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The Fight to Find Yourself: Moving from Uncertain to Unstoppable
Who are you when everything that defines you goes away?
In his first major trade book, Dr. Joel A. Tudman, Pastor at The Faith Center megachurch in Fort Lauderdale Florida, writes a powerful and inspiring manifesto to help listeners move from being lost, feeling guilty, confused about their callings, or wrestling with grief, to moving forward into healing, health, and happiness in their lives.
Pastor Joel knows what it is to feel lost. Having recently moved from an Associate Pastor position at The Potter's House under the guidance of Bishop Jakes to take over a thriving megachurch, he's intimately familiar with dealing with bewildering change and how it can affect your sense of who you are. In every chapter of the book, Pastor Joel pairs biblical content, practical teaching, and deeply personal stories to help guide listeners struggling with grief, confusion, or feeling lost, to move forward into hope, joy, and a better future. Pastor Joel is full of powerful, positive, and encouraging content for listeners who have been broken or faced loss, challenge, failure, and grief. He writes with these audiences in mind because he's faced major hardship, loss, and grief in his own life, including the loss of his son. As a result, he knows that God is with us and will help us overcome these deeply challenging moments we all face in life. He helps
Uncover and face the deeply-held beliefs that have defined you so far Confront their deepest disappointments and desires and use those to orient their future Root out false ideas about what you can do, become, and be Walk through transitions with confidence and boldness Find mentors to guide and walk with you through this process Understand the calling God has placed on their lives This is a book for anyone who has ever faced a feeling of loss, challenge, failure, grief, or even a sense like they don’t know who they are anymore. The Fight to Find Yourself will demonstrate how we can each “live forward” on our walks with Jesus Christ as we seek our individual God-given callings and seek to grow in our faith.
In his first major trade book, Dr. Joel A. Tudman, Pastor at The Faith Center megachurch in Fort Lauderdale Florida, writes a powerful and inspiring manifesto to help listeners move from being lost, feeling guilty, confused about their callings, or wrestling with grief, to moving forward into healing, health, and happiness in their lives.
Pastor Joel knows what it is to feel lost. Having recently moved from an Associate Pastor position at The Potter's House under the guidance of Bishop Jakes to take over a thriving megachurch, he's intimately familiar with dealing with bewildering change and how it can affect your sense of who you are. In every chapter of the book, Pastor Joel pairs biblical content, practical teaching, and deeply personal stories to help guide listeners struggling with grief, confusion, or feeling lost, to move forward into hope, joy, and a better future. Pastor Joel is full of powerful, positive, and encouraging content for listeners who have been broken or faced loss, challenge, failure, and grief. He writes with these audiences in mind because he's faced major hardship, loss, and grief in his own life, including the loss of his son. As a result, he knows that God is with us and will help us overcome these deeply challenging moments we all face in life. He helps
Uncover and face the deeply-held beliefs that have defined you so far Confront their deepest disappointments and desires and use those to orient their future Root out false ideas about what you can do, become, and be Walk through transitions with confidence and boldness Find mentors to guide and walk with you through this process Understand the calling God has placed on their lives This is a book for anyone who has ever faced a feeling of loss, challenge, failure, grief, or even a sense like they don’t know who they are anymore. The Fight to Find Yourself will demonstrate how we can each “live forward” on our walks with Jesus Christ as we seek our individual God-given callings and seek to grow in our faith.
240 pages, Hardcover
Published November 4, 2025
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November 12, 2025
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Comparing this to a few other self-help Christian books that I read this year, this one was a breath of fresh air. The past few I’ve read were trying very hard to appeal to starry-eyed men who want to be tough and look tough and embody machismo.
While ‘The fight to find yourself’ isn’t exclusively for men, it’s very open, honest, and vulnerable about young men’s struggles and pressures.
Where other books keep the carrot of ‘true’ masculinity dangled on a stick, the author reminds us that asking for help, allowing ourselves to cry, being gentle, and being kind are some of our greatest tools when becoming good men. The book doesn’t shy away from pain, and instead offers readers the option of either letting it fester or doing the work to make it heal.
I liked this so much, I’m putting it on my wishlist to buy it for a friend. I highly recommend this book for any young Christian man.
Comparing this to a few other self-help Christian books that I read this year, this one was a breath of fresh air. The past few I’ve read were trying very hard to appeal to starry-eyed men who want to be tough and look tough and embody machismo.
While ‘The fight to find yourself’ isn’t exclusively for men, it’s very open, honest, and vulnerable about young men’s struggles and pressures.
Where other books keep the carrot of ‘true’ masculinity dangled on a stick, the author reminds us that asking for help, allowing ourselves to cry, being gentle, and being kind are some of our greatest tools when becoming good men. The book doesn’t shy away from pain, and instead offers readers the option of either letting it fester or doing the work to make it heal.
I liked this so much, I’m putting it on my wishlist to buy it for a friend. I highly recommend this book for any young Christian man.
December 9, 2025
This book was about the author's struggles of finding himself and some of the hardships he went through along the way. However; none of those "hardships" were really discussed, in detail, so it was hard to relate to more of a generic situation. It would have been much better with more details, so that I felt more in tune with the author. The main point of this book was to learn how the author learned to "fight" to become who he was really meant to be, and what we all are, loving children of God. I mean ya, that's great to know, but I was hoping for actual details of the "nitty gritty" work I really need to go through, perhaps, step by step, to help me really make some good changes in my life. The only real hardship I remember him discussing a few times, was that he went through a lot of his life wearing a suit of "armour", because he was afraid to just be himself. He was raised in a culture where men are just "tough" and don't speak about their feelings or emotions. It really just didn't resonate with me. Perhaps, it's more geared towards men, who also face this same issue. To be honest, I didn't learn much of anything from this book. It was way too much about being a child of God, and that he loves us, but it didn't explain it in a way to make me believe it, especially given how many hardships I've faced in the past, and presently. I don't feel in my heart that such a loving God, would allow so many of his "children", whom He loves so much, to be so hurt and depressed, for such long periods of time, without any resolution in sight and no direction on how to change things. That's just my personal spiritual belief. So, all in all, this book was a waste of my time and energy to read. I feel more angry at God than I did when I started reading it. I'm upset about how hard I tried to learn something, ANYTHING useful from this book, with no such luck. If you're looking for a book on motivation, there are MANY, MANY better options! The same is true if you're looking to make changes in your life or do any other work on yourself. This book was a huge disappointment for me, to be completely honest.
November 26, 2025
Joel was open, transparent with his story providing a practical guide that anyone could follow no matter where they are in their walk with Christ. The book was relevant and empowering and you were able to truly see the man behind the ministry and his yes, continual submission to God!
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