What Is Happiness: A Monk's Guide to a Happy Life

by Pomnyun Sunim

'When I ask people, "Are you happy?" in my talks, very few people say yes.'

There are many things that seem to prevent us from being happy in our lives. Usually, things don't turn out the way we want them to. It could be unfulfilled goals, bad habits, a society that's built to benefit only those at the very top, or the loops of self-deprecation that many of us find ourselves falling into. But we can take control of our happiness, whatever life throws at us. We all have the right, and the ability, to be happy regardless of our situation.

With his simple yet profound teachings, Buddhist monk Pomnyun Sunim shows us how to combat day-to-day anxiety, insecurity, anger, and discouragement. He explains why humans are prone to self-destruction, and redirects our focus to finding happiness.

This book has touched countless lives and uplifted spirits in Korea, and it's time for the rest of the world to experience and understand exactly what is happiness.

Genres: Self Help

304 pages, Hardcover

Published March 6, 2025

Reviews

[Rahdika K · Rating 3 out of 5]

In today’s fast-paced world, even the simple act of slowing down can feel countercultural. We are constantly encouraged to chase success, productivity, and external validation, often at the expense of our inner peace. So it is refreshing to come across a book that invites readers to pause and reflect on what truly brings happiness.

Rooted in Buddhist philosophy, this book offers a quiet, thoughtful exploration of happiness, not as a grand achievement, but as a daily practice.

It is structured in five parts, each addressing themes like why life rarely goes as planned, how our habits shape our emotions, how to live alongside differing opinions, and the importance of rethinking what happiness means. It closes by encouraging us to simply aim for being a little happier today than we were yesterday.

Each section is broken into short, digestible chapters, making it easy to read in small moments. The tone is calm and encouraging, and many of the ideas feel both grounded and universal. I found myself pausing often, not because the content was heavy, but because it gently invited reflection.

That said, some of the advice might feel overly simplistic or even a bit tone-deaf, especially if you are navigating deep personal struggles or trauma. It's important to note that this is not a substitute for therapy or individualized support.

While the book speaks in general terms about emotional resilience and peace, it occasionally assumes a level of stability or privilege that not all readers will relate to.

Still, I appreciated its sincerity and quiet wisdom. For those familiar with Buddhist principles, or anyone seeking a gentle nudge toward living more mindfully, this book offers plenty to reflect on. Not every idea will resonate equally, but many of them are worth carrying into everyday life.

Review copy sent by Definitelybooks #pansing.

[myliteraryworld · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ven. Pomnyun Sunim, a revered Buddhist monk, Zen teacher and an advocate for social change offers a profound exploration of inner fulfillment in a world often obsessed with external validation. The book challenges to prioritize passion and purpose over societal markers of success thereby urging a shift from chasing wealth or status to embracing authenticity.

Central to Sunim’s philosophy is the notion of the “false self”, a rigid self-image we cling to which breeds insecurity or arrogance. By disentangling from this illusion, he argues we uncover a more genuine existence which is free from shame or self-deception.

Sunim delves into the ephemeral nature of emotions and their sudden emergence to sparks from flint. He encourages to interrogate the roots of feelings like anger or fear through mindful reflection. This critical self-awareness can dissolve destructive patterns replacing reactive outbursts or suppression with calm acceptance. Equally compelling is his discussion on habits. By consciously cultivating new behaviours we reshape our subconscious thereby altering not only daily routines but our life’s trajectory.

Structured into five sections, the book addresses why life often defies expectations, how habits shape emotions, navigating interpersonal conflicts, redefining joy and actionable steps to nurture happiness. Whether for a student grappling with existential doubts, a professional stifled by routine or a retiree seeking purpose, Sunim’s insights resonate universally.

[Nicole · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm still processing my thoughts on this book, but it definitely struck a chord. The author brilliantly articulated the everyday emotional battles with anger, anxiety, and disappointment that many of us face, and I particularly appreciated their candid struggle with practicing kindness in a sometimes unkind world. However, I found myself questioning some of the starkly presented examples, feeling that real-life situations often demand more than a black-and-white approach. Despite this, the book ultimately provided a powerful nudge to re-examine my perspective and actively seek happiness in a less-than-perfect world.

[G C · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a must read for anyone struggling with direction and everyday anxiety. This book was much deeper and profound than I originally expected. Pomnyun Sunim encourages us to ask the hard questions and look within ourselves to truly move forward. The message is so simple yet profound and I think many can benefit from his teachings in everyday life.

I received an ARC in exchange for my honest opinion.

[James · Rating 4 out of 5]

Buddhist monk Pomnyun Sunim provides coherent and useful advice on dealing with our daily anxiety, insecurity, anger, and discouragement to consistently find our inner truth and happiness.

[I received an advanced reader copy via Netgalley.]

[Sameer · Rating 3 out of 5]

decent read to clear your mind n get a perspective on basics.