Building the Team: Cooperative Power Dynamic Relationships

by Raven Kaldera, Joshua Tenpenny

When we create conscious and consenting power dynamic relationships, most of the models we find in fiction and fantasy are adversarial, with dominant and submissive members on opposite sides of a display of force. This model works for some couples, but not for all. Instead of an adversarial model, this book outlines a cooperative Teamwork model where the dominant and submissive members work together to make effective progress in the goals of the relationship. The Teamwork method of building a mindful unequal relationship emphasizes mutual responsibility, problem solving, honesty, and trust. Complete with exercises, this book is a primer for everyone who finds that an adversarial model of power exchange isn’t the best choice for their relationship.

Genres: BDSM, Sexuality

115 pages, Paperback

First published July 20, 2014

About the author

A female-to-male transgendered activist and shaman, Raven Kaldera is a pagan priest, intersex transgender activist, parent, astrologer, musician and homesteader. Kaldera is also the author of "Hermaphrodeities: The Transgender Spirituality Workbook" from XLibris Press. The founder and leader of the Pagan Kingdom of Asphodel and the Asphodel Pagan Choir, Kaldera has been a neo-pagan since the age of 14, when he was converted by a "fam-trad" teen on a date. Since then, he's been through half a dozen traditions, including Gardnerian, Dianic, granola paganism, Umbanda, Heithnir, and the Peasant Tradition. He is currently happily married to artist and eco-experimentalist Bella Kaldera, with whom he co-founded the Institute for Heritage Skills.

Reviews

[Sinclair · Rating 3 out of 5]

None of this was new information exactly, but it was helpful nonetheless to go through more of Raven & Joshua's theories about power dynamics and teamwork. It's a model I highly subscribe to and very much advocate for, as I think it's much more psychologically healthy for me personally. Highly recommended.