The tone in Neneh's writing feels like she's verbally sharing a story. Pull up a chair, get comfy and sip a cup of tea while she tells us the tale of her life. And what a remarkable tale it is. Shaped by parents who constantly travelled following their creative pursuits, Neneh's life follows a similar constant forward momentum. I often marvel at people who find themselves in the middle of creative cultural zeitgeists. Artist mother, jazz muscian father, moving to London as a teenager and joining female punk pioneers - the Slits. Doing DJ sets in underground clubs in London, joining the band Rip, Rig + Panic, being selected as a model for the Buffalo posse in Japan, finding her own voice (influenced by the NY hip hop scene) and performing on TOTP 7 months pregnant. And that is really only the beginning.
All of Neneh's stories are intertwined with family and friends. As a successful 'solo artist' I can now understand the number of people who support, collaborate and love Neneh, enabling her creativity to reach it's potential. For all the famous names mentioned and incredible experiences shared in this book, there is equally quiet moments about family. Traveling to Sierra Leone as a teenager with her biological father to understand her African heritage, getting pregnant and married at 18, making family meals in a kitchen always overflowing with friends, musicians and children. Her deep lasting friendships and family ties give a nod to her own bohemian childhood. There is a sense that Neneh is always surrounded by people and her home is open to all.
There is so much love in this book. Love for her children, love for her parents and brother, love for her friends and creative collaborators. But perhaps what I didn't expect what the seering honesty of the impact of the loss of that love can have. Neneh's deep grief after the death of her parents, and her battle to connect with the people who usually support and sustain her. Her reliance on alcohol and slipping mental health. And having the courage to get help.
This book tells the story of Neneh's life, but through her wiser, experienced tone of self reflection and understanding. There is questioning of her parent's and the impact that Don Cherry's drug additiction
had on all members of the family, watching her mother Moki trying endlessly to save Don from himself, until she could no longer do it. Questioning her own parenting decisions as a creative working mother. Do you take your children on tour or offer stability and routine by leaving them behind? These are contemplations I have never read in any autobiography written by a man. The juggling of being a creative independant performer...and mother.
The overarching themes of this book is community and love. Pinching the pull quote on the cover by Zadie Smith - 'Neneh is cool, Neneh is wise'. Her story is epic, and as she begins her 60s, I sense there is much more to come. And I am here for it.