The Language of Choice Theory

by William Glasser

In this companion volume to the bestselling Choice Theory, Dr. William Glasser and his wife, Carleen Glasser, have imagined typical conversations in real-life situations--between parent and child, two partners in a relationship, teacher and student, and boss and employee. On the left-hand page is a typical controlling order or threat, and on the right a more reasonable version, using choice theory, which is more likely to get a favorable response from the child, lover, student, or employee. Through these examples, the principles of choice theory come alive.

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction, Self Help

128 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1999

Reviews

[Mohammad · Rating 4 out of 5]

کتابی مفید برای افرادی که در راستای تئوری انتخاب رفتارمی کنند

[ZaRi]

همانطور که قدرت دیگران مایه نگرانی ما می‌شود، خصوصاً وقتی که از آن علیه خواسته ما استفاده کنند، تهدید شدن و به خطر افتادن آزادی هم ما را نگران می‌کند. به اعتقاد من نیاز به آزادی یک نیاز تکمیلی است که هدفش ایجاد توازن بین دو چیز است:

1) نیاز به مجبور کردن دیگری برای آنکه که طبق میل ما زندگی کند.
2) نیاز دیگری به رها شدن از اجبار.

این قانون طلایی که می گویند با دیگران همان طور رفتار کن که دوست داری با تو رفتار کنند، تعادل و توازن مورد نظر من را نشان می‌دهد.
کنترل بیرونی که فرزند قدرت است، دشمن آزادی می‌باشد، قانون خونبارش هم که می‌گوید از قدرت خود برای کشتن آدم‌هایی که مخالف تو هستند استفاده کن.
" این علت اصلی رنج و عذاب بشر در سراسر دنیاست "

[Missy Bowen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Helpful when learning how to change your way of communicating with others so you are not owning their emotions and choices while helping them to see the consequences (negative and positive) of their choices.

[Damos · Rating 3 out of 5]

Looks like a good companion to 'a new psychology to personal freedom' - a book that I have on order & will be reading very soon!

[Xiaoqing Wang · Rating 4 out of 5]

Wish more people will practice choice theory and make the world a better place.

[George · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not great. Extremely watered-down in terms of motives behind actions and at times the suggested response seems almost childish.
Glasser’s other work on Choice Theory was highly insightful whereas this work only consists of a of collection external control versus “choice theory” viewpoints and critiques.
In nearly every case Glasser bases his Choice Theory response on the premise that the counterparty will immediately capitulate. In reality this is hardly the case.
Glasser paints a beautiful picture with his statements and engages the imagination of the reader effectively but fails to recognize that in some instances agreement and cooperation will remain impossible.

[Rik Schnabel · Rating 5 out of 5]

I started reading this back in 2002 and quoted it in my book, "The Secrets of Creating a Life Beyond Limits."

Though I picked it up again recently, and as it's a great book that helps parents to put an empowering spin to their language. It's not exactly as good as NLP language patterns, but it's a great adjunct to it.

[Twitchmatic · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some great examples of the style and language of choice theory. However, some of the examples and language are definite showing their age and an updated version would be useful. There are quite a few assumptions made when reading the responses - would be helpful to have a 2-3 line tee-up about what the situation is and then show the different ways of engaging.

[علی‌رضا میم · Rating 2 out of 5]

سناریوهای مختلفی که میشه از تئوری انتخاب در حل و برخورد استفاده کرد رو نشون میده. اما خیلی ضعیف عمل‌کرده و بعضا چرت می‌گه. برخوردهایی رو به عنوان برخورد تئوری انتخابی پیشنهاد میده که هیچ تناسبی با موضوع و اتفاق نداره 😐

[Skylar · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's a light read and thus lacks depth. Has potential, the final section on Manager to Empployee was done best.

[Khodam · Rating 4 out of 5]

Transactional analysis counselling in action

از مجموعه کتاب های دوره
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[Kate Zerbe]

Boo 👎

Full disclosure: I wanted a quick nonfiction book, so I grabbed this one from my husband’s shelves. It was a disappointment. I agree with the theory, but this book feels like a waste of time.

[Giv · Rating 4 out of 5]

Pretty short read on alternative language to speaking and giving power to the other party.

[Bryan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Short, sweet, and crystal clear. This book, while of few words gives a clear set of examples of old psychology or "external control" and how the same situation can be made infinitely better by using Choice Theory instead. I have given examples like these in many of my sessions with clients and couples and I always pose the same question, "Now how do you see this situation being different by using the Choice Theory approach? How will your relationship benefit?" This book allows the reader to see many side by side comparisons and in doing so showing the reader the stark differences between the two psychologies.

[Joy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Give examples of how to use Choice Theory in different situations.

[Melissa Boyd · Rating 3 out of 5]

A bit too brief or sparse for my taste, oversimplified. Not without merit as it absolutely succeeds in conveying the theoretical thrust of Glasser's larger work.

[Fatemeh]

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