How to be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM

by Morpheous

For singles and couples looking to take a walk on the wild side but questioning where to begin, How to be Kinky offers the perfect starting place.

Instead of emphasizing techniques and clinical issues, it takes a more practical approach, with advice on finding a scene, negotiating kinky play with a partner, maintaining boundaries, kinky uses for common household objects, and the proper protocol at fetish events, as well as the basics of BDSM play and role-playing.

Genres: BDSM, Sexuality, Nonfiction, NSFW, Erotica

168 pages, Paperback

First published August 12, 2008

Reviews

[Petra X]

One review read, "This book is FABULOUS! I wish this book existed when I first wanted to learn about how to be Kinky over 20 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of trial and error." I'm the opposite, I've had 20 years of trial and error, such fun! I don't say this often, but it was much better than reading the book!

I found this book from a comment by MrsJoseph on the submissive lifestyle handbook which I've just finished It seems than when we Goodreaders aren't reading in bed, some of us don't go straight to sleep!

[BookAddict ✒ La Crimson Femme · Rating 5 out of 5]

I resisted reading this book for a long time. I'm not sure if it was because it was non-fiction or because I knew I had to lead a discussion on it. Shame on me! This book is FABULOUS! I wish this book existed when I first wanted to learn about how to be Kinky over 20 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of trial and error.

Morpheous writes in a very easy to read style. His explanations are clear and concise. What I liked most about his book is his encouraging tone. He emphasizes safety in a manner which makes sense yet isn't beating a person over the head with it. The information he provides is in easy bite size pieces.

Generally, the layout of a book doesn't do much for me since I mostly read fiction. For a non-fiction book, it is more critical. It's more critical because there are pieces of information that I want to remember. In addition, the instructions in written form are not always easy for me to visualize. This book is page after page of photos and easy step by step instructions interwoven with the educational topics. LOVE IT! I particularly enjoyed the little BDSM terminology sleekly slid into the side bars. This format breaks up the monotony of a book which could be rather technical and clinical at times.

To combat the dry material (yes, I know this book is about sexy but it can be dry at times) Morpheous interjects testimonials from those in the lifestyle. This personal touch and viewpoint helped bring a deeper connection for me. I am so very glad this is a book we recommended in the BDSM group as a group read. This is going to the top of my list as a recommendation for new to the lifestyle or those who want to spice up their sex life. This is a must read.

[Teela Hudak · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a fantastic book for those who are just beginning to explore BDSM. It has plenty of pictures, definitions, and the language is easy to follow and non-threatening. Morpheous covers all the really important basics that would give a couple a starting place to bring BDSM into their relationship. I would not recommend this book to anyone who has a thorough and full understanding of the basics but this book is a wonderful reference to brush up on those beginnings.

[Sandra · Rating 3 out of 5]

Well written but very basic information.

I suppose it depends where you are in life but I think I was looking for a bit more depth.

Of course, there are plenty of other books out there that cater for that, and this book does specify its for beginners.

So if you're interested and a beginner, this is a good place to start.

[Gisela Pérez · Rating 3 out of 5]

Informative about this lifestyle. No sensationalism or 'lists of philias and kinks'.

[Erzabet Bishop · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you are looking for a beginners guide to BDSM with instruction and amazing color illustrations, then look no further than How to Be Kinky. I loved this book for the down to earth basics and illustrations that show you what is what.

Learn about:

Knot tying
Fetish parties
Safety
Terms used in BDSM
Gagging
Toys
Perspectives from Dominants and submissives
Social parameters
Spanking

And a whole lot more!

This book is broken up into chapters:

1. A Look At Play
2. Social Parameters
3. Scenarios
4. What's On the Menu
5. From Online to Real Life
6. Pain and Pleasure
7. Kink In Toyland
8. Safety
9. Calling in the Professionals
10. Staying Safe and Having Fun Online

As you can see, there is a lot of information. Author Morpheous takes the time to reference kinksters in the act and shows the how to's. This book literally has something for everyone.

Awesome and a 5/5!

[Judity · Rating 4 out of 5]

I bought this book when I first began writing erotica. At my decades-old age, I was afraid I might have forgotten the ins and outs of sex and could use a refresher course. Loved the book and even learned new techniques for my various stories.

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[Jesse · Rating 3 out of 5]

I'm book smart, not street smart.

[Robert Swain · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book for people or couples looking to explore a little or a lot of kink in their relationship. Well structured and easy to understand.

[Artis]

A great intro for newbies!