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Love, Me: A Letter to Black Women in a Toxic Country, Career, and Relationship
From a former MSNBC host and NAACP award-winning podcaster, a deeply personal narrative for Black women about their well-being and place in a failing democracy.
Not only are Black women not being centered, we’re being silenced. There are fewer conscious Black women on TV and in leadership roles across all industries because a MAGA invented culture war has made Black women the face of the enemy. As a result, our history is being whitewashed and our contribution downplayed. Efforts persist to erase our experiences entirely. We are fighting for love, our lives, and livelihoods while a burning America continues to stand on our shoulders as it has throughout time.
In Love Me Black , journalist Tiffany D. Cross brings to life the souls of Black women today. This is the story of how we, women of accomplishment and endurance, in the face of a failing Republic, dwindling opportunity, and elusive love relentlessly use our humanity to preserve ourselves, our culture, and civilization.
In a hard-hitting cultural analysis and penetrating prose, Cross takes you on an intimate journey of the internal and external battles we are all collectively facing. With a pithy blend of humor and pathos, she illuminates the personhood and critiques the politics of being a Black woman. From a break-up where she cried the entire flight from Miami to New York, to her tumultuous exit from MSNBC, and a call from her hospital sickbed that put her health and career on the line, Cross narrates not just her story, but our story.
Bold and provocative, Cross invites Black women to go from hopeless to hopeful as we fight to achieve our dreams, secure the love we deserve, and preserve the home we built. We must repair our personhood and society, and that starts with giving ourselves something to believe in.
Not only are Black women not being centered, we’re being silenced. There are fewer conscious Black women on TV and in leadership roles across all industries because a MAGA invented culture war has made Black women the face of the enemy. As a result, our history is being whitewashed and our contribution downplayed. Efforts persist to erase our experiences entirely. We are fighting for love, our lives, and livelihoods while a burning America continues to stand on our shoulders as it has throughout time.
In Love Me Black , journalist Tiffany D. Cross brings to life the souls of Black women today. This is the story of how we, women of accomplishment and endurance, in the face of a failing Republic, dwindling opportunity, and elusive love relentlessly use our humanity to preserve ourselves, our culture, and civilization.
In a hard-hitting cultural analysis and penetrating prose, Cross takes you on an intimate journey of the internal and external battles we are all collectively facing. With a pithy blend of humor and pathos, she illuminates the personhood and critiques the politics of being a Black woman. From a break-up where she cried the entire flight from Miami to New York, to her tumultuous exit from MSNBC, and a call from her hospital sickbed that put her health and career on the line, Cross narrates not just her story, but our story.
Bold and provocative, Cross invites Black women to go from hopeless to hopeful as we fight to achieve our dreams, secure the love we deserve, and preserve the home we built. We must repair our personhood and society, and that starts with giving ourselves something to believe in.
384 pages, Hardcover
Published May 5, 2026
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April 23, 2026
As a black woman, strong is just a part of who I am. It’s almost expected of me. But this book highlights all the way this country, our history, and even our own thought have shaped us. It showed me that being strong doesn’t also mean I can’t be loved, protected, and provided for. Thank you Tiffany for sharing your ups and downs as I process my own!
May 14, 2026
4✨ I always say that I struggle with writing reviews for memoirs as people are brave for sharing their own stories. This book is no different. Journalist, Tiffany Cross was fired from MSNBC in a horrible and unjust way. The first half of the book covers her experience in the media as a Black woman and the second half examines a relationship she is in after her firing. Intertwined in her stories are statistics and facts related to the disparities that Black women face due to the impact of racism and white supremacy in America. She also insets beautiful little letters of encouragement to Black women.
This book was written not just by but also FOR Black women. It reminds us to stay strong and yet still keep our softness. It’s precious when we remember that strongest among us also needs encouragement. Thanks to NetGalley and Hachette Audio for this advanced listener copy. All opinions are my own.
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This book was written not just by but also FOR Black women. It reminds us to stay strong and yet still keep our softness. It’s precious when we remember that strongest among us also needs encouragement. Thanks to NetGalley and Hachette Audio for this advanced listener copy. All opinions are my own.
Version: 🎧
May 5, 2026
Love, Me: A Letter to Black Women in a Toxic Country, Career, and Relationship by Tiffany D. Cross is phenomenal. Every page of this incredibly powerful book is highlight-worthy!
Love, Me is a testament to the strength and resilience of Black women. This book resonated so deeply and evoked every single emotion within me. A huge thank you to Grand Central Publishing and NetGalley for the eARC of the book.
A fiercely evocative, timely, and necessary read for all Black women. But also for anyone who wants an accurate version of how Black women have long been underappreciated, unrecognized, and undervalued in America since its inception. In Love, Me Tiffany D. Cross champions every Black woman. She sees, hears, feels, and understands us because she is us. More times than not, Black women face injustices, inequities, betrayal, abuse, and heartbreak in our careers, relationships, politics, healthcare, and throughout society at large on a daily basis. Cross puts a spotlight on all of these challenges and brings them completely to the forefront. But she also offers up validation, empowerment, self-love, hope, and a path toward healing.
Love, Me is a brilliantly written, well-researched, highly affirming book. I absolutely loved reading it. Honestly, this book will stay with me for a long time. Black women have always had to fight for everything that we have wanted to accomplish and achieve. Not only have we learned to navigate and survive for centuries, but we have endured and thrived. Tiffany D. Cross honors that, she uplifts it, and gives all of us the confidence to keep moving forward. A book that should be on every reading list.
Love, Me is a testament to the strength and resilience of Black women. This book resonated so deeply and evoked every single emotion within me. A huge thank you to Grand Central Publishing and NetGalley for the eARC of the book.
A fiercely evocative, timely, and necessary read for all Black women. But also for anyone who wants an accurate version of how Black women have long been underappreciated, unrecognized, and undervalued in America since its inception. In Love, Me Tiffany D. Cross champions every Black woman. She sees, hears, feels, and understands us because she is us. More times than not, Black women face injustices, inequities, betrayal, abuse, and heartbreak in our careers, relationships, politics, healthcare, and throughout society at large on a daily basis. Cross puts a spotlight on all of these challenges and brings them completely to the forefront. But she also offers up validation, empowerment, self-love, hope, and a path toward healing.
Love, Me is a brilliantly written, well-researched, highly affirming book. I absolutely loved reading it. Honestly, this book will stay with me for a long time. Black women have always had to fight for everything that we have wanted to accomplish and achieve. Not only have we learned to navigate and survive for centuries, but we have endured and thrived. Tiffany D. Cross honors that, she uplifts it, and gives all of us the confidence to keep moving forward. A book that should be on every reading list.
June 7, 2026
This book was not for me. I mean that literally: it's addressed to Black women (in the States). This is a memoir; someone telling their truth.
I feel that the synopsis doesn't quite match the reality. The book is a bit scattered; it's more of an autobiography with some commentary and hot takes throughout. There's also some odd suggestions about DNA near the end. We don't have to draw on pseudoscience to make our points.
I think this will be engaging for the readership and others, too. While Cross centres the female Black American experience, a lot of the material transcends race and possibly gender. We've all known a few of the guys she's dated. I'm also cautious about anchoring so much of one person's experience on an entire group. These are case examples that certain folks can empathize or sympathize with.
If you're looking for a takedown of American culture at the intersection of gender and race and specifically about Black woman, this isn't quite it, but you'll come away with a few stories that will help make understanding these intersections easier.
I loved that Cross herself narrates the text. You can feel the authenticity and the passion and the truth coming through.
Thank you to NetGalley and Hachette Audio | Legacy Lit for the advance copy of the audiobook.
I feel that the synopsis doesn't quite match the reality. The book is a bit scattered; it's more of an autobiography with some commentary and hot takes throughout. There's also some odd suggestions about DNA near the end. We don't have to draw on pseudoscience to make our points.
I think this will be engaging for the readership and others, too. While Cross centres the female Black American experience, a lot of the material transcends race and possibly gender. We've all known a few of the guys she's dated. I'm also cautious about anchoring so much of one person's experience on an entire group. These are case examples that certain folks can empathize or sympathize with.
If you're looking for a takedown of American culture at the intersection of gender and race and specifically about Black woman, this isn't quite it, but you'll come away with a few stories that will help make understanding these intersections easier.
I loved that Cross herself narrates the text. You can feel the authenticity and the passion and the truth coming through.
Thank you to NetGalley and Hachette Audio | Legacy Lit for the advance copy of the audiobook.
June 22, 2026
Raw and unfiltered. Best read on my summer list.
As much as I loved watching Tiffany Cross on Saturday mornings, "Crossfire", I feel the same way about her book. Never one to shy away from the difficult topics, she shares her personal and professional journey in a raw, unfiltered, brutally honest and vulnerable way that the readerwill find connection professionally, personally and spiritually.
The book explores the balancing act between our own desires and society's reality. Our fears and strengths. Of unrequited love and broken dreams. It draws you in, captures your attention and causes a deeper self-reflection. We can all see ourselves woven throughout the pages of this book, whether its painful childhoods, careers denied, or devastating heartbreak. It is a great "comeback story" from a real fighter. I have been recommending it as a summer reading to everyone in my circle. There's a great deal to learn about our personal journey in this one.
As much as I loved watching Tiffany Cross on Saturday mornings, "Crossfire", I feel the same way about her book. Never one to shy away from the difficult topics, she shares her personal and professional journey in a raw, unfiltered, brutally honest and vulnerable way that the readerwill find connection professionally, personally and spiritually.
The book explores the balancing act between our own desires and society's reality. Our fears and strengths. Of unrequited love and broken dreams. It draws you in, captures your attention and causes a deeper self-reflection. We can all see ourselves woven throughout the pages of this book, whether its painful childhoods, careers denied, or devastating heartbreak. It is a great "comeback story" from a real fighter. I have been recommending it as a summer reading to everyone in my circle. There's a great deal to learn about our personal journey in this one.
May 24, 2026
Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for this ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Tiffany Cross is a powerhouse and her letter to Black women was truly what I needed as I navigate this current administration, in grad school while I try to collect myself politically to do something. Cross does an amazing job of uplifting Black women and lovingly gets us together. It's a nice change in the realm of political books. I have read many political books by non Black women. We needed someone to speak for us, about us and to us. Cross does an amazing job of that. Thank you Cross, for the gentle nudge to keep it pushin'.
The Gray story line was a bit much, it's my only dislike of the book. I kept wanting Gray to pack up his krimson and never be heard from again.
All in all one of my favorite reads of 2026!
Tiffany Cross is a powerhouse and her letter to Black women was truly what I needed as I navigate this current administration, in grad school while I try to collect myself politically to do something. Cross does an amazing job of uplifting Black women and lovingly gets us together. It's a nice change in the realm of political books. I have read many political books by non Black women. We needed someone to speak for us, about us and to us. Cross does an amazing job of that. Thank you Cross, for the gentle nudge to keep it pushin'.
The Gray story line was a bit much, it's my only dislike of the book. I kept wanting Gray to pack up his krimson and never be heard from again.
All in all one of my favorite reads of 2026!
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May 5, 2026
I listened to this today and babyyyy… thank you, Tiffany! Hearing these letters read in her voice was truly an experience. The stories she shared, the truths she uncovered, and the love woven into every word it all hit deep.
As Black women, we carry so much, often without pause, so to feel seen, understood, and embraced like this meant everything. Tiffany opened the door to both her personal and professional life, allowing us to see the world through her lens a perspective that reflects so many of our own.
This was more than just an audiobook; it was a moment. The production was flawless, the delivery was powerful, and honestly… no notes.
As Black women, we carry so much, often without pause, so to feel seen, understood, and embraced like this meant everything. Tiffany opened the door to both her personal and professional life, allowing us to see the world through her lens a perspective that reflects so many of our own.
This was more than just an audiobook; it was a moment. The production was flawless, the delivery was powerful, and honestly… no notes.
June 22, 2026
4 🌟 Audiobook review
Not exactly marketed as a memoir but definitely gives memoir vibes. Tiffany explores her time as MSNBC, friendship, romantic relationships, expectations, struggles and triumphs. Connecting those stories with experiences shared by many Black women while sprinkling in facts and stats. I found myself nodding along during parts of the book and looking back on my own lived experiences.
Overall a solid audiobook, read by the author btw. My only gripe, hence the 4 star vs 5 star, is the emphasis on Tiffany's past situationship. I just think it was given too much real estate in the book.
Not exactly marketed as a memoir but definitely gives memoir vibes. Tiffany explores her time as MSNBC, friendship, romantic relationships, expectations, struggles and triumphs. Connecting those stories with experiences shared by many Black women while sprinkling in facts and stats. I found myself nodding along during parts of the book and looking back on my own lived experiences.
Overall a solid audiobook, read by the author btw. My only gripe, hence the 4 star vs 5 star, is the emphasis on Tiffany's past situationship. I just think it was given too much real estate in the book.
May 18, 2026
WHEW I saw myself in this book all through out its pages. Tiffany opens up and bears her soul and scars to us other Black women. Describing how she felt navigating her career, I felt it, but I mostly felt when she talked about a man she fell deeply in love with and he didn't feel that same. I stopped reading and I begin to weep. Why was this our universal experience? Maybe there really was something wrong with me? But no, I know who I am, the value I bring to the table. This was a much needed love letter.
May 20, 2026
This book was really good. She was raw, unapologetic and emotional with her journey, her stories, her life and at the same time affirming to black women, that she sees us and we are going thru this and so many things together. I had no idea about how the ending of her show all went down , BTS, wow just wow. Being blindsided and backstabbed in your career by your own people is one hell of a hand to play. I look forward to what’s next for Tiffany Cross because whatever she does it will be amazing to witness.
May 24, 2026
I listened to "Love, Me: A Letter to Black Women in a Toxic Country, Career, and Relationship" by Tiffany D. Cross, self-narrated. Thank you Tiffany for letting everyone know how Black Women are currently feeling in these not so United States. For you to express your true health issues, emotions, failed relationships, and therapy experiences, takes courage and I love and appreciate you. I loved how you broke your letter into three sections: 1. Our Labor 2. Our Land 3. Our Love. Thank you for giving a voice to our feelings. ✊🏾🇺🇲✊🏾
April 27, 2026
Loved this! I was able to download an early release audio from NetGalley. I really enjoyed listening. As an African American woman I found so much familiarity in what Tiffany had to say. I didn't know who Tiffany Cross was before reading this book, but I was impressed by her stream of conscious thoughts around work, family, belonging, and so much more. This reminded me alot of Austin Channing Brown's Full of Myself.
May 10, 2026
4.5⭐️ of 5⭐️
Oddly came at a very timely moment as I have been dealing with certain things. I think many of us Black Women have felt these things / experienced them in some way. Truly can be exhausting dealing, but i wouldn’t trade being a Black Woman for anything because really, nothing like it and I am super lucky i get to live it, even when it all makes my ass tired.
Oddly came at a very timely moment as I have been dealing with certain things. I think many of us Black Women have felt these things / experienced them in some way. Truly can be exhausting dealing, but i wouldn’t trade being a Black Woman for anything because really, nothing like it and I am super lucky i get to live it, even when it all makes my ass tired.
May 20, 2026
I am a fan of Tiffany’s from the CrossConnection and her many political commentary appearances. I know her to be an “in your face” truth-teller. But I was taken aback by how much I enjoyed and needed to read her book right now! There were times when I couldn't put it down. It is exceptionally written. It’s raw, revealing, relatable and substantiated by facts and history. I LOVED it!
Review of advance copy received from NetGalley
This is a powerful memoir. As a white woman, I’m not the target audience, but these stories are so important to listen to, take in, understand, and use this information to advocate for the Black women around us.
Thank you Netgalley and Hatchette Audio for the review ALC.
Thank you Netgalley and Hatchette Audio for the review ALC.
June 8, 2026
I finished Tiffany Cross’s book. She claims it’s not a memoir or about trauma which it definitely is. What it is NOT is a love letter to black women. Because if this is love letter, then return to sender.
May 26, 2026
I felt so seen by this one.
May 31, 2026
Excellent. I've never felt so seen and identified.
June 2, 2026
Moving
This poured into me. Moving and inspiring. Highly recommend. I could not put it down. This is one for the bookshelf.
This poured into me. Moving and inspiring. Highly recommend. I could not put it down. This is one for the bookshelf.
June 9, 2026
I love it! This book was part heartache and part triumph. This books was reflective and soul stirring. Thank you for writing this love letter to Black women.
June 9, 2026
Audiobook
May 24, 2026
Title + Author: Love, Me: A Letter to Black Women in a Toxic Country, Career, and Relationship — Tiffany Cross
Format: Audiobook
Why I picked this up:
I wanted to read a book to me.
What it’s really about:
The book, split into three parts, explores Tiffany's upbringing, her rise as a trusted voice delivering culture, politics, truth, and critical thought in the journalism space, as well as her reflections on her romantic relationships.
What stood out:
How deeply human Tiffany is.
Who this is for / not for:
This book was written for Black women.
Bottom line:
A great listen that does a fantastic job of bringing the listener or reader up to speed on who Tiffany Cross is and what life experiences have shaped her.
Thank you to NetGalley and Hachette Audio for this advanced reader/listener's copy (ALC).
Format: Audiobook
Why I picked this up:
I wanted to read a book to me.
What it’s really about:
The book, split into three parts, explores Tiffany's upbringing, her rise as a trusted voice delivering culture, politics, truth, and critical thought in the journalism space, as well as her reflections on her romantic relationships.
What stood out:
How deeply human Tiffany is.
Who this is for / not for:
This book was written for Black women.
Bottom line:
A great listen that does a fantastic job of bringing the listener or reader up to speed on who Tiffany Cross is and what life experiences have shaped her.
Thank you to NetGalley and Hachette Audio for this advanced reader/listener's copy (ALC).
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