Confrontation: Challenging Others to Change

Hope for the Heart

by June Hunt

Do you need to confront someone who is doing something wrong? It can be awkward, even a little risky, but confrontation for the purpose of exposing what is wrong to establish what is right is biblical. In this Christian book, June Hunt, shows you how to confront someone for the purpose of conviction, correction, and a changed life. Christian counselor, June Hunt begins this minibook with a definitions section where she explains God's heart on confrontation. Learn the 5 methods of confrontation used within the Bible, discover the difference between hostile and assertive confrontations, and find out 4 common confrontation styles, which will help you realize whether you respond in a healthy way to confrontation or run away from it out of fear. June explains the characteristics of confrontation, indicating when you should and when you should not confront someone. She provides 4 proven confrontation strategies and provides examples and illustrations of appropriate/inappropriate ways to confront people. Features the 11 "commandments" of confrontation backed by scripture, covering topics such as respect, listening to others, guilt, and more. After you decide that you are going to confront someone, you must decide the best way to confront them so that the person can hear, understand, and want to change. Since different methods produce different results, the last section titled, "Steps to Solution," gives you practical advice on how to confront others in a way that is pleasing to God. It includes- 3 spiritual steps to use when confronting others A self-evaluation checklist to follow to make sure you are personally prepared for God-centered confrontation. How to use the "sandwich" technique to bring about positive change. Over 20 Do's and Don'ts related to healthy goal setting for confrontations. The difference between constructive and deconstructive confrontation. How to have a "crisis confrontation" for loved ones with chronic problems Answers common questions related to tough confrontations, such as How do I respond to someone who reacts defensively or with anger when confronted?" Life is full of confrontations-from birth to death. Confrontation is inevitable and impossible to escape. Therefore, the question is not, "Will confrontation occur?" but "How will it occur?" How will you choose to confront troublesome behavior in your own life, and how will you confront it in the lives of others? With June Hunt's Christian book, Confrontation, you will gain the peace, comfort, and confidence that come from a healthy understanding of confrontation.

96 pages, Kindle Edition

First published June 1, 2013

About the author

JUNE HUNT is founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry, and hosts the award-winning radio program by the same name. Her numerous books include Seeing Yourself Through God’s Eyes, Healing the Hurting Heart, Bonding with Your Teen through Boundaries, and Hope for Your Heart.

Reviews

[Audrey]

Lots of wise advice and practical tips, but also several misapplied passages of scripture.

[Beth Peninger]

I hate confrontation. I mean, who actually LIKES it? But it's a fact of life, a reality so I want to make sure I do it well - with respect, clarity, and confidence. And because I am also a believer in God I also want to do it under his direction and suggestions. A few years ago I read a life-changing book for me personally about biblical conflict resolution but every so often I need a refresher. This book was a much needed refresher right now. I'm in the midst of a conflict that is going to require confrontation and I want to make sure I am doing my part well. I am only responsible for my part.
This short but powerful book about confrontation, biblically, had several great reminders and new points for me. It outlined 4 styles of confrontation and gave evidence for why one of them is the most effective, and respectful, out of the 4. I really appreciated how Hunt unpacked each and made the case for the most effective one, biblical assertive confrontation. I just have to keep reminding the "fixer" part of my attitude that I am only responsible for myself and my part - I can't fix anyone else. *grin*