It's Hard to Fight Naked

by Niecy Nash

This fun, accessible, and enlightening guide to love and relationships offers a whole new perspective on finding—and keeping—Mr. Right.

Niecy Nash wants you to find love. She invites you to think differently about traditional norms and matters of the heart. She wants you to get the very thing we are created for—great relationships! But you have to want it too. None of this “there are no good men left” nonsense. With an attitude like that, you might as well keep your butt at home because you already believe unhappiness is yours to claim. The universe will send you somebody amazing, but why would it ever send the best for you when you’re not at your best? Time for a tall glass of “act right”!

Before you start thinking, “Well, it’s easy for Niecy to dish out advice with her hilarious hit television shows and her hot, sexy husband,” just know that she’s been cheated on, divorced, brokenhearted, and laid up in bed, wailing and gnashing, surrounded by girlfriends telling her that those men didn’t deserve her. None of that was constructive! Each time, she had to be honest with herself before she could make the choice to find love again.

In this hilarious, heartfelt book of no-nonsense dating and relationship wisdom, Niecy tells it like it is. What she has to say might not always be popular with your girlfriends. Your perseverance will be tested. But in the end you will find out how to keep yourself happy and your man coming back for more! You’ll also understand your priorities, you’ll know where to look for love, you’ll learn how to keep your relationship thriving, how to fight fair with your partner, and best of all, how hard it is to fight at all if you're naked!

You attract what you are, so be what you want to see. Loving and caring for yourself will welcome a man who will do the same.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships

224 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2013

Reviews

[Peebee · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you like Niecy Nash, you'll probably really like this book. If you find her annoying, you'll find it hackneyed and cliched. I'm in between these two extremes....I like what she has to say, even though it's not exactly original thinking when it comes to relationships. And as I read it, I couldn't help hearing it being delivered in Niecy's voice. (I wonder if an audio version is available, because that might be one of the few audiobooks I would really enjoy...it would be like listening to one of your girlfriends). Anyway, it's a superfast read, and if even one thing sinks in that you haven't really taken to heart before, then it will probably benefit your romantic relationships (assuming they are heterosexual -- if they're not, you'll know the chapters you can skip, based upon your partner's gender, like Chapter 3).

[Titilayo · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love Niecy Nash. Picked up this book to have a light read after finishing a dense 400 page epic. Best decision all summer! It was comical, yet teeming over with sisterly. Who knew the secret to a successful marriage was: "Penis Empty Stomach Full"? Yeah!!! Granted your inner feminist/african womanist will have a few ontological issues with her logic; but, we can acknowledge that she shares out of a sincere loving place & her comic timing is genius. The fact that her husband co-signs everything in the afterward is that saccrine beautiful thing called sticking to what works for you and wishing the best to others. Hooray for Black Love!!!

[Michelle Gomez · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nice Read, very easy read, good conversation starters examples.

[Winter Sophia Rose · Rating 5 out of 5]

Honest, Amusing & Insightful!

[Puretigerlady · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was geared more towards someone who is dating and looking for love than a married woman. It was a good read and entertaining, but not completely helpful for my personal situation.

[Jahque Sweeney-Hill · Rating 5 out of 5]

She is SO right!!!!!

[favorisntfairC · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great, insightful read. Written in the funny, straight-to-the-point way that only Niecy could, there was some life lessons and love lessons that can possibly transform any relationship - platonic or romantic. One in particular was the idea of love not being unconditional. When you really think about it, everyone's love does come with conditions. I, like many other people, have standards that must be met an exceeded to earn my love, respect, and trust. Ultimately, what I gathered from the book is be clear on what you want and what you have to offer - know the difference between preferences and having your needs met. Also, one must communicate what they want clearly and ensure that they are actively listening to their partner in the literal and figurative sense. All in all a great book, that I recommend to anyone seeking to better themselves and their relationships.

[Naeemah Huggins · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic, insightful, realistic. It has changed my views on how you should assess yourself in and out of relationships. Its a good read, at any stage of the relationship. I appreciate her candor and the insight into her own marriage. You go girl!

[Tasha · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book! It was inspring, funny, and full of useful information! I think single women and women who are in a relationship can greatly benefit from this book! When I was reading it I could hear Niecy's voice which made it all the more entertaining! Lol

[Che · Rating 3 out of 5]

When the advice is good, it's concise and helpful. But some views are over simplified and, in my opinion, apply to the men she's dated. But I think overall, she wrote this from a place of wanting to help women find and maintain love. That's reason enough to read this book.

[Monica · Rating 4 out of 5]

Loved this book! Neicy and her husband give a lot of good advice and suggestions to women and men about relationships and marriage. Easy read.

[MS. KYM · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quite enjoyable, humorous at times. Nonetheless, I did nod my head at certain passages and suggestions, where others were common sense.

[Miranda · Rating 4 out of 5]

I would never expect for every line of a relationship book to feel like it was correct or applicable to me that just isn’t possible as every relationship is different and people have different goals and expectations for love and relationships!
I would say this like 80/20 - I agree with most of it and think there are MANY gems here and some very sound advice. What I loved the most about this book was the style / approach - it honesty reads like a discussion like a good old sit down with friends! It is also great because you cannot help but read it in her voice and with her attitude and tone which makes it so much better - to me this was definitely like Desna from Claws which I loved so again perfection on presentation!

The discussion of needing to heal was spot on - finding the way you need love and your other needs love (similar to love language) spot on - talk of the need to be vulnerable and honest was spot on - talk of needing to love and support and put in the work to keep the love alive was spot on —- honestly this is a very simple break down and it really does have a lot to offer as well as entertainment


I would be very interested to see what her thoughts are now give it has been a while and much has changed for her I would def buy a follow up or update - I would also absolutely love to have her write a memoir / autobiography in the same voice / style!

[Shannon]

Didn’t realize this was a relationship advice book & not a memoir. (Yes, I should’ve read the summary first.)
I like her way of writing as I can her speaking the words in my head.
But I only skimmed through this.

[Dawn · Rating 4 out of 5]

I personally like Niecy Nash so when I saw her book I thought why not maybe I can learn something new. I did not learn anything new but the book did remind me there is room to grow and I also realized how much I stopped paying attention to my guy. If you are in a relationship and want to be in one this is a great book about being honest with yourself and thinking about how you conduct your self.

[Krystal · Rating 3 out of 5]

fast read with some good relationship advice that had humor with it