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Why God Is a Woman is a collection of poems written about a magical island where women rule and men are the second sex. It is also the story of a boy who, exiled from the island because he could not abide by its sexist laws, looks back with both nostalgia and bitterness and Why does God have to be a woman? Celebrated prose poet Nin Andrews creates a world both fantastic and familiar where all the myths, logic, and institutions support the dominance of women. Nin Andrews 's books include The Book of Orgasms and Sleeping with Houdini .

123 pages, Paperback

First published May 12, 2015

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Profile Image for Natalie.
641 reviews3,850 followers
June 5, 2020
Two things instantly convinced me to pick this up:

1) Why God Is a Woman is a collection of poems written about a magical island where women rule and men are the second sex. Exploring that concept seemed to be right up my alley.
2) Also, that stunningly beautiful cover.

Going into this, I was hoping for a collection focused heavily on equal rights, pay, respect, and representation, but Why God Is a Woman didn't really know where to put its focus. It rather relies more on the superficial side of the movement: barbies (or Boberto dolls as they're called in this collection), weddings, genital tattoos (for real), Angelina Jolie, wingspan (I'm???)... And I was left feeling quite disappointed.

Maybe it was just that I had such different expectations going into this, but Why God Is a Woman did not live up to the hype I had set up for it in my mind.

I did, however, enjoy a few poems and quotes that I would like to share next:

On the Island where I come from

parents worship their daughters. They invest all their hopes for the future in their girls, spoiling them rotten, letting them do and have whatever they wish. When I was a boy, my family was no different. While my sisters were allowed to go out night after night, I was never out of my parents’ sight. Like all proper Island boys, I knew I had to remain a virgin. I had to keep my reputation as clean as freshly bleached linen. But by the time I was twelve, I wanted to go out on the town. I wanted to fly around after dark. It’s not fair, I complained. My sisters don’t have to abide by the rules. Why do I? My father said what he always said. You aren’t a girl, son. God didn’t make us equals.

Until I was eighteen, my father kept me indoors, checking on me after he turned out the lights. A homemaker and charm-school graduate himself, he was forever tidying the kitchen and garden as well as my hair, my wardrobe and my changing moods. He knew when the first sign of desire crossed my mind, and when I kissed my neighbor, Angelina, on the sly. He knew when I smoked my first cigarette and drank beer with the cool kids after school. And he knew when anger flared beneath my obedient smile. Anger, he said, is unbecoming of a proper Island boy.”

“Alone, he stared at the wall, and when asked if he was okay, he didn’t answer. He couldn’t. He was drowning in a sorrow so deep, the words would not rise from his throat.”


On the Island where I come from

the first signs of puberty happen at night. A boy wakes to feel a fire inside him, like an ache, a hunger, an indefinable wish, followed by the first prickling of wings. It hurts so much when the wings break through the flesh, each wing-bone a knife in the skin. (Picture it as the sharp beak of a baby bird pecking its shell. Only the shell is a skin full of nerve-endings.) Then there is the blood, the shame, the need to cover it up so no one will know. This, the boy learns, is how it feels to be a man. Nothing he does, says, or prays can ever make him feel safe from what he has become.”

Why God Is a Woman

“When I was a boy, did I already tell you this? I had an ongoing conversation with God. I spoke to God loudly at the end of each day, complaining about the women who ran my life: my sisters, my mother, my aunt. One day my mother told me that God is a woman. She said someday I would understand.”
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Overall, this collection was a bit of a let down because of its huge potential to succeed with a fascinating question such as: Why God Is a Woman. But you can't always get what you want. And I'll still be on the look out for more feminist poetry to enjoy.

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Profile Image for Whitney Atkinson.
1,064 reviews13.2k followers
November 17, 2018
This book was just so damn cool. But sad? But cool. I started this several months ago and lost interest, but when I picked it back up again, I devoured it. This reads more like flash fiction and vignettes more than poetry, and it also somewhat follows a storyline of a character, but each piece is still distinct and gorgeous. This book was mindboggling and sad and so different than any feminist piece I've ever read. I would love to discuss it in a class, and I'm tempted to buy a copy for my feminist rhet professor.

but ariana was right. god is a woman
Profile Image for Sara Dahaabović.
280 reviews96 followers
March 10, 2018
As Aristea, the great Island philosopher, pointed out centuries ago, men are simply unfinished ladies.
Profile Image for ink.
532 reviews85 followers
October 1, 2018
Okay, that was just so fucking good. Simply fascinating. Unbelievably groundbreaking.

THIS WAS SO EYE-OPENING. It played out some main points so boldly and so simply that when you read it, you would say "shit, that's really what we go through as women.". LIKE IT WAS SO SIMPLE. like how?? SO. SIMPLE. YET. SO. ACCURATE. AND. PRECISE.

I have to admit that, for a moment, I was so lost in the book. I found myself in the streets she described. I found myself as the first ruling sex. I found that my gender is just as strong in real life as it is described in the book. The book was so open about so many issues women face in our society that was presented in a man's situation. It talked about sex, health, work, social roles and responsibilities, feelings, hygiene, beauty, and mutilation of ones body for the sake of being desired by the opposite sex. like, are you fucking kidding me? holy shit this book was too fucking good.

As I read along, all I saw was bronze men with thick thighs and large biceps worrying in the mirror if they're desired enough to fit women's sexual stipulations. I saw strong looking men with large feathery wings in the arms of a woman, curled into a ball and chewing with juice dripping on their chins as they ate plums from a woman's strong hands. I saw men staying at home to cook and clean and take care of the children as women came back every night from working all day in large offices and high buildings. It was a beautiful and fascinating thing to imagine. This book is one of my top favorites. Loved the story, loved the idea, loved the protagonist, absolutely loved everything about this book. I love this book. You should love this book. I love this book. (again)
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40 reviews98 followers
April 24, 2017
this is what sexist men think will happen with the world if feminism starts to work. it's their worst nightmare.
brilliant.
Profile Image for Shanna Matheo.
372 reviews39 followers
March 14, 2017
After spending the last two years doing the reading equivalent of sitting on the couch pigging out on junk-food, then washing it down with orange soda and topping it off cupcakes and ice-cream for desert, I decided that 2017 would be the year I whip my reading habits back into shape. Because while the stuff I was reading was delicious, it wasn't very nutritious...for my brain. I needed to detox and get some kale in my reading diet.

Why God Is a Woman isn't kale though, it's more like quinoa. New, different, good for you, a little nutty and surprisingly tasty. I'm glad I gave it a try.

I haven't read much poetry outside of required reading at school and greeting cards. And I definitely had not ever read prose poetry before, but I picked this one up on the recommendation of Jen Campbell. She described prose poetry as walking through an art exhibition. You don't blaze through it quickly. You sort of wander and stop and observe each piece, letting it impress upon you. And with that approach, I found I really enjoyed this book. It's funny and sharp witted, but also insightful and thought provoking.

I feel healthier already.
Profile Image for Kazen.
1,475 reviews314 followers
September 22, 2016
Jen Campbell defines prose poetry perfectly: instead of watching the movie of a novel it's like wandering through an art gallery, pausing before each painting to soak up its beauty. The poems are indeed beautiful, but also so much more - in turns deep and funny and skewering.

"What am I doing here? he asked God. And Why am I so small compared to the sky, so hairless and weak compared to the rest of the animals, so mortal and lost compared to You? Night after night man raged against God, until at last She grew tired of listening to him. And so God created orgasms. After every orgasm, man fell into a sleep, deeper than the sleep of stones. And God at last was able to gain some peace of mind. But that was when woman began to complain."

In this world men are said to be descended from angels, and grow wings once they reach puberty. They sprout from their backs leaving embarrassing trails of blood, and the men use absorbent pads to hide their shame. Women are said to have risen from the sea and are the elite, the politicians, any one that holds any scrap of power. By turning gender roles on their head Andrews does more than merely satirize, she shows that binary gender norms are by their nature arbitrary and absurd.

If you need a little more convincing check out Jen's review on youtube but if not - go. Read. It's amazing.
Profile Image for Emilie.
131 reviews46 followers
May 25, 2017
At first I really enjoyed this book, but then, it wasn't as good as the beginning and I struggled to finish it.
I have to admit that I don't really know what to say about it.
Profile Image for Jennifer (Insert Lit Pun).
314 reviews2,220 followers
March 29, 2017
Women rule on the island where our unnamed male narrator grew up, and men are the subservient, objectified sex. Frankly, I didn't think the familiar device of gender switching would be that powerful for me, but it was. These prose poems look at what it means to live in fear of bodily harm and to understand that your appearance is your primary source of worth. And Andrews also explores how myth and storytelling teach us our place in the world. An accessible, elegant, thought-provoking collection.
Profile Image for Courtney N.
230 reviews68 followers
September 17, 2025
3.5 stars ⭐️

A book written on Opposite Day is the best way I can sum this up. We follow a boy who lives on an island where women rule and men are the oppressed gender. Interesting! (And a nice break from reality!)

What I found so poignant and impactful about this set of vignettes (they’re called poems but I would classify them as vignettes or even journal entries?) is that if you removed any pronouns from the book or any mention of gender/sex, you would assume it was from a young girl’s perspective. So while you were made to feel so bad for the boys/men in this fictional world, you realize this is just a normal life for a girl/woman in reality.

This was clever and really put things into perspective. I flew through this and enjoyed the writing a lot.

This was very close to being a 4 star read because I really did love it, I just wish it was less on the edge of being strange and leaned more into the things that were impactful/emotional. The magical realism aspects almost felt out of place / unnecessary / underdone. (Or maybe I just didn’t understand it fully, who knows).

Overall, I really enjoyed this and recommend for a quick, thought provoking read.
Profile Image for Jessie Pietens.
277 reviews24 followers
February 13, 2020
Yeeesss, this was just what I needed to get me out of my book slump. This was a good read. I really enjoyed the books comedy and whimsical feel, but also appreciated its commentary. It was not like any other poetry collection I had read before and I was pleased to read a poetry collection that had a real chronological kind of story running through it. It wasn’t the most touching or beautiful poetry I ever read, but it was definitely worth reading.
Profile Image for julia ☾ (sirius' version).
139 reviews111 followers
July 15, 2024
★★★☆☆ - 3 stars
'𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒂𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒏𝒔, 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒓𝒆𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒆'

'𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒅𝒂𝒚 𝒎𝒚 𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒈𝒐𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏. 𝒔𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒊𝒅 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒂𝒚 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒅.'
Profile Image for Sarah.
563 reviews8 followers
February 9, 2020
Topsy-turvy prose poems flipping our gendered history on its head. This is one of those books that I’d love to discuss in a classroom setting. I felt like there were layers of meaning and nuance that I missed, correlations or parallels that passed me by. I enjoyed them for the way they twisted my brain.
Profile Image for Paras2.
327 reviews69 followers
May 31, 2017
finally finished it.
Okay so this was basically an upside-down world. men as second sex and women ruled. metaphors and all the plays with women's issues were well-thought but sometimes it just didn't make sense.
anyway I'd recommend it to feminist-literature-seekers. :)
Profile Image for Maggie.
53 reviews
February 1, 2019
This was very hard and very uncomfortable to read. Not because of how it was written , but because of how the theme was showcased.

This book is a double-edged knife. Because it does show men that they could have been in the role of women very easily if god was a woman , but it feeds aggressive feminists and shows women in very bad light, which is no good.



To me, this book was not feminist , but more of a revenge book for women who suffered from men and for them to feel retribution through the book.
Profile Image for Meonicorn (The Bookish Land).
167 reviews236 followers
February 28, 2018
This is my first attempt to read prose poetry, the writing is lyrical and I quite liked it. The first few poems was okay but after that the world built up perfectly and the poems are getting more and more fascinating.

The book described a women centralized island where men basically don't have rights and live as minorities. This society has issues that mirrored our real world. Sometimes I felt the setting was thrilling and uncomfortable, but I guess that's part of the point about this collection.
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342 reviews176 followers
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April 6, 2022
You see I love the concept of the title. HOWEVER THE ONLY REASON IF GOD IS REAL (sorry I’m not a believer) I SAY THEY ARE A MAN BECAUSE WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND AS WOMAN THOUGHT PERIODS WAS AMAZING IDEA FOR GIRLS TO GO THROUGH ONCE A MONTH AND ENDURE IMMENSE AMOUNT OF PAIN MORE THAN MEN. IDK WHO CREATED THIS WORLD BUT THE MOST OF HAD A DEEP HATRED FOR US WOMEN.
(Please if this offenses you in any sort of way please just scroll and never look upon this again.
Profile Image for Dezra Bennett.
135 reviews10 followers
December 5, 2018
The writing was done beautifully and I loved the twist on this. It messed with my head at first but once it all kind of registered I was unable to put it down.
Profile Image for Britney Tran.
17 reviews1 follower
September 29, 2025
I liked the concept at first but then it went on and on for way longer than it needed
Profile Image for Katie.
434 reviews103 followers
May 12, 2017
About:
Why God is a Woman is a poetry collection that was written by Nin Andrews and published in 2015. This is a collection of prose poetry all about an island where women are the dominant sex. Through turning our current day gender inequality issues upside down Andrews explores feminist issues, but with men as the victims in this case.


Did I Like It?:
In some ways I liked it a bit and then in others it just didn’t do it for me. I think the idea of the collection was very clever and some of the feminist issues she talked about were important such as inequality in the workplace, our male dominant government, our male dominant religious stories, women being mostly appreciated for their bodies and the shaming of certain female body issues. While all these things she brought up were important, I feel like she could have delved deeper. I think there are some issues that typical feminism just doesn’t bring up and perhaps that’s not the fault of Nin Andrews in this collection. Other than that I just didn’t find her writing beautiful. It didn’t stand out to me. The collection also didn’t emotionally impact me, which is usually what gets me to like poetry. I gave this collection three stars out of five. It’s probably a weak three stars, but I can’t deny that the idea was clever and that the issues talked about have importance. I suppose I just wanted more. More from the subject matter and more from the writing.

Do I Recommend It?:
If this collection still appeals to you, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to pick it up. I know there are people who really like it and you could be one of them.
Profile Image for Inside My Library Mind.
703 reviews139 followers
January 15, 2017
My full review on Inside My Library Mind

I actually really enjoyed this. While it may seem like the message of the book might be too much in your face, it really is not. It is insightful, smart, powerful, witty, but also quite funny at times.
I do admit some of the poems went a bit over my head, and some I just plainly did not get. This was still a very enjoyable reading experience for me and I do recommend it.

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258 reviews87 followers
September 18, 2017
okay but my rating is a little bit tricky because personally, i think that this book isn't bad. it's good and a straight offense to patriarchy system of government.

but i found that there are aspects in this book unnecessary and very dragging, like the topic about all women are called angelina (i still don't get it though) or men growing wings as a representation of women having period. it's all too much.

plus, i got bored halfway reading it.
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460 reviews26 followers
March 30, 2017
This is one of the most ridiculous, unsettling, beautiful books ever. It shows how everything we believe normal in our society is instead a complete bunch of nonsense. Please do yourself a favour and read it.
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65 reviews
April 11, 2023
"I spoke to God loudly at the end of each day, complaining about the women who ran my life: my sisters, my mother, my aunt. One day my mother told me that God is a woman. She said someday I would understand."
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