2.5 stars (rounded up for GR) - This book has some genuinely helpful ideas around examining our relationship with alcohol, and I can see why it resonates with people who are sober-curious. Unfortunately, a lot of that gets lost for me in the Mel Robbins vibes..... motivational, repetitive, and heavily branded.
What stayed with me most was the tone. Even when there were valuable nuggets, it often felt like the message was, “just do this, it’s easy.” And maybe some of these tools are more accessible for people casually cutting back, but that wasn’t my experience of getting sober. For me, this work was anything but easy, and at times the tone felt a little minimizing of how hard recovery can be.
She uses the science of ALP (affective liminal psychology) and repeatedly reminds readers that ACT (awareness, clarity & transformation) can be used for any habit which is where I think some of the disconnect comes in. Treating alcohol like just another habit to optimize misses the complexity of addiction for many people.
I also struggled with the chapters “Relapse,” and “Switches.” Framing drinking again as “curiosity” and suggesting you can simply pull back if it goes too far didn’t sit right with me. For someone who has struggled with alcohol, pulling back isn’t always an option once that switch is flipped.
There are some useful ideas here, but I’d approach this one with a bit of caution, especially if you’re early in sobriety or your path has been hard-won.