and no easy way out. This book is a testament to the strength and determination which is sometimes found only when a person is completely broken down to their component parts. The reassembling process is what I find most inspiring.
I interviewed the author of this book for a radio show I used to host on Trent Radio (the community and campus radio station in Peterborough, Ontario). I read the book in preparation for our interview and found the book both entertaining and insightful. (Like the heroine, Rita, I have struggled with my weight over the years.) Definitely recommended, particularly if you have ever struggled with body image issues.
So close.... Honestly the story and the writing were much better than two stars, at least, right up until the last quarter of the book. Rita was breaking free of the diet-binge cycle and finally learning to actually pay attention and take care of herself and care about herself and then, bam, right back to guilt and shame and the righteousness of hunger bullshit. I am quite disappointed.
This novel made me feel sorry for Rita all the time. Not because she is overweight but that she is in such a bad situation. Even at the end when she should be happier I find that she is still stuck. I didn't like it because of how it made me feel.
As someone who has battled with weight for most of my adult life I could identify with Rita in a lot of her thought processes. Although I get supper, unlike poor Rita.
Everyone in her life takes advantage of her, her husband, step-children, in laws and mother. Interestingly the only ones are truly nice to her are her hairdresser and the mother of her husband’s first wife who is dead.
I was disappointed at the end though when she moved back in with her husband as I really hoped she would kick him into touch for good. He came across as a horrible, selfish man, who first starting pursuing her when they met while he was placing the obituary for his first wife! For me this showed that he just didn’t want to be on his own bringing up his children and all through the book I kept getting that same impression.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
I don’t know what I was expecting when I selected this book, but author Mary L. Walters managed to exceed all my expectations. I cheered for Rita and I sometimes lost patience with her during her struggles to balance her demanding family and her addiction to food and cigarettes with her hopes and dreams for a healthier more independent life. Rita’s revelations about food and comfort interspersed with the issues of grief, loss, codependency and independence hit home with me as did the cavalcade of fad diets and the expectation of instant results or a quick fix. I hope Ms. Walters revisits Rita in a future novel, so we can see how she’s coping with her new life.
I get what the author was trying to do with this book. It just wasn't executed well. If I wanted to listen to someone whine about how they couldn't lose weight while sitting on the couch stuffing their face with potato chips, I'd talk to myself about it. I do sympathize with Rita's predicament with her husband and two step kids. I actually enjoyed that aspect of the story more. But over all this just wasn't the story for me.
When I started this book I didn’t like any of the characters, they were written at their ugliest and it becomes clear that although not written from first person point of view I can see that this was the perspective of the main character. As she changed so do the words that represent her and the other characters. In the end I’m glad I read this book as the people dealt with real problems in a real way not like a fairytale.
This book was hard to work through. I've had issues with my weight throughout my life and I often feel lost in the day to day routine of having children and a job. What I found hardest was how little Rita tried to find herself until the very end of the book. It was mind-numbing.
I was initially incredibly disappointed/annoyed in the start of this book, primarily because the author describes a vastly obese (almost seemingly someone who can barely walk a few yards) woman (Rita) who then transpires that whilst she is most definitely overweight, should not on the weight indicated be described as such... and I speak as being marginally lighter than Rita is at the start of the book having already lost a considerable amount of weight so have been that 'vastly obese' person I felt the author was describing. Once I got to the point where I could ignore the actual weight and concentrate on the story this moved on apace...only for me to be disappointed again when I 'turned' the page over to find that the book had finished. This certainly didn't seem to have a distinct ending.
For most of this book, I just wanted to be finished reading it. The last 1/3 was much more interesting than the first 2/3 as Rita stopped whining and trying different fad diets and became a more interesting, introspective person who started doing something about her life!
I was expecting something rather light-hearted, based on the cover and the description.
It isn't.
Rita is trapped in a horrible marriage with a man who pretty much married her to get free housekeeping and childcare for his utterly horrible children. And then he starts to "work" at home, and rather than him chipping in and dealing with HIS kids, he abdicates...and abdicates even more when his mother moves in with him and contributes nothing except added stress for Rita. Plus, he wants her to have a baby!
Eventually Rita does develop a spine, but during most of the book she is downtrodden. And even after the spine-growing- she's still stuck with the obnoxious stepkids, her selfish and oblivious husband who is not even supporting the family, etc.
This was well-written, but very NOT light, and very sad.
I gave it 3 stars because it IS well-written, but also is far more depressing than the cover suggests.
Some books aren’t great literature but you like them because you find you can connect with them. This was one of those for me.
28-year-old Rita was young, pretty and thin before she got married. Marriage brought her a husband, Graham and two rather unpleasant step-children. She also has to contend with Graham’s dead and quite perfect first wife who she can never measure up to. Graham is a work-from-home journalist. He isn’t really a bad sort but is self-centred and inhumanly insensitive.
Overworked, undervalued, exhausted and lonely, Rita finds solace in food. As the pounds pile up she begins to hate the way she looks. She tries out new diets regularly but fails to stick to any of them, fuelling rounds of self-loathing and more bingeing.
Things come to a head when her mother-in-law comes to stay with her until finally one day she decides to walk out.
What I liked:
Rita’s struggle with weight is something common to a lot of women — the constant awareness of one’s weight, the acute self-consciousness due to it, the self-loathing that comes after a binge and yet not being able to find the will-power to do anything about it — all of that made the book extremely relatable.
Later the rush Rita gets when she begins to walk, the way she learns to disengage herself from her situation and make time for herself – I loved all of that.
Also, her story isn’t just about her fight with fat. It is about how she learns to assert herself, how she decides that she will be the one in charge of her life. It is a reminder for anyone stuck in a rut that they alone can change their lives.
What I didn’t like
Rita’s struggle is so long that it gets tedious and depressing. The turnaround comes after a long long time. The book ends right at the beginning of Rita’s new journey. I would have liked an epilogue, at least. I will always have the niggling feeling that she slipped back to her old ways and that takes away from the perfect ending.
I had to stop reading this book after being 21% the way through...it was way too depressing and life is too short!
I'm not sure if the intention was to make the reader feel depressed reading it, Rita is clearly depressed with her life and being "fat". I say fat like that because her weight is certainly not that big to affect her life so badly, at least it shouldn't be! She seems to blame her weight on a lot of things and that a lot of different things have caused her weight to go up but really the problem is that she has 0 self-esteem, married a guy who clearly just wanted her to replace his dead wife and that she seems to have no ambition.
Anyway, I couldn't finish it, the first ever book I haven't persevered with. Maybe I will go back to it at some point but right now it just was not for me.
Rita is fat and generally hates her life. This story tells her journey from her food and nicotine addiction to even deeper into depression, to her finally realizing that her life is hers.... if she wants a better life, she has to be the one whom gets it.
Frustrating at first to get into Rita's head, but as the book carries on, it is easier to understand where she is coming from. It is nice to be able to see her grow as a person and stop blaming those around her for her problems. And a good reminder as well that we need to make things happen rather than wait and hope for better things to come along.
A bit depressing and self hating because she is fat. She hates her life and herself, in a marriage after the first wife's death, raising his children in their house. Bad health and a self esteem she finds herself at a doctor's office getting scolded for her lifestyle.
A very disturbing story but happily she finds an "out" walking.
The characterization is pure genius. Walters writes the truth of what it means to struggle with your identity. I loved this book. I loved it so much. Rita is every woman who has hated her body, every woman who has fallen prey to the incessant needs of others without carving time for herself. Rita is all of us and this book is one that all should read.
Looking for an uplifting light read for the summer then read this book. A story about a woman struggling to find her identity who cannot keep to a diet and over eats when things get tough but after an unpleasant encounter pulls it together.
Rita is me. I am Rita. Whatever. This book hit home! I can totally relate to Rita and her struggles. I was mesmerized to see my feelings so thoroughly described. Maybe this will help me understand my eating issue/addiction and experience some of Rita's success. Fingers crossed!
This book was great! I think a lot of people can relate to Rita, not all the circumstances but definately the feelings. I was hooked after the first chapter but the ending is a bit unfinished... is there a sequel to the book?
This was a strange book. The story and the characters were strange. This was set in the late 90's in Canada so it had some different references than I'm used to.
This was a fun lighthearted book. It was a little clumsy in some places and it felt a bit like Mary Walters wanted to 'teach' us a bit about obesity. Overall a nice & easy holiday read.