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Dear Alyne: My Years as a Married Virgin
From world traveler, entrepreneur, and content creator @DearAlyne, a vulnerable and hilarious memoir of how she escaped the restrictive expectations of her family and faith and found herself in the process.
Alyne Tamir was raised to live her life for for her husband, her family, and the Mormon church. For twenty-five years, she put them ahead of herself, repressing things that didn’t fit the neat, traditional story that had been written for her. On the surface, her life seemed picture-perfect. But in reality, Alyne was miserable, struggling to reconcile her flawless image with the pain and humiliation of abuse, an eating disorder, infidelity, and depression.
Until Alyne reached a breaking the day her husband asked for a divorce—over email. Thank God! Or, not God. Finally free from the expectations of her family and faith, Alyne had to start a new life, which meant rediscovering herself and what she secretly wanted all the liberating life of a digital nomad.
In a singular voice brimming with honesty and humor, Alyne invites us on a journey of strength and self-discovery—with a little bit of irreverence along the way. Dear Alyne is a one-of-a-kind, coming-of-age story and a testament to the limitless possibilities that await those brave enough to defy convention.
Alyne Tamir was raised to live her life for for her husband, her family, and the Mormon church. For twenty-five years, she put them ahead of herself, repressing things that didn’t fit the neat, traditional story that had been written for her. On the surface, her life seemed picture-perfect. But in reality, Alyne was miserable, struggling to reconcile her flawless image with the pain and humiliation of abuse, an eating disorder, infidelity, and depression.
Until Alyne reached a breaking the day her husband asked for a divorce—over email. Thank God! Or, not God. Finally free from the expectations of her family and faith, Alyne had to start a new life, which meant rediscovering herself and what she secretly wanted all the liberating life of a digital nomad.
In a singular voice brimming with honesty and humor, Alyne invites us on a journey of strength and self-discovery—with a little bit of irreverence along the way. Dear Alyne is a one-of-a-kind, coming-of-age story and a testament to the limitless possibilities that await those brave enough to defy convention.
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January 13, 2025
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2 stars.
A book by a “content creator” did not sound like it was made for the likes of me but I’ve always been fascinated by Mormons and I was interested to see what this woman had to say about growing up in the faith….and what came after.
Tamir was a childhood loner and goes somewhat into her background as the daughter of a blonde Mormon and an Israeli Jew. Her parents divorced when she was 11, her father returned to Israel and has not been back to the U.S. since, so she spent her summers with him there, becoming fluent in Hebrew. She spills a fair amount about growing up Mormon, including things she’s not supposed to reveal, like the goings on inside the temple. That was interesting. However she continually states the obvious (or maybe not, since she’s targeting an entirely different demographic and maybe they are…um, dumber?) and the writing is fairly sophomoric. Others may like this better, but my first instincts were correct, this wasn’t for me.
2 stars.
A book by a “content creator” did not sound like it was made for the likes of me but I’ve always been fascinated by Mormons and I was interested to see what this woman had to say about growing up in the faith….and what came after.
Tamir was a childhood loner and goes somewhat into her background as the daughter of a blonde Mormon and an Israeli Jew. Her parents divorced when she was 11, her father returned to Israel and has not been back to the U.S. since, so she spent her summers with him there, becoming fluent in Hebrew. She spills a fair amount about growing up Mormon, including things she’s not supposed to reveal, like the goings on inside the temple. That was interesting. However she continually states the obvious (or maybe not, since she’s targeting an entirely different demographic and maybe they are…um, dumber?) and the writing is fairly sophomoric. Others may like this better, but my first instincts were correct, this wasn’t for me.
July 4, 2025
It is hard to find anything that references the “too far” side of teaching about purity - the absolute terror of sex and fear that it is the worst thing any person could ever do…until you’re married and then it’s REQUIRED AND FUN.
Reading Alyne’s experience through the Mormon church and the emphasis placed on sexual purity was familiar to my own Christian upbringing, though hers was more severe.
The hard thing about memoirs is that I want the author to come to the same conclusions I have - to think and see the solution to their problems that I can so clearly see. However this book is her story and she is still learning how to turn from her Mormon faith into something…else?
As always, I’m angry with the Mormon church for distorting and turning Jesus into someone He isn’t - but what’s new?
Reading Alyne’s experience through the Mormon church and the emphasis placed on sexual purity was familiar to my own Christian upbringing, though hers was more severe.
The hard thing about memoirs is that I want the author to come to the same conclusions I have - to think and see the solution to their problems that I can so clearly see. However this book is her story and she is still learning how to turn from her Mormon faith into something…else?
As always, I’m angry with the Mormon church for distorting and turning Jesus into someone He isn’t - but what’s new?
June 16, 2025
Alyne’s story is a story of religious trauma, overcoming it and finding yourself. I found it fascinating since my knowledge of Mormonism is close to none. The effects of religion in women can be pretty harsh. Overcoming that message of purity and living a certain way all your formative years has a lasting impact and not a positive one. I love how she grew as a person. I must admit I wanted more info on her life traveling with Nas but I guess that’s for another book. I just wish that at some point she would have seeked therapy. I think she may still need it as it seems she has suffered from depression.
Tha narration by the author was ok for being her first book. Her entonation was a bit strange and not like she does her videos. She would do a high pitch voice some times that made me think this was AI with her voice. But hey it may be nerves or her way of adding emotion to her story. Nevertheless if you follow her on social media or you want to learn how strict religion affects women’s self esteem and sexuality, please listen to this book.
Tha narration by the author was ok for being her first book. Her entonation was a bit strange and not like she does her videos. She would do a high pitch voice some times that made me think this was AI with her voice. But hey it may be nerves or her way of adding emotion to her story. Nevertheless if you follow her on social media or you want to learn how strict religion affects women’s self esteem and sexuality, please listen to this book.
August 4, 2025
The narration was very interesting and you can definitely feel the author’s personality shine through. It was cool to read about her experiences growing up and trying to figure out her identity. I definitely could relate to some parts of her thought process so it was a nice confirmation. This book makes me want to travel the world and discover more about myself. The book is from the perspective of an ex-Mormon so she does share some things that are a bit personal in the religion. If this could be upsetting, I would not recommend to read this. Otherwise, a lot of things are relatable whether still religious or not.
August 8, 2025
Show me a religion that doesn’t do women’s heads in (and I am someone who has some respect for religion). Here, the radically honest Alyne Tamir shows how her church did her head in. It’s the LDS Church, which is sadly fashionable to bash, at least where I live. But it’s hardly just the LDS that struggles with women. Women, take up your pens!
I have a quibble with the subtitle in that half the book is about her post-LDS life, traveling the world and learning how to have relationships and be herself.
I have a quibble with the subtitle in that half the book is about her post-LDS life, traveling the world and learning how to have relationships and be herself.
August 23, 2025
Listened to the audio book and her tone and inflections were so grating that I couldn't finish.
June 26, 2025
4.0 stars! I listened to this book on my commutes and honestly? It made me excited to get in the car (which says a lot). I’ve been following Alyne since about 2017 and loved getting a deeper, unfiltered look into her life, especially all the messy, honest, very real stuff that doesn’t make it to Instagram.
As someone who also grew up in “the church” (Christian, not Mormon), so many of the taboo topics and unspoken rules hit close to home. And that ending? The self-love, the realisations, the growth? Chef’s kiss. It may trigger those people who are still black and white followers of a church/religion though.
Knocking off one star… because I NEED MORE. More stories, more healing, more Alyne. (Part 2, please??)
As someone who also grew up in “the church” (Christian, not Mormon), so many of the taboo topics and unspoken rules hit close to home. And that ending? The self-love, the realisations, the growth? Chef’s kiss. It may trigger those people who are still black and white followers of a church/religion though.
Knocking off one star… because I NEED MORE. More stories, more healing, more Alyne. (Part 2, please??)
August 8, 2025
Listened to the audiobook version. The book itself was interesting and a good read but her tone, dictation, and style of speaking was irksome at some points. Every sentence was read the same, except the occasional exclamation.
Also confusing on how she said she was a virgin and lost it later but then why does she say she kept trying while married? Like it’s very confusing what she deems as the act and what wasn’t. But I appreciated overall her candidness and the attempt to make the story move and remain fun and interesting overall.
Also confusing on how she said she was a virgin and lost it later but then why does she say she kept trying while married? Like it’s very confusing what she deems as the act and what wasn’t. But I appreciated overall her candidness and the attempt to make the story move and remain fun and interesting overall.
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August 25, 2025
Take it from an objective reader who has no idea who Alyne Tamir is--this is a really bad book and she comes across as a horrible person who wants to blame-shift all of her problems onto others while being delusional about her own strengths.
The whole thing is misguided. Apparently, she has followers on social media, but they will be disappointed that this is only about things that happened over ten years ago (the book basically ends in 2016!). She starts by telling readers that "Some names, identities and circumstances have been changed... (and) conversations come from my keen recollection of them but are not written to represent word-for-word documentation."
So this is creative non-fiction, where we can't trust anything she writes. Then to add to the disillusionment, she repeatedly throughout the book claims she doesn't recall anything about major life events. She remembers nothing of a wedding that occurred just 13 years earlier? Nothing? Repeat that with her honeymoon, trips with her husband, latent sexual experiences, etc. And we're supposed to trust her "keen recollection"? No way, Alyne.
She has a split personality, which starts from her mother being devout Mormon and her father being Israeli Jewish. When they divorce, she goes back and forth between the two cultures. Being LDS alone can cause major mental health issues but add to it her "wild" summer teen years in Israel where she acts the opposite of how she lives in America, and you have a recipe for what becomes a crazed adult.
As smart as she claims to be ("I am not dumb" she states right after making another stupid decision), ultimately she comes across as a bad daughter, wife, and friend who goes along with anything anyone tells her to do because she doesn't want to hurt their feelings. That's her excuse, at least, when things blow up in her face and she doesn't want to admit she made bad choices or did anything wrong.
She gets engaged after dating a guy for three months, and despite her not finding him attractive she quickly marries but refuses to have sex with him. She keeps repeating that her issues began before the wedding when he pinched her after she embarrassed him publicly, but in truth this was over from the start because she agreed to marry a guy she wasn't attracted to after only a few months of knowing him. It's HER fault for not backing out when she felt it was wrong, no matter how hard she pushes the narrative that it was his pinch that turned her off.
So for the three years of their marriage she refused to have sex and he (somehow) was patient, gentle and loving--almost the perfect husband the way she describes him. After she cheats on him (seriously?) and tells her husband the next day ("I may have cheated, but I am not a liar," she writes) he finally has had enough and after putting up with her frigidity and two-faced blame-shifting he initiates a divorce, which is tragedy in the Mormon faith and she claims to not want it despite going out of her way to get him to leave her.
The most disturbing aspects of the book are when her husband is most vulnerable and crying due to Alyne's bizarre lack of intimacy or honesty, she becomes worse and almost mocks him. Her lack of compassion or self-awareness is shocking, especially in a memoir where she is constantly defending what she does that hurts him.
Tamir doesn't take responsibility for the divorce but instead belittles him for failing to keep HIS vows of staying together forever, after she spent three years breaking HER marriage vows by not having sex and seeing other men! And then in the middle of all this she reveals that, well, yes in college she did help boyfriends get off sexually through hand jobs and dry humping (even admitting to us that she had orgasms with it)! So this woman was not the innocent little Mormon virgin her husband thought he was marrying. What a callous hypocrite and disgusting woman.
Oh, and did I forget to mention that when she was 18 and home from college to visit she was shocked to find her divorced mother hosting a 19-year-old Honduran illegal immigrant...who proceeded to digitally sexually assault the author the night she arrived home? When she reported it to her mother the woman responded, "We need to be kind in this moment...I'm sure it was a misunderstanding." The mom wouldn't call police for fear of the young man being deported (talk about misplace compassion!) and Tamir glosses over all of this as if she can't figure out why she wouldn't have full-on sex with her boyfriends or on her honeymoon a few years later.
Once the couple split the book turns into a worthless travelogue of her jetting around the world, flirting with guys, finally technically giving up her penetrative virginity to a German in Sri Lanka (again, seriously?), then connecting with a rich guy who gives her all she wants. What was her lesson learned? That she'd seriously consider being in polyamorous relationship (huh?) and that she no longer believes in God. It's pathetic.
This is another memoir that reveals the hypocrisy of self-proclaimed anti-male feminists and the ridiculousness of the Latter-Day Saints (her pointing out that most don't realize Mormons still believe in polygamy in the afterlife). But in the close friendships I've made with LDS members over the years there was always one common element--they all had serious mental health issues. Alyne Tamir is no different--but like most in her almost cultlike religion, she refuses to admit to her own mental shortcomings. Oh dear.
The whole thing is misguided. Apparently, she has followers on social media, but they will be disappointed that this is only about things that happened over ten years ago (the book basically ends in 2016!). She starts by telling readers that "Some names, identities and circumstances have been changed... (and) conversations come from my keen recollection of them but are not written to represent word-for-word documentation."
So this is creative non-fiction, where we can't trust anything she writes. Then to add to the disillusionment, she repeatedly throughout the book claims she doesn't recall anything about major life events. She remembers nothing of a wedding that occurred just 13 years earlier? Nothing? Repeat that with her honeymoon, trips with her husband, latent sexual experiences, etc. And we're supposed to trust her "keen recollection"? No way, Alyne.
She has a split personality, which starts from her mother being devout Mormon and her father being Israeli Jewish. When they divorce, she goes back and forth between the two cultures. Being LDS alone can cause major mental health issues but add to it her "wild" summer teen years in Israel where she acts the opposite of how she lives in America, and you have a recipe for what becomes a crazed adult.
As smart as she claims to be ("I am not dumb" she states right after making another stupid decision), ultimately she comes across as a bad daughter, wife, and friend who goes along with anything anyone tells her to do because she doesn't want to hurt their feelings. That's her excuse, at least, when things blow up in her face and she doesn't want to admit she made bad choices or did anything wrong.
She gets engaged after dating a guy for three months, and despite her not finding him attractive she quickly marries but refuses to have sex with him. She keeps repeating that her issues began before the wedding when he pinched her after she embarrassed him publicly, but in truth this was over from the start because she agreed to marry a guy she wasn't attracted to after only a few months of knowing him. It's HER fault for not backing out when she felt it was wrong, no matter how hard she pushes the narrative that it was his pinch that turned her off.
So for the three years of their marriage she refused to have sex and he (somehow) was patient, gentle and loving--almost the perfect husband the way she describes him. After she cheats on him (seriously?) and tells her husband the next day ("I may have cheated, but I am not a liar," she writes) he finally has had enough and after putting up with her frigidity and two-faced blame-shifting he initiates a divorce, which is tragedy in the Mormon faith and she claims to not want it despite going out of her way to get him to leave her.
The most disturbing aspects of the book are when her husband is most vulnerable and crying due to Alyne's bizarre lack of intimacy or honesty, she becomes worse and almost mocks him. Her lack of compassion or self-awareness is shocking, especially in a memoir where she is constantly defending what she does that hurts him.
Tamir doesn't take responsibility for the divorce but instead belittles him for failing to keep HIS vows of staying together forever, after she spent three years breaking HER marriage vows by not having sex and seeing other men! And then in the middle of all this she reveals that, well, yes in college she did help boyfriends get off sexually through hand jobs and dry humping (even admitting to us that she had orgasms with it)! So this woman was not the innocent little Mormon virgin her husband thought he was marrying. What a callous hypocrite and disgusting woman.
Oh, and did I forget to mention that when she was 18 and home from college to visit she was shocked to find her divorced mother hosting a 19-year-old Honduran illegal immigrant...who proceeded to digitally sexually assault the author the night she arrived home? When she reported it to her mother the woman responded, "We need to be kind in this moment...I'm sure it was a misunderstanding." The mom wouldn't call police for fear of the young man being deported (talk about misplace compassion!) and Tamir glosses over all of this as if she can't figure out why she wouldn't have full-on sex with her boyfriends or on her honeymoon a few years later.
Once the couple split the book turns into a worthless travelogue of her jetting around the world, flirting with guys, finally technically giving up her penetrative virginity to a German in Sri Lanka (again, seriously?), then connecting with a rich guy who gives her all she wants. What was her lesson learned? That she'd seriously consider being in polyamorous relationship (huh?) and that she no longer believes in God. It's pathetic.
This is another memoir that reveals the hypocrisy of self-proclaimed anti-male feminists and the ridiculousness of the Latter-Day Saints (her pointing out that most don't realize Mormons still believe in polygamy in the afterlife). But in the close friendships I've made with LDS members over the years there was always one common element--they all had serious mental health issues. Alyne Tamir is no different--but like most in her almost cultlike religion, she refuses to admit to her own mental shortcomings. Oh dear.
August 3, 2025
As I will always say, I find it hard to do a true rating and review of memoirs because it feels not exactly comfortable to critique the output of someone's lived experience. That being said, this was really surprising. Like a lot of readers, I expected to hear much more about the Alyne we know from social media, her partnership with the creator of Nas Daily, and her more recent social media presence overall. But what I love about this book is, that particular area of her life isn't the focus. She takes us back to the beginning, leads us through her childhood, her parents' break up, and her experience within the Mormon faith and its impact on her emotionally, physically and spiritually. I found it absolutely fascinating to hear more about her journey, how it's formed her, and now when I see her online, the place that she's taken her life to makes so much sense.
I did the audiobook and I had both a positive and a negative reaction to it. Tamir has a very unique cadence, often used comedic effect, but at the beginning of the audiobook, the narration feels very stilted. Like she hadn't found her rhythm or voice yet. I will say that, as the book goes on, it feels much more comfortable and really showcases her personality. But it did make for an occasionally difficult listening. At the same time, I'm a huge believer in hearing a memoir in the voice of the person who wrote it, if at all possible.
I did the audiobook and I had both a positive and a negative reaction to it. Tamir has a very unique cadence, often used comedic effect, but at the beginning of the audiobook, the narration feels very stilted. Like she hadn't found her rhythm or voice yet. I will say that, as the book goes on, it feels much more comfortable and really showcases her personality. But it did make for an occasionally difficult listening. At the same time, I'm a huge believer in hearing a memoir in the voice of the person who wrote it, if at all possible.
July 26, 2025
This is the best book I’ve read in a long time.
From the very first page, I was hooked. Alyne is hilarious, sharp, and wickedly smart — but what truly blew me away is her raw, unfiltered vulnerability. She says the things most of us are too afraid to even admit to ourselves.
I genuinely laughed out loud (just skim the chapter titles and you’ll already be grinning 😂), but I also found myself holding back tears — not because the book is sad, but because it’s so real. Alyne dives deep into what it means to be a woman in today’s world: the pressure, the shame, the silence around our bodies, our desires, our boundaries… and how she broke free.
She speaks openly about eating disorders, sexuality, body image, and reclaiming your pleasure and power — not in a preachy or self-help kind of way, but like a best friend holding your hand through the fire.
Some books entertain. Others heal. This one does both.
Every chapter unearths something buried — a truth you forgot, a part of yourself you silenced, a desire you buried. And somehow, by the end, you feel a little more yourself than you did before you started.
I truly hope there’s a sequel. Or a movie. Or a whole Netflix series.
Because this deserves to be heard by every woman who’s ever felt like she had to shrink, censor, or apologize just to be loved.
Read it. Gift it. Talk about it. This book is pure magic.
From the very first page, I was hooked. Alyne is hilarious, sharp, and wickedly smart — but what truly blew me away is her raw, unfiltered vulnerability. She says the things most of us are too afraid to even admit to ourselves.
I genuinely laughed out loud (just skim the chapter titles and you’ll already be grinning 😂), but I also found myself holding back tears — not because the book is sad, but because it’s so real. Alyne dives deep into what it means to be a woman in today’s world: the pressure, the shame, the silence around our bodies, our desires, our boundaries… and how she broke free.
She speaks openly about eating disorders, sexuality, body image, and reclaiming your pleasure and power — not in a preachy or self-help kind of way, but like a best friend holding your hand through the fire.
Some books entertain. Others heal. This one does both.
Every chapter unearths something buried — a truth you forgot, a part of yourself you silenced, a desire you buried. And somehow, by the end, you feel a little more yourself than you did before you started.
I truly hope there’s a sequel. Or a movie. Or a whole Netflix series.
Because this deserves to be heard by every woman who’s ever felt like she had to shrink, censor, or apologize just to be loved.
Read it. Gift it. Talk about it. This book is pure magic.
January 14, 2025
Alyne Tamir is a content creator who has now authored the book, "Dear Alyne: My Years as a Married Virgin." In this book, Tamir details her childhood in which she goes through her parents' divorce and then her mother's growing obsession with the Mormon church. As a result, her father returns to his home country of Israel and Tamir becomes further entrenched in the Mormon faith. As a teenager, she was so proud of how well she followed all the rules, but the consequences of that weren't seen until she was married very young and began experiencing problems in her marriage. Even before she was married, she knew instinctually that she shouldn't be getting married
Tamir was very open about the ways her upbringing contributed to the problems in her marriage, particularly the sexual problems. However, both Tamir and her husband came across as very immature. And once divorced, Tamir continued making bad choices and living selfishly. While I appreciated her honesty and candor, Tamir was hard to like or root for. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC. All opinions are my own.
Tamir was very open about the ways her upbringing contributed to the problems in her marriage, particularly the sexual problems. However, both Tamir and her husband came across as very immature. And once divorced, Tamir continued making bad choices and living selfishly. While I appreciated her honesty and candor, Tamir was hard to like or root for. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC. All opinions are my own.
November 28, 2025
Alyne shares her struggles about being a virgin while being married for 3 years. She later credits the problem to her upbringing in the Mormon church and how she was constantly told that sex was forbidden and evil. So it was hard for her brain to suddenly shift gears into being able to have sex with her husband. The book is hilarious, Alyne is quite possibly the funniest person ever. But there’s a certain sadness in the pages. You go from being on her side, to hating her, to feeling understanding and sorry for her… it’s a mix of emotions.
After her divorce, she was a bit of a free spirit and did everything the Mormon church told her not to. But I think for her… she maybe needed that. She had anxiety to the point where it became obsessive and unhealthy in following all the rules and commandments. But as an active member of the Mormon church, I really enjoyed her perspective. It made me realize the importance of following the rules, but becoming ocd or a perfectionist. God wants us to obey Him, but certainly does not want us to have a nervous breakdown.
After her divorce, she was a bit of a free spirit and did everything the Mormon church told her not to. But I think for her… she maybe needed that. She had anxiety to the point where it became obsessive and unhealthy in following all the rules and commandments. But as an active member of the Mormon church, I really enjoyed her perspective. It made me realize the importance of following the rules, but becoming ocd or a perfectionist. God wants us to obey Him, but certainly does not want us to have a nervous breakdown.
August 24, 2025
When I started reading this book, I thought I will just be reading an autobiography about an influencer. Little did I know, that this book will explain all the complex emotions that I felt in my past relationship. Lot of which was to do with how society and family expected me to behave as a woman. How my sense of judgement stemmed out of societal norms rather than my own analysis. Alyne's story made me reflect my own journey in detail. I am not surprised that two women from different countries, cultures and religion, can have the same or similar experiences. Specially the ones who are conditioned to be morally pure.
I am so grateful that I found a partner who liberated me, knowingly or unknowingly, of all the meaningless tangles/beliefs.
I wish Alyne all the happiness in the world and I am sure she will brave through every challenge that comes her way. And always remember the first step to liberation is a will to be liberated, which Alyne already has. ❤️
I am so grateful that I found a partner who liberated me, knowingly or unknowingly, of all the meaningless tangles/beliefs.
I wish Alyne all the happiness in the world and I am sure she will brave through every challenge that comes her way. And always remember the first step to liberation is a will to be liberated, which Alyne already has. ❤️
December 3, 2025
I think if you’re someone who consumes Alyne’s content and follows her on socials, you’ll enjoy this. I looked her up as I was reading and she seems fun and witty. I went into this never having heard of her so her endearing personality went nowhere with me. And I do think she’s an acquired taste. She has a tendency to write IN ALL CAPS multiple times per page to really drive her point home and that coupled with a more juvenile writing style just weren’t enough to get me over the hump. That said, her story is a good one and I’m glad I read it. Mormon culture is fascinating to me and this definitely delivered on that front. From garments to the celestial kingdom to being sealed to your spouse, all my questions were answered.
July 11, 2025
My perspective of reading this is as a fellow ex-Mormon. If someone was interested in knowing a surface level take of the LDS church and its effect on people, I think this is a decent book to start with. I do not know Alyne's social media presence and only picked up the book because a coworker saw it and thought of me.
I wish her humor had been sprinkled throughout the book more. The writing was a bit inconsistent with how it was telling the story. BUT... it is a memoir. And that requires some flexibility and just appreciation for the vulnerability to tell their story.
I wish her humor had been sprinkled throughout the book more. The writing was a bit inconsistent with how it was telling the story. BUT... it is a memoir. And that requires some flexibility and just appreciation for the vulnerability to tell their story.
June 15, 2025
Very interesting story of someone who grew up very religious then tried to figure out who she was on the other side - which she does through traveling and dating.
Her attitude toward work and life, and how trusting she is of other people is very different from how I’ve always lived. I really enjoyed being in her head and experiencing this alternative reality.
Recommend the Audiobook - it was a fun listen!
Her attitude toward work and life, and how trusting she is of other people is very different from how I’ve always lived. I really enjoyed being in her head and experiencing this alternative reality.
Recommend the Audiobook - it was a fun listen!
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June 25, 2025heads up:
if you're an active mormon, you will probably not appreciate some of the details she includes in this book, including commentary of the temple and of mormonism as a whole.
its always interesting to read a memoir and realize you wouldn't get along with someone 😅😂
I dont relate to her much at all (even as a fellow ex mormon), but it was interesting to read. parts of the book made my heart ache with her experiences. parts of it utterly baffled me. overall still a worthwhile book.
if you're an active mormon, you will probably not appreciate some of the details she includes in this book, including commentary of the temple and of mormonism as a whole.
its always interesting to read a memoir and realize you wouldn't get along with someone 😅😂
I dont relate to her much at all (even as a fellow ex mormon), but it was interesting to read. parts of the book made my heart ache with her experiences. parts of it utterly baffled me. overall still a worthwhile book.
December 29, 2025
As someone who had been following “Dear Alyne” since 2017, I was so curious to know more about this side of her that you didn’t see so much of on social media. Being familiar with her voice and intonations, it felt like I could literally hear her through the pages. She describes her experiences so vividly that I could feel her emotions as she’s telling these stories. I am looking forward to her next book (hopefully it’s of the BTS of her life when I stumbled on her journey with Nas Daily).
June 11, 2025
Really interesting story about the dangers of living in a cult and how to slowly disengage and find your own identity. I think her break up with Naz was really well done and showed both sides to be classy people who were just not on the right track to be together, which won a lot of my respect. I think that shows a real integrity to not bash her former partner.
June 20, 2025
I've always liked books that deal with people from different backgrounds, especially since mine isn't all that fascinating. She did a great job of telling some of her life stories and despite not knowing who she was before listening to the book, it held my attention the whole way through.
October 16, 2025
A combo of faith deconstruction, humor, raw relationship experiences, and self discovery.
Really liked this!! Loved Alyne's humor & realness. I have to say reading about her world travels & solo exploration made me feel like I need to do more!
Really liked this!! Loved Alyne's humor & realness. I have to say reading about her world travels & solo exploration made me feel like I need to do more!
December 27, 2025
La historia de su abandono de la iglesia mormona me atrajo más que la de sus romances y su matrimonio. Y lo de la “energía femenina” y “energía masculina” ya me hizo acabar el libro por compromiso más que por interés.
May 1, 2025
It is a decent one time read.
Those who have been following her would know most of it already, there are few details she never shared before on her social media before which are elaborated here.
Those who have been following her would know most of it already, there are few details she never shared before on her social media before which are elaborated here.
July 26, 2025
Entertaining. I learned lots about Mormonism, which I found very interesting.
August 19, 2025
Thought the premise was interesting, but it’s hard to hear her read it. Her voice is kind of annoying.
September 1, 2025
3.5 I had no idea who Dear Alyne was before picking this up. Listening to her perspective and experiences was crazy interesting.
September 10, 2025
Better written navel gazing than I have read in the past. but still navel-gazing.
December 3, 2025
Stopped at Chapter 8, may continue, but very insightful book and I love Alyne's honesty and personality. She says what many people are afraid to say. That's a W girl...
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