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Single Ever After: A Biblical Vision for the Significance of Singleness
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Published September 1, 2025
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October 1, 2025This book was really insightful for me. The author is single and well into adulthood, and this is her second book on the topic. You can tell she has researched it well, has much scholarship on the subject, and has looked to the Bible to show how we can form a biblical view of singleness. I was impressed on that front.
The book reads easily and has a nice flow to it, and Danielle even adds in a little humor. Much of it is framed around myths and misconceptions about singleness, and one of my favorite chapters was on the commonly used term “the gift of singleness.”
She also shared some of the struggles and insecurities that singles in the church face, such as reluctance to share burdens, feeling like an inconvenience to their married brothers and sisters in Christ, and feeling like maintaining friendships often falls mainly on singles.
As a married person who has been married since fresh out of college, and whose interactions in the church have been from that perspective, I really appreciated hearing about these things. It caused me to reflect on how I relate to singles in my local church and consider some practical ways I could grow in this area.
I also appreciated how the author highlighted the value of both singleness and marriage, and how the goal in either season is to glorify the Lord and point to eternity no matter your relationship status.
While the book talks a lot directly to singles, it is written for both married and single readers. I found it very insightful, and I think if singleness is a topic you want to dive into a little more, this book is worth picking up. It is interesting, encouraging, and a quick read.
I received a complimentary copy as a reviewer, and all opinions shared are my own.
The book reads easily and has a nice flow to it, and Danielle even adds in a little humor. Much of it is framed around myths and misconceptions about singleness, and one of my favorite chapters was on the commonly used term “the gift of singleness.”
She also shared some of the struggles and insecurities that singles in the church face, such as reluctance to share burdens, feeling like an inconvenience to their married brothers and sisters in Christ, and feeling like maintaining friendships often falls mainly on singles.
As a married person who has been married since fresh out of college, and whose interactions in the church have been from that perspective, I really appreciated hearing about these things. It caused me to reflect on how I relate to singles in my local church and consider some practical ways I could grow in this area.
I also appreciated how the author highlighted the value of both singleness and marriage, and how the goal in either season is to glorify the Lord and point to eternity no matter your relationship status.
While the book talks a lot directly to singles, it is written for both married and single readers. I found it very insightful, and I think if singleness is a topic you want to dive into a little more, this book is worth picking up. It is interesting, encouraging, and a quick read.
I received a complimentary copy as a reviewer, and all opinions shared are my own.
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October 23, 2025A spontaneous pickup, inspired by Michael’s addition to her TBR (I trust your book recs wholeheartedly!!).
this may be my most unhinged review yet as I am so very sleepy and I don’t think I can speak of singleness with any real seriousness, perhaps because it lives somewhere deep in the recesses of my heart and I am not ready to talk about it. or i just don't want to talk about it.
Let us begin with the topsoil of this reading experience: I listened to the audiobook in full, narrated by the author herself. I told myself that I wouldn’t take notes and would just give it a clean listen through. That did not happen.
subsoil spitfire:
- I do not, in fact, possess the “gift of singleness.”
- Churches should speak more openly about how to express physical affection within community—safe, loving, embodied ways of touch that honor our humanity.
- Marriage is not the express lane to sanctification nor the fast track to holiness. (1 Cor 7:32-25)
- Viewing the church (and its adjacent social circles) as a “marital marketplace” is not inherently wrong (i am guilty of this), but it becomes distorted when we forget that the opposite sex are, first and foremost, brothers and sisters in Christ—fellow heirs of a future reality where the eternal union is not marital but communal.
- I believe I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. I believe I already do. The Lord is so good. I long to see, in particular, the goodness of singleness.
- Lord, guard me from resenting this season or missing the opportunity to give my all in singleness to the One who gave His all for me. Let me remember that serving You is not a burden but a joy —and please keep me from accidentally slipping into a works-based faith while you teach me this hahahahahahahaha
- “The enduring relationship of resurrected men and women will not be husbands and wives, but brothers and sisters in Christ.” (brother and sister is referred to over 100 times in NT)
random thoughts/feelings/wonderings in the bedrock:
- I am afraid to speak about singleness—it feels like im complaining, and to complain feels like a failure of contentment. Yet to enjoy singleness too much also feels like a violation, as if delighting in this state is self-indulgent. The author names this tension well: for singleness to be “acceptable,” it must also appear "austere." A single person may enjoy aspects of life but once that joy seems to flow from their singleness there can come the side glances, the quiet judgments. Married people are often permitted to revel in their marriage, to name their joys freely. But the single person’s joy, particularly in the form of time, rest, or autonomy, is almost viewed with suspicion—as though contentment itself becomes rebellion??? There is an uneven standard here, a moral asymmetry between the single and the married.
- Relating to the previous point, the author names that marriage is often understood as both instrumentally and intrinsically good. Two lives joining can yield fruitful ministry, deeper love, wider service. But the union itself is also seen as inherently meaningful, even apart from its productivity. Singleness, by contrast, is often viewed as meaningful only when spent well—something that must earn its significance through usefulness. But the author names that singleness, like marriage, bears inherent worth. Its meaning is not merely derived, but bestowed upon the God who dignifies and consecrates both union and aloneness as reflections of His own divine communion.
- I also think married couples should be more intentionally taught how to love their single friends. I understand (or try to) that their lives are intertwined in a different cadence—two made one, tending to shared responsibilities—but that reality doesn’t erase the eternal one: husband and wife is not a forever title. I often find myself serving my married friends joyfully—running errands, accommodating schedules—but this book helped me name the quiet ache of relational imbalance. A loneliness compounded by self-sufficiency and inwardness. The author articulates it beautifully:
“Don’t tell single friends to just be content in Jesus when you won’t lift a finger to do what Jesus cannot do for me right now. Give me a hug. Eat with me. Help me not only see my singleness as good, but experience it as good.”
- I will not question the providence of the Lord in aligning the reading of this book with my concurrent devotional reading of Song of Songs (longing, yearning, push pull, will they wont they, passion, right person wrong timing) while I too hopelessly linger in the ache of what feels like incomplete love. more on this in person if whoever is reading this is curious.
This was my first book on singleness and I'm sure not my last. I appreciate the author’s refusal to speak into a silo. Her words reached outward, embracing the married, the formerly married, the widowed, the single parent, the unexpectedly alone, the pastor navigating both halves of the pew. In her vision, singleness was not a demographic but a dimension of the Church’s shared identity. the beloved Bride in all her seasons, still being made ready.
No star rating (for now). I can’t sift through topical (dis)interest, feeling seen, challenged, and slightly exposed—in a good, uncomfortable, sanctifying kind of way???
this may be my most unhinged review yet as I am so very sleepy and I don’t think I can speak of singleness with any real seriousness, perhaps because it lives somewhere deep in the recesses of my heart and I am not ready to talk about it. or i just don't want to talk about it.
Let us begin with the topsoil of this reading experience: I listened to the audiobook in full, narrated by the author herself. I told myself that I wouldn’t take notes and would just give it a clean listen through. That did not happen.
subsoil spitfire:
- I do not, in fact, possess the “gift of singleness.”
- Churches should speak more openly about how to express physical affection within community—safe, loving, embodied ways of touch that honor our humanity.
- Marriage is not the express lane to sanctification nor the fast track to holiness. (1 Cor 7:32-25)
- Viewing the church (and its adjacent social circles) as a “marital marketplace” is not inherently wrong (i am guilty of this), but it becomes distorted when we forget that the opposite sex are, first and foremost, brothers and sisters in Christ—fellow heirs of a future reality where the eternal union is not marital but communal.
- I believe I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. I believe I already do. The Lord is so good. I long to see, in particular, the goodness of singleness.
- Lord, guard me from resenting this season or missing the opportunity to give my all in singleness to the One who gave His all for me. Let me remember that serving You is not a burden but a joy —and please keep me from accidentally slipping into a works-based faith while you teach me this hahahahahahahaha
- “The enduring relationship of resurrected men and women will not be husbands and wives, but brothers and sisters in Christ.” (brother and sister is referred to over 100 times in NT)
random thoughts/feelings/wonderings in the bedrock:
- I am afraid to speak about singleness—it feels like im complaining, and to complain feels like a failure of contentment. Yet to enjoy singleness too much also feels like a violation, as if delighting in this state is self-indulgent. The author names this tension well: for singleness to be “acceptable,” it must also appear "austere." A single person may enjoy aspects of life but once that joy seems to flow from their singleness there can come the side glances, the quiet judgments. Married people are often permitted to revel in their marriage, to name their joys freely. But the single person’s joy, particularly in the form of time, rest, or autonomy, is almost viewed with suspicion—as though contentment itself becomes rebellion??? There is an uneven standard here, a moral asymmetry between the single and the married.
- Relating to the previous point, the author names that marriage is often understood as both instrumentally and intrinsically good. Two lives joining can yield fruitful ministry, deeper love, wider service. But the union itself is also seen as inherently meaningful, even apart from its productivity. Singleness, by contrast, is often viewed as meaningful only when spent well—something that must earn its significance through usefulness. But the author names that singleness, like marriage, bears inherent worth. Its meaning is not merely derived, but bestowed upon the God who dignifies and consecrates both union and aloneness as reflections of His own divine communion.
- I also think married couples should be more intentionally taught how to love their single friends. I understand (or try to) that their lives are intertwined in a different cadence—two made one, tending to shared responsibilities—but that reality doesn’t erase the eternal one: husband and wife is not a forever title. I often find myself serving my married friends joyfully—running errands, accommodating schedules—but this book helped me name the quiet ache of relational imbalance. A loneliness compounded by self-sufficiency and inwardness. The author articulates it beautifully:
“Don’t tell single friends to just be content in Jesus when you won’t lift a finger to do what Jesus cannot do for me right now. Give me a hug. Eat with me. Help me not only see my singleness as good, but experience it as good.”
- I will not question the providence of the Lord in aligning the reading of this book with my concurrent devotional reading of Song of Songs (longing, yearning, push pull, will they wont they, passion, right person wrong timing) while I too hopelessly linger in the ache of what feels like incomplete love. more on this in person if whoever is reading this is curious.
This was my first book on singleness and I'm sure not my last. I appreciate the author’s refusal to speak into a silo. Her words reached outward, embracing the married, the formerly married, the widowed, the single parent, the unexpectedly alone, the pastor navigating both halves of the pew. In her vision, singleness was not a demographic but a dimension of the Church’s shared identity. the beloved Bride in all her seasons, still being made ready.
No star rating (for now). I can’t sift through topical (dis)interest, feeling seen, challenged, and slightly exposed—in a good, uncomfortable, sanctifying kind of way???
January 4, 2026
This was my favorite read of 2025! What an incredible resource not just for single people, but for the whole church.
It paints a beautiful picture of the family of God with glimpses of what singleness and marriage both picture eternally, upholding and honoring both together.
A couple of my favorite quotes:
"Married and single Christians have different specialty focus...we are complimentary -rather than competing - co-specialists in eternity. We so often get this wrong. For some reason, we tend to think of marriage and singleness as opponents. We think that to speaker honorably about one means we must diminish the honor of the other....but the glorious future awaiting us is one in which marriage and singleness will perfectly coexist. The church will delight in her marriage to Christ, and we, as individual members of the church, will delight in our unmarried relationships with one another. Both situations are instrumentally good in this life. And both situations are intrinsically good because of the life to come."
"Being unmarried is not the same as being alone... singleness should never be another word for loneliness within the community of God's people: those who Jesus prayed would be one."
"Friend, our marriage and single ever after is coming. So whatever your situation in life, stand firm alongside your brothers and sisters in Christ. Let nothing move you or divide your devotion. Give yourself fully to the Lord and his concerns. And know that whether you have a spouse or do not have a spouse or no longer have a spouse, your labor in the Lord is not in vain."
It paints a beautiful picture of the family of God with glimpses of what singleness and marriage both picture eternally, upholding and honoring both together.
A couple of my favorite quotes:
"Married and single Christians have different specialty focus...we are complimentary -rather than competing - co-specialists in eternity. We so often get this wrong. For some reason, we tend to think of marriage and singleness as opponents. We think that to speaker honorably about one means we must diminish the honor of the other....but the glorious future awaiting us is one in which marriage and singleness will perfectly coexist. The church will delight in her marriage to Christ, and we, as individual members of the church, will delight in our unmarried relationships with one another. Both situations are instrumentally good in this life. And both situations are intrinsically good because of the life to come."
"Being unmarried is not the same as being alone... singleness should never be another word for loneliness within the community of God's people: those who Jesus prayed would be one."
"Friend, our marriage and single ever after is coming. So whatever your situation in life, stand firm alongside your brothers and sisters in Christ. Let nothing move you or divide your devotion. Give yourself fully to the Lord and his concerns. And know that whether you have a spouse or do not have a spouse or no longer have a spouse, your labor in the Lord is not in vain."
September 30, 2025
I was skeptical about this book, but I have to admit, it was absolutely fantastic and theologically dense. I especially appreciated the author's view that singleness is not only instrumentally valuable (what you can do in singleness - how most people view it), but is also intrinsically valuable (valuable in itself as pointing to eternity). So helpful for me and I'm sure for others as well who can feel bogged down in a works-dependent view of singleness. Highly recommend.
January 2, 2026
An excellent book on how to view singleness, marriage, and sex in light of spiritual realities and eternity. I wish every Christian could read this book and know how to better engage with themselves and their single and married friends.
January 7, 2026
Whew — not sure where to start with this one. While I appreciate what Treweek is attempting to do here, I think ultimately the underlying issue I had with it is that her eschatology is overrealized and focused on people more than on God Himself.
The whole premise of this book is that singleness is good and points us to eternity (just like marriage) because none of us will be married to one another in eternity. She pits this “intrinsic” view of singleness against the “instrumental” view that singleness is good because of how it is used for the kingdom. While it’s true that human, earthly marriage isn’t ultimate and that none of us will be married to each other in eternity, I think that taken to an extreme this view sidesteps some of the things we see in Scripture as a whole. A few points:
1) We see marriage explicitly explained as representing Christ and the church. We know marriage points us to eternity because it is a type and shadow of the true and perfect marriage to come, that of Christ to His bride the church. We don’t see singleness described this way. Despite Treweek’s interpretation of 1 Corinthians 7, I do lean more toward the traditional interpretation, namely that singleness is good because of how God uses it for His kingdom. I’m just not convinced that this passage can be stretched to support Treweek’s “intrinsic” view.
2) I do actually think Treweek is right that singleness points us to eternity — just not for the same reasons she purports. I believe the unfulfilled desire for marriage that very often accompanies singleness can point us to eternity by causing the single Christian to find all of their joy, satisfaction, and fulfillment of their longings in Christ alone, both now in joyfully receiving the good gift of singleness He has given them for their good and His glory, and by looking forward to the final day when their desire for marriage is completely found in Christ’s marriage to His bride in the new creation.
3) I think that Treweek’s focus on the fact that we will not be married to each other in the new creation causes an elevation of singleness over marriage, as if singles are living now as we all will live then. Besides this seeming like an overrealized eschatology, I think it also focuses too much on relationships between creatures rather than on our relationship with the Creator. Yes, it’s true that Jesus says none will marry or be given in marriage in heaven, but we see a greater emphasis in Scripture on eternity as a marriage between Christ and the church than we see regarding our relationships with one another in eternity.
4) Earthly marriage now is a picture and shadow of the final marriage of Christ and the church, and we see this institution established at creation, before the fall, in the creation of man and woman. We see marriage held in high regard and commended throughout Scripture as good and desirable (not negating that singleness is also good and sanctified for God’s glory). We see the final culmination of why marriage is such a good thing in Revelation when the types and shadows of earthly marriage fall away because the real thing, the marriage of the church to Christ, has come. This is what we all long for, whether single or married, and so the longings of unmarried AND married Christians will be totally satisfied on that day.
While Treweek had some good things to say, especially regarding the “gift of singleness,” I didn’t find her hermeneutics very consistent or convincing, and am just not convinced of her eschatological view of singleness that ends up asserting marriage is not normative for the here and now. On the contrary, I think it is the norm, and we don’t have to deny this to justify being single. God has also called singleness good through the apostle Paul, and He has ordained each person’s circumstances for His glory and our good, and He is utterly worthy of our trust.
The whole premise of this book is that singleness is good and points us to eternity (just like marriage) because none of us will be married to one another in eternity. She pits this “intrinsic” view of singleness against the “instrumental” view that singleness is good because of how it is used for the kingdom. While it’s true that human, earthly marriage isn’t ultimate and that none of us will be married to each other in eternity, I think that taken to an extreme this view sidesteps some of the things we see in Scripture as a whole. A few points:
1) We see marriage explicitly explained as representing Christ and the church. We know marriage points us to eternity because it is a type and shadow of the true and perfect marriage to come, that of Christ to His bride the church. We don’t see singleness described this way. Despite Treweek’s interpretation of 1 Corinthians 7, I do lean more toward the traditional interpretation, namely that singleness is good because of how God uses it for His kingdom. I’m just not convinced that this passage can be stretched to support Treweek’s “intrinsic” view.
2) I do actually think Treweek is right that singleness points us to eternity — just not for the same reasons she purports. I believe the unfulfilled desire for marriage that very often accompanies singleness can point us to eternity by causing the single Christian to find all of their joy, satisfaction, and fulfillment of their longings in Christ alone, both now in joyfully receiving the good gift of singleness He has given them for their good and His glory, and by looking forward to the final day when their desire for marriage is completely found in Christ’s marriage to His bride in the new creation.
3) I think that Treweek’s focus on the fact that we will not be married to each other in the new creation causes an elevation of singleness over marriage, as if singles are living now as we all will live then. Besides this seeming like an overrealized eschatology, I think it also focuses too much on relationships between creatures rather than on our relationship with the Creator. Yes, it’s true that Jesus says none will marry or be given in marriage in heaven, but we see a greater emphasis in Scripture on eternity as a marriage between Christ and the church than we see regarding our relationships with one another in eternity.
4) Earthly marriage now is a picture and shadow of the final marriage of Christ and the church, and we see this institution established at creation, before the fall, in the creation of man and woman. We see marriage held in high regard and commended throughout Scripture as good and desirable (not negating that singleness is also good and sanctified for God’s glory). We see the final culmination of why marriage is such a good thing in Revelation when the types and shadows of earthly marriage fall away because the real thing, the marriage of the church to Christ, has come. This is what we all long for, whether single or married, and so the longings of unmarried AND married Christians will be totally satisfied on that day.
While Treweek had some good things to say, especially regarding the “gift of singleness,” I didn’t find her hermeneutics very consistent or convincing, and am just not convinced of her eschatological view of singleness that ends up asserting marriage is not normative for the here and now. On the contrary, I think it is the norm, and we don’t have to deny this to justify being single. God has also called singleness good through the apostle Paul, and He has ordained each person’s circumstances for His glory and our good, and He is utterly worthy of our trust.
February 12, 2026
Is it dramatic to say that this book was life changing? Because that’s how I feel. Treweek speaks of singleness, not only as dignified, but as valuable and needed in the church because of how it reflects our relationship to each other in the hereafter (when marriage will no longer exist). She helps give purpose and perspective to what can often be seen as a “less than” position in life without putting down the importance of marriage and what it signifies. I appreciated her lack of bitterness and her honoring of all phases of life.
The sections on sexuality were poignant, thought-provoking, and full of grace without pulling any punches. She talked about gender and sexuality and what that might be like as new creations in ways I’ve never thought of and were slightly mind-bending, but also encouraging.
I would implore all my Christian friends, no matter your marital status, to read this book. It is for everyone.
The sections on sexuality were poignant, thought-provoking, and full of grace without pulling any punches. She talked about gender and sexuality and what that might be like as new creations in ways I’ve never thought of and were slightly mind-bending, but also encouraging.
I would implore all my Christian friends, no matter your marital status, to read this book. It is for everyone.
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January 6, 2026A really thoughtful and helpful exploration of the Bible's stance on singleness for the now and for the ever after.
I appreciated how Dani balanced exploring key passages on singleness and marriage with her very practical advice to both the married and the single (the structure of each chapter being broken into two parts really helped with that I think).
I also appreciated how relevant some of her comments were on certain issues, such as what it means to be burning with passion and how to navigate contentment in singleness while longing for marriage. All of those topics have helped me personally in my thinking.
I did, however, find some of her views on intentional singleness to be unique. I haven't fully thought it through, but I'm not sure I agree with her views...but disagreements are good 🤷
I appreciated how Dani balanced exploring key passages on singleness and marriage with her very practical advice to both the married and the single (the structure of each chapter being broken into two parts really helped with that I think).
I also appreciated how relevant some of her comments were on certain issues, such as what it means to be burning with passion and how to navigate contentment in singleness while longing for marriage. All of those topics have helped me personally in my thinking.
I did, however, find some of her views on intentional singleness to be unique. I haven't fully thought it through, but I'm not sure I agree with her views...but disagreements are good 🤷
January 20, 2026
This book was great and I would recommend to Christians single and married! The author does some solid exegetical work to properly understand passages that are thrown around in singleness discussions so that unbiblical assumptions around singleness were undone appropriately. As a married person I also found it helpful in many ways, because many of the discussions also inevitably included conclusions about marriage too. It’s a pastorally sensitive book without being wishy washy - instead, it leans in to the beauty of the Bible’s vision of the church and eternity for true comfort and wisdom!
December 19, 2025
Genuinely a great book which I hope many people will read (whether single or married). It explores the reality that everyone will be single in the new creation and how we should be living in light of the resurrection even now. It breaks down different passages on singleness before having a chapter on application for each. It also helpfully challenges many preconceived ideas I've heard and even wrestled with myself, and helps me understand many passages in a new light in a way I could explain to others now. 5/5 book, hope to read it again.
January 24, 2026
A helpful read on singleness and marriage within the church. I appreciated how the joys and challenges of singleness are addressed and I've learnt about the importance of pursuing faithfulness to Christ regardless of my circumstance. I really enjoyed reading this one!
September 22, 2025
Really, really, REALLY good. Will be putting into the hands of those in my young adult ministry wrestling with these things.
January 24, 2026
7 stars! Married and single should read this book. Church pastors, please read this book. Everyone, please read this book.
February 1, 2026
A really helpful read - would encourage single and married Christian’s alike to read this 😊
November 5, 2025
I'm so grateful to Dani for writing this book. After reading her first book, I was a little worried it might be a bit too technical for some - but I was worrying for nothing. This is one of the simplest and yet most profound books I've ever read. I will be recommending this to others for many years.
Speaking as a married man, this was actually one of the best books on marriage I have read. I didn't expect that, but truly, it is. It really is a great book for ALL Christians - married, single, or 'it's complicated'.
I especially appreciated how each chapter was divided up into topics (part 1) and practical application (part 2).
Highly recommended.
Speaking as a married man, this was actually one of the best books on marriage I have read. I didn't expect that, but truly, it is. It really is a great book for ALL Christians - married, single, or 'it's complicated'.
I especially appreciated how each chapter was divided up into topics (part 1) and practical application (part 2).
Highly recommended.
November 24, 2025
Well, thanks Dani for writing a book that reflects much of the one I had been (sheepishly) wondering about writing. With that, probably won’t surprise anyone reading this how highly I recommend this book. Love how she not only has an engaging writing style addressing relevant topics but also has a depth of theological teaching. Speaking of the theological teaching, I will need to think further on her analysis of 1 corin 7 and its relation to marriage, plus, related, her writings on sexuality as I’m not sure I agree, but she actually welcomes that in the book. Grateful for the relevant, thoughtful book.
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October 19, 2025It’s not often that a book renders me speechless as I go to review it, but I really can’t find words to describe how much I loved this book. What a perfect blend of humor and sincerity mixed with dense biblical exegesis and rich understanding of both Christian tradition and secular culture. And there are application points for every kind of singleness under the sun, and even for married Christians. I used this book to help prep for a class on Christian singleness, and I’m going to start recommending it to everyone I talk to about Christian singleness. So, so good.
November 4, 2025
If I could, I’d give this book to every pastor, seminary friend, and both my single and married friends. It’s such a refreshing and thoughtful read on singleness. I especially appreciated that it wasn’t written only for singles, but also for those who want to understand and care well for them. This is a topic that isn’t talked about nearly enough in the church today, and I’m so grateful for Treweek’s work—bringing this conversation to light and addressing the hard, often overlooked realities of singleness and what it means for the body of Christ to respond with care and compassion.
January 3, 2026
This is a SUPER helpful thesis on Christian singleness (not just marriage) as a picture of our new creation relationships to come.
'Friends, both the single and the married Christian life is to be read - indeed it is to be lived - through the lens of the happily ever after that lies on the horizon. The life, death and resurrection of Christ has made the story's trajectory familiar to us. God's word has made the ending known. And so we have the privilege of living life with confident anticipation rather than uncertainty. We know that in Christ, all will be well that ends well.' ❤️
'Friends, both the single and the married Christian life is to be read - indeed it is to be lived - through the lens of the happily ever after that lies on the horizon. The life, death and resurrection of Christ has made the story's trajectory familiar to us. God's word has made the ending known. And so we have the privilege of living life with confident anticipation rather than uncertainty. We know that in Christ, all will be well that ends well.' ❤️
December 2, 2025
Best book I’ve read on singleness. For those looking to understand a fuller view on Biblical singleness and marriage. Not pitting them against each other but understanding both as paths for the Christian. Reading not yet married was good for younger singles but this is good for those who have been single for a while and feel left behind and unsure of the path they are on. I see this as a helpful resource for married people to read to understand singleness and peel back the misconceptions the global church has spread on 1 Corinthians 7.
October 25, 2025
REALLY good stuff. Recommend.
December 1, 2025
This is a fantastic resource for anyone to read (single or married)! It argues for the beauty and significance of singleness & provides encouragement to all with specific ways to love and listen to your single friends. I highly recommend this author.
September 8, 2025
This is great. Finally someone wrote this book. My only question - how do you pronounce the author’s last name?
September 15, 2025
I’ve been waiting for this book 📕 A wonderful balance of deep biblical truths and practical application. Whether you are married or single, it’s a must read for those wanting to encourage one another in the family of God.
September 6, 2025
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Overall: 4.6/5
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Overall: 4.6/5
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October 28, 2025Short and very well-written, I will definitely be recommending to others in my life. Can't lie and say it made me feel "better" per say, but it was nice to hear and be heard on different points. I appreciate the biblical background.
November 14, 2025
I’ve been familiar with Dani Treweek’s ministry for about five years now, through her PhD work and her SingleMinded website resources. Those resources were a lifeline to me in a difficult season of singleness, helping me see my life not as an exception to the church, but as a meaningful vocation rooted in Christ. I bought this book to support her ministry, thinking the "work" was done, but it ended up continuing that same deep work in my heart.
The structure of Single Ever After is brilliant. Each Chapter addresses as aspect of Singleness in 2 parts. Part One is theologically rich yet written with such clarity that it feels like sitting beside a wise friend who explains Scripture with gentleness and depth. Part Two “living it out” with practical insight for both single and married readers .
I had originally hoped to read this in a seven-week rhythm, but the truth is it took me longer, not because the book dragged, but because my own heart resisted the layers of conviction and healing the Holy Spirit was surfacing. Chapters 6 and 7 especially slowed me down in ways that were ultimately good. Now that I’ve finished the book, I can sense its seeds will keep bearing fruit long after the last page.
As someone who has lived through 20+ years of well-meaning but often wounding church clichés about singleness, Dani’s book moved me deeply. The reminder weaved throughout the book is that the truest happy-ever-after is the one awaiting us in Christ, that whether married or single disciples of Jesus are living out His love story.
This is a book I want every ministry leader to read. It would be powerful in small groups.
I close this book feeling encouraged and reminded to stand firm… always giving myself fully to the work of the Lord, because my labour, currently as a single disciple of Jesus, is not in vain (1 Cor 15:58).
A needed, timely, and deeply edifying read.
5 stars.
The structure of Single Ever After is brilliant. Each Chapter addresses as aspect of Singleness in 2 parts. Part One is theologically rich yet written with such clarity that it feels like sitting beside a wise friend who explains Scripture with gentleness and depth. Part Two “living it out” with practical insight for both single and married readers .
I had originally hoped to read this in a seven-week rhythm, but the truth is it took me longer, not because the book dragged, but because my own heart resisted the layers of conviction and healing the Holy Spirit was surfacing. Chapters 6 and 7 especially slowed me down in ways that were ultimately good. Now that I’ve finished the book, I can sense its seeds will keep bearing fruit long after the last page.
As someone who has lived through 20+ years of well-meaning but often wounding church clichés about singleness, Dani’s book moved me deeply. The reminder weaved throughout the book is that the truest happy-ever-after is the one awaiting us in Christ, that whether married or single disciples of Jesus are living out His love story.
This is a book I want every ministry leader to read. It would be powerful in small groups.
I close this book feeling encouraged and reminded to stand firm… always giving myself fully to the work of the Lord, because my labour, currently as a single disciple of Jesus, is not in vain (1 Cor 15:58).
A needed, timely, and deeply edifying read.
5 stars.
January 23, 2026
I listened to this audiobook because I heard a podcast interview with the author and was really intrigued. It was definitely good overall and I flew through it, but I felt the ending was weak, and exactly like all the other resources on singleness I’ve encountered where the “solutions” offered are just “Read your Bible! Join a Bible study!” Which are great and fruitful things but also are things every Christian single person I know is already doing, so feels redundant to say in a book targeted at that audience.
The #1 positive takeaway I had from this was that it may have been the first time I’ve heard a Christian push back at the concept of “instrumental” or “utilitarian” singleness. I was expecting the book to be unpacking how to “use your singleness” (like every other Christian resource on singleness does) and instead, Truweek said that nope. Singleness isn’t worthy because it’s something to be used, it’s worthy in and of itself. Because we’re all going to be single forever once we’re in communion with God in heaven. So singleness is intrinsically worthy, and holds unique spiritual advantages that are not found in marriage. AKA what I’ve always thought but never quite knew how to articulate.
There’s a lot more to unpack and appreciate about this book, but I’m tired and done thinking for today. I definitely recommend it, and just would caution that the first half is vastly better than the second half (at least for me in my particular experience). It is free on Spotify premium, if you want to give it a listen.
The #1 positive takeaway I had from this was that it may have been the first time I’ve heard a Christian push back at the concept of “instrumental” or “utilitarian” singleness. I was expecting the book to be unpacking how to “use your singleness” (like every other Christian resource on singleness does) and instead, Truweek said that nope. Singleness isn’t worthy because it’s something to be used, it’s worthy in and of itself. Because we’re all going to be single forever once we’re in communion with God in heaven. So singleness is intrinsically worthy, and holds unique spiritual advantages that are not found in marriage. AKA what I’ve always thought but never quite knew how to articulate.
There’s a lot more to unpack and appreciate about this book, but I’m tired and done thinking for today. I definitely recommend it, and just would caution that the first half is vastly better than the second half (at least for me in my particular experience). It is free on Spotify premium, if you want to give it a listen.
October 22, 2025
I wasn't sure if this was just going to be a smaller version of her first book about singleness but I have always found encouragement by what she has been able to find from history and scripture about singleness so I was definitely on board to read it.
She wrote a book that was supremely encouraging and insightful to understanding and appreciating the single life for however long God has placed you in it or returned you to it. By reading this book, I really felt encouraged and entreated to really live for God in my state of singleness that he has called me in. And while I still am interested in marriage, I think I am ready to go where ever the Lord leads me either way because of reading this book. It really helped me appreciate what scripture has to say about these matters. I highly recommend this book for both singles and married (as it teaches a lot about how best to understand your single brethren in a way that seemed very accurate to my experience.)
She wrote a book that was supremely encouraging and insightful to understanding and appreciating the single life for however long God has placed you in it or returned you to it. By reading this book, I really felt encouraged and entreated to really live for God in my state of singleness that he has called me in. And while I still am interested in marriage, I think I am ready to go where ever the Lord leads me either way because of reading this book. It really helped me appreciate what scripture has to say about these matters. I highly recommend this book for both singles and married (as it teaches a lot about how best to understand your single brethren in a way that seemed very accurate to my experience.)
September 15, 2025
Dani Treweek is always my number one (Protestant) recommendation on all topics singleness. I'm so grateful for this book, which is perfect for laypeople who want to understand God's good purposes in a condition generally stigmatized in the US Protestant church. I'm especially grateful for her discussion about "unintended" singleness, with its reminder that even things we don't want might be how God has chosen to gift us in this life. Get this book, and follow her Single-Minded Community for more resources.
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