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Snap Strategies for Couples
Snap Strategies for 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls is full of quick solutions to every relationship’s most common problems. Dr. Lana Staheli and Dr. Pepper Schwartz offer 40 practical, immediate fixes (or "snaps”) that partners can use to end the fighting, leave the baggage behind, and move their relationship forward. Snap Strategies for Couples is based on an alternative approach to prevailing advice that every issue has to be talked about at length, and that partners need to understand each other’s every motivation and thought process. Instead, these tips get right to the daily difficulties that cause the fights, addressing unhelpful behaviors and giving solutions to move past them. These clear and sensible strategies offer couples an alternative to lengthy, expensive, emotionally charged therapy sessions, which can sometimes cause as many issues as they’re meant to solve. Dr. Staheli and Dr. Schwartz cover all manner of problems, from everyday bickering to serious differences of opinion, giving readers guidance throughout the course of a relationship. Helpful for both longtime couples who have hit relationship snags and for newly committed partners looking to build healthy habits, Snap Strategies for Couples has positive, useful fixes that everyone can use.
281 pages, Paperback
First published April 14, 2015
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January 4, 2015
**Received from NetGalley in exchange for honest review**
Snap Strategies should be on every couples' bookshelf whether you are having problems or not. The tips in this book are well written and are not hard to follow which gives you and your spouse an easy tool to fix your problems. Communication, or lack thereof, is one of the biggest problems most marriages have and this book helps get that line of communication open and back on track. Even if your marriage isn't suffering from any issues, this is still a good book to read because it helps you improve upon how you communicate with your spouse.
Snap Strategies should be on every couples' bookshelf whether you are having problems or not. The tips in this book are well written and are not hard to follow which gives you and your spouse an easy tool to fix your problems. Communication, or lack thereof, is one of the biggest problems most marriages have and this book helps get that line of communication open and back on track. Even if your marriage isn't suffering from any issues, this is still a good book to read because it helps you improve upon how you communicate with your spouse.
November 25, 2014
I'm not sure this self help book could have been more timely for me. Snap Strategies For Couples by Lana Staheli and Pepper Schwartz is an awesome compilation of stories and advice.
I'm 38 and have been married for 15 years. Like all couples we've been through a lot. We've made it through caring for my Mom through her shocking cancer diagnosis, then her rapid decline and eventual loss. We've made it through the death of my father who had a sudden heart attack. We've made through my 4 year battle with prescription pain pill addiction. (I've been clean 4 years)
What's crazy is we almost split up this year over simple things. Example, I feel like he doesn't know me.he feels like I don't listen. I cannot tell you how many AHA! Moments I had reading this insightful book. I highlighted sections I felt I could work on in yellow and in Orange for passages I wanted my husband to read. And he did read. I believe you too will be surprised at common some of the are when you may feel you are the only ones.
One of gems that really sticks in my head is" That's just the one I am, is a relationship destroyer" How true!
I'll be going back and referring to this for years to come. One thing this book showed me is how much my man and father of my loves me. Why? Because he's willing to read it too.
Thank you Netgalley for this copy in exchange for an honest review.
I'm 38 and have been married for 15 years. Like all couples we've been through a lot. We've made it through caring for my Mom through her shocking cancer diagnosis, then her rapid decline and eventual loss. We've made it through the death of my father who had a sudden heart attack. We've made through my 4 year battle with prescription pain pill addiction. (I've been clean 4 years)
What's crazy is we almost split up this year over simple things. Example, I feel like he doesn't know me.he feels like I don't listen. I cannot tell you how many AHA! Moments I had reading this insightful book. I highlighted sections I felt I could work on in yellow and in Orange for passages I wanted my husband to read. And he did read. I believe you too will be surprised at common some of the are when you may feel you are the only ones.
One of gems that really sticks in my head is" That's just the one I am, is a relationship destroyer" How true!
I'll be going back and referring to this for years to come. One thing this book showed me is how much my man and father of my loves me. Why? Because he's willing to read it too.
Thank you Netgalley for this copy in exchange for an honest review.
February 14, 2015
Definitely an interesting book. All of the advice seemed pretty sensible.
October 5, 2023
This book is so informative and very helpful! Many of the situations in the book were all things I could realistically see happening to any couple. My partner and I have already implemented many strategies and we haven’t finished the book yet. I love how advice is given after many years of practicing and working with clients. As a social worker I agreed with so many things written in this book. I’ve used some of the strategies for other people in my life too; some of these struggles happen with family members or friends. Every person should have a copy of this book!
April 10, 2015
What an easy to read, but easily put into life, book!
I started reading this and wound up reading quite a bit of the content out to my hubby. He and I have had our ups and downs but that is to be expected after 13 years. Some of the techniques in this book go along with the things we have been doing for about a year. Trying to stop cyclical arguments and bringing up past problems.
The way this is set up is to give you an issue and then explain how that issue affects a couple. Some of the issues were so easy to spot and to fix but others were ridiculously problematic! But that is how relationships work. What I loved most is that my hubby and I could read this together and we laughed together. We also were able to discuss what fixes would fit our lifestyle and which just did not work.
The lay out makes it easy to go through the book and pick which problems we wanted to tackle. After a year of working together I'm excited to say that there were not many that struck me as impossible. A year ago we would have had to start at the beginning of the book and probably slowly work our way through.
This is so well done that I think I'll buy a copy for myself and my hubby and re-read every year. The issues in this are things that every couple faces so it's nice to see the solutions to every day problems!
Received by author via Netgalley!
I started reading this and wound up reading quite a bit of the content out to my hubby. He and I have had our ups and downs but that is to be expected after 13 years. Some of the techniques in this book go along with the things we have been doing for about a year. Trying to stop cyclical arguments and bringing up past problems.
The way this is set up is to give you an issue and then explain how that issue affects a couple. Some of the issues were so easy to spot and to fix but others were ridiculously problematic! But that is how relationships work. What I loved most is that my hubby and I could read this together and we laughed together. We also were able to discuss what fixes would fit our lifestyle and which just did not work.
The lay out makes it easy to go through the book and pick which problems we wanted to tackle. After a year of working together I'm excited to say that there were not many that struck me as impossible. A year ago we would have had to start at the beginning of the book and probably slowly work our way through.
This is so well done that I think I'll buy a copy for myself and my hubby and re-read every year. The issues in this are things that every couple faces so it's nice to see the solutions to every day problems!
Received by author via Netgalley!
March 10, 2015
I am a mental health therapist and was interested in the premise of the book. I thought the advice seemed sensible and made sense. There were basic problems discussed in marriages with case examples and suggestions for improvement. It is worth reading. I do prefer workbook formats when working with couples but this still had beneficial information.
May 9, 2015
Love love love this book! I am a marriage therapist, and will definitely be recommending it to couples. It has quick, easy points and ways to get things back on track, including a case example for each Snap.
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