Μεγαλώνοντας αγόρια που αγαπούν τον εαυτό τους

by Kasey Edwards, Χριστίνα Παναγιώτου (Translator)

Μετά την επιτυχία του βιβλίου Μεγαλώνοντας κορίτσια που αγαπούν τον εαυτό τους , η Kasey Edwards και ο δρ Christopher Scanlon υπογράφουν τώρα ένα αντίστοιχο βιβλίο για την ανατροφή των αγοριών.

Το βιβλίο αυτό θα σας βοηθήσει:
Να μάθετε στο αγόρι σας να υπερασπίζεται τον εαυτό του χωρίς να καταφεύγει στη βία.
Να το ενθαρρύνετε να δοκιμάζει καινούρια και δύσκολα πράγματα.
Να δημιουργήσετε μαζί του μια σχέση εμπιστοσύνης με διάρκεια.
Να του δώσετε τα εφόδια για να αντιστέκεται στην πίεση από τις παρέες των συνομηλίκων του και στην τοξική αρρενωπότητα.
Να αποτρέψετε τον υπερβολικό χρόνο μπροστά στην οθόνη και την έκθεσή του σε ακατάλληλο περιεχόμενο.
Να του μάθετε να αναλαμβάνει την ευθύνη των πράξεών του.
Να του προσφέρετε, πάνω απ’ όλα, το δώρο της αυτοπεποίθησης.
Με τη ζεστασιά, το χιούμορ και τη θετική προσέγγιση, που είναι το σήμα κατατεθέν τους, η Kasey Edwards και ο δρ Christopher Scanlon θα σας δείξουν πώς να δώσετε στον γιο σας γερά θεμέλια για να αξιοποιήσει με τον καλύτερο τρόπο τις δυνατότητές του, να αντιμετωπίσει ό,τι του φέρει η ζωή και να γίνει ένας υγιής, συναισθηματικά ευφυής και ευτυχισμένος νέος άντρας.

Ένα αγόρι που αγαπάει τον εαυτό του:
1. Έχει προοπτική ισχύος.
2. Έχει δύναμη χαρακτήρα.
3. Έχει σωματική αυτοπεποίθηση.
4. Έχει ισορροπία.
5. Είναι ανεξάρτητο και ικανό.
6. Κάνει δυνατές σχέσεις.
7. Είναι ο εαυτός του.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Audiobook, Family, Childrens

352 pages, Paperback

Published April 2, 2025

Reviews

[Karagh · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed reading this. My son is way off being a child and teenager, but these things weigh on my mind. I just wanted to put this extract here.

"A boy who likes himself will be successful, striving for his goals because he has faith in his ability to achieve them. When he stumbles, he will have the inner strength and resources to pick himself up, learn from his mistakes and move on. A boy who likes himself will have the courage to apologise and make amends rather than leaving a trail of resentment and unresolved conflict. He will be respectful and kind because he will not have to denigrate others or exploit their weaknesses to feel okay about himself. He will have the self-belief to stand up to his critics – and his friends – when it’s the right thing to do. He will have the strength to face and deal with his own pain rather than trying to repress it or offload it onto someone else. A boy who likes himself will prioritise his physical and mental health because it is natural to care for what you love."

[Helena · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read for anyone who has a son. Honestly, it makes me kinda emotional to think Finn might have to tackle some of the problems discussed in this book, but it’s important to be aware of. I have a feeling I’m gonna be referring back to this book a lot as he gets older and a lot of these topics become more relevant for us. I guess the overarching message in this book is to always ensure your boy feels unconditionally loved and comfortable to approach you if they are struggling with anything. A confident boy has a secure foundation in his very first relationship: his parents 🤍

[Katrin · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an example of a volume where you can choose a book by its cover and you won't be let down.

I loved it for several reasons - easy to read, good examples, relatable, a book that actually focuses on boys and it gave me new perspectives how to approach raising a son.

Three things I would take with me after reading it:

* Accept the son you have, not the one you feel pressured to have (pressured by societies norms).

* You cannot ruin a good character by praising for the right things. Instead of telling him he's such a good boy, tell him that you're inspired by his bravery, his kindness towards others, and his good time management skills etc.

* Although I may want to fix the things *I think* he needs to improve on, I should instead put more emphasis on the things he is already good at. This gives him more positive examples to push through the things he is struggling too.

[Kate Davies · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really enjoyed reading this. Read raising girls after my daughter was born and was excited to read this too after having a baby boy.
I think the part that really stood out was highlighting that it’s more socially acceptable for girls to be into ‘boys’ things and we trivialise ‘girls’ interests…wow.

[Jedi]

Really aligns to my values. Love that it explicitly states sex has no biological difference on kids ability to make good choices etc, but societal gender norms will impact the kids, and outlines how this has impacted boys differently. Its important to equip the kids skills for resilience and trusting themselves to be themselves. Really sound and good advice overall.

[Lina Alsagient · Rating 3 out of 5]

Εχει κάποια ωραία σημεία! Ισως καλό αν είναι από τα πρώτα βιβλία γονεϊκότητας που διαβάζεις αλλά δεν μπορώ να πω ότι μου έδωσε κάτι παραπάνω. Μια καλή υπενθύμιση μέσα στην καθημερινότητα του να μεγαλώνεις αγόρια.

Κρατάω αυτό:
«Δεν μπορείτε να βγάλετε το γιο σας από το μονοπάτι στο οποίο πορεύεται, γι’αυτό πρέπει να αποφασίσετε αν θα βαδίσετε σε τούτο το μονοπάτι δίπλα του και θα τον στηρίξετε για να βρει το δρόμο του σε έναν κόσμο που κάποιες φορές θα είναι σκληρός μαζί του. Θα είστε παρόντες για να τον σηκώσετε όταν πέσει, για να φυλάτε τα νώτα του και να τον καθησυχάζεται λέγοντας του ότι είναι ούτως ή άλλως αξιαγάπητος και αποδεκτός; Ή μήπως θα παραμείνετε προσκολλημένοι στις αξίες του στερεοτυπικού άντρα και θα αφήσετε το γιο σας να προχωρήσει σε αυτό το μονοπάτι μόνος του, χωρίς την βοήθεια και την υποστήριξη σας;”

[Kai · Rating 3 out of 5]

2.5 ⭐️ It has a lot of useful tips and tricks, but at some point it becomes clear the authors don’t have personal experience parenting a boy, so they start repeating themselves. By the end, it unfortunately felt more like they wrote this book as a logical follow-up to the first one, not because they had much new to say.

[Erick van Til · Rating 5 out of 5]

Heavy and hard to read but ultimately hopeful and practical as a father of sons and of daughters.

[Anthi Mastrogiannaki · Rating 5 out of 5]

Η Kasey Edwards είναι Αυστραλή αρθρογράφος και συγγραφέας 8 best sellers, το ερευνητικό της ενδιαφέρον εστιάζει στην ανατροφή των παιδιών, στην μητρότητα και στην εικόνα του σώματος. Ο Dr Christopher Scanlon είναι συγγραφέας, δοκιμιογράφος και ακαδημαϊκός με άρθρα του να έχουν δημοσιευτεί σε εφημερίδες στην Αυστραλία, διδάσκει επίσης στο τμήμα Επικοινωνίας του Πανεπιστημίου Deakin. H Kasey και ο Christopher οι οποίοι είναι ζευγάρι και έχουν δύο κορίτσια συνυπογράφουν την δημιουργία αυτού εδώ του βιβλίου.

Το "Μεγαλώνοντας αγόρια που αγαπούν τον εαυτό τους" δεν είναι ένα βιβλίο που θα μάθει στους γονείς πως να βοηθήσουν τα παιδιά τους να γίνου πετυχημένα και δυνατά αλλά τους μαθαίνει ότι ένα αγόρι είναι φυσιολογικό να εκφράσει τα συναισθήματά του όπως το να κλάψει, ότι η αποτυχία είναι μέρος της ζωής ενός αγοριού, ότι τα πρότυπα των ανδρών που επιβάλλει η κοινωνία είναι πολλές φορές λανθασμένα για τα αγόρια μας και τέλος η τεχνολογία είναι ένα μέσο έτσι ώστε αν χρησιμοποιηθεί σωστά τα αγόρια θα έχουν περισσότερους φίλους και θα είναι πιο κοινωνικοποιημένα. Οπότε όσοι διαβάσετε το βιβλίο ξεχάστε ότι ξέρατε μέχρι τώρα ότι δηλαδή πρέπει το αγόρι σας να το τιμωρείτε για να έχει καλή συμπεριφορά, κάτι τέτοιο σύμφωνα με το βιβλίο δεν ισχύει, αν θέλουμε τα αγόρια μας να φέρονται σωστά, πρέπει πρώτα απ' όλα να τους δείξουμε ότι τα αγαπάμε.

[Kaitlin Miller · Rating 5 out of 5]

I REALLY liked this book. It’s much more than just about body image. It talked about how to teach boys character (doing the right thing when no one is looking), how to have empathy, how to believe in their strengths, and much more. I love the scientific backing to this book where research and studies are cited. They also reference what critics might say in response, but explain how research would undermine those arguments. VERY well done. I will now go read the one they wrote first about raising girls.

[Meg · Rating 4 out of 5]

Audiobook. Excellent and practical suggestions on how to raise boys to be confident, hardworking, honest, respectful and most importantly care about themselves in a modern world. The authors were great narrators and I will be listening to the companion book about girls as well.

[Katie Girsch · Rating 4 out of 5]

I took something away from every chapter for each one of my boys… and me 😮‍💨 audiobook with Australian accent was enjoyable.

[Sarah Croft · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have been trying to get into reading a bit about how to help my children as they grown and transition towards the teenage years. Trying to be supportive, responsible while nuturing and allowing them to be themselves.
This book was a great way to review some of my parenting skills, acknowledging some of what I seem to be doing good and taking note of things I can adapt or start doing too.
I had a giggle when I was reading a chapter I thought could have been useful when my husband was a child too.

[Amelia · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some really good stuff in here. I might have to buy it so I can re-read it, even though its targeted at parents of boys younger than my 10yo.
I listened to this on Libby (audio book) and loved the aussie accent of the authors narration, and the inflections that made me smile when she was telling those light jokes.

[Janelle Cavarra · Rating 3 out of 5]

There was nothing overly ground breaking in this, however I did enjoy a few things;
The idea that you need to teach your child to make friends, how to discipline your child without creating a reliance on external motivations and how to encourage tough conversations surrounding risk taking behaviours.

[Lucas Hernandez · Rating 4 out of 5]

The following book to "bringing up girls who like themselves". Some similar principles which elude me at the moment. I just hope when my son does something that needs parenting, not chastising, I'll recall whatever good nuggets that were in this book. Also for the audiobook, the authors are Aussie's so that makes it fun to listen to my American ears.

[Sasha Andersen · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is just a copy and paste of other peoples information. I only gave 2 stars because there were a couple of pages of good information if it wasn’t for that I would have given the book a 1 star review.

[Dylan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it. As a teacher I found myself nodding my head a lot and even getting some new ideas. As a parent it helped me recognise the biases and baggage that we all bring into parenthood. Practical advice backed by evidence.

[Jake Miller · Rating 4 out of 5]

The title of this book speaks to me, the father of 2 boys who are often their harshest critics. I found some solid takeaways -- even just small ways to rephrase their thoughts externally to present them to them. A solid double of a book that I'm thankful for.

[Meagan · Rating 5 out of 5]

A wonderful practical book for all parents, carers or anyone who looks after boys.

[Natalie · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 stars

[Abby Rank · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really liked a lot of ideas from this book! Will be implementing some of the things 🥰

[Rolf · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some excellent suggestions that are applicable to kids across the gender spectrum.

[Anna · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good read with helpful reminders for avoiding “the man box” mentality.

[Caddyshack Project · Rating 4 out of 5]

Caddyshack three word review:
Myth busting, strength & mastery

[Emma · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great, practical advice. Enjoyed it even though I hate self-help books.

[Megan Oberhauser · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you work with, have, or want to have your own kiddos, read this!

[Taryn · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5

[Candace Garcia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I felt like this book was written just for us in the tween season we're going through. Lots of practical advice and a perspective adjustment.

[Jess Buxton · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really enjoyed this and got me thinking 🧠