I Said NO: How To Have Boundaries And Backbone While Not Being A Jerk: The No-Bullsh*t Guide to Setting Boundaries, Speaking Up, and Being Unbothered by Other People’s Feelings

by Jen Fry

In I Said No, Dr. Jen Fry takes the guilt and guesswork out of setting boundaries, saying no, and standing firm. With unflinching honesty, cultural insight, and a sharp sense of humor, she unpacks why so many high-achievers—especially women—struggle with conflict, and what it takes to reclaim your time, peace, and power.

This book isn’t about being mean. It’s about being clear. Whether you’re constantly overcommitted, afraid to disappoint others, or exhausted from being everything to everyone, I Said No gives you the tools to speak up, hold your line, and stop apologizing for taking up space.

It’s time to stop shrinking. Time to stop explaining. Time to say no—with a backbone and no regrets.

172 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 1, 2025

Reviews

[Ginger Fargas · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dr. Fry talks to you throughout like a real friend. One who gets in your face when you need it and stands by your side when you don’t. While boundaries aren’t a major problem for me, I could relate to so many of her connections. I’m sharing this book with my teen daughters as well. It’s practical, easy to ready and apply.

[Amber · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this book in 5 days on my vacation. It really breaks down how to navigate boundaries and speaking up for yourself. These are essential skills that everyone needs and unfortunately do not take the time to practice. The book breaks it down in manageable steps for anyone to comprehend. I'm looking forward to digging more into the reflection questions.