Do you tend to struggle in personal or professional relationships? Do you find it difficult preventing others from walking all over you? Or do you simply feel that people don't treat you with enough respect?
If so, then it is likely that you have trouble establishing functional boundaries with the people in your life. Healthy boundaries allow us to enjoy relationships and connect with others in a harmonious way. They also serve to protect us and let other people know how we want to be treated.
Unfortunately, many of us do not learn about setting boundaries and how to be assertive during childhood. This is often due to a dysfunctional upbringing which leaves wounds upon our inner child. This book will inform the listener of the basis of boundary setting, through visiting their past, healing it, and finally moving beyond. This will be achieved by demonstrating how to develop emotionally by improving self-esteem, which is a necessity for a healthy personality.
With the information presented you will be able to begin setting healthier boundaries in all areas of life including family, work, and intimate relationships. You will learn exactly how
Develop functional boundaries Deal with difficult people Boost self-esteem Heal your past Heal your inner child Emotionally heal Gain assertiveness Improve relationships Develop emotionally
Once you learn these vital life skills, your world begins to open up and your connection to others becomes more authentic. If you want more from life and would love to find more fulfillment in your relationships, listen to this book.
It's a quick read if you want it to be, but slowing down and taking notes is useful. It has some grammar and spelling mistakes (took a star off for this).
Still a useful tool that can very much help supplement therapy or read through during a waitlist for therapy.
I have one criticism of this book: it could use a good copy editor.
It also uses the outmoded, obsolete term "passive-aggressive" several times. Anyone current with study will know this is about as meaningful a term as "reverse racism". People masking their aggression behind a façade of passivity are simply manipulative as well as aggressive.
After that, it's an accessible and articulate book on an important subject. I found myself nodding in agreement time and time again as I reviewed some of the different aspects of boundaries in relationships, recognizing times where my own relationships were "enmeshed" or "codependent". It was very satisfying to read some of the words I have needed to hear, particularly that we have to follow our needs, to learn to say "no" and sometimes not please others for our own greater good. This is not selfish, but self-preservation. There are a number of thought-exercises in the book that may open your eyes about your current and past boundaries and they may compel you to take meaningful action to take more responsibility for the harm you allow others to do.