His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last

by Dr. WIllard F. Harley Jr., ‎Chris Abell (Narrator)

Time after time, His Needs, Her Needs has topped the charts as the bestselling marriage book available. In this classic book, Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to make their marriage sizzle by satisfying those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to conflict and even extramarital affairs.

Join those who have seen spectacular changes in their marriages by following Dr. Harley's tried-and-proven counsel. You will discover that an outstanding marriage can be more than a dream—it can be your reality.

Genres: Relationships

Audible Audio

Published April 12, 2023

Reviews

[Lizzie Lonon · Rating 1 out of 5]

I was really excited about this book since it was recommended by a couple of people. The author presented many great ideas, but overall, the book not only felt outdated and sexist but there were many red flags while reading.

I found it concerning that much of the book seems to rely on the author’s personal opinion and questionnaires from his own practice. The few references he cited were mainly to his other books, which always raises big red flag. I also found it odd that though he is coming from a Christian perspective yet there was no reference to the gospel in the book… I wouldn’t know how you write a book on marriage without scripture (i understand that is more my opinion).

The author did not do a good job of acknowledging the wide variety of experiences people have in relationships. Because of that, some of his generalizations/stereotypes were more discouraging than helpful. Throughout the book he continuously makes generalized statements about men and women, dividing them into categories (e.g., “rarely do women…” or “most of the time men need…”). Personally, I didn’t identify with most of “women” examples he presented.

The book is pretty outdated and narrow in my opinion. Would not recommend.

[Joshua Hubbard · Rating 5 out of 5]

8.8/10 This book was yet another book recommended to me by my mom lol, she is trying to look out for me and my relationship. Although I am not married, the information about properly identifying and communicating emotional and physical needs in a relationship were ridiculously insightful and have already lead me to instigate conversations in my own relationship. Additionally, there is plenty of cool insights on resolving conflict even as far as affairs so for those who are struggling to connect in a relationship or establish a deeper connection, I highly recommend this read. Open minds to any and all genres is essential to an eclectic yet complete understanding of the world in which we live.

[Nikki Venne · Rating 4 out of 5]

Whew. As you can see this book took me a great while to get through. (Disclaimer: I did do the audiobook version). There are some great points made. But also some that aren’t relevant to my relationship (but I fully understand I can’t expect a book to cover my relationship 100%). I’d recommend this book to anyone wanting to do more for the marriage instead of just going through the motions. The author does genuinely see spouses as being best friends which I believe in wholeheartedly.

[Kimberly Williams · Rating 2 out of 5]

unrealistic scheduling unless you have free day care and finances.

I agree you should spend more enjoyable time with your spouse and focus on each other's needs.. However, this felt like an advertisement for his other books.

[adam weiss · Rating 4 out of 5]

very insightful and helpful book for understanding marriage.