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312 pages, Paperback
Published January 6, 2026
Based on what I heard from people who had grappled with these contradictions for years and decades, I believe that rather than translating into nothing, these contradictions point to a typical, run-of-the-mill, big problem. The nature of big problems is this: They demand careful contextualization and more why questions. Instead of writing off a seeming contradiction as an excuse to give up, a contextualized approach asks, “In what situations is one side of this contradiction appropriate and in what situations is the other?”
Grace goes wrong. A lot. So let’s review. Grace can flow to and from people of all social locations. Everybody needs it. Grace is not a warm feeling. Grace is not a charitable handout from wealthy to poor. Grace is not the sole duty of those harmed by injustice. It must not be squeezed from them as a condition of survival. Grace is not a politician’s benevolent declaration over the heads of those harmed. Grace, in its ideal form, is given with free agency, though it is impossible to trace all the influential factors leading to any individual’s actions. Grace expands the freedom of the giver. Rather than fueling compassion fatigue, it lessens the fatigue of having no power over repeated offenses. Grace is not the only way people of color respond to racism, nor is it everything White people need to become advocates for justice. The struggle against racism is long and multifaceted. The history of racism produces a prior condition of indebtedness for White people. Many White people do not see their indebtedness. Others, upon seeing it, do not care. Learning the history of racism brings that indebtedness to light. This prior indebtedness is a setup for grace. People of color do give grace in that context of racial indebtedness, frequently and freely. Christians of color see God as their source for such grace, and teachings on grace and race abound in many predominantly non-White churches. Grace does not deny wrongs—it begins with a clear naming of wrongs. Grace is not a one-sided clause of a contract. It anticipates response. Responses might include gratitude, restitution, reparations, repentance, future relationship, or paying forward. Grace givers cannot demand response, and grace does not expire when it doesn’t elicit a certain response within a limited timeline. But grace does set in motion anticipation for more to happen. The fact that grace goes wrong doesn’t mean it can’t go right. People in this research often explicitly named differences between fake grace and a kind of real grace that works for long-term racial justice. They knew grace at an experiential level. They could point to moments in their own lives when they’d seen it happen, and they understood it as a principle that mattered in the wider context of justice and injustice. And because grace opens relationships, rather than closing off relationships, it becomes central to long-term perseverance and irrepressible hope.