Avoid Being Cheated On and Have a Happier Relationship with Your Significant Other!
You are here right now, right this very instant, reading this for a sole reason because you are having relationship problems:
- Either struggling to maintain a healthy relationship with the person who you're with.
- The love and lust has died off coming close to an inevitable potential breakup or divorce.
- Or perhaps, even worst, you have been cheated on! Doesn't matter if it was your fault or not for pushing your love one to do it, you are deeply hurt by such betrayal, and just don't know what to do.
You know what they say?
The one you love the most, is the one that hurts you the most.
So is your relationship!
What will happen if the one you deeply love betrays you, and ultimately cheats on you while still in a relationship with you? There is absolutely no worst feeling in the world than the person who you thought you love the most takes your very own heart and stabs it on a silver platter.
Those in relationship are far more vulnerable than they ever will be. Either they can hurt us or we or somebody else can hurt the one we care so much about. But it's a risk we are willing to take to be with that one special person. And it's worth it!
One thing is certain, you truly love that person for that's why you're in need of help for keeping him or her.
To avoid being "Cheated," discover...
* Why do couples cheat, even though everything seems so perfect on the surface? Hence, your partner might be exhibiting the warnings signs without you knowing.
* How to prevent being cheated on from happening to you? And if you have been cheated, what to do?
* How to determine what your relationship means to you using the "Level ABCD" theory to take your relationship to the next level?
* How to maintain your current relationship using the "5 Essential Elements" of any successful relationship to keep it alive?
* How to get your lover to tell you what's been bothering them in the relationship before it's too late and boils over to an end?
* How to ignite the fiery passion back into the relationship, like a spicy hot teenager's first love when you first met...even if you already love each other now?
...and more.
Don't be the ones, who let that ONE got away all because you fail to take action, and end up regretting it for the rest of your life!
Forgiveness or reconciliation can be manifested if both people want to be together again. Define your relationship. Take a look on the loved ones.
Note the soc med friends. There are a few level of relationship. The highest level of relation is the one that's closest to you. Time always increases level of relationship.
Relationship cannot be thrown just because it doesn't work anymore. Good relationship need maintenance. This book is really basic on how to handle a relationship although it feels quite boring read.
I have learned quite a few things whilst reading this book, "Cheated". Please allow me to be transparent somewhere in the body of this review as this book did hit home for me.
Here is a list of some things I have learned from this material:
- I never knew that there were different categories of friends out there. There is an "Acquaintance", a "Buddy", "Confidants", and "Dearest". In my experience, I have always put everyone I knew into the category of "Confidants". This has backfired more than once in my life. I immediately made a list of friends and put them into the categories.
- I saw that there are different levels of relationships and the first part is so important. This is the "dating" or "get-to-know-each-other" stage. Many of us skip this part and go straight to the more intimate levels before getting to know one another. We are letting our hormones direct our relationship's path, this alone is not good. Before being lovers, be friends, go out, have fun, share hobbies, find out what makes your mate tick.
- As time goes on, you need to perform "relationship maintenance". This book gave me great insight, and another list of steps to take, I know I am making a lot of lists; this is how I learn from books.
- Communication- there is a time and place to communicate as well as how you communicate. Be wise in discerning which is which and use each one appropriately.
- Connection- This usually happens after the dating stage of a relationship--the gloves come off and you see one another for who you really are. This is usually after what I consider to be "honeymoon" phase of a relationship.
- Channel- Learn to find common ground with your mate. Discover things together, the dating stage does not have to end after the hormones have run their course.
-Transparency- Be open, honest, and straightforward. Is there an issue? Be honest, but be considerate to one another's feelings.
- Versatility- Be open to doing new things with your partner. Sometimes you may find yourself doing things that are uncomfortable like picking up sanitary products, or standing in the Home Depot for hours at a time. Be flexible.
As I just mentioned in the previous paragraph there are many scenarios can cause cheating to happen, I will use this part to show my transparency. I once cheated because of a "spur-of-the-moment" when I was at my weakest. My husband and I were having trouble and he was not recognizing my many achievements. The first person, male, who was willing to lend an ear and listen to me air my grievances led to a "spur-of-the-moment "affair.
I was assuming that my husband was aware of everything and I was too much of a "wimp" to discuss this with him. I hate confrontation and just did what felt appropriate at that time. Now, I make sure that I have to confront things in life and must do so in an appropriate manner.
My husband and I make conscious efforts to recognize one another's achievements, and express our appreciation for one another. My husband and I did go to counseling. We were told to get this book and read it together. Hence, this is my reason for penning this review. We have reconciled and are moving to bigger and better things. However, I know that there are many different paths that we take in the event of cheating; this book does address those points. It tells you how to move on, how to regain trust, leaving the past behind, etc... I do suggest everyone read, and learn, what this book has to say about cheating and its effects on relationships past, present, and future. Thank you!