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How to Be Selfish: 7 steps to taking back your power
'The 7 steps to self-love everyone needs to thrive.' – Dr Martha Deiros Collado, bestselling author of How to Be the Grown Up
'How to be selfish is a must-read for anyone buried under the weight of the world's expectations and struggling to put themselves on their own priority list.' – Libby Ward, @diaryofanhonestmum
IT'S TIME TO START LIVING LIKE YOU MATTER TOO
In How to Be Selfish, chartered psychologist Suzy Reading challenges everything we’ve learnt about selflessness, and dispels the widely accepted myths about what it is to be 'selfish'.
Drawing on somatic therapy, neuroscience and psychology, alongside highly effective coaching tools and techniques, Suzy presents seven steps to guide you towards reclaiming your peace and your power. We can only become calmer, stronger, well-rested people by prioritising ourselves and also allowing others to fill up our cup. It is time to receive!
By reclaiming the right to self and honing the skills of self-advocacy, we deepen the authenticity of our bonds, we protect the energy to take care of others and also tend to our own needs and ambitions without depletion.
Understanding the true glory of being able to embrace 'selfishness' is our opportunity to break the cycle of stress and toxic productivity, disrupt patriarchal pressure and transform the way we live, love, work and parent.
'This book is balm for the burnt-out. Wise, clear and compassionate' – Anna Mathur, bestselling author of The Uncomfortable Truth
'An empowering and important book for anyone who has always put themselves last' - Helen Thorn, bestselling author of Get Divorced, Be Happy
'How to be selfish is a must-read for anyone buried under the weight of the world's expectations and struggling to put themselves on their own priority list.' – Libby Ward, @diaryofanhonestmum
IT'S TIME TO START LIVING LIKE YOU MATTER TOO
In How to Be Selfish, chartered psychologist Suzy Reading challenges everything we’ve learnt about selflessness, and dispels the widely accepted myths about what it is to be 'selfish'.
Drawing on somatic therapy, neuroscience and psychology, alongside highly effective coaching tools and techniques, Suzy presents seven steps to guide you towards reclaiming your peace and your power. We can only become calmer, stronger, well-rested people by prioritising ourselves and also allowing others to fill up our cup. It is time to receive!
By reclaiming the right to self and honing the skills of self-advocacy, we deepen the authenticity of our bonds, we protect the energy to take care of others and also tend to our own needs and ambitions without depletion.
Understanding the true glory of being able to embrace 'selfishness' is our opportunity to break the cycle of stress and toxic productivity, disrupt patriarchal pressure and transform the way we live, love, work and parent.
'This book is balm for the burnt-out. Wise, clear and compassionate' – Anna Mathur, bestselling author of The Uncomfortable Truth
'An empowering and important book for anyone who has always put themselves last' - Helen Thorn, bestselling author of Get Divorced, Be Happy
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280 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 20, 2025
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August 23, 2026
I'm not a fan of authors who reference someone else's work without crediting them.
I noticed this several times in this book. For example the "drop the rope" section on page 114 - I read this concept in another book years before this book was published. Yet Suzy makes no mention of the original source, passing the idea off as her own.
The whole "may you be kind to yourself, may you be healthy, may you be..." etc. mantra section on page 210 is from Buddhism, no mention of that either though.
I noticed this several times in this book. For example the "drop the rope" section on page 114 - I read this concept in another book years before this book was published. Yet Suzy makes no mention of the original source, passing the idea off as her own.
The whole "may you be kind to yourself, may you be healthy, may you be..." etc. mantra section on page 210 is from Buddhism, no mention of that either though.
December 11, 2025
I knew I really needed this book and it didn’t disappoint. Suzy’s writing is so compassionate, clear and relatable. Really wish I’d read it years ago.
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