Kink Magic: Sex Magic Beyond Vanilla

by Taylor Ellwood, Lupa

Kink Magic: Sex Magic Beyond Vanilla explores the realm of sex magic from the kinkier side. Authors Taylor Ellwood and Lupa take the intense altered states of consciousness inherent in BDSM and other fetish play and use them to create practical and metamorphic techniques. Detailed explanation of theory gives a solid foundation, while personal stories of their own spiritual adventures illustrate the effectiveness of kink magic. This book presents techniques for everything from casting sigils, to confronting--and banishing--your inner demons, to taking your sexy roleplay and turning it into powerful invocation rituals. Rather than dogmatically elaborating on the "right" way to do it, Taylor and Lupa give you ideas to apply to your own kink and magical practices, regardless of your sexual orientation or relationship status. Whether you're top or bottom, dominant or submissive, or even the most flexible switch, you'll find plenty here to take your practice deeper and farther than ever before.

Genres: BDSM, Magick, Witchcraft, Wicca, Spirituality

227 pages, Paperback

First published November 14, 2007

About the author

I'm Taylor Ellwood.

I've been writing since I was a teenager. I published my first book in 2003 and since then have continued writing and publishing books regularly on a number of topics.

I originally started out in the traditional publishing world, but I have since become a self-publisher. I love being an indie author and write both fiction and non-fiction.

Check out at my zombie apocalypse fiction reader group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/imagi...

Check out my occult reader group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Magic...

I write in the following genres:

1. Occult/esoteric books - I share my experiences and experiment with magic and the occult. I write cutting edge books that explore what could magic can be and how it can evolve. Here are links to just a few of the books I've written in the occult genre

The Process of Magic: A Guide to How Magic Works

Inner Alchemy: Energy Work and the Magic of the Body

Walking with Magical Entities: How to Create and Work with Servitors, Egregores, and Thought Forms to Get Consistent Results

Pop Culture Magick: A How to Guide to Practical Pop Culture Magick

Space/Time Magic: A Guide to Practical Probability Magic

2. Fiction books - I write fiction books, currently in the superhero fiction and zombie apocalypse fiction genres, but there will be other genres as well. Here are links to a few of the Fiction books I've written:

The Zombie Apocalypse Call Center

Learning How to Fly

Reviews

[S. Harrell · Rating 5 out of 5]

In a fairly humorous yet wickedly thorough examination of both magick and kink, here the two beatifically intersect. If you've read the authors' other works (which are highly recommended), some of the magickal information will not be new, though applying it within the context of sex may be. If you’re looking for naughty literoticism, you won’t find it here. The purpose of this book is to teach, albeit with a bit of bite. This book gives detailed and honest explanations of kink, as well as defines magickal terms. It covers the gamut of choosing partners, negotiation, tools, boundaries, triggers, scenes as sacred space for rituals, altered states of consciousness for setting intentions and thought manifestation, role playing... Hitting several philosophical notes, it covers the precautions and indulgences of kink, as well as debunks myths and stereotypes, diving straight into cultural fears of female power, vagina dentata, notwithstanding. However the reader approaches kink, this book is without judgement, though is careful to espouse healthy distinction between sexual behaviours and interactions that foster connection and compassion, forsaking those that may be considered flat out harmful. That said, it approaches magick with the same compassionate respect and use. Embracing the power of the feminine allows gender polarity to be rendered neutral in the presentation of the material, creating comfortable readers of transgendered folk and those of diverse sexual orientations.

All told, this book isn't beginner material for magicians or kink enthusiasts, but it could be required reading for both.

Besides, any book with the phrase, "ponyboy in a peartree" is worth turning the pages.

[Lynne · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm still reading, but I'm learning that everyone's definition of kink and magic are different, and yet these two seem to see many things in a way similar to my own.

[Mycelial Alchemy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed reading this book, while it also felt tender in some of its topics, that makes sense, as this book is not just for anyone into kink, but it is for those who have a liking for kink, and want to use it to help their own inner transformations, or to help someone else's inneer transformations, processing pain/grief/trauma, exploring beyond your own body's senses, and empowering yourself, as well as power exchange and other dynamics.

While this clearly isn't for the direct beginners to Kink/BDSM or 'sex magic', this is a great book for parties who are interested in these topics but will not be shocked by triggering topics or inner workings.
These authors share their chosen/curated and consented experiences with one another, tackling (or rather, binding in bondage) some heavy topics such as neglect, abuse, SA, abandonment, etc, as well as topics of gender, shame, guilt, pleasure, confidence, the things these partners do together helps them and transforms them and lets them have a safe area to process and handle these traumas or insecurities, with someone they DO trust with these aspects and areas of their lives.
The two authors are clear with the fact that they only engage with eachother so tenderly (or intensely) when it comes to kink magic, for other play partners they may have, it is all kink/bdsm, for fun and for pleasure.

(If you cannot handle these kinds of topics and how the authors go about them, you're welcome to not read their shared experiences and instead only read their information about how scenes can be built/made, but I feel that the context of their personal experiences and the experiences of others are what really make this book a personal and encouraging book, as someone with trauma and as someone who seeks a safety with someone close to me, I found myself tearing up at the experiences these people have with one another, in all of its rawness.)

They express deep and personal experiences as to have you understand their personal nuanced experiences with working with energy, and using ASC (altered state of consciousness) to help elevate their emotional/mental/physical experience of transformation, change, acceptance, grief, etc.

As for leaving feedback, as I hope the authors are still open to:

- I know this book was not for beginners and I fully understand that
- I am very into kink/bdsm, and I can understand how easily sexuality and spirituality can mix and meld and work together especially within scenes and play, but I a few times felt myself softly asking 'how could i safely and comfortingly show a partner this? a partner who has religious trauma for example, who might be new to accepting spirituality? what about just a partner who was not raised with any spiritual inclined beliefs or ideas?'

- While a reader's partner might be into kink/bdsm, what if they are new to expressing any emotions/experiences with energy work (or 'magic' which already might turn some non-spiritual partners off due to disbelief)?

- What I mean to say by this is; It would be kind of cool to know how to healthily approach a partner who DOES want to try this or be a part of it, but who might have their own insecurities or learned lack of belief when it comes to the ways people can connect with eachother, or if they have embarrassment at the idea of baring themselves to another in such an authentic way, after being raised to be inauthentic (which a lot of us these days are).

- It would be cool to know some simpler exercises, though I suppose just general energy swapping could be done, I wonder how baby-steps we could take it, to make it the most accessible to those who don't want to feel like they are jumping into the abyss and not knowing if there will be ground under their feet when they leap (as fun as that feeling can be to some)

This book was not at all a waste of money, but I do suppose my specific reasons/interests were met, and maybe not everyone else has the same interests.
I would say that if you are into energy work, which takes time, patience and a strong ever-working bond, and you are into scenes/ritualistic magic, then you would perhaps like this book.

This book talks on the lighter topics of invoking energies, energy swapping, sensory led experiences, leading to ASC (altered state of consciousness), as well as to some more heavy topics such as methods they have used via magic/bdsm/kink to help process long-held trauma, and it does talk of positive scenes as well as ones that were paused/ended, and were handled with aftercare, and long talks between partners as they further processed and handled what happened.

On an educational level of how it is to use kink/bdsm with mental processing and trauma-processing, (magic or not), I really enjoyed this book, especially for its depth on Safety, Boundaries, Communication, and Aftercare, for Any Party involved!
I am not new to kink/bdsm or sex magic as topics, but I appreciate and admire this book for being here for people who are new to the spheres, who are looking for their own ways of safety, connection, and processing!

(I have been a long time fan of Lupa, and this has helped me to understand them more, as well as their relationship and approach to magic/spirituality and kink/bdsm!)

[Steve Cran · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lupa and Taylor’s approach to magick is new and refreshing. What follows is a book that combines magic with sadomasochistic practices. Some would think that sex and magick do not go together, in fact they very much do. Sex magick has been practiced for a long time. Sadomasochism is thought to be cathartic and healing for people who have suffered abuse. This book has some of those techniques.

Magick works by raising energy and then directing it towards a certain goal. Magick is defined as changing reality according to one’s will. Sex brings up lots of energy. The build up to the climax makes energy and the climax offers the perfect release of that energy toward that goal. The bodily fluids could be used to charge sigil or other magical implements. In a BDSM situation it is the top who is directing the subs energy toward a specific goal.

The book gives a good introducing into the terminology of BDSM. The terms are very exhaustive, even for someone who practices this stuff. The authors render their own personal experiences into the book. Wiccan practices like perfect love and perfect trust come into play as the authors talk about safety and the need to trust the partner you are playing with.

The techniques they use employ Taoist breathing and definitely charging sigils. Yet there is also exploring past traumas and using the cathartic experiences to dissolve blockages and transform the negative into positive. There are psychic vampire techniques where in energy is exchanged.. Role playing is used to over come previous trauma.

 

There is even a tarot spread to this book. I love their new and novel approach to magic.

 

[NormaCenva · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is out of print, but if you can get your hands on it... it is very much worth your time!