FOREWARD TO THE REVIEW.
{{I actually had to read this book twice to get the full effect, once right after the other.
I have to admit, I started from a bias. There’s a lot of talk about the gender debate going on right now; some of it necessary, and some of it is not. I was leery as I approached this book, afraid of manipulation and/or embellishment, and I really didn’t want to sit through a 224 page tirade of venting eisegesis. The second time through, I read it with a more relaxed mindset, knowing where the author was going, and paying more attention to the heart of the message.
First read through- 4 stars
Second read through- 4.93 stars, rounded up to 5.}}
REVIEW
This is not a “real men work hard, take their family to church, play with their kids, and open doors for ladies, ‘cause that’s what real men do” type of book. (Nothing wrong with those things, but that’s not this book.)
The author approaches the subject as a warning to men of the harmful and destructive power of culture’s definition of manhood, while at the same time contrasting that with God’s Gospel-centered design for men.
She starts in Genesis with God’s design- the Imago Dei, and the distortion of that through the Fall and it’s effects.
She then goes through the Bible, examining different men and how they (mostly) responded well in the face of their current culture’s distortion of manhood.
The list includes Abraham, Judah, Barak, Boaz, Joseph (husband of Mary) and the perfect Imago Dei, Jesus.
The author does not argue in this book from a complementation or egalitarian viewpoint, claiming that both viewpoints are asking the wrong question regarding the gender issue. I agree. (Note: I REALLY appreciate the author’s stand, here. She offers an alternative approach. If you want to know the right question, I recommend reading this book!)
There were a couple of instances where I thought she overreached her point, or the example she gave didn’t quite fit, but it didn’t derail the point she was trying to make, or affect the outcome.
I like what she said about the harmful effects of primogeniture and it’s relationship to the father wound.
I also thought her take on Boaz was very interesting and thought-provoking. And of course, the chapter on Jesus was really great.
Overall, hopeful, uplifting book about what God made men to be, and how that’s possible.