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Boundaries: Loving Again After a Pathological Relationship
Boundaries: Loving Again After a Pathological Relationship, from the author of the book and website Psychopaths and Love
Were you involved with a psychopath or other manipulator or abuser? Are you thinking about taking another chance at love? This is the book for you. It gets to the heart of the matter of boundaries for survivors of pathological relationships.
When you create boundaries you take a stand for yourself and your life, and communicate your worth to others in a real and practical way. This short book is filled with practical wisdom and useful tips. It will walk you through the process of creating boundaries from start to finish.
Find your courage. Love yourself enough to live in an authentic way. Stop caring so much what everybody else thinks of you, and start caring about what you think of you.
Were you involved with a psychopath or other manipulator or abuser? Are you thinking about taking another chance at love? This is the book for you. It gets to the heart of the matter of boundaries for survivors of pathological relationships.
When you create boundaries you take a stand for yourself and your life, and communicate your worth to others in a real and practical way. This short book is filled with practical wisdom and useful tips. It will walk you through the process of creating boundaries from start to finish.
Find your courage. Love yourself enough to live in an authentic way. Stop caring so much what everybody else thinks of you, and start caring about what you think of you.
- GenresSelf HelpPsychology
49 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 10, 2014
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May 16, 2018
short but powerful
this book distills the most important aspects of boundaries into a short, easy read. i am glad i read it and i think i will come back to it again.
this book distills the most important aspects of boundaries into a short, easy read. i am glad i read it and i think i will come back to it again.
February 20, 2019
Powerful and thought provoking
Excellent hard hitting short read. Quite a lot of repetition, however if like me you are still raw following a breakdown in relationship, you need the repetition so that the message gets through. I cried when I first read it because it made me realise I have been a "doormat" all my life. Never one for confrontation and so wrapped up in wanting to be loved, liked and to please others. My feelings and self worth have never been considered in my mission to please others. I look in the mirror and see an unappreciated, unloved and lost soul. However close friends and people that really do care, say I am strong, independent and beautiful inside and out. I was recommended this read by my counsellor after my most recent Pathological Relationship. I feel empowered after reading it to take control of my own destiny. I will begin by writing down my boundaries so that I can revisit them regularly. My boundaries have always been there but this time no one is crossing them without my permission. Red is out and not worth my time or effort. Orange will get one chance after listening to how their actions and behaviours made me feel. I have been abused since a small child. Well no more, I have one life and now I am going to live it by my terms.
Excellent hard hitting short read. Quite a lot of repetition, however if like me you are still raw following a breakdown in relationship, you need the repetition so that the message gets through. I cried when I first read it because it made me realise I have been a "doormat" all my life. Never one for confrontation and so wrapped up in wanting to be loved, liked and to please others. My feelings and self worth have never been considered in my mission to please others. I look in the mirror and see an unappreciated, unloved and lost soul. However close friends and people that really do care, say I am strong, independent and beautiful inside and out. I was recommended this read by my counsellor after my most recent Pathological Relationship. I feel empowered after reading it to take control of my own destiny. I will begin by writing down my boundaries so that I can revisit them regularly. My boundaries have always been there but this time no one is crossing them without my permission. Red is out and not worth my time or effort. Orange will get one chance after listening to how their actions and behaviours made me feel. I have been abused since a small child. Well no more, I have one life and now I am going to live it by my terms.
June 24, 2017
Imsightful read
This short read will help you gain understanding and perspective about emotionally manipulative relationships. And because knowledge is power, knowing what you experienced and how to protect yourself from repeated toxic relationships helps you take back your power. I definitely recommend this book to anyone who was positively wrecked by something they thought was love.
This short read will help you gain understanding and perspective about emotionally manipulative relationships. And because knowledge is power, knowing what you experienced and how to protect yourself from repeated toxic relationships helps you take back your power. I definitely recommend this book to anyone who was positively wrecked by something they thought was love.
April 15, 2018
Not a book, but a booklet
This isn't a book but a booklet that provides a survey overview of boundaries. There isn't the depth needed for the individual to explore reasons why boundaries remain a struggle, but it does clearly define them through lists with no redundancy which is a plus. Just wanted to make clear you are not purchasing a book, but a booklet.
This isn't a book but a booklet that provides a survey overview of boundaries. There isn't the depth needed for the individual to explore reasons why boundaries remain a struggle, but it does clearly define them through lists with no redundancy which is a plus. Just wanted to make clear you are not purchasing a book, but a booklet.
March 23, 2018
Good quick read
This is a good, to the point book for setting firm boundaries for anyone. Some people do not even know about having boundaries and I would suggest this book for their own personal protection.
This is a good, to the point book for setting firm boundaries for anyone. Some people do not even know about having boundaries and I would suggest this book for their own personal protection.
September 13, 2020
Real eye opener
Fantastic book a real eye opener, I knew the guy I had been sleeping with and spending a lot of time with was using me but this book showed me that he actually was doing much more. Great ideas and examples to use and ways to structure your boundaries highly reccomend. This book has now helped me to move forward and bring back my self worth c
Fantastic book a real eye opener, I knew the guy I had been sleeping with and spending a lot of time with was using me but this book showed me that he actually was doing much more. Great ideas and examples to use and ways to structure your boundaries highly reccomend. This book has now helped me to move forward and bring back my self worth c
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March 10, 2021Healthy Boundaries Will Keep The Bad Guys Away!
I've finally learned the warning signs and know why I repeatedly chose manipulators and abusive narcassists. They prey on empaths but we can turn a bad situation into a learning experience, empowering you to get out, recover and move on.
I've finally learned the warning signs and know why I repeatedly chose manipulators and abusive narcassists. They prey on empaths but we can turn a bad situation into a learning experience, empowering you to get out, recover and move on.
January 3, 2022
A book everyone should read
Even if you haven't been in a relationship with a narcissist or abusive person, this book outlines what boundaries are, why they're important, and how to create your personal boundaries. Had I read this as a young adult, I'd have avoided a lot of pain.
Even if you haven't been in a relationship with a narcissist or abusive person, this book outlines what boundaries are, why they're important, and how to create your personal boundaries. Had I read this as a young adult, I'd have avoided a lot of pain.
February 14, 2018
Excellent, short easy to understand.
Recommended for victims of emotional abuse but also important to understand what boundaries are and their importance in preserving emotional health.
Recommended for victims of emotional abuse but also important to understand what boundaries are and their importance in preserving emotional health.
June 20, 2018
Short and Sweet
Really short and simple philosophy with easy activities for creating individualized boundaries. Great for a quick, motivating read. It would complement a larger scale self-esteem program.
Really short and simple philosophy with easy activities for creating individualized boundaries. Great for a quick, motivating read. It would complement a larger scale self-esteem program.
November 8, 2018
An outline and some encouraging words, brief, helpful
I liked this as a brief reference for setting boundaries. If one needs lots of help they could use this as a reminder tool, but not as a stand alone, I think. The information appeared accurate and definitely useful.
I liked this as a brief reference for setting boundaries. If one needs lots of help they could use this as a reminder tool, but not as a stand alone, I think. The information appeared accurate and definitely useful.
January 2, 2019
This is a good introduction to setting boundaries, whether you are just starting on your journey to healing and healthy relationships, have hit a plateau, or just need some direction on taking the next steps. It is a short read, which is helpful if you are having challenges focusing.
October 27, 2019
Excellent guidebook
I love this book. It is instructional and succinct. I regard it as required reading for mental health. Clear directions on how to live are best part of this book. I'll be referring back to it often!
I love this book. It is instructional and succinct. I regard it as required reading for mental health. Clear directions on how to live are best part of this book. I'll be referring back to it often!
December 5, 2019
Excellent book to help define and set boundaries.
Excellent book to help define and set boundaries. It has loads of information which is helpful for toxic relationships. It's is quick and easy to read.
Excellent book to help define and set boundaries. It has loads of information which is helpful for toxic relationships. It's is quick and easy to read.
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December 31, 2019Perfect little book
The author gives a compact but powerful tool to protect ourselves against manipulators and abusers. More importantly, it is an excellent tool to learn how to set up boundaries to dether sociopath coming in our lives.
The author gives a compact but powerful tool to protect ourselves against manipulators and abusers. More importantly, it is an excellent tool to learn how to set up boundaries to dether sociopath coming in our lives.
June 28, 2020
Helpfull
I was amazed at reading this book it answered my questions and accurately. I now feel that after reading this book I have changed my outlook I feel more empowered and now know how important boundaries are in understanding yourself
I was amazed at reading this book it answered my questions and accurately. I now feel that after reading this book I have changed my outlook I feel more empowered and now know how important boundaries are in understanding yourself
September 24, 2020
Good read
Very informative and to the point. Would recommend to anyone who struggles with setting boundaries or just out of an emotional abusive relationship who needs help in boundary setting.
Very informative and to the point. Would recommend to anyone who struggles with setting boundaries or just out of an emotional abusive relationship who needs help in boundary setting.
January 22, 2023
Great book
I’m trying to figure out myself, my boundaries, learning self-love and self-care, because I lost it or never had it, not sure, and this book it’s a guide to start changing your life.
I’m trying to figure out myself, my boundaries, learning self-love and self-care, because I lost it or never had it, not sure, and this book it’s a guide to start changing your life.
March 11, 2024
Short and to the point
Excellent read and starting point in understanding the importance of setting your own unique boundaries in a new relationship. I found this short and to the point book to be very helpful.
Excellent read and starting point in understanding the importance of setting your own unique boundaries in a new relationship. I found this short and to the point book to be very helpful.
February 12, 2017
Amen!
This is powerful to help those who have been in an abusive relationship with a manipulator and to take your life back!
This is powerful to help those who have been in an abusive relationship with a manipulator and to take your life back!
August 30, 2018
Pertinent review of boundaries. May not be a good place to start if the concept is new.
September 25, 2018
Short read but quick and to the point. This book helped me to see boundaries more clearly. Very good read
September 26, 2018
Important
This is a helpful and practical resource for all people. It is a warning sign for those seeking to be loved and to have good healthy friendships .
This is a helpful and practical resource for all people. It is a warning sign for those seeking to be loved and to have good healthy friendships .
October 12, 2018
Essential reading
February 20, 2019
Good read
This was an easy read, it's nice to read a book that feels like it's written solely for you. Lots of great tips, advice and it puts your mind at ease
This was an easy read, it's nice to read a book that feels like it's written solely for you. Lots of great tips, advice and it puts your mind at ease
May 18, 2019
Good, quick read
Direct, pragmatic, and sobering. For those who have doubts about being generous with others and protecting their own need for rest and health.
Direct, pragmatic, and sobering. For those who have doubts about being generous with others and protecting their own need for rest and health.
August 5, 2019
Excellent informative book.
Explains boundaries simply without ever talking down to you. And gives clear, concise steps as to how to set your boundaries and defend them.
Explains boundaries simply without ever talking down to you. And gives clear, concise steps as to how to set your boundaries and defend them.
November 10, 2019
Wow just what was required
Concise
Quick
Read lots on this topic but this book is one of the best
Invaluable exercises for clarity
I'm excited and inspired
Thank you
Concise
Quick
Read lots on this topic but this book is one of the best
Invaluable exercises for clarity
I'm excited and inspired
Thank you
February 24, 2020
Great, short read!
I loved this book! It hit so many points I needed to hear. The language was clear and direct. I would recommend this book to any one interested in this subject.
I loved this book! It hit so many points I needed to hear. The language was clear and direct. I would recommend this book to any one interested in this subject.
August 5, 2021
Nothing new here
I was expecting something mind-blowing going by the reviews - but it’s basically telling you to have boundaries and stick with them..but not how to cope.
I was expecting something mind-blowing going by the reviews - but it’s basically telling you to have boundaries and stick with them..but not how to cope.
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