The Myth of the Perfect One: Healing Through the Distortions of Relationship OCD

by Mark DeJesus

Do you find yourself spinning in cycles of doubt and anxiety when it comes to romantic relationships? Do obsessive thoughts and "what if" scenarios plague your mind, leaving you questioning whether you're with the right person? Is it possible you may be plagued by the myth of trying to find the "perfect one"? Then you may have a struggle with Relationship OCD (ROCD), which this audiobook addresses in a compassionate, yet straightforward approach.

Mark DeJesus found himself deep within the clutches of ROCD, but did not know it for a long time. Drowning in constant anxiousness, doubts, and confusion, he spent a lot of time spinning in rumination, confusion and compulsive behavior. But over time, he began to learn what ROCD was and found a way to get to the heart of the battle, while finding very practical ways to walk through the distortions that get in the way of how one relates to love, commitment, and marriage.

Within this audiobook, you'll

Mark’s real-life stories and relatable examples that illuminate the struggles of ROCD. Practical questions for consideration to help you reflect and apply the concepts to your own life. Strategies for challenging distorted thinking patterns and embracing self-compassion. Guidance on developing emotional maturity and building healthier relationship dynamics. A path towards experiencing the freedom and joy of genuine, loving connections. If you're ready to confront your fears, challenge your obsessions, and embark on a journey of healing and growth, this is your essential guide. Discover how to transform your relationship with God, yourself and others, and step into a life of love that is grounded in truth and freedom.

Audible Audio

Published May 14, 2025

About the author

Mark DeJesus has served as a communicator in various capacities since 1995. As a teacher, author, pastor, coach and exhorter, Mark is deeply passionate about restoring the hearts of people in the love of God and teaching them to walk in transformational living. His message involves getting to the heart of mental health struggles and the day to day battles believers face in their thoughts, emotions and relationships. Out of their own personal renewal, Mark and his wife Melissa founded Turning Hearts Ministries International, a ministry dedicated to inside out transformation. They live in Charlotte North Carolina and enjoy raising their two children, Maximus and Abigail.

Reviews

[Gareth Clark · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a good Christian overview ROCD and how to engage with it. It really functions best as a supplement to his previous work on OCD, as by itself it is a bit brief, but with “The OCD healing journey” it fills out.

[Beaniesquee · Rating 5 out of 5]

A nourishing drink of water for me wee soul ❣️

[Leah Clark · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent and relatable book full of compassion and practical application