Mapito: Embrace Yourself

by Chani Getter

"A kind and inclusive guide to becoming your most authentic self." —Kirkus
 
Chani Getter's "Mapito" is a powerful how-to guide for finding, accepting, and loving every part of yourself. Through a collection of memorable stories―sometimes funny, often poignant―this trailblazing trauma expert reveals profound truths about the human experience. "Mapito" reconnects you to what really matters, offering a fresh perspective on life, love, and self-acceptance.

Drawing from deeply personal experiences, Getter's narratives are both relatable and illuminating, providing insights into human psychology and the shared struggles we all face. With warmth, humor, and compassion, "Mapito" gently encourages readers to wake up, slow down, and embrace the parts of themselves they may have overlooked or forgotten.

Praised by therapists and activists alike, "Mapito" is a heartfelt, revelatory masterpiece. It is trauma therapy made accessible, a celebration of the human spirit, and a guide to living more freely and authentically than you ever imagined.

Genres: Self Help

Kindle Edition

Published April 22, 2025

Reviews

[Bee · Rating 5 out of 5]

Now, I am the first to confess that I once had an aversion to self-help, and have struggled with counselling and therapy over the years but with age, I think comes the opportunity for honesty with oneself and I simply wasn’t in the right mind-space or time in my life when I’d either contemplated or attempted to engage with anything that would have benefitted my mental well-being as a whole. So here we are, in 2025 and I am far older than I ever thought I might get and a lot more aware of the person I am and also want to be. I’ve established my gender and am proud of the steps I am taking.

Why the insight into myself that you no doubt don’t need to know? Well, I thought honesty might be beneficial with me reviewing this book and being curious about it in the first place - my younger self wouldn’t have had the patience, and my more frightened self would have run screaming at the possibility that listening to other people’s stories would poke a hole in the protective bubble I had created.

The audiobook of Mapito is narrated by the author, Chani Getter and includes some recollections told to her during her time as a Trauma expert, along with some stories from her own life that will have you experiencing a plethora of emotions and also experience moments of clarity and relatability. I feel it’s important to make note that all the people who have their moments in therapy recalled, have of course been given different names to protect anonymity and patient-client confidentiality.

I believe that there will be something in any of the stories Getter recalls that the listener/reader will find a connection with, and even those that may not be similar to situations you may be in; are valid and interesting in their own right. I know that I came away from Mapito taking away far more than I had expected to. Don’t get me wrong, when I read the synopsis of the book I had a feeling it would hit home, I just wasn’t expecting it to make me think about some things I’d been dismissive of over the years.

Whilst this book is written with the LGBTQ community in mind and many of the people who’s stories that are told, including Chani Getter are members of the community in some way; I do believe that it’s one that anyone struggling with acceptance of self, and of their life and all that it may give is both good and bad? Would gain something.

[Ash · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mapito is a must-read for therapists and non-therapists alike. Through storytelling, Chani takes readers on a journey of personal discovery and self-acceptance. Chani is vulnerable, honest, and deeply insightful, allowing the readers a glimpse into experiences of personal growth and bravery that inspire and invite readers to enact positive changes in their own lives. Chani offers opportunities for pause and reflection after each chapter, helping readers to integrate the personal and client stories they have just read and be curious about how these stories might apply in their own lives. Chani is a highly skilled and attuned therapist and invites readers into the therapy room throughout the book, demonstrating their calm and encouraging therapeutic style. For therapists and other mental health practitioners, this book contains useful clinical insights and interventions that can be incorporated into future work with clients. As a therapist myself, I am looking forward to seeing Chani’s wisdom show up in my sessions with clients. Outside of work, I am excited to continue diving into the reflection questions Chani poses and referring back to Mapito when I need guidance or am feeling stuck.

[Robyn L.Posin · Rating 5 out of 5]

The poet e.e.cummings wrote: “To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else, means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”

This beautiful little book is a treasure of a trail guide and supportive companion for those of us yearning to find our way home by uncovering, honoring and lovingly embracing the truths living in our deepest selves, the truths of who we truly are.

In each chapter, Chani shares uncensored tales from their own journeying as well as from the journeying tales of many of the dear clients who’ve given them permission to share their stories.

These uncensored, raw stories take us vicariously along the roads to such wholeness and healing. And, at the end of each chapter of stories, Chani gifts us with questions to consider/reflect on. These take us deeper into seeing both what is so for/in us and what stops us from embracing these deep truths.

Beautifully written, lovingly collected, these are profoundly healing, confirming and journey-supporting stories.

Robyn L Posin, Ph.D. Feminist Psychologist

[Heather L · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mapito is a story of remarkable self-transformation and courage. It chronicles not only the experiences of various clients Chani has helped to overcome personal challenges, but her own journey that has shaped her compassion and deep understanding of human nature. At age 23, Chani found herself newly single, the sole provider for three young children, with no work experience outside the home, and cut off from her family and community - a situation that anyone would find daunting. She rose to this incredible challenge and forged a successful life for herself and her children. With humor and sensitivity, she describes her journey and those of selected clients in a way that will inspire anyone to face their own challenges with courage. Buy Mapito for yourself, for a friend facing hard times, or for anyone you love or admire, as a reminder that each of us has the inner strength to overcome adversity and thrive.

[Phyllis B. · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you know, admire, and respect Chani Getter, as I do, then Mapito: Embrace Yourself will meet your highest expectations. It’s a delightful and insightful read, brimming with wisdom and inspiration to do exactly as the title suggests—embrace yourself. If you haven’t yet had the pleasure of encountering Getter’s work, this book will undoubtedly serve as the perfect introduction, drawing you in and transforming you into a devoted fan.
Each chapter unfolds as a meaningful step in the journey of self-discovery, enriched by profound personal revelations and touching client stories. Getter’s insights and vision come to life in a way that is both illuminating and deeply relatable. This book doesn’t just offer guidance—it offers companionship on the path toward self-acceptance.
A truly five-star read, highly recommended for those seeking inspiration, healing, and the courage to embrace their authentic selves.

[Sandra · Rating 5 out of 5]

Profoundly human
From the very first page, Mapito invites you into a space of radical honesty, warmth, and self-discovery. Chani writes with the kind of clarity and compassion that makes even the most complex aspects of identity feel safe to explore. Blending memoir with therapeutic insight, this book offers powerful stories—some heartbreaking, many affirming—all of them transformative.

Getter doesn’t just share their truth—they open the door for readers to find their own. As a queer, nonbinary therapist and parent, Getter’s lens is unique, but their reflections are universal. Each chapter ends with thoughtful questions that encouraged me to pause, reflect, and reconnect with parts of myself I’d forgotten.

Whether you’re on a journey of healing, navigating questions of identity, or simply seeking a book that will stretch your empathy and self-awareness, *Mapito* is a must-read. It’s not only beautifully written—it’s profoundly human.

[Maryann Rulapaugh · Rating 5 out of 5]

From the very first page, I was deeply moved. With raw honesty and deliberate care, Chani creates a space that invites to step into their authenticity and fully embody what it means to be themselves. Each chapter includes self-reflection questions that encouraged me to slow down, listen inward, and reconnect with different parts of myself.

Chani’s openness in sharing their personal experiences, alongside powerful client stories, adds depth and relatability. They honor all messiness and complexities of being human, which makes this book feel both grounding and liberating.
If you're on a journey of self-discovery or simply craving deeper connection with yourself, this book is a beautiful companion.

[Rebecca · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a gift. It provides an digestible and accessible framework for self evaluation and understanding of our own behaviors, emotions, and reactions. I'm not typically a fan of this genre, but I loved this book and have been talking about it to anyone who will listen. I gained insight into my own emotions and behaviors as well as those in my immediate circle. Chani takes you on a journey by sharing personal and intimate stories coupled with insights and frameworks from various experts. They bring it all together in a way that I could understand, relate to, and apply, along with questions for the reader to explore as part of their journey. I'm sure I'll be revisiting this book as I continue to work on myself.

[Rebecca · Rating 5 out of 5]

In MAPITO, Chani Getter has written an excellent guide to navigating many of life's challenges, large and small, by weaving together her personal experiences and those she has had with clients in her successful career as a coach, therapist, and interfaith minister. Insightful and compelling, she presents topics, challenges, compassionate and heartfelt analysis, with questions ending every chapter for challenging self-reflection. A true gift!

[Eden Katz · Rating 5 out of 5]

Chani’s a really talented and thoughtful therapist, and you can feel their supportive vibe all through the book. Mapito is packed with helpful tips and ideas that I can actually use with my clients. As a therapist, I’m excited to try out some of Chani’s advice in my own sessions. And outside of work, I can’t wait to dig into the reflection questions and flip back to Mapito whenever I need a little extra guidance.

[Rose Viggiano · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mapito is incredibly moving. Coming face to face with others peoples stories of pain and growth has helped my own healing and given me new perspectives on life’s challenges. The book is filled with golden nuggets of personal learning while also being accessible and engaging. It’s a pleasure to read.

[User6 · Rating 5 out of 5]

I both couldn't put it down because of how interesting the personal and client stories were, but also slowed myself down to really take the time to process all the incredible insights this book has to offer.

No matter what part of your healing journey you are on (contemplating it or decades into therapy) this book is for you!

[rose lederman]

I was so impressed with Chanis' honesty, the inspirational vignettes and the thoughtful challenges to us readers to do the hard work on ourselves....R.Lederman LCSW-R Excellent Inspirational Work for All!

[Jonah G · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mapito soulfully and skillfully blends stories: the author’s own, clients’, loved ones’, and ultimately the reader’s. You can feel Chani’s care toward their clients and their journeys in each page. This is a transformative read for therapists and non-therapists alike.

[Ash · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book felt like an invitation to slow down. Each chapter has stories that are personal and thoughtful. There’s this quiet strength in the way Chani writes—never preachy, always real. It’s not just a book that shares insight, it helps you find your own.

[Myra Soifer]

A terrific book. You’ll start learning important lessons from the title onward. And it’s a good read as well, with personal stories from/about the author and clients. Get this book. Read it. And then share it with the people you care about!

[Yael Reisman · Rating 5 out of 5]

Chani Getter's "Mapito" asks that you slow down and look deep inside, as it prepares to meet your more attuned self. Yet, it remains accessible. I highly recommend it!

[Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mapito is a beautifully woven set of stories that draw lessons learned and encourage reflective practice. It's a true gift to all who chose to engage!

[Diane · Rating 5 out of 5]

Courageous, heart-opening, and wise, Mapito is a wonderful companion and guide for the journey to your authentic self.

[Rev Rachel · Rating 5 out of 5]

The wisdom, the tenderness, the honesty....Thank Goodness for Chani! A beautiful testament to Love and Acceptance.

[Sharon Ross · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have benefited from reading Chani's words of wisdom for many years. Mapito is well worth reading. Start your journey to self-understanding with Chani today.

[Sadie Rose-Stern · Rating 5 out of 5]

A really incredible book about love, life, finding yourself and letting go. If you’re looking for a guiding light in the process of self discovery, do yourself a favor and pick up a copy.

[Carly Petersen Loth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Reading Chani Getter's Mapito was incredibly inspiring—it felt like having a heartfelt conversation with Chani, even though we're miles apart.

[Johna Mandel · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book asks big questions without ever feeling preachy. It gently nudges you to look inward and get curious about your own needs and desires. The mix of memoir, reflection, and teachings flows together seamlessly. The personal stories are honest and open, and they really invite the reader in. I finished it feeling more connected to myself and the choices I want to make.

[Helene Brenenson · Rating 5 out of 5]

When Chani started writing this book, I had the privilege of hearing the author personally read a section. Listening to the audiobook is especially meaningful since Chani narrates it.

I appreciate this book on many levels. I appreciate the clinical nature of clarifying meanings of terms, having clear separation from professional and personal, but also where it all blurs.

Having had a Jewish upbringing, I understand the stereotypes placed upon individuals within the religion.
Being bisexual and married to a woman, I also relate to the stereotypes tied to that identity.

This book feels therapeutic—for the author, the people included, and the reader.

I feel especially connected to the idea of rituals. I explored this in my master’s thesis on artistic and religious practices. My wife created our wedding ceremony—something Chani also mentions—which made me appreciate our own wedding, exactly four months ago today, even more.

So many elements of this book can resonate with people from all walks of life.
I’m grateful to have listened to it and hope others take the time to read or listen and come away having learned something—about themselves or someone else.