An intense, painful, honest book.
Merl, the agunah in question, has made peace with her existence and isn’t interested in remarrying. As an irreligious woman, she isn’t interested in getting rabbinical permission even if she did want to find a new husband. But after being courted by a cemetery cantor who convinces her that she must get permission, she is thrust into the center of a town wide controversy.
What’s so painful about this is the way that all the different subgroups of the village—the poor vs the wealthy, the secular vs the religious, etc—use Merl’s story as a cudgel to beat their opponents with. Their concern is not whether it was right for her to remarry, but what her story means for their own desires, lives, and freedom. If an agunah can remarry, argue the butchers, how come they can’t bring in kosher meat from a cheap slaughterhouse in Oshmeneh? Whether by an angry blacklisted mohel, a truculent shul shammes, or the vicious gangster that’s been pursuing her for years, Merl’s reputation and fate is manipulated by others to achieve their own selfish ends. She is not even called by her name by most of these people, being referred to only as “the agunah,” effectively erased as an individual and becoming only metonym.
By allowing us to witness all this conflict and uproar, Grade implicates us in the arguments, manipulation, and violence. This book has very powerful, painfully honest things to say about our love of gossip and scandal, mob mentality, and quickness to judge.
As always, the host of rabbis who appear, and particularly the two opposing rabbis at the heart of the controversy, Reb Levi Hurwitz and Reb Dovid Zelver, are so humanely portrayed that neither gets to be the sole bearer of truth.
Grade’s books are so deeply, sometimes uncomfortably human, and this one is no exception. I’ll be thinking about Merl’s story for a long time and returning to it in the future.