No Time for Tears: Coping with Grief in a Busy World

by Bernie Siegel, Judy Heath

Facing the loss of a loved one in a death-avoidant culture can be excruciating. Grievers may be expected to put on a brave face, to “move on” quickly, and to seek medication if they are still grief-stricken after an “acceptable” amount of time. Psycho­therapist Judy Heath draws on extensive experience as a grief specialist in private practice to help those struggling with the anguish of loss. Addressing the myths and misinformation about mourning that still abound today, Heath gently coaches readers to understand that coping with loss is a natural process that our society tends to avoid and hurry people through, often leading to unresolved, lasting grief. No Time for Tears offers practical advice for both short- and long-term recovery, including how to manage rarely discussed physical and emotional feelings of “going crazy” and inability to focus; feeling out of sync with the world, exhausted and chilled, and crushingly lonely.
 
This updated second edition includes new information about medication and discusses various types of loss including that of a parent, child, spouse, friend, or pet. Helpful not only to grievers but also to those who care about, counsel, or employ them, No Time for Tears is an essential resource for grief management and recovery.

Genres: Grief, Nonfiction

286 pages, Paperback

First published May 1, 2015

Reviews

[Lisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is an excellent reference for grief sufferers and all those surrounding them. We often wonder how to cope, what is normal, when to get professional help, and so much more. Especially for friends and loved ones of the grieving who feel helpless or awkward, this guide is extremely helpful.

[Nancy · Rating 3 out of 5]

There are some good points, some good advice, etc., but the author is all over the place as far as the organization/lack thereof of this book. Also, she spends a LOT of the book on 9/11 and PTSD, etc. And then at one point she briefly mentions that dying people should be able to have heroin, and that is just out of nowhere, and it's like, "um, huh? Did she really just say that?"

But she also makes some really great points, like when she talks about bereavement leave and that most employers only allow three days, and that is really not a lot of/not enough time. I can see both sides, because if you are going to allow someone the maximum amount of time but include not only immediate family members but also step-family members, that can be a lot of people, but it really is true that three days, which she says is pretty standard, isn't a lot of time. And that letting people have more time when they need it right after the death can mean they may not need more time later.
Anyway, not bad, but not the best book out there on the topic.

[Brooke · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book serves as a catch-all for most kinds of death & grief. From the death of parents or a child, to the death of friends or pets, there is a chapter here for everything, including murder & suicide. Readers who are grieving will come to understand through this book that what they are feeling & experiencing is a normal part of the grief process, & will hopefully learn some coping skills & find some comfort along the way.

[Melissa · Rating 5 out of 5]

My go to recommendation for anyone who wants to know if what they're experiencing while grieving is okay. Judy hops around from topic to topic, but it's a good place to start for anyone looking to read more about the stages of grief.

[Audra · Rating 4 out of 5]

This wasnt exactly wanted I was looking for after my grandma's passing but I feel that others could get something out of it. It was not filled with jargon, it was broke down into easy to handle sections.

[Carole Nelson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent resource

This book covers the many kinds of death, the pain and anguish that accompanies them, practical steps for seeing your way through the very dark tunnel to the light ahead, and ways to provide support to others who are grieving, I highly recommend it,

[Dani · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good book on grief and how it effects us. Each chapter contains a specific topic about grief.

[Molly · Rating 4 out of 5]

A comfort, with help for those of us dealing with grief.

[Shivani · Rating 4 out of 5]

Loss in all its forms, heart breaking

[Yvonne]

Insightful. Grief is difficult, sudden grief is devasting. Knowing the difference is healing.

[Abby · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is AMAZING. This will help guide anyone who needs some insight on how to go through the process of grief, or how to help those you love who are grieving. If you're feeling alone, or like you need a close personal friend's help guiding you, your family, friends, or even clients through this most personal process, consider Judy Heath your new best friend.