This is 80-year old Varah’s telling of his life with a focus on how he came to set up and run the Samaritans. The book spans several decades of massive social and cultural change from 1911 when he was born to the early 1990s when this was written. He talks about his early life, which seems to be driven by circumstance and opportunity and then, into his adulthood, which is driven by conviction and calling and his life begins to take shape around a clear and urgent purpose: to recognise the damaging culture of stigma, taboo, and secrecy around sex, drug addiction, homosexuality, and suicide, and shine a light on them.
He stands out in his recognition that something in the status quo wasn’t right - that it was constructed and therefore could be changed - and then his motivation and determination to act on it. It’s probably difficult now to fully appreciate now how radical that was. His account also shows that the founding of the Samaritans wasn’t as a fully-formed polished idea but as something practical and necessary that grew as an answer to human need as he encountered it.
The book is surprisingly readable: his voice is direct, anecdotal, and self-confident. He does not dwell on self-analysis and introspection (which is surprising given how much thinking he did around listening and caring for others). Some of his, by modern standards, less appealing attitudes and anecdotes reflect the era he lived in, but I think he voluntarily reveals himself as an unapologetically mixed bag. Still, he created something of enormous value - an undeniable good - even if the methods and language around it have developed considerably.