This book is a nice little guide for how to spot a psychopath in a work environment, as well as some useful tips for how to damage control or if your boss happens to be a psychopath. They have these nice little vignettes in order to give a concrete example of characteristics to look for, but I think they tend to go a bit heavy handed with them. This reads as more of a handbook and would work really well in that more structured environment that work (should) provide, and I think I would recommend it to someone who is dealing with someone who is manipulative and lacks empathy. Thankfully, I am in a work environment that is very supportive and have only dealt with a psychopath in my personal life (which let me tell you, is not something I would wish on a person as it left me emotionally broken).
I may edit my review later with my psychopath story because I want to help anyone in that situation. But here are my tips (as well as some of the books.
1. Keep things objective: A lot of psychopaths are pathological liars, and you may notice discrepancies in their stories. I think we all have a few inconsistencies and things can change over time, but the person I knew would say that she loved a band and went to their concert, and then would comment on how much she disliked this band to the next one. People were rather disposable as well.
2. Don't bother with people who keep on pushing your buttons, and try to be aware of when they are being pushed. This person was the most destructive during a time where I felt particularly low, but they never stopped talking about the person that I had issues with (like how that person was so obsessed with them and was pestering her about when they'd date while claiming he was monogamous and dating another person). Unfortunately, you might be blind to it until it's too late, but don't be afraid of setting boundaries and if they ignore them, don't be afraid to cut them out.
3. Trust your intuition. While this seems counterintuitive to the first point, you sometimes realize that something is wrong before you can form words to express what that is.
4. If they constantly talk shit about everyone else and every bad thing about their life is someone else's problem, that is a warning sign. The person I dealt with constantly complained about our mutual friend to me and to other people in her life(while he considered her his best friend), and then I found out that she made up rumors about me to mutual friends (like, gross exaggerations to completely made up). If you're feeling some high-school drama vibes from a person twice the high school age, you might want to keep that person at arm's length.
5. This is for if you have some big falling out after you deal with these people, but psychopaths target people they found useful, so it's almost a bit of a compliment if they feel so threatened by you that they want to mess up your life. Also, the more people you interact with, the more likely you'll run into a bad egg and that may cause you to be a bad egg for a bit. You are not who you are at your worst, and these experiences are not reflective of who you are. It happens, and as long as you take steps to prevent these things to prevent harm, you are not this experience.
There is much more to be said about this, but I just wanted to share my tips so that if you are hurt, if you are dealing with a person that hurt you, that this may be able to help you. I think exposure is important, and know that while some people may never change, you always can.