loved the start…
I found this to be a book of 3 parts- I loved the first third with the premise of Arinze, a grieving business mogul widower, hooking up with his platonic friend, Oke, a commitment-phobic successful plastic surgeon dealing with a recent cancer diagnosis. I thought the themes of depression, grief, loss, childhood trauma, and family were dealt with really well and in a compelling non-gratuitous way. Personally, I was ready to give this 5 stars at that point.
However, I struggled a bit with the middle bit of this book where I think things got a bit muddy. Oke’s transition from commitment-phobe to aspiring mother and partner was a little abrupt and I wish it had more of a linkage with her initial character and that she interrogated that transition a bit more deeply. I also found Arinze’s transition from suicidal grieving widower to being sexed out of grief through one hot night, a bit abrupt. I’m the middle section, he seemed to undergo quite a few ain’t-ish personality transplants that didn’t seem in line with his character as initially presented as a strong, firm, decisive person with a good sense of what he wants. And I think there could have been more interaction with his grief and depression as he grew his relationship with Oke. I did like that the author flirted with really relevant themes in the Nigerian context like ethnic and religious discrimination which many people have to negotiate even within supportive family structures.
She also very lightly touched on homophobia and the lengths to which one might go to stay closeted. I think these themes were done really well and were really interesting, but again especially with the latter, I wished more had been made of it.
The final third picked up again and I think wrapped the book up well. I started of the book being passionate about Arinze and respecting but ultimately being ambivalent about Oke. In the middle part this was reversed. In this final part my liking and respect for Oke grew. She knew her own worth and I’m glad because of that, Arinze had to come to get his act together. I feel like the resolution was healthy for both of them I’m a sucker for a good epilogue and this has a really nice one that kind of bumps my overall rating for this to 4 stars on the balance. I love this author’s work and I really enjoyed the themes and the story. I had a few issues with some of the linkages and characterisation, but to me overall, it was emotionally complex and really well-balanced. I liked it a lot and recommend it, if it’s not harmful to your mental health.