تنهاراه پایداری زندگی زناشویی

by Adolf Guggenbühl-Craig, آدولف گوگنبال

خیلی ها به اشتباه فکر می کنند باید ازدواج کنند تا خوسبخت شوند . این کتاب می گوید که این باور غلطی است و باید دنبال چیزهایی دیگری در ازدواج بود.

Genres: Psychology, Relationships

176 pages, Paperback

First published December 12, 1977

Reviews

[Heather]

This book BLEW MY HAIR BACK. It has a radical view of marriage, singleness, and salvation, and I'm still thinking about it. It is out of print, but my analyst lent it to me - I feel lucky to have gotten to read it. I'm not sure yet, but I think this has changed my perspective on a number of things forever.

[Elaheh]

دیدگاهش رو در مجموع پسندیدم. و نوع نگاهی که به ازدواج داشت. از اسمش انتظار کتاب روانشناسی داشتم ولی بعد از خوندن احساس کردم بیشتر روانشناسی مذهبی بود. مشکلی که باهاش داشتم این بود که جاهایی رو نمی‌فهمیدم. فکر می‌کنم توضیحی که داده بود بعضی جاها کافی نبود. مطلب مفصلی رو می‌خواسته خیلی کوتاه بیان کنه و نتونسته.

[Reece]

Get ready for a weeked tour bus into the whacky world of paradox. Dont expect definitive answers to the perks and problems of marriage. You will find no general recommendations and statistics of what works for most people.

This book really hammers home that growth/individualtion ≠ wellness. I know not much of the history of this so-called 'wellness epidemic' in Western Psychology, but it appears to have made some waves in the late 70s when this book was published. Jungians do not see much initial utility in wellness.

Guggenbühl-Craig makes some novel insights. One main theme is that marriage serves as the surface in which the unrefined parts of the personality meet the grindstone. The more sparks, the more growth. A 'safe' stable marriage may not have the richness and depth of one where each partner's neurosis (and by extention, their families' neurosis) is on full display.

A caution made frequently in the book: Marriage is not for everyone. At least not if one is to fully imbue the alchemical coniunctio.

The book was a fluid and enjoyable read. It's missing a star as I feel it was a little brief in many sections, particularly the final chapters.

[Gabo Moncada]

«Marriage is not comfortable and harmonious. Rather it is a place of individuation where a person rubs up against oneself and against the partner, bumps up against the person in love and in rejection, and in this fashion learns to know oneself, the world, good and evil, the heights and the depths.»

[Alice]

Of course it is both. If you love confrontation and contingencies, you'll love this book.

[Abu Alizada]

Before reading this marriage seemed to me so ordinary (and stupid).

[Elnaz]

کتابی محتوای مناسب و آموزنده‌ای داره و کمک می‌کنه نگاه وسیع‌تر و عمیق‌تری نسبت به ازدواج پیدا کنیم. بنظر من ترجمه خیلی مناسب نبود و متن جاهایی روان نیست.