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I'm Not a Mind Reader
Chocolates are fine and flowers rarely disappoint, but for relationships on the rocks, nothing says, 'I love you' like the promise of renewal. In I'm Not a Mind Reader, Babits reveals that too often, even the smartest people have difficulty communicating, and we've learned over the years that love isn't enough to repair the normal wear and tear that occurs in relationships.
So, what can couples do when even love itself fails? Babits lays out a totally unique blueprint for renewal in I'm Not a Mind Reader, explaining that every message from one partner to another can be considered in terms of three separate dimensions:
The surface level—this is the literal meaning of what partners say to one another
The emotional subtext of the message—its emotional undertone
The third dimension—evaluating the first two and comparing them with the goal of creating emotional safety within the dialogue
Armed with this formula, whatever needs to be better understood, resolved, expanded or modified in the relationship can be addressed and communication brings coherence and connection. The person who practices three-dimensional communication lives in full and vibrant color compared with seeing everything in black and white. This new method is vivid and textured; it promotes the capacity to negotiate differences, to clarify misunderstandings, to heal confusions, and to reinvigorate passion and trust.
So, what can couples do when even love itself fails? Babits lays out a totally unique blueprint for renewal in I'm Not a Mind Reader, explaining that every message from one partner to another can be considered in terms of three separate dimensions:
The surface level—this is the literal meaning of what partners say to one another
The emotional subtext of the message—its emotional undertone
The third dimension—evaluating the first two and comparing them with the goal of creating emotional safety within the dialogue
Armed with this formula, whatever needs to be better understood, resolved, expanded or modified in the relationship can be addressed and communication brings coherence and connection. The person who practices three-dimensional communication lives in full and vibrant color compared with seeing everything in black and white. This new method is vivid and textured; it promotes the capacity to negotiate differences, to clarify misunderstandings, to heal confusions, and to reinvigorate passion and trust.
264 pages, Paperback
First published May 5, 2015
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September 7, 2015
I'm Not a Mind Reader by Marty Babits is a must read for anyone in a long term relationship! Even couples who feel they have a strong partnership can benefit from the strategies taught in this book. Communication is key and Babits lays out a simplistic yet powerful 3 dimensional formula that really makes sense! Highly recommend to anyone looking to strengthen their relationship or needing the tools to improve it.
**I received a complimentary advance copy of this book from the publisher, HCI Books and NetGalley in exchange for my honest review**
**I received a complimentary advance copy of this book from the publisher, HCI Books and NetGalley in exchange for my honest review**
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