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The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality
When it comes to the matter of teaching kids about sex, Christian parents are often confused about what to say and when to say it. The Talk is a series of 7 studies, all anchored in the Scriptures, that helps parents to talk meaningfully with children about sexuality. The Talk was written for parents to read with children ages 6 to 10 years old. The study supplies elementary-age children with foundational truths about sexuality at a level they can understand.
46 pages, Paperback
First published July 28, 2014
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Luke Gilkerson
14 books9 followersLuke Gilkerson worked for 8 years as the Educational Resource Manager at Covenant Eyes, writing hundreds of articles and ebooks, teaching individuals and parents about dangers and temptations found on the Internet. Along with his wife Trisha, Luke is the primary author at intoxicatedonlife.com, where he writes about parenting and the gospel of Christ.
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April 29, 2023
Our family had a great experience working through this book. My husband and I did the study together with our daughters (9 and 6). The book is broken into 7 lessons that are meant to be read on 7 consecutive days, although it took us closer to two weeks due to our erratic evening schedule. I really appreciated the idea of covering the topic over 7 days instead of in one big talk—it really forces you to embrace the awkwardness for the long haul and settle into it. The lessons cover male and female anatomy (with simple black and white anatomical diagrams), the reproductive process and baby development, God’s good design for sex within marriage, and sexual sins (adultery and rape). Each lesson contains a scripture reading, commentary that a parent can either read aloud or summarize in his own words, and discussion questions. The lessons took roughly 10 minutes each, or a little longer if the kids engaged with discussion or had questions. We found that the lessons were biblically sound and appropriate for our kids’ ages, covering enough material but not too much. The author has another book geared toward older ages and puberty, and I’d definitely be willing to look into those after our experience with this book.
May 29, 2015
This is an excellent resource!! I have looked through several other books for children on this topic, and I liked this one the best. It is designed to be used during a (pre-existing) devotional time with children ages 6 to 10, and it has seven different lessons in it. Because there is so much, really, to cover on this subject matter when introducing it to children, I found that I really like the format of this, and how it covers seven different topics. The topics covered are:
God Made Them Male and Female (about male and female anatomy)
Go Forth and Multiply (how a man and woman join together)
Wonderfully Made (how babies grow in their mothers' wombs)
The Two Shall Become One Flesh (sex is special and bonds two people together)
You Shall Not Commit Adultery (sex is hurtful when it is outside the bonds of marriage)
Do Not Violate Me (addressing sexual abuse)
Bought With a Price (honor God with our bodies)
This is really a worldview-shaping sort of book. It covers a lot of subjects in a reasonable, responsible way. Each subject is weighty all by itself, and so having ample time to process each subject before moving onto the next is really beneficial! I found it to be a relief to have it laid out in a clear way, neither shortening the subjects nor putting in unnecessary information. It's appropriately descriptive about each of the matters addressed, and there is Scripture that is helpful in giving concrete understandings of these stories (such as Ammon and Tamar in the case of rape). It's really not only about explaining what sex is, but about explaining God's design for a man and wife to be married; why marriage is such a special, set-apart bond; how babies are actually made (the joining of egg and sperm and how that grows into a baby); and so on. I really feel that going through this has expanded my child's worldview in a healthy way. I would definitely recommend this to other Christian families who are ready to introduce these very important subjects.
The one note that I would add is that the book recommends doing all the devotions in seven days straight. I found that although we did each devotion separately, and each one could be done all at once in one day, there were some after which we needed to take a break for a few days, to give some processing time before moving on to the next weighty topic. I would certainly recommend doing it all together in a timely way, but not necessarily one day right after the other.
God Made Them Male and Female (about male and female anatomy)
Go Forth and Multiply (how a man and woman join together)
Wonderfully Made (how babies grow in their mothers' wombs)
The Two Shall Become One Flesh (sex is special and bonds two people together)
You Shall Not Commit Adultery (sex is hurtful when it is outside the bonds of marriage)
Do Not Violate Me (addressing sexual abuse)
Bought With a Price (honor God with our bodies)
This is really a worldview-shaping sort of book. It covers a lot of subjects in a reasonable, responsible way. Each subject is weighty all by itself, and so having ample time to process each subject before moving onto the next is really beneficial! I found it to be a relief to have it laid out in a clear way, neither shortening the subjects nor putting in unnecessary information. It's appropriately descriptive about each of the matters addressed, and there is Scripture that is helpful in giving concrete understandings of these stories (such as Ammon and Tamar in the case of rape). It's really not only about explaining what sex is, but about explaining God's design for a man and wife to be married; why marriage is such a special, set-apart bond; how babies are actually made (the joining of egg and sperm and how that grows into a baby); and so on. I really feel that going through this has expanded my child's worldview in a healthy way. I would definitely recommend this to other Christian families who are ready to introduce these very important subjects.
The one note that I would add is that the book recommends doing all the devotions in seven days straight. I found that although we did each devotion separately, and each one could be done all at once in one day, there were some after which we needed to take a break for a few days, to give some processing time before moving on to the next weighty topic. I would certainly recommend doing it all together in a timely way, but not necessarily one day right after the other.
July 9, 2022
Excellent & easy-to-use resource for having a Biblical discussion about sexuality with your child. Highly recommend.
December 17, 2019
I read this with my 11, 9 and 7-year-old boys (the 4-year-old was there too, but most of it went over his head). It is Biblically based and matter-of-fact. I liked that it is scripted, just to get started with the conversation, and then we could jump off into our own discussion. Highly recommended!
June 19, 2019
I went through this with my daughter, albeit quite slowly, and am very pleased with the content. As he describes, it is a "bridge" to get talks moving forward in talking to adolescent children about sex. There are big topics that are NOT covered in this book, but he mentions that at the end and it is up to us to speak into our children's lives with discernment and love. Although I would rather depend on a book to go through all of it thoroughly FOR me, this pushes me to get out of my comfort zone and clearly discuss with my girls.
September 17, 2020
This book was delightful. I remember how horrible the sex education talked was for me, both in school and when my parents tried to talk to me about it so long ago. This book so simply lays out biblical sexuality in bite-size chunks. I have four boys and we actually went through these lessons around the dinner table.
June 10, 2025
this is a fabulous guide to help walk you through some of these big conversations with your kids.
May 7, 2019
Honestly, I'm trying to understand why this has such a high Goodreads rating. Maybe it's because our household starts conversations about body safety at a young age, uses appropriate anatomical labels from the start, and has very science-fascinated children who observed mama's fourth pregnancy, but... most of this isn't stuff we'd feel the need to sit down and cover. It's already matter-of-fact information around here, I guess. I mean, my then-4 and then-6 year olds were reviewing diagrams from The Pregnant Body Book, sooo... 😂
December 30, 2016
Good little book to explain the birds and the bees with younger children from an explicitly biblical perspective. Deals with gender, sex, intimacy, abuse, lust, and much more!
December 30, 2019
Woof. 🤢.
January 17, 2022
Foundational Building Blocks that Dive Right In
This book helps parents break the ice, not crack it or dance around the subject, and begins to lay a biblical foundation in regards to sexuality. It first starts with an introduction for the parents and helps them determine if their children are ready for this study. The author recommends ages 6-10 (Page 2 explains why the seemingly young age is recommended, using child abuse statistics to back his reasoning and why parents should be having these conversations with their children.) The author continues on to help parents who might struggle with the fear of saying too much, swallowing their fear, and explaining that this is just the first of many conversations.
Each lesson has scripture reading associated with the lesson and ends with questions and prayer.
-Lesson 1 covers anatomy providing male and female anatomy diagrams from a side angle.
-Lesson 2 discusses basic intercourse and how babies are conceived, mentioning terms such as erection and ejaculation.
-Lesson 3 teaches how a baby grows in the womb including diagrams.
-Lesson 4 discusses the goodness of sex in marriage and the bond formed between and man and a woman.
-Lesson 5 provides a biblical understanding of why adultery is wrong.
-Lesson 6 covers the extremely difficult topic of rape and sexual abuse.
-Lesson 7 explains the importance of honoring God with our body.
The last part of the book discusses what parents can do next to build on what was taught.
Even though we bought this book a couple years ago, after reading the introduction to the parents, we decided to wait until both of our children be taught together and a little more mature for the content, which worked for our household needs. We replaced our usual morning devotional before starting our homeschool day and covered this material during the week we were off from school, so we weren't rushed for time.
Though some of the material can be a little embarrassing to cover we made sure not to water it down because we felt it was important to the lessons being taught.
It helped that I could just open to the lesson for the day and just read the material presented. It was a great introduction since we hadn't really discussed sex before in this kind of detail and I wouldn't have known where to even begin. We already have the next book in The Talk series, Changes, and will be purchasing the last one, Relationships, at a later date.
This book helps parents break the ice, not crack it or dance around the subject, and begins to lay a biblical foundation in regards to sexuality. It first starts with an introduction for the parents and helps them determine if their children are ready for this study. The author recommends ages 6-10 (Page 2 explains why the seemingly young age is recommended, using child abuse statistics to back his reasoning and why parents should be having these conversations with their children.) The author continues on to help parents who might struggle with the fear of saying too much, swallowing their fear, and explaining that this is just the first of many conversations.
Each lesson has scripture reading associated with the lesson and ends with questions and prayer.
-Lesson 1 covers anatomy providing male and female anatomy diagrams from a side angle.
-Lesson 2 discusses basic intercourse and how babies are conceived, mentioning terms such as erection and ejaculation.
-Lesson 3 teaches how a baby grows in the womb including diagrams.
-Lesson 4 discusses the goodness of sex in marriage and the bond formed between and man and a woman.
-Lesson 5 provides a biblical understanding of why adultery is wrong.
-Lesson 6 covers the extremely difficult topic of rape and sexual abuse.
-Lesson 7 explains the importance of honoring God with our body.
The last part of the book discusses what parents can do next to build on what was taught.
Even though we bought this book a couple years ago, after reading the introduction to the parents, we decided to wait until both of our children be taught together and a little more mature for the content, which worked for our household needs. We replaced our usual morning devotional before starting our homeschool day and covered this material during the week we were off from school, so we weren't rushed for time.
Though some of the material can be a little embarrassing to cover we made sure not to water it down because we felt it was important to the lessons being taught.
It helped that I could just open to the lesson for the day and just read the material presented. It was a great introduction since we hadn't really discussed sex before in this kind of detail and I wouldn't have known where to even begin. We already have the next book in The Talk series, Changes, and will be purchasing the last one, Relationships, at a later date.
March 14, 2023
The is a perfect intro book. However, I wish there was more information of what biblical sex actually points to (knowing God in Christ fully) and that it is a physical bodily covenantal reenactment of the oneness in all areas. If we get God wrong, we get sex wrong and vice versa.
Physiologically the only mistake I noticed was on page 6: Eggs are not produced, they are all there before going through hormonal changes, instead they are released.
If you don’t know where to start, this is a great and simple outline to follow but make sure you elaborate on all parts.
Physiologically the only mistake I noticed was on page 6: Eggs are not produced, they are all there before going through hormonal changes, instead they are released.
If you don’t know where to start, this is a great and simple outline to follow but make sure you elaborate on all parts.
January 12, 2024
Most of us remember getting "The Talk" as kids. I was 10 and incredulous at the knowledge my older, wiser cousin was imparting to me. My (younger, wiser) friend recommended this book to me and we used it this past summer to help guide "The Talk" with our 8 year old son; I'm thankful that we as his parents were the first to have "The Talk" with him. The material is age appropriate (though my husband initially was horrified at the simple line drawings) and I really liked how each lesson built upon the prior lessons. Highly recommend for those with kids age 6-10.
September 17, 2021
Excellent! This was such a wonderful book to go through with my 10 year old. I only wish I had done this book with her sooner. We read the scripture together and had a lot of good conversations throughout. The diagrams were helpful to helping her understand anatomy. Thorough without too much detail, age appropriate.
March 18, 2022
This is an excellent, simple resource for speaking with your elementary-aged children about God's purposes for sex in his creation. The chapters are short and to the point. They are thoughtful and tied to scripture. My child was engaged and interested most of the time while squirming and uncomfortable a little bit of the time.
September 19, 2019
I used it with my 8yo daughter, 7yo son, and 5yo son (he came and went as he pleased) all together. It was excellent. Took some of the awkwardness out by adding in a script, and made it biblical, GOOD, and scientific. Excellent resource that we will be revisiting.
November 3, 2019
Recomendado para los padres que temen este tema. Es demasiado pequeño y resumido el contenido para mi gusto... pero es bueno, organizado, concreto, importante y suficiente para COMENZAR a tratar estos temas a tiempo. Largo camino quedará por delante...
September 21, 2021
I wish it had gone deeper in the actual “Bible Study” person.
That said, I will absolutely do this with all of our children at appropriate ages (started with our 9yo, may do earlier with the rest). It doesn’t shy away from certain things, for which I’m thankful!
That said, I will absolutely do this with all of our children at appropriate ages (started with our 9yo, may do earlier with the rest). It doesn’t shy away from certain things, for which I’m thankful!
May 22, 2025
Solid intro to biblical sexuality
I liked that it introduced the topic of sex in a very simple and to the point way. Now that the topic has been breached and the foundation laid, we have a framework to talk about sexuality and sex without it feeling awkward.
I liked that it introduced the topic of sex in a very simple and to the point way. Now that the topic has been breached and the foundation laid, we have a framework to talk about sexuality and sex without it feeling awkward.
March 7, 2018
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February 12, 2019
We used this book during our family worship time and really appreciated it. We will revisit it yearly!
October 30, 2019
A helpful introductory script to be used as a door opener and launching pad to ongoing conversations with your kids about sexuality from a Christian perspective.
May 19, 2022
I found this very helpful in getting past the awkwardness of "the talk." Having the ability to now pull scripture into the conversation makes it a bit easier.
May 10, 2023
An excellent resource for Christian parents for introducing their young children to sexuality, complete with scripts for the nervous parent 🫠
February 27, 2017
We stopped after lesson 4 or 5. This is a great teaching, we just felt that those first several lessons were enough for our 10 and 12 year old boys. I think it was lesson three that was almost a punch in the nose with sex education. It was a bit tough to dive headlong into this, but I'm glad we did because we were able to tear down some comfort barriers and point our kids in a good direction.
February 12, 2017
God's Tool
Thanks for this step by step guide in teaching about this sensitive topic to my children. I was afraid to make an improper discussion, but when I read this book I felt confident by the grace of God to use this as a tool. In the Philippines, sex is rarely being discussed to kids, however in my case there's this urge in me that I should intentionally teach it with my own children before anyone else may do. Kudos to Sir Luke! Praying that God may provide us with extra funds so we can purchase the other books post requisites to this.
Thanks for this step by step guide in teaching about this sensitive topic to my children. I was afraid to make an improper discussion, but when I read this book I felt confident by the grace of God to use this as a tool. In the Philippines, sex is rarely being discussed to kids, however in my case there's this urge in me that I should intentionally teach it with my own children before anyone else may do. Kudos to Sir Luke! Praying that God may provide us with extra funds so we can purchase the other books post requisites to this.
May 30, 2016
This book is a good introduction for parents to teach a Biblical perspective of sexuality to their children. Like a lot of parents, I feel very unprepared for these conversations, and that's why I'm thankful for books like this one. I plan on adapting these lessons for my children once they are old enough. (These lessons are geared toward children 6-10 years old.) Yes, these conversations may feel awkward, but in the overly sexualized culture we live in, parents need to be proactive in talking with their children about sex. I love what this author said, "Parents are silent while the world is screaming."
May 29, 2025
A clear, easy-to-use, scripted bible study that is rooted in scriptures to equip children (about ages 6-10) to live in a world focused on sex. Give them the truth, the mechanics and the intention, to help them grow up with a healthy perspective. I have done it once with one child in the age range and one still under. I plan to do it again.
November 4, 2016
This is a very helpful resource!
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