Live your best, unashamedly unmasked Autistic life with this invaluable resource featuring tools for navigating friendships, family, work, and love, from the author of Unmasking Autism.
“Unmasking for Life should be read by not only autistic people but their loved ones, to ensure they facilitate a truly fulfilling life.”—Eric Garcia, author of We’re Not Changing the Autism Conversation
Most masked Autistics have spent a lifetime being told how to perform how to behave, how to carry themselves, what to feel, and how to live. With his previous book, Unmasking Autism, Devon Price, PhD, has given them the space and the tools to unmask and embrace their neurodiversity. But no matter where you are in the unmasking process, there is still work to be done. Unmasking is more than just a personal process of self-acceptance, after all—it also requires figuring out how to move comfortably throughout life building friendships, nurturing family, pursuing love, finding a means of survival, and expressing oneself on one’s own terms. In order to live a brilliantly unashamed Autistic life, you need more than internal healing—you need practical tools of assertiveness and interpersonal effectiveness, and solutions to the problems of ableism and inaccessibility.
Enter Unmasking for Life, which provides the resources to help you advocate for your needs and invent new ways of living, loving, and being that work with your disability rather than against it. You’ll learn how to develop five key skills for living unmasked in all areas of
Acceptance of change, loss, and uncertainty
Engagement in productive conflict, discussion, and disagreement
Transgression of unfair rules, demands, and social expectations
Tolerance of distress, disagreement, or being disliked
Creation of new accommodations, relationship structures, and new ways of living
Unmasking for Life will help validate and support you so you can move beyond unmasking your Autism and begin unmasking your world.
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Dr. Devon Price is a social psychologist, writer, and professor at Loyola University of Chicago’s School of Continuing and Professional Studies. Price’s work has appeared in numerous publications such as Slate, The Rumpus, NPR, and HuffPost and has been featured on the front page of Medium numerous times. He lives in Chicago, Illinois.
I want to like this book. I very much liked the beginning and agree that masking is dangerous, and that we must live our lives authentically not to be destroyed by the mask and societal limitations. While a lot of the issues he discussed were important, I think the way he talked about solutions was trite, biased, one sided, and lacked the balanced discussion I am desperate for.
Autistic people - just by living without fear of retribution and honesty are still autistic people. It is still incredibly hard to create and partake in and not be cast out of- pretty much all of the “alternative” living ways. The alternative lifestyle are price present as - the ways in which autistic people can survive. (cue song)But, I’d say encouraging an already disabled population into modes of survival like “camping” - homelessness - is dangerous and dishonest. How does doing this help them accommodate and comfort their sensory needs? Many of these people living this lifestyle remain heavily dependent on others in the examples. I guess I was hoping for some other ideas besides houselessness (rv, boat etc) - for people that need routine and predictability to just see their world, this doesn’t seem wise. it sounds extractive. I was hoping for ideas around how we can achieve independence, but maybe Price thinks this is impossible to do unless it comes at a steep cost in our energy, executive function, and safety. I guess i wanted an ideas list as long as the kink list. rolls eyes.
Id also say as an autistic person who did live this way - dependent on others in collective situations, the interpersonal politics were beyond my comprehension (wee woo disability!) and often landed me expelled simply for pointing out the problem, or making some unexplained social faux pas. This caused endless cycles of trauma. Something Price didn’t experience because of their ability to have apartments.
Another glaring issue was their whole chapter on work. I understand that they are very well versed in academia, and much was on that, but NOTHING on self employment? Almost all of the autistic people I know are self employed, able to offer exceptional quality and time dedication because of their Special Interests. What I was hoping for was possibly help in maintaining boundaries with those to act protectively around Autistic energetic needs - at least an interview with anyone would have sufficed.
I skipped all the relationship stuff because I did not see a discussion on assault or abuse - something Autistic people and autistic women are way more likely to experience than their neurotypical counterparts. I think encouraging autistic people to invite MORE people in without a basic working of power imbalance, patriarchal mindsets, and abuse patterns etc. is dangerous. The resources to explain these things in clear and direct language with indicators we can see is far and few between. As an autistic person with enough communication issues with the ONE person I am intimate with, no thanks to adding MORE drama and misunderstanding and trauma to my life. As an autistic person, I guess I was also looking for permission and language around what we must do first, love ourselves.
I guess Price led a protective life and I led the life Price is chasing now, and I wanted more information/ideas on how to integrate into a healthier life with less trauma from my autistic experience. that is not this book. As someone who did build farmworker coalitions, and did organize mass movement, and “put my neck out there” - ill tell you it was not protective and my head was chopped off a few times. It set me back to nothing several times over. The cumulative effect on my life was devastating. In the end I think a life of balance is the one that we should be exploring. This one felt too pie in the sky, community will save you. It didn’t save me. No one will but yourself. That is the hard truth us autistics must square down. I look forward to seeing the kind of life Price builds for the next 20 years and I hope they prove me wrong.
Just walk on over to aging subs on reddit, even neurotypicals with seemingly normal social skills - lose friends as they age. They die. They move. And asking an autistic person to invest their energy into that - doesn’t invest in their future. Energy for an autistic persons is a very finite source and you have more when you are younger. The advice you will find in the autistic subs is build what you can for yourself. Friends are not a definite for autistic people and thats the sad truth. It’s unfortunate many of us are launched into a cruel uncaring world (even among activists) abusing us for our needs and communication. I don’t think this book adequately dealt with - how do we actually navigate that in a non harmful way to us, and many times over recommended things that could be very harmful. I wanted a better discussion of the benefits and pitfalls and not just patent idealism.
It was more - hey! be freaky! find freaks! heres how to interview a bit! date a bunch of people and here ar kinks! um ok, thanks but no thanks.
This is somewhere in the neighborhood of 4.5 or 4.75 for me.
This is a more practical follow-up to Unmasking Autism. He begins by laying out several skills one would need to effectively step into their authentic self. Then, he addresses different areas of life, how people have unmasked or could have issues unmasking there, which includes examples, journal prompts, and advice (some general, but also things like possible scripts or options of what one could like or say, etc). This includes a very inclusive discussion of love and relationships, and a section on aging as well (with things I had never heard about autistic elders).
I will say, there were some issues that weren't addressed or could have been discussed more, but overall I really liked what was included and found it to be more in depth than a lot of the mainstream discussion of autism. This is definitely one I will be revisiting!
I really enjoyed this book! I definitely recommend it if you are either Autistic or are neurotypical and just looking to better understand Autism and how you can help make this a more inclusive world. It is absolutely filled with a ton of information, and very useful and practical tips and exercises that will leave you with a lot of things to think about.
I received a copy of this book through Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
I gave this book 4⭐️ since it had less content for older adults like me. For instance, there was a lot of emphasis on sexuality and dating, whereas I would have found it more useful if it explored the life of the people already in a relationship for years and years, and some advice on how to navigate mature relationships. But the rest was good and took many notes.
I was lucky to read this pre-publication and provide an endorsement quote.
‘Deeply insightful and empowering, illuminating a path for those of us searching for authentic connections and relationships in a world of ableism, trauma and misunderstanding. This is the book I desperately needed.’
This was not the book I assumed it to be. I was hoping for concrete tips on ways to unmask, but found the book’s suggestions unhelpful. This might have been more useful to me as a teen or young adult, but reading it now just feels too little, too late. Sadly, I just don’t think affirmations are going to help me stop decades of behaviour and allow me to fully embrace my goblin-mode.
TL;DR I thought it very touchy-feely, and not very actionable. Very much not for me.
I loved this book and highly recommend it to all fellow autistics and people who want to understand neurodivergence. approximately a year ago I set out on an authentic autistic life. before picking up Devon Price’s new book, I’d become increasingly skeptical whether a happy authentic autistic life is possible or even advisable. what if the dry cleaner breaks my dress and it takes me several months to say anything? (didn’t go well). what if the hot chocolate machine is broken but I don’t trust my sensory preferences to be sure? (went well- got a new drink). it’s imperfect, it’s scary. But UNMASKING FOR LIFE brings hope and understanding.
After finding Unmasking Autism one of the best books out their in understanding how Autism is often actively hidden by many autistics who often also go through much of their life undiagnosed, I was thrilled to learn Price was working in a follow up book. Unmaking for Life is exactly the next step I needed. Price gives a clear and freeing perspective on self acceptance within the context of work, family, friendships, romance and life goals, stressing how lives outside the social norms of our capitalistic and performance driven worlds can be rich, fulfilling and authentic.
Price stresses that while autistic people often mask as a defense mechanism to protect against rejection it comes with a high price that results in anxiety, isolation, depression and self harm. The lie is that these things are necessary to access relationship, financial security and purpose. Each chapter takes the reader through a series of questions and perspective setting that provides a blueprint for navigating social structures as an autistic person without apology
I’d highly recommend this book for anyone struggling to understand how to live more authentically in a world that is set up to exclude their participation and value, as well as anyone who has an autistic person I their life who wants to understand their loved one’s experiences better and learn how they can be part of the change in how society sees difference and disability. .
devon price is quickly becoming my new favourite author. i've read a few books about autism, but none of them has ever made me feel... joy and, dare i say, pride? i loved reading about all the examples of people who were trying to honour their differences and take up space in order to live authentically. no other book i've read has quite managed to strike this balance between being unapologetic, validating and affirming, while also practical and realistic. it's not out of touch with reality in how it talks about unmasking - it's intersectional and takes into account class, race, gender, finances and the economic reality we live in. it also delves into topics that i have never encountered in similar books, such as relationship struggles when both people are late diagnosed autistics (so relatable!), or what ageing looks like for autistic people. honestly, last year i read another book with the title 'unmasked' written by an influencer, and it was really disappointing. it was basically telling me the same things i already knew from instagram posts, no practical advice or skills that i could actually use in my life to help me unmask. this book is the exact opposite! i can't recommend it enough, just go read it i will add, after reading some of the reviews here, many critical points raised by readers are very valid and there are definitely some topics and aspects that deserve a more nuanced discussion. ultimately i think this book was written for a specific demographic in mind, and it won't be useful for everyone. that being said, i think a lot of young adults, high masking autistics, former gifted kids from relatively privileged backgrounds will find it transformative.
I'm the target audience for this book as an autistic person. My story is similar to some of the autistic people interviewed for the book and the author's own life, and different in others. I'm a thirtysomething year old north American who masked for many years for many reasons: to achieve financial security, because I was told the real me was weird, unattractive, and would never make friends or find companionship, or because I wasn't comfortable with asking for what I needed to feel at ease. I'm in the middle of my unmasking journey, and passages in pretty much every part of the book broke something open in me and made me realize what was missing. I have a lot to think about and a lot to learn about myself based on reading this. And I plan on recommending it to many other people in the same boat as me or who are in my life that I want to understand me better. I just wish this had been published when I was newly diagnosed at 15 and the entirety of my diagnosis plan was built around forcing me to become professional, passive, and pretty.
This book is more of a guidebook for autistic people to find ways to build a life that works for them. I think the most important part about it is the way Devon Price presents as many different ways to be as you can think of without any judgment. There does not have to be one way you are productive, successful, happy, and living a life of meaning. You get to decide what works for you and your disability. I love that so much.
I utilize Price's first book Unmasking Autism in therapy as a neurodiverse affirming therapist. As one of the more accessible books on the subject for those who are 'high-masking', or what used to be described as 'high-functioning' it remains one of the best resources for those diagnosed or self-identified later in life. Unmasking for Life acts as a practical continuation, and one I had been waiting on for a while. Realizing you've been masking your neurodiversity later in life is a disorienting process, and while many of my clients have felt affirmed from Unmasking Autism, they came away wishing for more examples of what it looks like to unmask. Because we're only just now cracking the surface of what neurodiversity entails (comparatively to the big picture of psychology and how autism has been described since the 40s), Price has the unfortunate privilege of being held to an impossible standard of having to appeal to every position of neurodiversity. It's a battle he's destined to lose. Price writes immeasurably useful books for people who exist in the middle of the Venn diagram of LGBTQIA+ folks and neurodiverse academic types. He focuses on this overlap--one that I cannot stress enough has very little exposure in other autistic literature--because that is his specialty, and he's good at calling attention to how neurodiversity may look within 'unconventional' spaces and embracing that. The kicker is that Price cannot appeal to everyone, and I don't believe he's ever claimed to try to appeal to everyone either. Kink-positive chapters put some folks off, as well as some of the anticaptialist lifestyle changes Price suggests as possible ways to manage the weight of masking. That doesn't make Price's suggestions or anecdotes incorrect or 'dangerous', as some dramatic negative reviews claim. It just makes them specific, and Price at no point ever implies that these changes are for everyone. One negative GR review talks about how Price says people should all live in campers and vans for transient living, and that's just categorically false. Price even immediately follows up the anecdote of an autistic person who prefers van life with the personal opinion that he himself would rather not do that! He speaks about how the sort of person who might benefit from that lifestyle will already have a lifestyle that is focused on living and thriving outdoors. Instead of taking that anecdote as what it is--a story about embracing your lifestyle no matter how unconventional it may seem--bad faith interpretation would have passersby believing they must join a dungeon, enter a queer platonic relationship, and sell off their home. To that I say: Maybe re-read the book without the intention of putting yourself in every single anecdote.
Four instead of five stars just because it is so deeply specific and I'm rating it as an overall autistic resource.
love and deeply respect dr. price. there were a lot of great ideas in this book, but many of them seem like their execution can only be supported by the level of systemic privilege that someone like devon has. i will look forward to his next book nevertheless :)
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I finished unmasking autism and immediately knew I wanted to continue reading more. Similar to the first book, this one is clearly written by and for autistics. It follows a very clear and easy to understand pattern (Overarching goals, breaking them down into mini goals, examples, and personal practice methods) which I believe maximizes its use. As someone who can find herself skimming nonfiction books when authors seem to be trying to hit some imaginary word count, Price instead chose to make sure that every word and page mattered. I cannot recommend enough, even for the allistics. This book is just a good guide on unapologetically being yourself
I much prefer this to its predecessor, although I found that the most helpful thing I'd done/read at a very stressful time. This is highly practical advice with consideration of material conditions yet also extremely compassionate to the range of people who gave their stories to the book. It's a comforting and reassuring read when unmasking is so damn hard. The ending made me so relieved that I cried.
As a long-time masked autistic and someone who, ironically, read Devon Price’s previous book thinking of autistic friends rather than myself, I was enthusiastic to read this one with the knowledge I have now. I am someone who's spent years seemingly perfecting the art of acting “neurotypical” & let me tell you, this book gave me a lot to think about.
I had to keep pausing during this book because there was so much to take in and reflect. It seems the author already thought of this & I loved the inclusion of reflections and exercises throughout.
This book is like a workbook for unlearning neurotypical societal conditioning—except way more validating and significantly less condescending than most self-help books. I would recommend this book to anyone, regardless of their neurotype!
As a late diagnosed autistic adult, Dr. Price's book Unmasking Autism was a massive eye opener for me. It made me feel validated and no longer alone in my struggles. When I saw he wrote another book about Autism, I knew this one had also come at a great time for me.
This book is filled with so many helpful guides on how to live a successful life without sacrificing your own well-being. I would highly recommend this to someone who has been diagnosed recently or self realized. I truly think this will massively change my life for the better going forward, and when the book officially releases, I can't wait to get a physical copy for my bookshelf to reference when I need it.
Great read! Would recommend for any adult who is wanting to learn more about neurodiversity and/or conflict avoidance. It was a very holistic approach to neurodiversity. Some quotes I’ll be taking with me include:
“Conflict is productive.”
“True freedom does not come from isolation or a lack of mutual reliance. Real freedom comes from being loved, understood, and looked after and having others to look after in turn.”
Unmasking Autism was a life changing book and Unmasking For Life came out (almost) at a perfect time for me when most of my life is unmasked but I’m still learning how to do it and how to survive in the neurotypical world. I learned a lot, I found here a bunch of amazing tools to keep learning and unmasking and recognized aspects of my life that maybe still need more unmasking work.
An interesting read. Hard to collect my thoughts. I found it more practical than Dr. Prices previous book which felt a bit frustrating to read as someone who was diagnosed at an early age and was aware of said diagnosis.
However, the analysis and advice throughout, for better and for worse, is simple and let’s say idealistic (perhaps one might say naive). I understand why a book like this needs to be approachable but something about it feels almost unnervingly cozy. The intersectional approach by Dr. Price is vital, but at times it almost feels gestural and unwilling to delve into profoundly uncomfortable territory.
Despite this the book has gotten me to start reflecting , begin unpacking some heavy baggage, and easing on myself, which certainly counts for something.
Overall a decent and useful primer, but I’m left wanting something more candid, thorough and challenging.
This book has been really helpful in giving me a structure in which to work on living an authentic life. I don’t know that a psychologist would diagnose me as on the autism spectrum, but I do have autistic traits that have made socializing and living in the society more difficult for me. This book gave me some more tools to help me live a life that is more True to myself and more comfortable while continuing to contribute to society as a whole. Highly recommend reading it!
3.5? I liked how it was divided into sections (family, friends, relationships, work, life). I do find myself yearning for more content on distress tolerance (specifically, allowing people to dislike you if it means maintaining your boundaries) in each area.
Unmasking for life is a great toolkit resource to have when wanting to unmask Autistic life. It helps give Autistic people young and old with tools to guide with making and keeping friends and family, work life and social skills. I highly recommend keeping this book handy as an ebook or in a bookshelf or even as a gift. I have ASD and ADHD as well as Childhood Complex Trauma-PTSD I was badly affected emotionally and mentally by reading this book. I endeavor re-reading this book when I am halfway through my therapy.
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Devon Price says autistic people have never been handed "the handbook for a successful life" but that is no longer the case. Unmasking for Life is exactly that, a guide for autistics on how to unmask every aspect of your life to make it the best it can be for you, and how to define what 'success' can mean for a disabled person, in its millions of shapes and forms.
This book took me a long time to read because I kept having to take time to think, to question myself and my life.
You should absolutely read this book regardless of your neurotype. There are so many valuable reframings of societal norms and adulthood expectations, everyone would benefit from following the exercises presented in Unmasking for Life.
This comes out later this month!
Thank you NetGalley and Rodale Inc. | Harmony for the opportunity to read this ARC and thank you Devon Price for writing it. The work you've been doing for autistic people is truly invaluable, thank you thank you.
fabulous read. thank you to netgalley, author devon prove, PhD, and rodale inc for this ARC in exchange for a review.
i found this, as opposed to many in the genre to feel fresh and like i, someone who is autistic, was able to pull ideas and thought. the questions were well thought out and i was impressed and engaged the entire book.
I think this book would be helpful for autistic people who are less cynical than me.
Price's thoughts are valuable, and having everything in a neat format definitely makes them easier to process; but alas, we simply do not live in a world where everyone can step away from their responsibilities to pursue their own happiness.
A lot of the times while reading, I just thought to myself, that what he was talking about sounded nice, but isn't achievable in a society where rent is due.
A lot of good information but at times reads more like political commentary than a book about autism and touches so much on other issues like sexuality and gender identity it’s almost not an autism book. Those things also matter, but don’t feel like the book could decide what it wanted to be.
Unmasking for Life is an ambitious and follow-up to Devon Price’s earlier work on neurodiversity, aiming not just to explore identity, but to reimagine how a life—any life—might be lived when stripped from the expectations of neurotypicality. Its subtitle might well have been: How to Build a Life Outside the Scripts You Were Given.
Price organizes the book around five “core skills” for unmasking: Acceptance, Engagement, Transgression, Tolerance, and Creation. These concepts are then applied to five life domains—Friendship, Family, Work, Love, and Life—forming a neat structure that’s both conceptual and practical. Exercises, conversational scripts, and case studies flesh out the ideas.
The tone is clear, often earnest, and deeply committed to social change. The prose moves fluidly between research, personal narrative, and instruction, with Price drawing from psychological literature and interviews alongside their own story. The book opens with a disarming and insightful reflection:
“I spent many years of my life believing that I was an unfeeling robot who could never love or be loved by other people, and camouflaging every moment of discomfort and confusion I ever experienced.”
This self-exposure sets the tone for a text that is as much memoir as manifesto. The argument—that masking is not a harmless adaptation but a form of existential self-denial—is framed with clarity and empirical backing. The costs are laid bare:
“In its most extreme form, masking is a dreadful act of self-negation, and so it’s no wonder maskers experience a heightened risk of suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts.”
These moments are among the book’s strongest: where it moves from the personal to the systemic, highlighting how conformity is not a neutral act but a pressured erasure of difference.
However, while the book’s clarity and accessibility are undeniable, it occasionally suffers from tonal imbalance and structural unevenness. It shifts between genres—memoir, guidebook, polemic—without always fully integrating these modes. At times, the prose becomes didactic; at others, overly soft in the face of hard realities. One might expect a sharper political edge, particularly given Price’s diagnosis of systemic failures across health care, education, and the labor market. There are glimpses:
“Powerful institutions like the federal government, the education system, and my employer had created policies that rewarded people for living in conventional ways, so I was systematically discouraged from diverging from the ‘normal’ path.”
But these critical insights are too often absorbed into a framework of individual empowerment, rather than expanded into collective or structural critique.
The book’s most lasting contribution lies in its reframing of what it means to live “a good life.” Price explicitly challenges normative ideals—careerism, home ownership, nuclear family structures—and advocates instead for lives built around comfort, authenticity, and interdependence:
“I threw out the old scripts of what a meaningful adult life meant by neurotypical standards—marriage, single-family home ownership, retirement at age sixty-seven, 2.5 children—and really thought about what I wanted to accomplish.”
This decentering of mainstream success narratives is compelling and deeply relevant in today’s context of burnout, alienation, and post-pandemic re-evaluation.
Still, the book has its limits. Its reliance on exercises and scripts can feel overly prescriptive, even as it claims to reject universalizing models. The repetition of certain key points may aid some readers, but others may find it redundant. And while Price acknowledges issues like poverty, discrimination, and immigration policies affecting disabled individuals, these are treated more as context than focus.
Overall, Unmasking for Life is an earnest and well-structured contribution to the discourse around neurodiversity, identity, and disability justice. It offers a practical vocabulary and roadmap for resisting conformity in everyday life, and it does so with warmth, clarity, and good intentions. Yet it stops short of delivering the full radical potential it gestures toward.
Recommended for readers seeking a grounded, affirming guide to navigating life outside the norm—but perhaps less satisfying for those looking for deeper structural analysis or literary ambition.
“Neuroconformity is imprisoning—but unmasking is for everyone.”