page 20: "Thought countering: 1. Identify a negative thought. 2. Label the cognitive distortion. 3. Challenge the thought. 4. Create a counterstatement."
page 29: "Make timekeeping sensory or multidimensional: 1. Create playlists of a certain length for different activities. 2. Use visual timers instead of, or in addition to traditional ones (fun colors or ones for children). 3. Get creative: the number of songs = time it's taken to do your hair."
page 31: "Notice how you procrastinate when you have more time than you expected. One trick here is when you catch yourself thinking, 'Ugh, this will take ages,' that's your cue to challenge the thought. Maybe give that dreaded task a go and see how long it really takes."
page 33: "Allow more time than you think you need. Leave ten to fifteen minutes earlier for every appointment." ***I love this one.***
page 48: "Reframe personal time rules: I always turn off my phone by 10 pm --->>>More often than not, I turn off my phone by 10 pm. **This made me think of PRCs (Personal Rules of Conduct--we all have them. How much do they help us, and how much do they hurt us?)
page 51: "Many time rules work well with habit stacking, a concept that suggests we are more likely to form lasting habits if they build upon one other."
page 61: Regarding email, this chapter is titled "The Inbox of Shame": "Send shorter replies in favor of long replies. 'Let's talk about this' is a great way to acknowledge a message without spending half an hour writing a response. Play the role of email-responding actor (from a Reddit comment): You don't have to answer the email, you just have to play the part of the person who answers the email."
page 65: "Hyper-responsiveness doesn't equal excellence, happiness, or even the best use of our limited time. We have to set out own limits, because no one else will. "
page 74: "You fully expect that your energy and output will vary day by day due to factors beyond your control. Radical acceptance = energy conservation, present-moment focus, improved decision-making. (This connects to another part of the book where he addresses different levels of energy from day to day and not beating yourself up: red, yellow, and green light.)
page 81: From the "What is Enough?" chapter: Here are three questions to ask yourself to help you reflect on your day in a kind way: 1. Did I create something? 2. Did I help someone? 3. Did I take some amount of time for myself?
page 94: "Time is limited, but desire is limitless." So wise!
page 130: This chapter is titled "Move on Quickly." He discusses friction loops vs. ease loops.
page 133: "Friction loops grind us down, while ease loops give us a boos. We want to move toward ease and away from friction."
page 134: "The confirm button never disappoints." Stop waffling!
page 183: Ask yourself: "What is special about this day?"
page 194: "Closer or further? Toward or away?" Use these questions to help you make decisions.
page 197: "Think about death every day."
page 236: "I love a good project during the holidays. It helps keep me grounded."
page 238: "The One-Minute Ease Break" Ask yourself: "Am I feeling friction or ease right now?" at three different points in your day. If you're feeling ease, savor it! Pause and really feel that lightness and flow in your body. Anchor it by tapping your wrist and saying 'ease'--this creates a physical trigger you can use anything to remind you of that feeling. If you're feeling friction, use this minute to get unstuck. Stand up, shake out your hands, and take three slow, deep breaths."
page 256: Manifesto
1. Leave ten minutes earlier than you think you need for every appointment.
2. Learn to discern between real and imagined deadlines by asking, "Can this wait?"
3. Create a reverse bucket list to celebrate past achievements instead of fixating on future goals.
4. Use "time decluttering" to remove unnecessary commitments from your schedule.
5. Practice the art of no-guilt communication with friends to maintain relationships without pressure.
6. It's impossible to keep up with everything, so avoid the temptation to try.
7. We overestimate what we can accomplish in a day, and underestimate what can happen in a year.
8. Not everything you start needs to be finished.
9. No one ever says, "I wish I'd made that change later."
10. To live better, think about death every day.
I marked so many pages in this book, I think I need to change my rating to a 5! I guess I really got a lot out of it! :)