Selfish: How to unlearn the rules that are breaking you

by Turia Pitt

Hello dear reader! Thank you for choosing this book. Was it the cover that piqued your interest? That luscious hair of mine streaming over my shoulder in the cover photo?

Or … was it the title?

But why? Because, after all, who really wants to be *selfish*? Being called selfish is hurtful. It implies that you’re too
demanding, inconsiderate of others’ needs, that you fail to put others first. It states that you’re taking up too much space.

We’re told that being a good woman means being selfless. That we should give, care and carry without ever asking for rest or help.

But what if those rules are breaking us?

In Selfish, I flip the script on sacrifice, guilt and burnout. With honesty and humour (you know it’s true!) I explore the
cost of being selfless – and what happens when we dare to put ourselves first. This isn’t a book about ‘having it all’. It’s about having yourself. If you’re resentful, burned out, sick of people pleasing or simply pissed off …

This book is for you.

Genres: Birds, Nonfiction

264 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 7, 2025

Reviews

[EmG ReadsDaily · Rating 5 out of 5]

A powerful and relevant read which highlights the importance of emotional literacy, understanding of the mental load and what self-care can actually be.

I really enjoyed the audiobook, which is beautifully narrated by Turia.

[Christie Mack · Rating 4 out of 5]

I don’t usually gravitate toward memoirs, but when Selfish popped up as an online loan from my local library, I decided to give it a try. I started it in bed one evening and ended up finishing it the next morning over coffee and breakfast. Granted, I’m a fast reader—TBRs and reading challenges have never worked for me—but this book genuinely pulled me in more than I expected.

Turia Pitt’s reflections on selfishness are thoughtful, candid, and surprisingly relatable. There’s something compelling about stepping into someone else’s life and seeing how they navigate a concept we’re often taught to avoid. Her perspective is grounded, honest, and at times quietly provocative.

Overall, Selfish was a fascinating and unexpectedly enjoyable read—one that lingered with me long after I closed the final page.

[Nicole Gosciniak · Rating 5 out of 5]

Powerful read. Definitely made me think and reevaluate what self care means to me and that it’s not selfish, it’s essential.

[Natalie Jones · Rating 4 out of 5]

Loved the audio book. Loved Turia reading her story to me. Great for improving self awareness.