A ses quarante ans Abel apprend qu'il est surdoue. C'est un choc qui repond a des questions, remet en question des reponses anterieures, cause d'autant plus de questions. Sur lui, sur la vie, sur soi-meme, sur les autres, sur les relations entre tout cela. Puis ce concept de "surdoue," de "haut potentiel" meme est a questionner aussi. Ne parlerait-on pas mieux d' "alterdouance," d' "autre potentiel"?
Au fil des souvenirs intimes, des evenements touchants, des douleurs, rancunes, tendresses, coleres, comprehensions et confusions qu'il partage sans retenue, l'auteur vous fait le tour de son univers, avant et apres cette decouverte. Et pour finir, il y a l'amour. L'amour rate, a tellement de reprises qu'il finit par ne plus croire a son existence, puis, enfin, l'amour trouve. Un amour vrai, simple et libre qui fait passer ce couple par la guerre et la deconstruction, par la demolition mutuelle des masques et carapaces avant de finalement se rencontrer dans un espace de verite.
Quelques reactions de lecteurs et lectrices a la premiere edition:
"- Le temoignage d'un surdoue a ne pas louper !"
"- Un livre magnifique sur ces gens 'trop', trop sensibles, trop revoltes, trop concernes, qu'on dit 'surdoues'. Abel Abelson livre ses tripes, met son cerveau a nu. Les hypersensibles se reconnaitront, et se sentiront moins seuls. A conseiller a tout ceux qui sont concernes par la douance."
"- Les temoignages d'adultes surdoues sont rares, celui-ci en est un a mon sens incontournable, d'une rare force...Un cri du c ur dechirant et finalement un hymne a la vie."
"- Touchant car sincere."
"- Une plongee directe et sans fard dans la tete et les emotions d'un etre humain complexe, ou du moins, defini comme tel. On accroche tout de suite a ces petites analyses ultra-precises du quotidien, de la vie de couple, des sensations, de la quete interieure de sens, de verite. Un vrai defi vecu de l'interieur que l'on suit pas a pas." www.abelabelson.be"
At forty years of age, Abel Abelson was tested and found intellectually gifted. In his works, he shares his views, emotions and experiences before, during and after this turning point in his life.
Honest and clearly written but too general and repetitive for my taste. On the last pages the author says he could have given many more examples of events in his life that determined or deformed his behavior. So why didn’t he? Rather than speaking in metaphors I would have preferred him to give concrete examples of those situations.
Le journal Un journal au jour le jour sans grand intérêt qui n’apporte pas grand-chose aux lecteurs sur les surdoués, de plus l’auteur se lamente trop sur son sort. Je ne pensais pas qu’un surdoué pouvait faire autant de fautes de français et d’orthographes
This is a very honest, straightforward and person account of coming to terms with giftedness as an adult and coming to understand life in retrospect through that new lens.
I could very much relate and found his book really unique in that aspect. I have tried to read every book on giftedness available and there isn't one as personal as this one.
My only criticisms are that the line between personal biography and its relation to giftedness is often blurry, so some of it seems unnecessary. I feel like the book could have used some more editing. Also, though most of it feels true to my experience of giftedness, I still would have liked some more scientific research referenced as corroboration and additional information.
Personally, I always knew I was "gifted" throughout my life, but took it for granted and didn't really know what it meant and how it would affect my life, until I really started to research it in my 40's and realized the profound impact it has had on my development. More importantly, it's helped me informed how I will move forward with my life and this knowledge has improved my life already. If you're in a similar situation, you will appreciate this book, in knowing you are not alone.
Even those who can relate directly, might appreciate this book too, because knowing ourselves only has meaning in relation to knowing others.
An amazing accounting of just one man's life, but in the end I think one walks away feeling slightly less alone, slightly more able to make sense of their 'otherness', whether that be intellectual giftedness or other characteristics that don't coincide with convenient social judgements. The way Abel is able to recount the long-lasting impacts of childhood experiences, coming to understand love, climate anxiety, and facing the ultimate question of being human (suicide), it is all retold in a non-linear fashion that ties everything together to imagine what life can be, life as more than preserving what already has been. This feels especially personal in that I have been thinking about writing something resembling this format for a long time. Of course that would lean much more into the future and not my relatively few lived experiences, but the ways in which we understand our lives as various stories is what makes them meaningful and worth living, more than mere bundles of experience.
Part explanation of what gifted people experience psychologically, part personal spiritual biography, it's an interesting but uneven book that couldn't seem to find a way to end.