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How to Calm Down: Quickly. Effectively. Before You Do or Say Something Stupid
The problem and the remedy
These days, our peace of mind is more at risk than ever. Between the joblessness, political tensions, economic instability, and the overwhelming number of growing concerns in our world, there is no shortage of things to be upset by.
While many of the problems we face are indeed large, a lot of them aren't as big as we think. We often magnify our problems and even create new problems when we become irrational. Almost more important than any problem we face is our method(s) for dealing with it. Our perspective of it and our ability to stay anchored while facing it.
We usually only have a split second to decide how we will respond to our kids when they are pushing our buttons or to our coworkers when they are not respecting our boundaries. Then, we have a whole lifetime to live with the consequences. It almost doesn’t seem fair. But if there is one thing hindsight almost always shows us, it is that a calm response would have been better – even though it felt good to say or do mean things while we were angry, panicky, or afraid. So often, we have seen that our impulses can lead us 180 degrees off track, and that our lives would be better served by adopting a calmer approach to our life stressors. So then, what is the issue? The issue is that changing just isn’t easy.
Why is it so hard to calm down?
Why does it so often feel impossible to control our moods, our tempers, and our reactions during life’s heated moments? Often, it’s because we don’t really want to. When you see some idiot driving slow in the fast lane, making you late for work, you suddenly no longer can see the virtues in staying calm and rational. Those virtues are replaced by momentary urges to demonstrate your frustration or to serve justice with a few choice words. Truth be told, a lot of the battle lies in regaining our desire to be calmer.
This book will show you that calmness is worth achieving. And, that it is possible!
These days, our peace of mind is more at risk than ever. Between the joblessness, political tensions, economic instability, and the overwhelming number of growing concerns in our world, there is no shortage of things to be upset by.
While many of the problems we face are indeed large, a lot of them aren't as big as we think. We often magnify our problems and even create new problems when we become irrational. Almost more important than any problem we face is our method(s) for dealing with it. Our perspective of it and our ability to stay anchored while facing it.
We usually only have a split second to decide how we will respond to our kids when they are pushing our buttons or to our coworkers when they are not respecting our boundaries. Then, we have a whole lifetime to live with the consequences. It almost doesn’t seem fair. But if there is one thing hindsight almost always shows us, it is that a calm response would have been better – even though it felt good to say or do mean things while we were angry, panicky, or afraid. So often, we have seen that our impulses can lead us 180 degrees off track, and that our lives would be better served by adopting a calmer approach to our life stressors. So then, what is the issue? The issue is that changing just isn’t easy.
Why is it so hard to calm down?
Why does it so often feel impossible to control our moods, our tempers, and our reactions during life’s heated moments? Often, it’s because we don’t really want to. When you see some idiot driving slow in the fast lane, making you late for work, you suddenly no longer can see the virtues in staying calm and rational. Those virtues are replaced by momentary urges to demonstrate your frustration or to serve justice with a few choice words. Truth be told, a lot of the battle lies in regaining our desire to be calmer.
This book will show you that calmness is worth achieving. And, that it is possible!
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Published July 5, 2019
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July 15, 2019
We have all said and done things we regret, all because we did not control our emotions. Caleb Kruse came up with simple steps that you can implement in your life to manage and dominate your feelings. How to Calm Down: Quickly. Effectively. Before You Do Or Say Something Stupid isn’t advice, he hasn’t tried himself. This book is useful in family settings, workplace, friendships, and even while driving (maybe our biggest challenge with anger).
Caleb Kruse is transparent as he reveals his own experiences and techniques he has used. How to Calm Down takes away your excuses for the sudden anger you lash out at others and allows you to have more meaningful relationships. I love how the author gives multiple answers to the problem of irritations, because we don’t all function the same. Recognizing that annoyances often blind us to the blessings in our life, the author allows us to not only calm down but also see the advantages we have in our life.
Caleb Kruse is transparent as he reveals his own experiences and techniques he has used. How to Calm Down takes away your excuses for the sudden anger you lash out at others and allows you to have more meaningful relationships. I love how the author gives multiple answers to the problem of irritations, because we don’t all function the same. Recognizing that annoyances often blind us to the blessings in our life, the author allows us to not only calm down but also see the advantages we have in our life.
July 19, 2021
This book's subject seems obvious, but it really isn't: so many of us spend our lives working as hard as possible and living on the edge, and at some point we forget how to cool off. Kruse provides smart, practical exercises (mental and physical) for calming down, recentering, and living better. Well worth reading.
June 15, 2019
A great book with great strategies. It works!
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