I have suffered with chronic, intractable migraine for 30 years, and during that time I have read many books on suffering and the Christian walk. The focus of this book was different from any other, and exactly what I had been needing!
The main focus on suffering has been the need to acknowledge it, to not assume it involves sin, and to be willing to sit with others in their suffering. Many focus on the emotional aspects, the psychological reactions, the physiology of suffering. When you are so weary, from pain and despair, knowing that you are not alone in it is life-changing.
However, many times the books seem to end there: we all suffer, and it is okay to not be okay. The practical aspects, I suppose you could say, the mundane moments, are less of a focus; however, it can be just as wearying, to constantly be in awareness of the emotions.
The prosperity gospel movement created the lie that suffering, or the lack thereof, is directly tied to God's favor. And, that favor is linked to hidden sin and outward acts of faith. "Too blessed to be stressed" because in order to remain in favor, we cannot acknowledge anything less than positive emotions. Any negativity is going to change the reality; anything less than perfect happiness means we lack prosperity. In a world consumed with appearances, being prosperous is the only option.
However, this has also allowed us to miss or excuse sin. Trauma does not give you the right to sin, or inflict trauma upon others. Also, in our suffering, our attitudes and positions towards God and others can be rooted in sin. The prosperity gospel has also created the lie that we can manifest our own destiny. Being sad means we are focusing on the negative and therefore disrupting the goal of perfect happiness. Happiness equals blessed equals prosperity equals happiness is the endless, and vicious, cycle that has become the standard in mainstream American churches.
The reality of the Bible is that our attitudes towards God can be rooted in sin. God knows our hearts, and will never walk away from us because of that sin, and there is always forgiveness. However, we cannot ignore our humanity, and our propensity to sin. Kahn does an amazing job illuminating our sinful propensities without condemning us for the sin. This actually brings hope, because it means that we can control some of our turmoil. This must be done by turning towards the only Truth, God's infallible Word. Hahn roots her entire book in Scriptural truth, focusing mainly on the middle parts of Job. The current focus is usually on the first part, and the ending where Job gets back double. Missing from that is that Job will, for the rest of his life, still remember what he lost.
Job's friends sinned against Job, but Job also sinned against God. He lamented, and he also made accusations. When God appears, and speaks, Job can only cover his mouth, understanding now that God owes no man a justification. Our laments beg for one - indeed, I have spent countless hours begging for a reason - and we can become consumed with that. Our sin does not cause the physical suffering, but it can make us blind. Also, we can remain blind to the attacks of the enemy. My migraine is not caused by torment by Satan; but, I can be tormented by him during this time. He can cause me to be angry at what I perceive to be others rejection or ignorance. I can be resentful that a friend went on a vacation; I can become resentful if I believe they are intentionally ignoring me. I can make snide comments about how I am never invited. This turns the focus on wanting others to make me happy, and me believing that I deserve happiness, within myself and through others. Hahn centers the insidious lies of the enemy as peripheral to why we suffer, but reminds us that the enemy will take every opportunity to make us miserable.
I finished this book realizing that it was a practical, Biblically based survival guide. She shares the beginning of her story, what motivated her to write it, but it is not an emotional journey through that time. You don't spend pages crying because someone understands; instead you breathe a sigh of relief. You end going, "I can do this. I will make it through. I am not crazy." Naming our struggles removes much of their power, and Hahn has named many, both removing their power, and detailing why they seemed to have it.
Chapter 6, which focuses on the beauty of suffering, was healing to me. Suffering is a part of living in this fallen world, but suffering is not why we live. We live for and through the grace of God, orienting our lives to be known and make Him known. We know God's love the strongest when it is our only reason for living. This strength than flows out, through the Holy Spirit, impacting the lives of others. It may be someone who is silently suffering, and finds a reason to keep living. It may remind someone to check on a friend, who disappeared. And, it joins together with the voices of other believers, creating a symphony heard around the world.
**I received an advanced copy of this book, and was asked to write an honest review. All opinions are my own.**