Dancing with Our Selves: A Practical Guide to Harness the Ego and Live on Purpose

by Brittany Hopkins Switlick

Do you feel like you've got it all together—until life throws you a curveball?

Suddenly, a part of you takes over in a work challenge, a tough conversation, or even getting cut off in traffic, and before you know it, you've said or done something you regret.

In Dancing with Our Selves, Brittany Hopkins Switlick offers a transformative roadmap to self-awareness, emotional healing, and intentional living. Combining modern tools like The Drama Triangle and The Empowerment Dynamic® with ancient yoga philosophy, this book gently explores the inner child, supports emotional and mental health, and helps readers break free from self-sabotaging patterns to align with their higher selves.
In this book, you
 
Identify default behaviors and free yourself from reactive habits. Harness the power of practices like journaling and meditation to uncover unconscious patterns. Transform emotional triggers into opportunities for creation. Balance effort and ease, inspired by yogic principles, for a more fulfilling life. Align daily actions with personal values to live intentionally.This book is a fresh, engaging guide for self-growth seekers, yoga enthusiasts, and emotionally curious professionals. It'll help you navigate the dance between ego and higher self and equip you with practical tools to live authentically.

Step into your journey today with Dancing with Our Selves.

192 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 26, 2025

About the author

Brittany Hopkins Switlick is an author, speaker, seasoned yoga educator, yoga teacher training facilitator, and personal development coach.

She is the founder of Lotus School of Yoga (formerly Container Collective Yoga), where she has led hundreds of students and aspiring teachers in transformative classes, workshops, trainings and retreats that go far beyond the physical practice of yoga.

Through thousands of hours of teaching students to navigate the dance between ego and higher self, she empowers them to live with purpose and authenticity.

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Reviews

[Sarah Jensen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Book Review: Dancing with Our Selves: A Practical Guide to Harness the Ego and Live on Purpose by Brittany Hopkins Switlick
Rating: 4.2/5

Overview & Core Themes
Brittany Hopkins Switlick’s Dancing with Our Selves is a thoughtful fusion of modern psychology and yogic philosophy, offering readers a structured yet compassionate approach to self-awareness and emotional mastery. The book targets individuals grappling with reactive behaviors, unconscious patterns, and the dissonance between their ego and higher self. Its strength lies in its accessibility—bridging therapeutic frameworks like The Drama Triangle with ancient wisdom to create actionable steps for personal transformation.

Strengths & Emotional Resonance
Switlick’s writing is both empathetic and pragmatic, avoiding the overly abstract tone common in spiritual self-help literature. The integration of yogic principles (e.g., balancing effort and ease) with journaling prompts and meditation exercises provides a tangible toolkit for readers. Chapters on identifying emotional triggers and repatterning default behaviors are particularly impactful, eliciting moments of introspection and even discomfort—a sign of the book’s effectiveness in challenging ingrained habits.

The author’s background as a yoga instructor and facilitator (Red Lotus Yoga School) shines through in her emphasis on somatic awareness and mindfulness. Personal anecdotes, though sparing, add relatability without veering into self-indulgence. Readers invested in emotional intelligence or holistic wellness will likely find the book’s blend of theory and practice refreshing.

Constructive Criticism
While the book excels in practicality, some sections risk oversimplifying complex psychological concepts. For instance, the dichotomy between ego and higher self could benefit from deeper exploration—especially for readers unfamiliar with yogic terminology. Additionally, the reliance on established frameworks (The Empowerment Dynamic®) may feel derivative to those well-versed in personal development literature.

The pacing occasionally falters, with repetitive exhortations to live intentionally without always expanding on how beyond generalized advice. A more nuanced discussion of cultural or situational barriers to self-actualization (e.g., socioeconomic factors) would enrich its inclusivity.

Final Verdict
Dancing with Our Selves is a valuable contribution to the self-help genre, distinguished by its integrative approach and user-friendly exercises. Though it occasionally skirts depth in favor of broad applicability, its core message—empowerment through self-awareness—is delivered with clarity and warmth. Ideal for yoga practitioners, emotionally curious professionals, or anyone seeking to break cyclical reactivity.

Acknowledgments
Thank you to the publisher and Goodreads Giveaways for providing a free copy for review. This opportunity enabled a thorough and unbiased evaluation of Switlick’s work.

Who Should Read It?
Recommended for readers who enjoy:

-Blends of psychology and spirituality (The Untethered Soul meets The Power of Now).
-Structured self-reflection tools (journaling, meditation).
-Gentle yet provocative guidance on shadow work and emotional alignment.

Note for Skeptics: Those averse to yogic or New Age-adjacent language may find certain sections less resonant, but the book’s practical exercises remain universally applicable.

[Irene Ann · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a wonderful read. The author speaks to you like a caring friend, and the tools and exercises are powerful, yet easy to incorporate into your day to day. This book has helped me dive deep, understand myself better, and have more compassion for myself. I have always been one to fight my ego, this book has given me some tools to work with it, not against it to show up as a brighter version of myself.

[Patti Swanson · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found "Dancing with Our Selves" by Brittany Hopkins Switlick to be incredibly impactful. The book offers a gentle and insightful perspective on self-awareness. Brittany shares relatable examples that encouraged me to appreciate the positive sides of my ego. It changed the way I see myself and made me feel more empowered. I've already recommended it to my friends because I believe it could inspire and uplift them as well.

[Kim VanDolah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book does a fantastic job of breaking down the ego and helping us understand how both partners in the dance are ultimately there for our growth. I especially appreciated how Brittany framed the ego and our authentic self as a dance—one that requires awareness and balance. She beautifully illustrates the importance of harnessing the ego rather than letting it control us. This insightful and thought-provoking read offers a fresh perspective on personal transformation. Highly recommend!

[Mollie Busby · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is absolute gold! Brittany’s stories are so relatable throughout the book and the exercises are great for me as a yoga teacher!

[Sumi Clements · Rating 5 out of 5]

I just read the intro and first chapter of Dancing with Our Selves while sitting on the beach and love the anecdotal presentation. It’s like I’m having a conversation with the author and am excited for what is to come and what I will learn!

[Kitty Switlick · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have always been aware of the Id and Ego but never really thought about how the ego works. I like how the author shares examples of her own personal experiences and then breaks them down in order to help the reader understand the concepts she writes about. And I love the idea of naming our ego. It makes it much easier to examine how and possibly why we react in certain situations. Once we understand why we can then begin to choose our behavior versus just reacting.
This is not a one and done book. I frequently find myself thinking about the concepts and examine my own behaviors as I interact with others. I think the book is very empowering.

[Brittany Switlick]

Dear Reader,

In the fall of 2019, my world was rocked by a remembrance of a long hidden memory. Not long after, I realized I’d spent much of my life dancing to the tune of my fragile ego self, unaware of the possibilities that awaited with higher self ready to take the lead.

That moment set me on a journey of healing and transformation, inspiring Dancing with Our Selves. This book is my offering to those longing to step out of old patterns and embrace a life of intention and purpose.

My hope is that as you turn the final page, you’ll feel equipped to harness the ego, connect with your higher self, and navigate life’s challenges with grace. When we let our higher selves lead, the dance of life transforms—it becomes lighter, freer, and full of purpose.

in love and gratitude,

Brittany

You're invited to purchase Dancing with Our Selves directly from me: www.brittanyhopkins.com/author

Above Endorsement by Deborah Adele Author of The Yamas and Niyamas

[Tevara Paranto · Rating 5 out of 5]

As someone who naturally leans toward helping and supporting others, this book was a profound and eye-opening read. It allowed me to embrace and make peace with the part of myself that is deeply compassionate while also recognizing the importance of stepping back and empowering others in a healthier way.

The book beautifully explains how shifting from The Drama Triangle—where we may unconsciously fall into roles like Victim, Persecutor, or Rescuer—into The Empowerment Dynamic helps us lead from our higher self. Rather than fixing or saving, we can show up as a Creator, Challenger, or Coach, offering support in a way that fosters growth rather than dependence.

What I appreciated most was how this book encouraged self-reflection without judgment. It wasn’t about labeling certain behaviors as "bad" but rather about offering new perspectives that allow for both personal and professional growth. As a therapist, I found this incredibly useful in my work and in my own life.

This book is a must-read for anyone looking to step into a more empowered, intentional way of being—whether in relationships, work, or personal development. Highly recommend!

[Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

I just finished Dancing with Our Selves by Brittany Hopkins Switlick, and I am excited to using these practices in my daily life! This book helped me deepen my understanding of why I’m so reactive in certain situations, and gave me tools to improve, without getting down on myself.

One of my favorite takeaways was how much it helps me to catch my self in a reaction, pause, and breathe. If I can, I stop and meditate, even if only five minutes. The book and the tools in it, helps me learn to reset, and be a better version of myself.

Brittany’s writing style is honest, making it easy to relate to, and practice these concepts in my daily life.

I’d recommend this book to anyone on a self-discovery journey, those wanting to break free from old patterns, and enjoy life more.

If you’re looking for a guide to help you open up, feel your emotions, both good and bad, and love yourself and others in your life better, this book is for you!

[Patricia Wetmore · Rating 5 out of 5]

A game changer!

Dancing with Our Selves is an amazing read for anyone willing to let go of their ego driven reactions to lead a more thoughtful and empowered life.

Chapter 4 on the Drama Triangle and Empowerment Dynamic was a game changer for me. The exercises helped me identify which part of the drama triangle I reside in when I’m stressed and how to move into a more powerful version of myself.

Brittany shares her personal journey with anecdotes that are often amusing and sometimes quite vulnerable which encouraged me as a reader to lean in and do the work.

I’ve shared this book with my coaching clients who feel stuck in behavior patterns that prevent them from showing up as the best version of themselves. If that is you, I highly recommend Dancing With Our Selves!

Patricia Wetmore

[Heidi Schumacher · Rating 5 out of 5]

Insightful & relatable!

As a yoga student and teacher for over eight years, and someone navigating the regular challenges of life, I was eager to dive into Dancing with Our Selves by Brittany Hopkins Switlick. What I found was a refreshing, insightful, and deeply relatable read.

Brittany has an incredible way of sharing her own experiences with a level of vulnerability that makes it easy for readers to connect with her. Her openness allows you to laugh, reflect, and often find yourself nodding in agreement as she recounts the literal dance between her ego and truest self. Through her stories, she offers not only comfort but also practical tools to help face daily challenges with equanimity.

If you’re looking for a book that feels like a conversation with an understanding friend, Dancing with Our Selves is one you won’t want to miss.

[Erika · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dancing with Ourselves offers a thoughtful and practical exploration of the human ego, reframing it not as something to suppress, but as a partner to understanding guide to reflective practices such as journaling, meditation and simple exercises, the book helps readers pause, noticed their reactions and observe how the ego shapes every day decisions by turning emotional triggers into opportunities for awareness, it provides in accessible path toward great intention, clarity, and emotional freedom.

This book is a refreshing grounded guide that reframes the ego, not as an enemy, but as a partner to understand and integrate. It delivers practical tools for emotional awareness and intentional living while honoring the complexity of human behavior. I highly recommend this for readers committed to self-exploration and personal growth.

[Sunny Harrison · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is an absolute gem for anyone on a journey of self-awareness and personal transformation. What I love most is how it gently guides you to look inward and truly transform. The author does a fantastic job of exploring the concept of the Ego and how it influences whether we move through life in a state of flow or reactivity. Gaining insight into our Ego is such a key piece, and how it's explained here is accessible and deeply helpful.

The chapter titles are beautifully crafted, adding a personal touch that makes the reading experience even more engaging.

Overall, a thoughtful, insightful, and practical read. Highly recommended!

[Wendy Cook · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dancing with Our Selves by Brittany Hopkins Switlick is an empowering resource for anyone looking to create balance in life. Brittany’s ability to blend personal stories with practical tools made this book a refreshing read that has inspired me to make shifts in my thinking, allowing me to lead with my higher self. If you’re seeking balance and a deeper understanding of yourself, I highly recommend this book.

[Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dancing with Ourselves is one of those rare books that make you want to underline and then revisit passages and thoughts. The author, Brittany Hopkins Switlick, offers a well written guide to understanding and navigating your ego and higher self by shifting your perspective. We are reminded to be present and to be open to the possibilities of our life journey. I will gladly share her book with friends and family and our yoga community.

[Crissy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved Dancing with Our Selves! Brittany Hopkins Switlick makes the whole ego vs higher self thing actually make sense—like a dance, where we get to choose who leads. The book is super readable, full of little aha! moments, and packed with practical tools (naming my ego? Genius). If you’re into self-awareness and leveling up emotionally, this one’s worth a read.

[Lisa Schoen · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is such a lovely and enlightening book. It was really inspiring: Britney‘s explanation of the ego and how we can weave it into our everyday life. She offers insights and practical solutions for living our best lives.

[Richard Barrett · Rating 5 out of 5]

What an awesome book. I’m so happy that I bought it because it’s taught me about my ego and has helped me manage and really think about situations in my life. The author did an amazing job writing this book. I highly recommend it to everyone! Buy it don’t wait!

[Nancy Langevin · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is such a valuable resource for all as we navigate life. Communication and relationships are necessary parts of life (in every area), and the author does a fabulous job at breaking down all parts involved, in addition to giving practical suggestions to have more productive, compassionate, kind and loving interactions, with the different parts involved within us and others. Great read and highly recommended!

[Janna Webber · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow! This book came to me at the right time- funny how that works. Brittany is very relatable in her processes make so much sense. I appreciate that. She breaks down some complex concepts into a very workable and understandable plan. I cannot recommend this book enough. It’s helpful to me in my personal life but also in my professional position!