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The Break Up Manual for Men: Recover From a Serious Breakup, Become Stronger and Get Your Ex Back

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Major update 2022—transform your breakup into the best thing that ever happened to you.

End the agonizing pain of a breakup, reclaim lost masculine power and self-confidence, and discover the secrets of how to get over a breakup faster and use it as a launchpad to reinvent your life, attract higher quality women, and pursue your dreams.

No man is immune to experiencing a breakup and the loss of love. It literally feels as though your heart has been torn out of your chest and ripped into pieces.

You can't stop thinking about her, what you could, should, or would do if you had another chance, even if the breakup occurred last week or years ago.

So what can you do about it?

It's time to start fixing a broken heart and mend the pain of a breakup for good and become your strongest self because of this experience.

In this powerful book, relationship coach for men Andrew Ferebee distills the foundations of his own success and life-changing work with men who have been blindsided by breakups into an easy-to-follow strategy that you can finish in as little as a day to get your power back and achieve your highest potential because of this painful experience.

This is not like typical breakup books for men. You will leave behind all confusion, pain, and heartbreak as Andrew leads you through how to truly overcome, heal, and recover, so you can become stronger, attract women more aligned with your values, and have the confidence to start living fully in the shortest time possible.

The result is one easy-to-understand breakup book that reveals what you need to know when getting past your breakup, recover faster, and become stronger, and also revealed is the most effective strategy for getting your ex back (if you want).

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First published August 12, 2015

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35 reviews4 followers
April 12, 2017
Personal, helpful, concise, direct, informative. Ferebee isn't afraid to go deep into some taboo topics: contemplating suicide, porn and masturbation, human mortality. Pick it up once you're out of crisis mode, done wallowing in self-pity, and ready to move forward.

However, some of the suggestions are almost laughable when your "breakup" is actually a sudden divorce after over a decade of marriage and you have several children together:
- Avoid seeing her for a certain amount of time? Impossible. I have to see her almost daily because of the kids.
- More money to spend on myself and not on her? Not with the terms of our divorce settlement, no.
- Remove her from social media? Ok, but even if I could ignore her completely, I still have to field frequent, painful questions from the kids, talk my friends and family into being civil, and diplomatically interact with the now ex-in-laws.

The Bottom line... Once you can actually listen to Joy Division again without breaking down and sobbing, pick up this and a copy of Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" for a much needed dose of real perspective. Stay calm, maintain a steady course, and remind yourself that everything is transitory.
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1 review
February 26, 2024
While the book does have good tips and insights into the male and female brains. I couldn’t shake the feeling that the whole premise was more in line with “gaslighting” and helping men become more of a “womanizer” than truly working on bettering yourself.
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5 reviews1 follower
October 17, 2024
I know what Andrew is Talking about in the whole book. I just read this book because I wanted to get a glimpse of how man recover from a breakup and to be honest it's pretty much similar for both men and women. So, the Breakup Manual is not for just men but women too, so it's the break up manual for humans overall. I pretty much agree with Andrew except the chapter i.e. Understanding the biology of breakup. That chapter to me is flawed. Else the suggestion and practical guide the book offered is something you should apply and that's how you are supposed to deal with breakup and you should. It's the healthy way. I swear the breakup is an opportunity for everyone to heal from all their past and trauma and everything. So that your future family won't suffer from your negative patterns. Because by healing yourself you leave those patterns and get yourself out of the loop ♾️.
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October 27, 2024
My Marriage was sinking down the hole, I was dying in Pain & Silence not until I came across this powerful spell caster who did not just helped me get back on my feet physically, emotionally, spiritually & financially but also cast the love spell that got my life back on track again with my husband. In a space of less than 24Hours My husband came back To Me Since Then My Marriage has been stable all Thanks To Dr oaikhen Baba For All He has Done For Me & how he keeps Saving life's , property , relationships & Marriages, I Can Assure You To Get In Touch With Him. Contact Email 📧 oaikhendr@gmail.com
8 reviews
February 8, 2021
Perfect guide for breakup recovery as title suggest

I am at my last stages of breakup recovery and i wish i could have read this book earlier. As my progress happened since my BREAKUP it was all well said in book already. And if you are at starting stage of your breakup i suggest you you should read it once and please importantly apply it to your daily life. It all in your heads. So get out of there and make it place where you can live peacefully. Happy reading.
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October 26, 2024
It's a thing of joy that am here to testify about how Dr oaikhen helped me bring back my ex, i tried many but all to no avail until i was introduced to Dr oaikhen who gave me guarantee that my ex will come back to me, he gave me some instructions and directions to follow, and he also castes a spells. i did all that he instructed and after 15 hours my ex came back and now we are together once again. you can also contact him if you want his assistant via email: oaikhendr@gmail.com
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21 reviews
October 27, 2024
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32 reviews
December 2, 2024
want to take this time out to say a very big thank you to this amazing spell caster, Dr oaikhen your love spell is so effective & fast, I just wish everyone who is heartbroken or having marital issues out there can find you, at first I don’t believe in spells and magic, but you wowed me and my lover is back to me and loving me unconditionally. If you can see this review and you want a real love spell, or any kind of spells and magic, text the number below on WhatsApp +229 5794 6279
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32 reviews
December 2, 2024
want to take this time out to say a very big thank you to this amazing spell caster, Dr oaikhen your love spell is so effective & fast, I just wish everyone who is heartbroken or having marital issues out there can find you, at first I don’t believe in spells and magic, but you wowed me and my lover is back to me and loving me unconditionally. If you can see this review and you want a real love spell, or any kind of spells and magic, text the number below on WhatsApp +229 5794 6279
2 reviews
March 14, 2025
very good read

This was a good book that I decided to read. Men need to realize the true value of being a man in the relationship. This book gives you an abundance mindset vs scarcity mindset. Also tells you about finding the true value for wanting your ex back. It’s def a good read if your currently going thru a breakup. The best part of the book is when the author mentions your winning regardless of any decision your ex makes. Use this breakup as a chance to grow.
3 reviews
October 22, 2023
This book is a gem

This book will allow you to do 2 things at minimum:

1. Look at your ex differently
2. Look at yourself differently

You will get an understanding of her and her actions and how to handle the situation. The only thing you will need to do after reading this book is take action.
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37 reviews
July 31, 2024
Thanks to Dr francis for the help he rendered to me at first he helped me to cast a love spell that bring back my lover to me and right now we are happy living together secondly he help me to cast a spell that make the person that took away my money from me return back my money to me right now I'm very happy and grateful and thankful to Dr francis Here goes his WhatsApp +2347044463038
1 review1 follower
June 8, 2020
Very useful information

Andrew Ferebee's book let's you prepare for moving on by focusing on yourself and the you aren't going be alone. Focus on improving yourself and good things will happen.
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20 reviews10 followers
July 7, 2020
Listened to the audiobook twice, and I have to say everything in this book is so accurate, it is insane how you can't really see clear when you're going through a breakup, but once you pick yourself up, you can walk into a room and light it up and people notice you.
2 reviews
September 16, 2023
A book about break ups that every man should read before his next relationship.

A great book to understand all the things you shouldn’t do immediately following a break up. Read it before it’s too late.
2 reviews3 followers
August 23, 2024
Excellent Read.it helped my realize that I'll be just fine

I liked the tone and precision that this title is written with. Its given me a plan of actions after the end of a 4 year relationship.


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October 12, 2025
honestly, not bad. read a little red-pilled/andrew tate but not afraid to encourage feeling vulnerable/emotions and address controversial topics like suicide or porn. didn't take it too seriously though, just a fun read
1 review
July 25, 2017
Great

This book pushed me to do the things I was already doing before the relationship and break up. I will get back into the gym and improving myself every day.
1 review
October 7, 2018
Helpful

I loved it , helped me soo much. I will recommend this book. Keep up the work. Thank you soo much
23 reviews
May 25, 2019
Short but powerful

Just what I needed right now. Going to work this process and reinvent myself starting now. Thank you for this tool.
3 reviews
June 16, 2020
Amazing

Quick and practice steps to follow after a break up to come up stronger and a better man . Read this book if you going to hard times after a brake up with your partner .
1 review
June 20, 2020
Good read

Good lay out and straight to the point. I will read this a few more times before returning it. Thanks.
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July 11, 2020
It's a compilation of blog posts. I do find it helpful for someone desperate or deep into depression.

It is quite simple and straight to the point.
12 reviews
November 9, 2020
Helped me a lot.

I know many of the things in there but it’s a good reminder mixed with empathy needed from a man to a man.
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120 reviews
May 19, 2022
More of a blog post than a book... Simple, motivating words but nothing mind blowing here, still helpful content if you feel stuck.
1 review
July 18, 2023
so helpful!

So helpful, perfect timing too. This may have been a life changing read for me, thank you so much Andrew!
9 reviews
January 7, 2024
I'm able to let go my 8 year relationship after 5 years of separation/divorce.
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24 reviews
December 31, 2024
I wouldn’t say it’s all the pieces of the puzzle you might be trying to solve. There are usual perspectives, and analogies though.
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