Disclosure: I was offered this book free in exchange for an honest review.
Toronto resident, Jack Langedijk wrote because which captures in many ways the essence of the city. The protagonist is a fourth generation Argentinean, his daughter's boyfriend is from Vietnam, his wife's employers are from Hongkong, and then there is Amir from Guyana, Aaron Aobla from Uganda, a therapist who wears a headscarf, and three students - one black, one Korean, and one white. A true melting pot of characters living in this wonderful city. There is mention of the Scarborough Crisis Centre, Mont Sinai Hospital, references to the Scarborough Malvern shooting incident, and programs for at-risk students currently in place.
At 375 pages, the book can be summed up swiftly as the journey of a mountaineer (Roberto Sanchez) to find himself after he lost his legs as result of an avalanche on Mount Everest. The book also captured his work as a social worker helping at-risk persons. He was viewed as a "fixer", a "healer", a "mighty oak" yet he seemed unable to help himself grapple with his new reality.
The sub plots read like case files - an overweight student who is bullied, a young boy from an inner city neighbourhood who witnessed his brother being shot and killed, and a young girl who harms herself. Roberto is featured as a kind hearted soul with a supportive wife and daughter. A moment of revelation occurred as Roberto was asked to deliver a speech at a gathering of employees from the firm where his wife worked. This is not an uncommon practice for invited speakers to reference facing challenges and surmounting obstacles.
It was an "okay" book broken down into 49 short chapters which flipped through different points in time. Thankfully, each chapter began with headings such as present day or 15 weeks ago or 4 weeks ago etc. At times, the book delves into too much daily minutia and trite conversations but at its core is the importance of communication, acceptance of change, and the nobility of helping others in their struggles. As always, here are a few excerpts worth reproducing.
About mountain climbing:
"He has done lots of interviews and found that no one has the same answer... He said some do it for the challenge, some to find themselves..... some do it for the adrenaline rush and some ...to get away from the world or their own lives.
But I think I'm here because most of us exist in the world which is mostly human made - in a world of TVs and computers, we tend to forget that there are places on this planet which do not respond to the flick of a switch... that these mountains exist without us... and I guess I'm one of those that feel a need to sometimes exist with them." (page 87)
On self-doubt:
"You know , I've never asked myself why am I doing what I do? Why do I do these workshops? Why is it so important to me to care about these kids?...Even when they tell me they don't want to be saved? What sort of purpose in life is that - helping people who don't want your help?
Or is it all about me? Is that how I want to be seen? A saviour? Is that who I am? Is that how I want people to see me? Have I become so righteous I don't really know who I'm helping, I just need to save someone to make myself feel good? Is it really all about my own ego?" (page 133)
And, on listening/communicating:
"...Maybe I was brought up to think that if someone was telling you something, you better have a reply for them, and it's your job to fix it or change it. I didn't know that most people weren't coming to me for an answer. They weren't looking for any judgement; they didn't come to be fixed. They just wanted to let something out and have it heard." (page 175)