"As a woman, you can be three demonised, victimised, or fetishised. And as a sex worker, I’m three for the price of one."
18-year-old Erin is bisexual - she just doesn't know it yet. A fresher at university and determined to embody the Cool Girl archetype, it's not long before a chance Tinder match reels this very modern ingenue into a world of BDSM and power-play that consumes and intrigues her as much as it stresses out her friends. And when that all falls apart, where could there possibly be left to rebound except the even murkier realm of sugar baby dating?
Crashing through a sordid world of transactional encounters, late nights, sexual awakenings, and more bad decisions than you can shake a stick at, Cacoethes is the story of one queer young outsider's quest for - well, she's not quite sure, actually.
I really enjoyed this and flew through it, although the bisexuality of the main character is a much smaller component of the story than the marketing made me think. The time jumps were sometimes unclear and slightly confusing, but I mainly enjoyed them. I would've loved to see more of Erin and Bo, or at least a discussion between them addressing how they clearly both (had) liked each other but missed their chances would have made the story feel more fulfilling. I'm really glad I read this; it was enjoyable and some interesting themes around sex work, power, sexism, and class.
Thank you so much to the author for the gifted eARC! This book will be released on June 12th, 2025 by Northodox Press.
There’s a specific kind of chaos that lives in the marrow of early queer girlhood—a cocktail of bad decisions, unrequited crushes, boundary-testing hookups, and the dizzying ache of wanting to feel wanted. In Cacoethes, Chloe de Lullington captures that chaos with a voice so sharp it could cut, yet so tender it feels like a bruise you keep pressing. The story follows Erin, a British university fresher clinging to the “Cool Girl” archetype as she stumbles through a haze of club nights, online dating, and emotionally lopsided entanglements. Her world veers off-course when she matches with Aidan, an older American man who drags her into a BDSM dynamic that starts intoxicating and quickly turns unsafe. Erin’s friends raise the alarm—but Erin is caught in that murky space between desire and danger, where submission feels like control until it doesn’t.
One night, when Aidan says he wants to break up, Erin falls apart and is quietly picked up by Bo, a gentle classmate who becomes both a lifeline and a mirror. But instead of staying in that safety, Erin eventually rebounds into the world of sugar dating, where she meets Hal—a charismatic, former comedian who gives her what Aidan couldn’t: attention, aftercare, and a warped sense of stability. Meanwhile, Erin’s feelings for Bo—complicated, closeted, and deeply inconvenient—simmer beneath the surface, until Hal begins to unravel, pushing her to confront what she’s actually been running from. By the end, Erin is no longer performing confidence for the male gaze; she’s choosing softness, queerness, and real connection in the form of Hal’s daughter, Harriett, who offers her something startlingly rare: a future.
Erin’s journey is messy, loud, and often painful: she falls for men who neglect her and overlooks the women who see her most clearly. Her relationships are transactional in more ways than one, and yet they’re also sites of genuine longing, pleasure, and transformation. Erin’s narrative voice—chaotic, self-effacing, and heartbreakingly perceptive—reads like a diary scrawled in eyeliner on the back of a club flyer. Her stream-of-consciousness reflections are laced with biting commentary, especially on sex, power, and the limits of feminist rhetoric when it fails to make space for desire’s contradictions.
Cacoethes asks big questions: What does agency look like when you enjoy being dominated? What does empowerment mean when pleasure is tangled with performance and survival? What happens when your queerness doesn’t arrive softly but explodes through heartbreak and jealousy and slow, stumbling realizations?
If you’ve ever loved the wrong person, ghosted a good one, or found yourself wondering why affection sometimes feels like danger and sometimes like home—this book will see you. Cacoethes is a love letter to queer messiness, and a reminder that sometimes becoming yourself is less about choosing the right path and more about surviving the detours with a little bit of your softness still intact.
📖 Read this if you love: razor-sharp coming-of-age stories, bisexual awakenings, chaotic but introspective girl narrators, and voice-driven fiction that doesn’t shy away from power, performance, or mess.
🔑 Key Themes: Bisexual Self-Discovery, Power and Submission, Queerness and Desire, Sex Work and Emotional Labor, Girlhood and Performance.
Content / Trigger Warnings: Alcohol (moderate), Vomit (moderate), Sexual Content (severe), Alcoholism (minor), Mental Illness (minor), Drug User (minor), Death of Parent (minor), Violence (minor).
Cacoethes - 'An urge to do something inadvisable'. Cacoethes is an aptly named novel. Not simply because it perfectly describes the nature of Erin, the book's hair-brained heroine, but because it simultaneously reflects the experience of reading it. The story kicks off suddenly, unapologetically, and oozing anxiousness like a startled mare with the reader's foot caught firmly in the stirrups, as we're compelled to chaperone Erin through a series of stomach-knotting situations, our backs butting against the rocky ground and our faces planting into the not-so-sweet fruits of Erin's labour. And yet, as inadvisable as it feels to continue to ride such a horse, the reader can't shake the urge to get right back in the saddle, the risk of gobbling down another lip-pursing, eye-crinkling, mouthful distinctly possible.
Erin's journey, which begins from the unwashed, soup-blemished, and crumb-littered hovel she resides in during her first year of uni, and ends somewhere decidedly less depressing but arguably just as stained (with experiences rather than baked beans), sees her toe the line between sexual freedom and genuine danger in a way that keeps you hooked. These interactions occur thick and fast, and while they'll have you clutching your pearls, we're given regular respite in the form of self-reflective letters and interventions from concerned friends. The chapters are short, digestible, straight to the point, and dense with witty and enthralling dialogue. The characters are rich, diverse, flawed, but inexplicably real in a way where you start to believe you've actually experienced a consoling hug from Bo or a scathing lecture from Molly at some point in your life and you're just now remembering it. This ping-pong nature of the book dips you in and out of Erin's twin-worlds, thrusting you into the warm embrace of friends after a particularly seedy encounter, but not giving you enough time to pop the kettle on before its right back to the shackles-raising bachelor pad in central London, your relief quickly making way for dread.
After settling into the pace of the story, and accepting that Erin wouldn't listen to my advice no matter how much I pleaded at the pages, the remaining bulk of the book melted away like a knob of butter on a fresh-from-the-toaster slice of sourdough. I'm not a fast reader, often needing to re-read passages to fully understand them and cutting a reading session short if its starting to ramble on a bit (I'm thinking of that bit in 1984 - you know which bit I mean), but that wasn't my experience at all with Cacoethes, finishing the entire book in just over a week. The writing flowed beautifully, the tension and intrigue springing up in swathes like nettles on an abandoned allotment plot, and I found myself lamenting that there wasn't more to come once I'd turned the final page.
If you gasped reading the blurb of this book then… giddy up. It is audacious and addictive the whole way through. As someone who was a 19 year old girl in the 2010s, I could not look away. Parts of it needled straight into memories i didn’t know I had.
Anyone who did late girlhood in the 2010s will recognise the frame of mind pushing the protagonist, Erin, to increasingly ill-advised sexual adventures. The myopic focus on Erin’s runaway-train love life is SO true to how you experience the world at that age, with everything other than first romance blurring into irrelevance. It seemed to me that Erin thinks about Hal, Molly, and even Bo more as foils for her own adventures than as people with interiority (we get a sense of the narrator’s unreliability here, since the characters do seem very real. We also watch how much this attitude gets her into messy and dangerous situations).
This book was PAINFUL not just because of the questionable dynamics between Erin and her emotionally stunted play partner, Aiden, or sugar daddy, Hal (though those both made me gasp out loud at points) — but also because it captures the full colour of the dysfunction of friendships at this age. How cohabiting with flatmates felt like a three-legged race, with everyone too much in each others’ business to notice whether they have anything in common - or even really like each other. Even though De Lull never mentions it exactly, you FEEL the sticky, plastic carpet all university halls buildings had. You’re taken back to a time when everyone struggled to cook things and put passive aggressive notes all over the kitchen instead of asking each other directly to buy milk. An age where you and your friends didn't know how to treat each other well. But also an age where you’re so sweetly, bed-sharingly intimate with your girls that you can conceivably not realise you really fancy one of them. I appreciated the lack of ceremony or shock around Erin’s bisexual awakening, it felt very real.
It was brave and vulnerable, the most accurate portrayal of a 20-year old’s brain I have ever experienced. As a writer, I take it as a dare to push deeper into the messiness, to scoop out the flesh of my heart and write something truthful, trusting that the people who deserve it will find it.
The constant jokes about wanking also really sent me.
Erin is bisexual but she doesn't know it yet. She is a fresher at uni in the 2010s and she matches with an older mysterious guy on tinder - Aidan. Before she knows it she is reeled into a world of BDSM that she isn't entirely sure is for her, yet she cannot help but be consumed by Aidan. Eventually it all falls apart and she finds herself rebounding by selling her time and her body as a Sugar Baby.
But that isn't where the chaos ends... Through messy 'relationship' dynamics and fights with her best girl friends, she finally starts to discover that she also likes girls and there's a whole new part of herself to explore.
My thoughts 💭: 'Good book about bad decisions' is right!
The way Chloe writes female friendships in late teens/early twenties, and the messy dynamics, felt so true to life. I was so invested in their squabbles and their affection for each other, it felt like I was back in 2012 - during my own uni days! This was such a nostalgic read, it felt like exactly the kind of book I needed at that time in my life to help me to understand my own bisexuality! It also happens to be hilarious and some of the one-liners and puns had me laughing out loud!
In true chaotic bisexual fashion, Erin doesn't know what or who she wants until it's often too late. I enjoyed seeing her grow after each bad decision she made - even if she frustrated me by going backwards a couple of times! This story is very much a coming of age, not just in the literal sense but also in Erin discovering her sexuality and boundaries. The many intersections of growing up added a brilliant depth to the chaotic and messy plot!
I had so much fun with this book! The one thing I would have liked more of, and this is just me being picky... Is more of Erin exploring her sexuality with women. It feels like we finally get to see her coming into her own with her bisexuality, but we don't get to see it full realised. But honestly, what's more bisexual than that? 🤣🩷💜💙
*Thank you so much to @lifeinthechlolane for gifting me this copy of her debut book. And thank you for having me at your launch party - what a blast we had!🌈*
THIS WAS SO GOOD. Reading this was like stepping back in time to university (and let's be real, probably at the time my dream uni life as well - implications of that never to be unpacked pls n thx) in 2014, the close knit chaos of halls & freshers friendships flinging you into the next 3 years. Parts of these dysfunctional friendship dynamics made me feel a bit queasy with recognition as well; the whole book felt incredibly relatable and true to life.
The characters in this book were just phenomenal, every single one felt so real and fleshed out - by the end, I still found myself selfishly craving more of them. I particularly loved Hal's arc, finding him so surprisingly charming and likeable, and yet the criticisms of him from Erin's friends being exquisitely cutting and incisive; delicately & perfectly written.
It was refreshing to read a book about a bi character who had a very realistic and genuine coming out story, but also where being bi wasn't the entire focus, but still felt integral to the book and character. Also, a book with a bi woman not entirely focused on finding a female love interest? Divine!
This is an exceptionally engrossing read: the novel slips down easily, and it's possible to devour it in a day.
This is partially attributable to its style, which marries sharp turns of phrase with exceptional dialogue: by turns witty, authentic, and a cross-section of clashing group and power dynamics as much as a celebration of the badinage that comes hand in hand with close friendship.
But perhaps even more impressively, Cacoethes demands the reader's undivided and uninterrupted attention through its deft manipulation of time.
Shifting seamlessly from past to present - from climactic, involving encounter to the breezy summations of a woman for whom hindsight is 20/20 even if it doesn't inform future actions - is a phenomenal sleight of hand.
The result is a roiling collection of cliffhangers, an invitation for reader inference to fill in alluring gaps, and a breathtaking evocation of the blur in which most university students exist.
This book is exactly what it says on the tin - it truly is mania - and you are absolutely captivated by it. As a queer woman myself, delving into Erin’s world of navigating sexual relationships was wholly relatable and even borderline scarily accurate at times! The writing is exquisite and the characters so real that it feels like you’ve been transported back to uni.
More than anything, this book has sincerely made me reflect on the outlook and decisions I made as a young woman, and how they’ve informed the woman I’ve become today. I was fascinated by how my younger and current selves were at odds trying to judge Erin’s decisions, and I am so thankful for the opportunity to reflect on something that I wouldn’t have otherwise.
What a unique piece of fiction, I highly recommend people read it!
This playful and sharp debut novel from the FANTASTIC Chloe de Lullington impressively weaves each strand from various periods of Erin's messy messy life into a full tapestry of colours that was a downright pleasure for me to wince and gawk at.
This entertaining and well-written read will treat you with a cast of palpably *true* feeling characters, funny wit that bites back, and a genuine beating, hurting heart beneath that clenched facade of 'The Cool Girl'. Devour this book as soon as you can!!
I just adored this so much. So viscerally real. I’ve had these nights out at uni, I’ve had these drunken fuck ups and experienced those intense uni friendships when you’re all desperately trying to figure yourself out while also desperately trying to look the Most Put Together Adult and not a little baby having their first go at life. Every single decision our main character made had me screaming ‘NO’ at the pages but I just wanted to wrap her up in a blanket and take care of her. Equal parts salacious and heartwarming, this was a gem!
Fantastic book and so well written. Amazing facility with dialogue. Loved the messy madness of coming of age love affairs and friendships. It would have benefited from a comprehensive edit, though; was distracted by so many typos, and occasionally felt overwritten. Was surprised it didn’t really explore bisexuality as much as the back jacket led me to expect. Still, the writer’s huge talent and potential is undeniable, and I couldn’t put this book down. Inhaled it.
Cacoethes is an absolutely incredible story and a real page turner. A discovery of the ups and downs of uni life and how girls unite to overcome bad decisions. The life and choices of Erin is so engaging and the plot grips you right until the end.
I can confidently say that Cacoethes by Chloe de Lullington is one of the most beautifully written bisexual coming-of-age novels I have ever encountered.
Heartwarming, funny and true to life. This is essential reading.
Absolutely loved this book, by far my favourite read this year! I felt a bit like a big sister reading this book, I wanted to give Erin a hug and shake some common sense into her in equal parts!