3 / 5 Stars
I love Allison Raskin so I had high hopes for this book and it delivered in some ways and left me confused in others. In “Save the Date,” Emma is dumped by her fiancé six months before their wedding. No explanation other than “something is off” and no, he doesn’t want to work on it. Devastated, Emma tries to piece her life back together but feels like a fraud – she is a couples therapist with a Youtube channel and book deal who gives people advice on how to maintain happy and healthy relationships. So, she decides that she will keep her wedding date and find someone new. Not to trade one groom for another but to show that a relationship is built on having a certain level of compatibility mixed with a commitment to make it work. She just needs to start something with someone and they can figure out the rest. Weirdly, it kind of works! She finds herself stuck between Will, a podcast producer who is a marriage skeptic, and Matt, a recent divorcee who is ready and willing to settle down. What will her future look like? And can she find marriage, save her book deal, and have the internet not eviscerate her? Maybe or maybe not but it is worth a shot.
I love Allison Raskin. I have followed her since her Buzzfeed days and then when she started a podcast with Gabe Dunn. I remember her talking about her own ended engagement and how she worked to move on. Her recent appearance on Nicole Byer’s “Why Won’t You Date Me?” is one of my favorites. So I was so excited for this book. And it has a lot of great parts especially as they relate to therapy and mental health. Truly, if you are an anxious girlie who wants to learn about secure attachment, this has a LOT of really great advice and modeling. There were also some funny moments and her family dynamic brought nice levity to the book.
BUT, I just couldn’t buy into the whole concept that she is going to get married to someone new in six months. It was explained well with logic and good therapy speak and still, my heart said “Nope, this makes no sense.” If you are trying to find someone you are compatible with, it can take more than six months to do that and placing a false sense of urgency on that connection probably won’t help. And that was an issue in both of her connections. I wanted to root for Emma but her desire to stick to the destination instead of focusing on the journey made that really challenging.
Thank you to Harlequin Trade Publishing | Canary Street Press and NetGalley for providing this eARC! All opinions are my own.
And now a BIG SPOILER ALERT about the two relationships and the ending.
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OK. I had two big gripes with her relationships.
1. Emma starts dating Will who she has a great connection with but once she tells him about her plan, he is not interested in getting married in six months (understandable), so they break up. He still wants to interview her for a podcast series so they maintain some sort of relationship while she goes on to date Matt. Matt does buy into the whole concept and is nice and kind. He recently got divorced because his wife cheated on him and he has been cheated on prior to that. But it seems like Emma is not the most forthcoming with Matt about her relationship (current and past) with Will and at one point, Emma and Will almost kiss. Look, I know it is not cheating to ALMOST kiss but it is a betrayal nonetheless (at least in my book) and this poor man already has issues with cheating. And this wasn’t really addressed. Emma didn’t tell Matt. They broke up for other reasons. But still, not cool, Emma!
2. Emma and Will end up together because Emma abandons her plan to get married in six months and even tells Will, “we never have to get married if that is an issue for you.” And Will is down, baby! He and Emma start dating for real. Emma’s parents end up renewing their vows on what would have been her wedding day. And what does Will do on that day? HE PROPOSES TO EMMA. And not just “hey, let’s get married someday.” He says “Let’s get married next week.” EXCUSE ME. This man was not open to the idea of marriage a few months ago and now he wants to get married ASAP. What? HUH? IN WHAT WORLD? And we jump time so it isn’t like we got to see him grow into this. It felt like it came from nowhere and was jammed into the original concept for no reason. Just date normally. It just made no sense for his character.