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It Started with "I Do"
Just two years after saying “I do,” Iriah Ozah is ready to walk away from her marriage. Tired of feeling unseen and emotionally alone, she’s quietly preparing for divorce, this time, without waiting for another apology that won’t change anything. But when her best friend suggests a four-week couples’ retreat on Bonny Island, Iriah reluctantly agrees to give it one last try.
Udoka Adindu never thought it would come to this. He knows he’s made mistakes, but watching Iriah drift away feels like losing air. After a disastrous family meeting brings their issues to a breaking point, he realises he has two let go or fight for the woman he still loves. Choosing the latter, he takes time off work and agrees to attend the Rekindle Retreat, a final shot at saving their marriage.
On an island far from their daily lives, surrounded by other couples fighting their own battles, Iriah and Udoka are forced to confront uncomfortable truths about their marriage, their wounds, and themselves. But beneath the pain lies a deep love neither is ready to give up on.
Can four weeks be enough to rediscover what brought them together … or is it already too late?
Udoka Adindu never thought it would come to this. He knows he’s made mistakes, but watching Iriah drift away feels like losing air. After a disastrous family meeting brings their issues to a breaking point, he realises he has two let go or fight for the woman he still loves. Choosing the latter, he takes time off work and agrees to attend the Rekindle Retreat, a final shot at saving their marriage.
On an island far from their daily lives, surrounded by other couples fighting their own battles, Iriah and Udoka are forced to confront uncomfortable truths about their marriage, their wounds, and themselves. But beneath the pain lies a deep love neither is ready to give up on.
Can four weeks be enough to rediscover what brought them together … or is it already too late?
336 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 30, 2025
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About the author
Amaka Azie
26 books219 followersAmaka Azie is an award-winning author of romance fiction set in tropical West Africa.
She explores the beauty and intricacies of the continent in her sweet and sensual love stories.
Born and raised in Nigeria, West Africa, she developed a passion for reading at the age of twelve. Her interest in writing began in secondary school when she joined the press club.
Her books showcase bold and exciting female and male main characters with compelling storylines, and her active imagination has captured the interests of many.
Apart from getting lost in creating fascinating fictional characters, Amaka enjoys reading, painting and travelling with her family. She lives in the United Kingdom with her husband and daughters and where she also practices as a part-time family doctor.
Amaka was named one of the Most Influential Nigerian Authors Under Forty by the Nigerian Writers Awards (NWA) for the years 2017 and 2018.
She explores the beauty and intricacies of the continent in her sweet and sensual love stories.
Born and raised in Nigeria, West Africa, she developed a passion for reading at the age of twelve. Her interest in writing began in secondary school when she joined the press club.
Her books showcase bold and exciting female and male main characters with compelling storylines, and her active imagination has captured the interests of many.
Apart from getting lost in creating fascinating fictional characters, Amaka enjoys reading, painting and travelling with her family. She lives in the United Kingdom with her husband and daughters and where she also practices as a part-time family doctor.
Amaka was named one of the Most Influential Nigerian Authors Under Forty by the Nigerian Writers Awards (NWA) for the years 2017 and 2018.
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June 6, 2025
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Thank you to the author for this e-ARC and the opportunity to share my honest thoughts.
Just two years after saying “I do,” Iriah Ozah is ready to walk away from her marriage—ready to walk away from Udoka. But can a couples’ retreat salvage what’s left, or is it already too late?
When love meets life, it can start to feel like a chore. You get caught up in appearances, in what others think about you and your partner. That’s what made this book stand out to me—it portrayed love and marriage in an honest, messy, and deeply human way.
I especially appreciated how the story explored a non-traditional dynamic: a marriage where the woman has more money and influence. Iriah and Udoka clearly love each other, but like I always say—unspoken expectations breed resentment. They were having conversations, yes—but not about what really mattered. The way therapy was woven into the story? Beautiful and necessary.
Overall, this might be fiction, but the lessons hit hard. I’ve already tucked a few gems into my journal app. A raw, realistic portrayal of love and marriage. This book ate and left no crumbs!
Thank you to the author for this e-ARC and the opportunity to share my honest thoughts.
Just two years after saying “I do,” Iriah Ozah is ready to walk away from her marriage—ready to walk away from Udoka. But can a couples’ retreat salvage what’s left, or is it already too late?
When love meets life, it can start to feel like a chore. You get caught up in appearances, in what others think about you and your partner. That’s what made this book stand out to me—it portrayed love and marriage in an honest, messy, and deeply human way.
I especially appreciated how the story explored a non-traditional dynamic: a marriage where the woman has more money and influence. Iriah and Udoka clearly love each other, but like I always say—unspoken expectations breed resentment. They were having conversations, yes—but not about what really mattered. The way therapy was woven into the story? Beautiful and necessary.
Overall, this might be fiction, but the lessons hit hard. I’ve already tucked a few gems into my journal app. A raw, realistic portrayal of love and marriage. This book ate and left no crumbs!
June 5, 2025
Whew, what a book! I had the pleasure of reading this book as an ARC from Amaka, and she truly never disappoints. While we got glimpses of Iriah in *Anuli’s Story*, nothing prepared me for the depth and vulnerability she brought here. The "my wife" energy in this book is top-tier, and the emotional vulnerability between Iriah and Udoka is unlike anything I’ve read in a second-chance romance. This isn’t just a love story—it’s a rich exploration of trust, envy, secrecy, and the courage it takes to try again.
One thing that stood out was how the book handled heavy marital issues with so much intentionality. There was barely any miscommunication—just two people hiding the truth out of fear of losing each other. Their decision to fight for their relationship felt honest and mature. I especially loved how the story subtly highlighted how Nigerians often avoid therapy, and the harm that can cause in relationships. Udoka and Iriah’s journey to healing was raw, real, and incredibly rewarding to witness.
Amaka’s writing shines in this installment. She knows how to tackle weighty themes with grace, weaving humor, heartfelt banter, and magnetic chemistry into every scene. Even the side characters were vibrant and engaging.
It Started With “I Do” is a 4.5-star read for me, and honestly—ARC or not—it’s hands down my favorite book in the series. Highly recommend!
One thing that stood out was how the book handled heavy marital issues with so much intentionality. There was barely any miscommunication—just two people hiding the truth out of fear of losing each other. Their decision to fight for their relationship felt honest and mature. I especially loved how the story subtly highlighted how Nigerians often avoid therapy, and the harm that can cause in relationships. Udoka and Iriah’s journey to healing was raw, real, and incredibly rewarding to witness.
Amaka’s writing shines in this installment. She knows how to tackle weighty themes with grace, weaving humor, heartfelt banter, and magnetic chemistry into every scene. Even the side characters were vibrant and engaging.
It Started With “I Do” is a 4.5-star read for me, and honestly—ARC or not—it’s hands down my favorite book in the series. Highly recommend!
June 5, 2025
I haven’t read a book from Amaka Azie that has disappointed me, never!!
The book was written so well, I loved the pace and structure.I also love how we got to see the beginning of their marriage in It started with “I don’t” and how this one showed their married life —the ups and downs in their marriage.
Udoka was just too insecure for my liking. He didn’t know how to communicate, that annoyed me. COMMUNICATION IS KEY IN A RELATIONSHIP
I loved loved the easter eggs we got !! I screamed when I saw it 😂
But I have to say, at the end, to save her marriage, she had to clip her wings and I didn’t like that. Even changing her last name to Mrs Adindu, I wish she had kept her father’s name to the end, given that it was emphasized right from the beginning that she wasn’t someone that conformed to the traditional wife roles.
I wish we got more interactions from the in-laws, like the air around them wasn’t cleared. Or maybe I missed that part ?? They both owe each other apologies to themselves and to the children.
I might be asking for too much but I wouldn’t mind a story on Andrew Cole and the couples they met at the retreat 😩 their stories seemed interesting.
The book was written so well, I loved the pace and structure.I also love how we got to see the beginning of their marriage in It started with “I don’t” and how this one showed their married life —the ups and downs in their marriage.
Udoka was just too insecure for my liking. He didn’t know how to communicate, that annoyed me. COMMUNICATION IS KEY IN A RELATIONSHIP
I loved loved the easter eggs we got !! I screamed when I saw it 😂
But I have to say, at the end, to save her marriage, she had to clip her wings and I didn’t like that. Even changing her last name to Mrs Adindu, I wish she had kept her father’s name to the end, given that it was emphasized right from the beginning that she wasn’t someone that conformed to the traditional wife roles.
I wish we got more interactions from the in-laws, like the air around them wasn’t cleared. Or maybe I missed that part ?? They both owe each other apologies to themselves and to the children.
I might be asking for too much but I wouldn’t mind a story on Andrew Cole and the couples they met at the retreat 😩 their stories seemed interesting.
June 8, 2025
This was an intense, reflective, and utterly captivating read! As an ARC reader, I had the privilege of experiencing Amaka Azie's brilliant storytelling firsthand, and I am so grateful to the author for writing such a powerful and relatable story.
From the very first page, Amaka Azie masterfully draws you into the complex world of Iriah and Udoka, a couple whose deep love is tested by the relentless pressures of societal expectations, personal insecurities, and the silent chasms that can grow between two people, even if they love each other dearly.
Set in Abuja, Nigeria, Iriah and Udoka's story feels incredibly real and raw. Udoka's struggle with feelings of inadequacy next to Iriah's generational wealth is painfully relatable, as his tireless pursuit of financial success to measure up, that ultimately left his wife feeling unseen and alone.
Iriah's eventual breaking point was described so vividly that I couldn't help but feel her solitude and despair. The heartbreaking separation that followed was so raw, I felt like I was in the book with the characters. The author was able to depict the true cost of unspoken burdens in relationships.
The true intensity of this book shone at the Rekindle Retreat on Bonny Island. Here, under the guidance of therapists Dr. Charles and Ebere Amadi, Iriah and Udoka, alongside other couples, are compelled to confront their deepest fears and flaws. Watching them bravely peel back layers of hurt and misunderstanding is a profound experience. The honest self-reflection and the difficult, yet necessary, apologies exchanged are a powerful reminder of the work required to truly connect with another person.
The four weeks spent at the Rekindle Retreat were an eye-opener, not just for the characters, but for me as a reader.
Just when I thought Iriah and Udoka have found their peace, Amaka Azie masterfully introduced a post-retreat twist that threatened to shatter everything the couple fought so hard to rebuild. I was genuinely scared for them.
"It Started With I Do" is truly deserving of an award! The profound life lessons embedded within the narrative, the sheer relatability of the characters' struggles, and the author's vivid depiction of emotions and events make this a truly unforgettable read. This book powerfully underscores the importance of therapy for mental health and relationships, and it lays bare the devastating impact that secrets, even well-intentioned ones, can have on trust.
If you're looking for a deeply human story that will make you reflect on your own relationships, pick up "It Started With I Do" by Amaka Azie. You won't regret it.
Thank you, Amaka Azie, for this beautiful story!
From the very first page, Amaka Azie masterfully draws you into the complex world of Iriah and Udoka, a couple whose deep love is tested by the relentless pressures of societal expectations, personal insecurities, and the silent chasms that can grow between two people, even if they love each other dearly.
Set in Abuja, Nigeria, Iriah and Udoka's story feels incredibly real and raw. Udoka's struggle with feelings of inadequacy next to Iriah's generational wealth is painfully relatable, as his tireless pursuit of financial success to measure up, that ultimately left his wife feeling unseen and alone.
Iriah's eventual breaking point was described so vividly that I couldn't help but feel her solitude and despair. The heartbreaking separation that followed was so raw, I felt like I was in the book with the characters. The author was able to depict the true cost of unspoken burdens in relationships.
The true intensity of this book shone at the Rekindle Retreat on Bonny Island. Here, under the guidance of therapists Dr. Charles and Ebere Amadi, Iriah and Udoka, alongside other couples, are compelled to confront their deepest fears and flaws. Watching them bravely peel back layers of hurt and misunderstanding is a profound experience. The honest self-reflection and the difficult, yet necessary, apologies exchanged are a powerful reminder of the work required to truly connect with another person.
The four weeks spent at the Rekindle Retreat were an eye-opener, not just for the characters, but for me as a reader.
Just when I thought Iriah and Udoka have found their peace, Amaka Azie masterfully introduced a post-retreat twist that threatened to shatter everything the couple fought so hard to rebuild. I was genuinely scared for them.
"It Started With I Do" is truly deserving of an award! The profound life lessons embedded within the narrative, the sheer relatability of the characters' struggles, and the author's vivid depiction of emotions and events make this a truly unforgettable read. This book powerfully underscores the importance of therapy for mental health and relationships, and it lays bare the devastating impact that secrets, even well-intentioned ones, can have on trust.
If you're looking for a deeply human story that will make you reflect on your own relationships, pick up "It Started With I Do" by Amaka Azie. You won't regret it.
Thank you, Amaka Azie, for this beautiful story!
June 16, 2025
This isn't just another romance story; it is therapy! Thank you, @amaka.azie, for trusting me with this ARC to share my thoughts!
The story follows Iriah, the only daughter and heiress to her father's wealth, and Udoka, a traditional Igbo man who is struggling to prove that he can take care of Iriah, despite her family's resentment. SWIPE FOR THE BOOK BLURB.
This book is everything! It felt like the author guided me through the path of marriage. Through this book, I gained more insights into what marriage entails. It is raw and powerful. One thing I love about Ms. Amaka's stories is that she explores realistic themes. The issues faced by Iriah and Udoka, along with the other couples at the retreat, are what happens in relationships and marriages today—settling for less and not communicating because you don’t want your partner to feel inferior or superior, as the case may be. In my opinion, constant communication is essential for a successful union.
Iriah and Udoka, especially Iriah, stressed me out! I liked Iriah from "It Started With 'I Don't,'" but reading her story, I found it hard to connect with her. While I understood her anger, I couldn't completely blame Udoka because his actions stemmed from Iriah's luxurious lifestyle and the pressure from her parents. If you know Igbo men well, you know they love to dominate and care for their wives. How else can they do that if they don’t work? Nonetheless, Udoka's absence on important occasions couldn’t be overlooked. He should have made more effort.
But I love Udoka so much! He exudes chivalry. He knows what to say, when, and how to say it! His lines were so smooth that I was swept away, almost forgetting that this is fiction. Chaii!
I also love the quotes beneath each chapter number. ❤️ The other couples from the retreat were well-developed. If it’s possible, @amaka.azie, I would love to read a story about them, especially Lucas and Ego Nworgu. I’d also love a story about Iriah's parents and Andrew Cole (hopefully, I'll get to rant about him someday).
Ms. Amaka Azie never disappoints with her stories, and this one is a solid 5⭐. I highly recommend it. This book, along with the first, would also be perfect for a book club read. My @albreadingcommunity ladies will love it! 😂❤️
The story follows Iriah, the only daughter and heiress to her father's wealth, and Udoka, a traditional Igbo man who is struggling to prove that he can take care of Iriah, despite her family's resentment. SWIPE FOR THE BOOK BLURB.
This book is everything! It felt like the author guided me through the path of marriage. Through this book, I gained more insights into what marriage entails. It is raw and powerful. One thing I love about Ms. Amaka's stories is that she explores realistic themes. The issues faced by Iriah and Udoka, along with the other couples at the retreat, are what happens in relationships and marriages today—settling for less and not communicating because you don’t want your partner to feel inferior or superior, as the case may be. In my opinion, constant communication is essential for a successful union.
Iriah and Udoka, especially Iriah, stressed me out! I liked Iriah from "It Started With 'I Don't,'" but reading her story, I found it hard to connect with her. While I understood her anger, I couldn't completely blame Udoka because his actions stemmed from Iriah's luxurious lifestyle and the pressure from her parents. If you know Igbo men well, you know they love to dominate and care for their wives. How else can they do that if they don’t work? Nonetheless, Udoka's absence on important occasions couldn’t be overlooked. He should have made more effort.
But I love Udoka so much! He exudes chivalry. He knows what to say, when, and how to say it! His lines were so smooth that I was swept away, almost forgetting that this is fiction. Chaii!
I also love the quotes beneath each chapter number. ❤️ The other couples from the retreat were well-developed. If it’s possible, @amaka.azie, I would love to read a story about them, especially Lucas and Ego Nworgu. I’d also love a story about Iriah's parents and Andrew Cole (hopefully, I'll get to rant about him someday).
Ms. Amaka Azie never disappoints with her stories, and this one is a solid 5⭐. I highly recommend it. This book, along with the first, would also be perfect for a book club read. My @albreadingcommunity ladies will love it! 😂❤️
June 12, 2025
Iriah and Udoka's love story is best described as an emotional roller coaster.
Their dream of a happily-ever-after is rocked to it's core just 2 years in and the journey to rediscover their reason for saying "I DO " is beset with a lot of obstacles, and it takes them all the way to a beautiful resort in Bonny Island, for therapy.
Therapy, however, isn't as easy as they expected as it bares truths so deeply-seated that it shocks them both. It feels like they are drowning, and only honesty and unwavering trust can save them.
Amaka Azie isn't just a household name but a force to be reckoned with in the literary world. She has carved a niche for herself as a romance author with a keen eye for thought-provoking themes, infused with humour and a healthy dose of spice.
This book is no exception, as its plot is well thought out, characters well developed and packed with learning curves that get readers to reflect on their relationships 😀 👏
My Thoughts ===>
I loved the twist to the billionaire romance trope.
Again, their resolve to seek therapy is one thing I also loved about the story, seeing as it usually isn't common practice in Nigeria.
Character development always sells any book for me, and it's a 10/10 for this book.
Their dream of a happily-ever-after is rocked to it's core just 2 years in and the journey to rediscover their reason for saying "I DO " is beset with a lot of obstacles, and it takes them all the way to a beautiful resort in Bonny Island, for therapy.
Therapy, however, isn't as easy as they expected as it bares truths so deeply-seated that it shocks them both. It feels like they are drowning, and only honesty and unwavering trust can save them.
Amaka Azie isn't just a household name but a force to be reckoned with in the literary world. She has carved a niche for herself as a romance author with a keen eye for thought-provoking themes, infused with humour and a healthy dose of spice.
This book is no exception, as its plot is well thought out, characters well developed and packed with learning curves that get readers to reflect on their relationships 😀 👏
My Thoughts ===>
I loved the twist to the billionaire romance trope.
Again, their resolve to seek therapy is one thing I also loved about the story, seeing as it usually isn't common practice in Nigeria.
Character development always sells any book for me, and it's a 10/10 for this book.
June 22, 2025
This was my first book by Amaka Azie, and I’m honestly blown away. It Started With “I Do” is more than just a romance novel; it’s an honest, mature, and deeply reflective look at what happens after the “I do.”
I’m not usually a fan of second chance romance, but Iriah and Udoka’s journey completely won me over. The emotional depth of their story, the relatable challenges they faced, and the realistic portrayal of how marriages can fall apart (and possibly come back together) was incredibly well done.
One of the strongest aspects of this novel is how it handles real-life themes: the role of patriarchy in relationships, how families can unwittingly sabotage relationships, the impact of childhood upbringing on adult behavior, and most importantly, the dangers of poor communication.
I loved the maturity of the characters. Even when they were in conflict, there was a restraint and respect between them that’s rare in fiction. And I was especially impressed by how the author included therapy as a major plot point. In a society where therapy is often stigmatized, this felt both refreshing and important.
Also, the intimacy in this book was handled with intentionality. The spice wasn’t just thrown in for effect… it was part of the characters’ emotional growth and healing. The reconnection between Iriah and Udoka was emotional, mental, and physical, (in that order) and it made the story so much more wholesome.
Finally, I really appreciated the side characters and their subplots, even though they were brief. I’m already looking forward to their own books if the author chooses to explore them.
This book is a gem. Thoughtful, romantic, layered, and deeply Nigerian in the best way possible. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to ARC read it.
I’m not usually a fan of second chance romance, but Iriah and Udoka’s journey completely won me over. The emotional depth of their story, the relatable challenges they faced, and the realistic portrayal of how marriages can fall apart (and possibly come back together) was incredibly well done.
One of the strongest aspects of this novel is how it handles real-life themes: the role of patriarchy in relationships, how families can unwittingly sabotage relationships, the impact of childhood upbringing on adult behavior, and most importantly, the dangers of poor communication.
I loved the maturity of the characters. Even when they were in conflict, there was a restraint and respect between them that’s rare in fiction. And I was especially impressed by how the author included therapy as a major plot point. In a society where therapy is often stigmatized, this felt both refreshing and important.
Also, the intimacy in this book was handled with intentionality. The spice wasn’t just thrown in for effect… it was part of the characters’ emotional growth and healing. The reconnection between Iriah and Udoka was emotional, mental, and physical, (in that order) and it made the story so much more wholesome.
Finally, I really appreciated the side characters and their subplots, even though they were brief. I’m already looking forward to their own books if the author chooses to explore them.
This book is a gem. Thoughtful, romantic, layered, and deeply Nigerian in the best way possible. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to ARC read it.
June 16, 2025
I’m a big fan of Ms. Azie’s work so I was pleased to receive an advanced release copy of this book. Udoka and Iriah are about 2 years into their marriage and have run into some issues. She is independent and extremely wealthy and is used to getting her way. Udoka is more traditional and wants to be able to take care of his wife. What is great about this book is you can see both sides of how the characters feel and you root for them to figure it out. Before they throw on the towel, they attend a wedding retreat where they meet 2 other couples.
I became invested in all 3 couples as they fought for their marriages. Udoka and Iriah had to have the tough conversations and walk in each other’s shoes before they could move forward. It shows that marriage is work and worth it. I loved how they loved each other in spite of their issues and how it was almost agonizing for both of them as they navigated their marriage.
This was a sweet and spicy book that I enjoyed reading I don’t want to give anything away but to implore everyone to read this book, whether you are married or single. You will get something out of it!
I became invested in all 3 couples as they fought for their marriages. Udoka and Iriah had to have the tough conversations and walk in each other’s shoes before they could move forward. It shows that marriage is work and worth it. I loved how they loved each other in spite of their issues and how it was almost agonizing for both of them as they navigated their marriage.
This was a sweet and spicy book that I enjoyed reading I don’t want to give anything away but to implore everyone to read this book, whether you are married or single. You will get something out of it!
June 25, 2025
One thing I’m so grateful for is getting this book as an arc copy from Amaka Azie,one author that never goes wrong with any book she writes
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Romance Love Family
“Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring.
It means you stop trying to force someone to—Mandy Hale”
This was the first line I read that got me hooked to the book “It Started With I do”
And this here is my favorite quote from the book “Real love is not a fairy tale. It’s not always kisses and butterflies.
It’s fighting and staying, arguing and understanding,
breaking and rebuilding. It’s real. And it’s worth it”
This book is one that made me realize you can do anything if you want to and by the way it solidified my hopeless romantic stance😊
This book is about Iriah and Udoka,a couple that loves each other too much and then with just one mistake it got to the brim,it became too much to hold on to and just when it seems as if it’s ending the plot twist comes around
This book is one that I love so much and I smiled all through the time I was reading it🤭You love Romance?then this is for you
It’s a 5⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ read
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Romance Love Family
“Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring.
It means you stop trying to force someone to—Mandy Hale”
This was the first line I read that got me hooked to the book “It Started With I do”
And this here is my favorite quote from the book “Real love is not a fairy tale. It’s not always kisses and butterflies.
It’s fighting and staying, arguing and understanding,
breaking and rebuilding. It’s real. And it’s worth it”
This book is one that made me realize you can do anything if you want to and by the way it solidified my hopeless romantic stance😊
This book is about Iriah and Udoka,a couple that loves each other too much and then with just one mistake it got to the brim,it became too much to hold on to and just when it seems as if it’s ending the plot twist comes around
This book is one that I love so much and I smiled all through the time I was reading it🤭You love Romance?then this is for you
It’s a 5⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ read
July 7, 2025
I absolutely loved this novel! It Began With I Do is a beautifully written, emotionally resonant story that had me hooked from the very first page. Amaka Azie does a fantastic job weaving a heartfelt tale of love, healing, and redemption.
One of the aspects I appreciated most was how the novel explores the theme of second chances—how love, when nurtured with honesty and vulnerability, can be rekindled even in the face of deep hurt. The portrayal of marriage therapy was handled with such care and realism, showing that seeking help is not a sign of failure but a courageous step toward growth and understanding.
The chemistry between Udoka and Iriah was undeniable, and I found myself deeply invested in their journey. The emotional tension, cultural backdrop, and meaningful dialogue made the story feel incredibly authentic and impactful.
Thank you, Amaka, for giving us a love story that is not only romantic but also inspiring and hopeful.
One of the aspects I appreciated most was how the novel explores the theme of second chances—how love, when nurtured with honesty and vulnerability, can be rekindled even in the face of deep hurt. The portrayal of marriage therapy was handled with such care and realism, showing that seeking help is not a sign of failure but a courageous step toward growth and understanding.
The chemistry between Udoka and Iriah was undeniable, and I found myself deeply invested in their journey. The emotional tension, cultural backdrop, and meaningful dialogue made the story feel incredibly authentic and impactful.
Thank you, Amaka, for giving us a love story that is not only romantic but also inspiring and hopeful.
June 11, 2025
I got this as an ARC from the author and I loved it much more than the first book 🙈
It Started With I Do is the second book in The Self-discovery series. It is an emotionally charged, slow-burn romance about Iriah, a wealthy and accomplished woman, and Udoka, her charming but emotionally unavailable husband. What begins as a marriage rooted in convenience and shared ambition slowly unravels, exposing secrets and betrayals. Amaka Azie expertly weaves themes of self-worth, emotional healing, and the search for authentic love, all against a vibrant Nigerian backdrop.
Iriah, An heiress with a compassionate heart and a fierce drive to build a meaningful career. Despite her confidence and wealth, she craves genuine affection and emotional reciprocity, not just admiration. Her character is one of self-discovery and learning not to settle for love that drains her.
Udoka’s emotional aloofness frustrated me at some point. Handsome, ambitious, and charming, but also emotionally evasive and work-obsessed. A deeply flawed man shaped by ambition, secrets, and personal demons.
Iriah and Udoka’s marriage exposes the disconnection that can live behind a picture-perfect façade. At its core, this is a story about a woman learning to choose herself. Iriah’s journey will resonate with anyone who’s ever loved someone more than they were loved in return.
The novel touches on how Nigerian society (especially among the wealthy) often prioritizes image, legacy, and appearances over emotional truth.
It Started With I Do is a poignant, empowering romance about learning to expect more from love and from yourself. Amaka’s storytelling is tender and insightful, with a heroine you’ll admire and a love story that feels real, messy, and ultimately healing.
I highly recommended this one.
It Started With I Do is the second book in The Self-discovery series. It is an emotionally charged, slow-burn romance about Iriah, a wealthy and accomplished woman, and Udoka, her charming but emotionally unavailable husband. What begins as a marriage rooted in convenience and shared ambition slowly unravels, exposing secrets and betrayals. Amaka Azie expertly weaves themes of self-worth, emotional healing, and the search for authentic love, all against a vibrant Nigerian backdrop.
Iriah, An heiress with a compassionate heart and a fierce drive to build a meaningful career. Despite her confidence and wealth, she craves genuine affection and emotional reciprocity, not just admiration. Her character is one of self-discovery and learning not to settle for love that drains her.
Udoka’s emotional aloofness frustrated me at some point. Handsome, ambitious, and charming, but also emotionally evasive and work-obsessed. A deeply flawed man shaped by ambition, secrets, and personal demons.
Iriah and Udoka’s marriage exposes the disconnection that can live behind a picture-perfect façade. At its core, this is a story about a woman learning to choose herself. Iriah’s journey will resonate with anyone who’s ever loved someone more than they were loved in return.
The novel touches on how Nigerian society (especially among the wealthy) often prioritizes image, legacy, and appearances over emotional truth.
It Started With I Do is a poignant, empowering romance about learning to expect more from love and from yourself. Amaka’s storytelling is tender and insightful, with a heroine you’ll admire and a love story that feels real, messy, and ultimately healing.
I highly recommended this one.
June 8, 2025
This book was truly amazing! I felt every emotion throughout the story. It's not your regular, believe me; I appreciate how vulnerable and open both Udoka and Iriah were. The family dynamics were captivating, and I loved the quotes that accompanied the writing. This is a story of second chances, redemption, and healing. Their love was so raw and intense. I love the depth in the story, the couple's resilience and ability to forgive.
There are countless reasons why I enjoyed reading this book, many of which are hard to express. I particularly appreciated how it addressed the societal issues we face today. The book is filled with valuable life lessons and, at times, felt like I was in therapy. The pacing was perfect, and the storytelling flowed seamlessly. The use of language was excellent. Did I mention how much I love the quotes, I think I wrote down every single one.
The dialogue, top notch! just superb!
The issues the in-laws had?? It was so Nigerian coded. I wish there was a scene where the air was cleared with the in-laws.
Amaka truly excelled in crafting the characters; they felt real, as if they were actual people living in real life. The narrative flowed effortlessly, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and didn’t want it to end. I finished it in one sitting! I highly recommend. You don't want to miss this bliss. Thank you for writing this story. You are incredible. You are excellent at this writing thing.
If you can, we would love to read Andrew's and the other couples stories.
I love that Philip Adamu made an appearance!
There are countless reasons why I enjoyed reading this book, many of which are hard to express. I particularly appreciated how it addressed the societal issues we face today. The book is filled with valuable life lessons and, at times, felt like I was in therapy. The pacing was perfect, and the storytelling flowed seamlessly. The use of language was excellent. Did I mention how much I love the quotes, I think I wrote down every single one.
The dialogue, top notch! just superb!
The issues the in-laws had?? It was so Nigerian coded. I wish there was a scene where the air was cleared with the in-laws.
Amaka truly excelled in crafting the characters; they felt real, as if they were actual people living in real life. The narrative flowed effortlessly, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and didn’t want it to end. I finished it in one sitting! I highly recommend. You don't want to miss this bliss. Thank you for writing this story. You are incredible. You are excellent at this writing thing.
If you can, we would love to read Andrew's and the other couples stories.
I love that Philip Adamu made an appearance!
June 10, 2025
I got to be an ARC reader for It Started With “I Do”by Amaka Azie and honestly? It’s such a good read! This book had me in a chokehold in the best way.
It’s a second-chance romance (which I love), and it follows Iriah and Udoka, a couple dealing with serious marriage issues just two years after saying “I do.” Things aren’t going well, so they go on a couples’ retreat to Bonny Island which is kind of like a last shot at saving what they have.
This wasn’t just a love story; it touched on fighting for something that matters, trying to fix things without outside interference, and actually doing the work. I really appreciated that message, sometimes love isn’t enough, and this book shows what happens when people choose to stay and fight.
The chemistry between Iriah and Udoka? So good. You could feel the tension. And it wasn’t just about steamy moments, it was emotional, layered, and believable. The dialogue too? Effortless. It didn’t feel forced or too try-hard. The banter flowed so naturally, and I found myself smiling at their little moments.
The pacing was solid from beginning to end, no dragging, no repetitive scenes, just smooth, clean storytelling. I was hooked from the first chapter and couldn’t stop reading. Every chapter made me want to keep going.
So yeah, I really enjoyed this one. If you’re into second-chance romances with real heart, relatable characters, and a story that actually says something, I definitely recommend giving this a read. Amaka Azie did her thing here! I give this book a rating a 4.5 stars.
It’s a second-chance romance (which I love), and it follows Iriah and Udoka, a couple dealing with serious marriage issues just two years after saying “I do.” Things aren’t going well, so they go on a couples’ retreat to Bonny Island which is kind of like a last shot at saving what they have.
This wasn’t just a love story; it touched on fighting for something that matters, trying to fix things without outside interference, and actually doing the work. I really appreciated that message, sometimes love isn’t enough, and this book shows what happens when people choose to stay and fight.
The chemistry between Iriah and Udoka? So good. You could feel the tension. And it wasn’t just about steamy moments, it was emotional, layered, and believable. The dialogue too? Effortless. It didn’t feel forced or too try-hard. The banter flowed so naturally, and I found myself smiling at their little moments.
The pacing was solid from beginning to end, no dragging, no repetitive scenes, just smooth, clean storytelling. I was hooked from the first chapter and couldn’t stop reading. Every chapter made me want to keep going.
So yeah, I really enjoyed this one. If you’re into second-chance romances with real heart, relatable characters, and a story that actually says something, I definitely recommend giving this a read. Amaka Azie did her thing here! I give this book a rating a 4.5 stars.
June 19, 2025
It's probably the sweetest second chance romance you'll ever read.
The characters were beautifully written, especially the FMC. It was a bonus that she was wealthy too. That's not something you see every day.
Thank you to the author for an eARC of this book. It comes out at the end of the month, so make sure to grab a copy when it's out.
The characters were beautifully written, especially the FMC. It was a bonus that she was wealthy too. That's not something you see every day.
Thank you to the author for an eARC of this book. It comes out at the end of the month, so make sure to grab a copy when it's out.
June 21, 2025
4.5 stars!
This book is more than just a romance.
It’s educational, heartfelt, and deeply beautiful.
Iriah and Udoka completely stole my heart.
I’ve loved them since the first book, and I just knew their story would be special. I’m so glad I got to learn from both of them.
A huge thank you to Amaka Azie for the e-ARC.
I can only imagine how challenging it must’ve been to write this story, but she pulled it off so well. I’m incredibly happy and still so curious about Simi and Wale!
This book is more than just a romance.
It’s educational, heartfelt, and deeply beautiful.
Iriah and Udoka completely stole my heart.
I’ve loved them since the first book, and I just knew their story would be special. I’m so glad I got to learn from both of them.
A huge thank you to Amaka Azie for the e-ARC.
I can only imagine how challenging it must’ve been to write this story, but she pulled it off so well. I’m incredibly happy and still so curious about Simi and Wale!
July 24, 2025
I was excited to get this book as an ARC and when I say Amaka never disappoints, I mean she never disappoints!
The story follows a couple with their marriage on the brink of collapse. And Amaka took us on a journey of love, fears, real problems and drama.
Her characters were relatable and well developed. I enjoyed how she was able to talk about marriage and the issues some people dismiss. Like in the case of Iriah and Udoka. Their issues were such that could be easily dismissed by an average person but Amaka shows us how those tiny things that looks irrelevant makes or breaks a home.
The two main characters were carrying a lot of resentment for each other and a lot of love at the same time. Amaka shows us that yes love is good, but sometimes it’s not enough on its own.
I enjoyed their therapy sessions at Bonny Island and the inside look to the other couples at the retreat. Each of them with real problems and don’t get me started on the doctor couple. Amaka you need to give them their own book Biko🤭
This book was a solid 5 stars for me. If you love second chance romance like I do, then pick this up!
The story follows a couple with their marriage on the brink of collapse. And Amaka took us on a journey of love, fears, real problems and drama.
Her characters were relatable and well developed. I enjoyed how she was able to talk about marriage and the issues some people dismiss. Like in the case of Iriah and Udoka. Their issues were such that could be easily dismissed by an average person but Amaka shows us how those tiny things that looks irrelevant makes or breaks a home.
The two main characters were carrying a lot of resentment for each other and a lot of love at the same time. Amaka shows us that yes love is good, but sometimes it’s not enough on its own.
I enjoyed their therapy sessions at Bonny Island and the inside look to the other couples at the retreat. Each of them with real problems and don’t get me started on the doctor couple. Amaka you need to give them their own book Biko🤭
This book was a solid 5 stars for me. If you love second chance romance like I do, then pick this up!
July 2, 2025
This is a second-chance romance between Udoka, a traditional man who embodies the paradox of a man who loves deeply yet fails to express it in ways his partner needs, and his wife Iriah, a seemingly confident woman grappling with loneliness and unmet expectations from her husband. One of the things Amaka does that I love is how she does not romanticize marriage; instead, she presents it as a dynamic, often challenging partnership that requires continuous effort from both individuals.
The portrayal of Udoka’s struggle with masculinity and financial insecurity, particularly in the face of Iriah’s generational wealth, resonates deeply—especially within the cultural context of traditions, where men often feel pressured to be primary providers. Iriah’s frustration with Udoka’s emotional and physical absence, despite her privilege, adds another layer of complexity, making their conflicts feel authentic rather than contrived.
The novel also excels in its depiction of therapy and self-reflection. The Rekindle Retreat serves as a narrative turning point, forcing the characters (and, by extension, the reader) to confront uncomfortable truths about love, ego, and vulnerability. The inclusion of other couples at the retreat broadens the story’s scope, reinforcing the idea that marital struggles are universal, even if their manifestations differ.
The book’s emphasis on communication as the bedrock of a successful marriage is not groundbreaking, but Azie’s execution makes it feel fresh. The post-retreat twist, which threatens to undo the couple’s progress, underscores the fragility of trust and the necessity of ongoing effort in relationships.
While the novel is largely well-structured, I wished for a deeper exploration of secondary characters like Lucas and Ego Nworgu. Additionally, the pacing—particularly in the retreat segments—felt rushed to me, as the four-week transformation happens swiftly on the page.
It Started with I Do is a romance novel that centers on partnership, self-awareness, and the courage required to love someone beyond societal scripts. Though not without minor flaws, the book is a reflective piece on modern marriage.
The portrayal of Udoka’s struggle with masculinity and financial insecurity, particularly in the face of Iriah’s generational wealth, resonates deeply—especially within the cultural context of traditions, where men often feel pressured to be primary providers. Iriah’s frustration with Udoka’s emotional and physical absence, despite her privilege, adds another layer of complexity, making their conflicts feel authentic rather than contrived.
The novel also excels in its depiction of therapy and self-reflection. The Rekindle Retreat serves as a narrative turning point, forcing the characters (and, by extension, the reader) to confront uncomfortable truths about love, ego, and vulnerability. The inclusion of other couples at the retreat broadens the story’s scope, reinforcing the idea that marital struggles are universal, even if their manifestations differ.
The book’s emphasis on communication as the bedrock of a successful marriage is not groundbreaking, but Azie’s execution makes it feel fresh. The post-retreat twist, which threatens to undo the couple’s progress, underscores the fragility of trust and the necessity of ongoing effort in relationships.
While the novel is largely well-structured, I wished for a deeper exploration of secondary characters like Lucas and Ego Nworgu. Additionally, the pacing—particularly in the retreat segments—felt rushed to me, as the four-week transformation happens swiftly on the page.
It Started with I Do is a romance novel that centers on partnership, self-awareness, and the courage required to love someone beyond societal scripts. Though not without minor flaws, the book is a reflective piece on modern marriage.
June 20, 2025
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This story follows Iriah—a wealthy, accomplished woman—who’s ready to walk away from her marriage to Udoka, her charming but emotionally unavailable husband, just two years after saying “I do.”
But don’t expect the usual romantic fluff here. This book dives into the real aftermath of marriage;the arguments, financial tensions, learning each other’s love languages, family interventions, and the big question: can love truly survive the weight of marriage?
Amaka Azie doesn’t shy away from the tough stuff. She digs deep into issues like trust, betrayal, personal flaws, and the emotional vulnerability that threads through all of them.
One quote that really stood out to me was:
“Most people don’t realise that a strong relationship takes constant work and communication. It’s not just love; it’s effort, patience, and the ability to forgive over and over.”
So many couples suffer from miscommunication, and this line hits hard—it’s a reminder that good relationships demand more than just affection; they need intentionality.
I also appreciated how the book addressed couples therapy.
It wasn’t painted as a last resort, but a necessary lens into the unconscious patterns partners create:
“Couples therapy is not about fixing the other person, it’s about uncovering the patterns you’ve both unconsciously created.”
The story thoughtfully explores the imbalance created by a patriarchal system, especially when the woman earns more than the man showing how society’s expectations can quietly erode even the strongest bonds.
Marriage, in this book, is portrayed not as a trophy or a “happy ever after,” but almost like a uniform—one that comes with rigid expectations about how you’re supposed to act.
Amaka’s writing is fluid and intentional. She handles weighty, real-life topics with grace, giving us a glimpse into what it truly means to fight with your partner, not against them.
Oh, and the side characters? Muah! 😘
They’re rich, layered, and relatable.A proof that every marriage has its own unique struggle, and we find ourselves rooting for them too.
This is a solid ⭐⭐⭐⭐.75 read for me.
If you’re in the mood for a marriage story that doesn’t sugarcoat the hard parts, this one is gold.
It’s not just romantic,it’s relational. And honestly, that’s the realest kind of romance.
This book quietly reminded me that happy endings aren’t always dramatic,they’re deeply ordinary and profoundly real.
This story follows Iriah—a wealthy, accomplished woman—who’s ready to walk away from her marriage to Udoka, her charming but emotionally unavailable husband, just two years after saying “I do.”
But don’t expect the usual romantic fluff here. This book dives into the real aftermath of marriage;the arguments, financial tensions, learning each other’s love languages, family interventions, and the big question: can love truly survive the weight of marriage?
Amaka Azie doesn’t shy away from the tough stuff. She digs deep into issues like trust, betrayal, personal flaws, and the emotional vulnerability that threads through all of them.
One quote that really stood out to me was:
“Most people don’t realise that a strong relationship takes constant work and communication. It’s not just love; it’s effort, patience, and the ability to forgive over and over.”
So many couples suffer from miscommunication, and this line hits hard—it’s a reminder that good relationships demand more than just affection; they need intentionality.
I also appreciated how the book addressed couples therapy.
It wasn’t painted as a last resort, but a necessary lens into the unconscious patterns partners create:
“Couples therapy is not about fixing the other person, it’s about uncovering the patterns you’ve both unconsciously created.”
The story thoughtfully explores the imbalance created by a patriarchal system, especially when the woman earns more than the man showing how society’s expectations can quietly erode even the strongest bonds.
Marriage, in this book, is portrayed not as a trophy or a “happy ever after,” but almost like a uniform—one that comes with rigid expectations about how you’re supposed to act.
Amaka’s writing is fluid and intentional. She handles weighty, real-life topics with grace, giving us a glimpse into what it truly means to fight with your partner, not against them.
Oh, and the side characters? Muah! 😘
They’re rich, layered, and relatable.A proof that every marriage has its own unique struggle, and we find ourselves rooting for them too.
This is a solid ⭐⭐⭐⭐.75 read for me.
If you’re in the mood for a marriage story that doesn’t sugarcoat the hard parts, this one is gold.
It’s not just romantic,it’s relational. And honestly, that’s the realest kind of romance.
This book quietly reminded me that happy endings aren’t always dramatic,they’re deeply ordinary and profoundly real.
June 21, 2025
Rating: ⭐ 4.75/5
It Started With I Do by Amaka Azie is a warm, heartfelt, and deeply emotional second-chance romance that explores what it really means to love and commit beyond the “I dos.”
The story centers around Iriah and Udoka — married for two years, together for five — who find themselves growing apart. A pattern of missed dates and forgotten moments culminates in Udoka missing their anniversary dinner. For Iriah, it’s the final straw, and she moves out of their home.
What follows is a beautiful exploration of how love requires vulnerability, honesty, and a willingness to do the hard work. After a failed family meeting, the couple embarks on a one-month therapy retreat — a last-ditch effort to save their marriage.
The writing is thoughtful and bold, unafraid to explore uncomfortable truths: societal pressure, shifting expectations, and the myth of the perfect marriage. The emotional growth and rediscovery between Iriah and Udoka is portrayed with sensitivity and depth.
A quote which sums up it up is:
“I believe our problems started with ‘I do.’ That’s when everything became black and white, when roles and expectations took over, crowding out the simple, beautiful ease of just being together. We stopped prioritising us and started prioritising what we thought marriages were supposed to look like.”
Other standout lines that really stayed with me:
“I felt peace. Not just peace, but that bone-deep warmth that tells you you're home.”
“It showed me that success isn't just found in boardrooms and bank accounts. That there is a different kind of wealth. One found in laughter shared over breakfast. In quiet forgiveness. In warm bodies tangled on a couch after a hard day. Family. Love. That's the real fortune.”
“Love doesn't start with perfection. It starts with presence.”
I also appreciated the added layer of friendships — Iriah and Anuli, Udoka and Etim — showing how essential it is to have people who love and support you, but also challenge you with truth when needed.
Though it works as a standalone, I personally chose to read It Started With I Don’t and Just Before I Do beforehand for full context — and I’m glad I did.
This book is about more than romance — it’s about renewal, choosing love over ego, and learning how to show up for each other, every single day.
Highly recommended.
It Started With I Do by Amaka Azie is a warm, heartfelt, and deeply emotional second-chance romance that explores what it really means to love and commit beyond the “I dos.”
The story centers around Iriah and Udoka — married for two years, together for five — who find themselves growing apart. A pattern of missed dates and forgotten moments culminates in Udoka missing their anniversary dinner. For Iriah, it’s the final straw, and she moves out of their home.
What follows is a beautiful exploration of how love requires vulnerability, honesty, and a willingness to do the hard work. After a failed family meeting, the couple embarks on a one-month therapy retreat — a last-ditch effort to save their marriage.
The writing is thoughtful and bold, unafraid to explore uncomfortable truths: societal pressure, shifting expectations, and the myth of the perfect marriage. The emotional growth and rediscovery between Iriah and Udoka is portrayed with sensitivity and depth.
A quote which sums up it up is:
“I believe our problems started with ‘I do.’ That’s when everything became black and white, when roles and expectations took over, crowding out the simple, beautiful ease of just being together. We stopped prioritising us and started prioritising what we thought marriages were supposed to look like.”
Other standout lines that really stayed with me:
“I felt peace. Not just peace, but that bone-deep warmth that tells you you're home.”
“It showed me that success isn't just found in boardrooms and bank accounts. That there is a different kind of wealth. One found in laughter shared over breakfast. In quiet forgiveness. In warm bodies tangled on a couch after a hard day. Family. Love. That's the real fortune.”
“Love doesn't start with perfection. It starts with presence.”
I also appreciated the added layer of friendships — Iriah and Anuli, Udoka and Etim — showing how essential it is to have people who love and support you, but also challenge you with truth when needed.
Though it works as a standalone, I personally chose to read It Started With I Don’t and Just Before I Do beforehand for full context — and I’m glad I did.
This book is about more than romance — it’s about renewal, choosing love over ego, and learning how to show up for each other, every single day.
Highly recommended.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
June 12, 2025
This story is tender, tense, and deeply human. It follows Iriah, the beloved daughter of a billionaire, and Udoka, a man trying to hold on to his pride while loving her fiercely.
Their love is real — but it’s constantly tested by wealth, ego, expectations, and the pressure to prove that love can survive without control.
Each chapter opens with a quote and One of them reads:
“Most people don’t realize that a strong relationship takes constant work and communication. It’s not just love; it’s effort, patience, and the ability to forgive over and over.”
That line is this book. Iriah and Udoka’s love and relationship isn’t perfect. It’s bruised, stretched, and tested countless times but what stood out to me was their intentionality. They were both trying to make things work, even when trying hurts.
There’s also the bittersweet father-daughter bond:
“A daughter may outgrow her father’s lap, but she will never outgrow his heart.”
This quote adds a deeper layer to Iriah’s character — how love from her father becomes both a source of protection and pressure.
And then there's the heart of second chances:
“The best way to make amends is to show up differently than you did before.”
This book doesn’t romanticize conflict — it shows that real love requires showing up differently, again and again. It’s about owning mistakes and choosing to do better. That theme of intentional growth hit hard.
The characters are beautifully written and there are so layered that I honestly didn’t know who to blame.
One moment I sided with Udoka, then Iriah, then neither. That emotional tug-of-war? Masterfully done. The author @amaka.azie didn’t just write about love — she wrote about what it takes to sustain it when everything else tries to pull it apart.
One last thing: The side characters! They ate! They were also written well and at some point, I found myself hoping that their various relationships sail smoothly.
Even though I can’t spoil anything, I can say this: if you have ever been in love, fought for it, or wondered if love is enough, this book will speak to you. You will love it.
It’s a fast and quick read, it's raw and real. I highly recommend!
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Their love is real — but it’s constantly tested by wealth, ego, expectations, and the pressure to prove that love can survive without control.
Each chapter opens with a quote and One of them reads:
“Most people don’t realize that a strong relationship takes constant work and communication. It’s not just love; it’s effort, patience, and the ability to forgive over and over.”
That line is this book. Iriah and Udoka’s love and relationship isn’t perfect. It’s bruised, stretched, and tested countless times but what stood out to me was their intentionality. They were both trying to make things work, even when trying hurts.
There’s also the bittersweet father-daughter bond:
“A daughter may outgrow her father’s lap, but she will never outgrow his heart.”
This quote adds a deeper layer to Iriah’s character — how love from her father becomes both a source of protection and pressure.
And then there's the heart of second chances:
“The best way to make amends is to show up differently than you did before.”
This book doesn’t romanticize conflict — it shows that real love requires showing up differently, again and again. It’s about owning mistakes and choosing to do better. That theme of intentional growth hit hard.
The characters are beautifully written and there are so layered that I honestly didn’t know who to blame.
One moment I sided with Udoka, then Iriah, then neither. That emotional tug-of-war? Masterfully done. The author @amaka.azie didn’t just write about love — she wrote about what it takes to sustain it when everything else tries to pull it apart.
One last thing: The side characters! They ate! They were also written well and at some point, I found myself hoping that their various relationships sail smoothly.
Even though I can’t spoil anything, I can say this: if you have ever been in love, fought for it, or wondered if love is enough, this book will speak to you. You will love it.
It’s a fast and quick read, it's raw and real. I highly recommend!
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June 12, 2025
I got my first ARC copy from @amaka Azie and I am so excited and grateful. This book was a heartfelt journey, every pages, felt like free therapy and those thought provoking opening quotes? Chef kiss!! I enjoyed this novel, and took away so many valuable lessons.
What I loved most is how the book explores the raw depth and honesty of love, relationships, and marriage. It's not a fairy tale version, this story shows the real work: Communication, patience, trust and understanding.It's a must read for anyone trying to understand the difference between being in love and building a marriage as life isn't always black and white.
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What stood out most is the portrayal of a marriage where the female character has money, connections, and control, challenging the traditional societal norms. This dynamic leads to silent envy, competition, resentment, and insecurities, almost damaging their marriage. Iriah's frustration felt valid and her longing for soft, presentable love was relatable, as she has every right to be angry when her partner is more focused on proving himself than being there for her. They're a lot of funny in laws drama which was giving the proper Nigeria household setting,so hilarious.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The novel also highlighted the importance of couples' therapy, which is often overlooked in today's society. This story shows how necessary and healing it can be. The author beautifully portrayed how the therapy helped the couples to lay out their silent and inner battles with each others. Watching Udoka and Iriah rebuild with communication, effort and Vulnerability was beautiful
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The author's writing is deep, emotional, rich and resonates with the soul. A second-chance romance full of healing, rawness, self-discovery, intentionality, and forgiveness. I recommend!!! especially to anyone navigating love and commitment. Free and Unpaid therapy?? Yes please 😁😁
Ps one of my favorites quote from the book is; Real love is not a fairy tale. it's not always kisses and butterflies. It's fighting and staying, arguing and understanding, breaking and rebuilding. It's real and it's worth it - Unknown
What I loved most is how the book explores the raw depth and honesty of love, relationships, and marriage. It's not a fairy tale version, this story shows the real work: Communication, patience, trust and understanding.It's a must read for anyone trying to understand the difference between being in love and building a marriage as life isn't always black and white.
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What stood out most is the portrayal of a marriage where the female character has money, connections, and control, challenging the traditional societal norms. This dynamic leads to silent envy, competition, resentment, and insecurities, almost damaging their marriage. Iriah's frustration felt valid and her longing for soft, presentable love was relatable, as she has every right to be angry when her partner is more focused on proving himself than being there for her. They're a lot of funny in laws drama which was giving the proper Nigeria household setting,so hilarious.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The novel also highlighted the importance of couples' therapy, which is often overlooked in today's society. This story shows how necessary and healing it can be. The author beautifully portrayed how the therapy helped the couples to lay out their silent and inner battles with each others. Watching Udoka and Iriah rebuild with communication, effort and Vulnerability was beautiful
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The author's writing is deep, emotional, rich and resonates with the soul. A second-chance romance full of healing, rawness, self-discovery, intentionality, and forgiveness. I recommend!!! especially to anyone navigating love and commitment. Free and Unpaid therapy?? Yes please 😁😁
Ps one of my favorites quote from the book is; Real love is not a fairy tale. it's not always kisses and butterflies. It's fighting and staying, arguing and understanding, breaking and rebuilding. It's real and it's worth it - Unknown
August 15, 2025
Amaka Azie drops yet another masterpiece with this book “It Started With I Do”, a deeply emotional second-chance romance that follows the story of Udoka and Iriah. Two couples trying to find their marriage despite the work pressure, lack of communication and time, family pressures and lots more. Just 2 years into marriage, Iriah is ready to walk away from everything she and Udoka had shared. Until a friend suggests a couples retreat to help fix their marriage instead of letting go of each others.
But can a couples retreat in a beautiful island resolve their problems and help fix their marriage?
Or from the retreat, divorce or even worse might occur?
This book dives into the emotional vulnerability between the two characters, the confront of their issues without shifting places and hiding behind miscommunication made their journey so matured and beautiful.
What I loved most is how the author internationally addresses therapy- most Nigerians and married couples today avoid therapy because they feel it doesn’t help or do anything to improve the situation rather it may cause divorce. This book didn’t shy away from the heavy topics and burden in marriages and relationships.
Amaka’s writing is so heartfelt, soft and deliberate. The blend of banter, romance and emotional intensity in every chapter is so powerful and intriguing. The gender role being reversed in the most calm and refreshing way ever. ( no be everytime FMC or her family dey poor ). The pacing of this book is incredible, there are no wasted chapters or moments in this book.
This book isn’t just another love story, it’s a valid reminder that love is not just about passion or romance but more of communication, gentleness, patience and the willingness to make things work out.
If you love a romance book that’s real, raw, rich, touches a heart, culturally grounded, then this is definitely a must read for you.
But can a couples retreat in a beautiful island resolve their problems and help fix their marriage?
Or from the retreat, divorce or even worse might occur?
This book dives into the emotional vulnerability between the two characters, the confront of their issues without shifting places and hiding behind miscommunication made their journey so matured and beautiful.
What I loved most is how the author internationally addresses therapy- most Nigerians and married couples today avoid therapy because they feel it doesn’t help or do anything to improve the situation rather it may cause divorce. This book didn’t shy away from the heavy topics and burden in marriages and relationships.
Amaka’s writing is so heartfelt, soft and deliberate. The blend of banter, romance and emotional intensity in every chapter is so powerful and intriguing. The gender role being reversed in the most calm and refreshing way ever. ( no be everytime FMC or her family dey poor ). The pacing of this book is incredible, there are no wasted chapters or moments in this book.
This book isn’t just another love story, it’s a valid reminder that love is not just about passion or romance but more of communication, gentleness, patience and the willingness to make things work out.
If you love a romance book that’s real, raw, rich, touches a heart, culturally grounded, then this is definitely a must read for you.
June 7, 2025
This book is two in one: free therapy and a beautiful roller-coaster!😭
It was rawwww!!! Emotions were laid bare, words were said, actions were forgiven 🥹🥹. If I learnt one thing from the book, it would be that love is not just feelings, but action,communication,forgiveness!! Forgiveness is really really important 😭😭. I was learning with the couples also😭.
The characters development was so good,well grounded and not rushed in any form. I love how they were given the chance to grow at their own pace, to explore their marriage.So beautiful 🥹
The story went so smoothly. I wasn’t left asking questions or being confused because the story build was just perfect; it was almost like I was in the story also😭.
The events that occurred in the book JUST MADE SENSE.
The banter, the communication between Udoka and Iriah was phenomenal and even conversations with their family and friends. I don’t think I can forget what went down at the first family meeting they had😂😂😂. This book literally had me feeling what the characters were feeling 🥹🥹.
I can’t lie, I loved Iriah’s independence but I also loved how she came to understand that she doesn’t always have to do everything for herself all the time and Udoka certainly made that clear!! That man is husband-personified (after he had to unlearn that work obsession sha)😭😂😂.
My gallery is full of screenshots from the couples’ retreat that they went for🥹🥹
Like I said earlier, it is free therapy even for those not in relationships (like me😂😂). You would learn about love and honesty and communication and everything in between 😭😭.
I was torn between finishing the book quickly (because I couldn’t put it down) and taking it slowly (because I didn’t want it to end🥹).
Amaka Azie has outdone herself once again ❤️❤️.
P.S: I would really love a story for other two couples at the retreat 🥹🤭🤭🤭
It was rawwww!!! Emotions were laid bare, words were said, actions were forgiven 🥹🥹. If I learnt one thing from the book, it would be that love is not just feelings, but action,communication,forgiveness!! Forgiveness is really really important 😭😭. I was learning with the couples also😭.
The characters development was so good,well grounded and not rushed in any form. I love how they were given the chance to grow at their own pace, to explore their marriage.So beautiful 🥹
The story went so smoothly. I wasn’t left asking questions or being confused because the story build was just perfect; it was almost like I was in the story also😭.
The events that occurred in the book JUST MADE SENSE.
The banter, the communication between Udoka and Iriah was phenomenal and even conversations with their family and friends. I don’t think I can forget what went down at the first family meeting they had😂😂😂. This book literally had me feeling what the characters were feeling 🥹🥹.
I can’t lie, I loved Iriah’s independence but I also loved how she came to understand that she doesn’t always have to do everything for herself all the time and Udoka certainly made that clear!! That man is husband-personified (after he had to unlearn that work obsession sha)😭😂😂.
My gallery is full of screenshots from the couples’ retreat that they went for🥹🥹
Like I said earlier, it is free therapy even for those not in relationships (like me😂😂). You would learn about love and honesty and communication and everything in between 😭😭.
I was torn between finishing the book quickly (because I couldn’t put it down) and taking it slowly (because I didn’t want it to end🥹).
Amaka Azie has outdone herself once again ❤️❤️.
P.S: I would really love a story for other two couples at the retreat 🥹🤭🤭🤭
June 18, 2025
***********ARC Review***********
Tropes: second chance romance , forgiveness , marriage therapy , reconciliation and Women fiction
General thoughts: Love the cover. A book with minimal spicy but depth to the story . Exploring multiple martial challenges and methods on navigating these challenges. A reminder that marriage isn’t a walk in the park and requires commitment and intentionality everyday!
Book overview :
This story spans over several months based in Nigeria .
Udoka and Iriah have been married for 2 years, during these 2 years both parties have been dealing with challenging silently that they haven’t communicated to each other effectively.
The last straw was when Udoka missed their second marriage anniversary. Iriah had all her fears confirmed to her , he never loved her the way she did , if he did ,he wouldn’t put work and making money before her.
Udoka is dealing with the challenge of being not being the provider. He is married to an heiress , who comes from legacy money. He lives in her house , she buys herself whatever she want or needs without consulting him first. It looks like he is living off her.
Anuli is a successful psychologist who we met in book 1 and is the bestfriend of Iriah. She suggests a 4 week long marriage therapy retreat, that can help them through the challenges .
Both Udoka and Irish agree to go after seeing how badly their parents want them to go their separate ways. The family meeting that was meant to help them was rather making things worse.
They recognise in the moment that they are in love but need to resolve their marital issues . Their aim is not to divorce but to find a solution to their problems.
Will 4 weeks been enough to repair their marriage!
Read the story to find out
Tropes: second chance romance , forgiveness , marriage therapy , reconciliation and Women fiction
General thoughts: Love the cover. A book with minimal spicy but depth to the story . Exploring multiple martial challenges and methods on navigating these challenges. A reminder that marriage isn’t a walk in the park and requires commitment and intentionality everyday!
Book overview :
This story spans over several months based in Nigeria .
Udoka and Iriah have been married for 2 years, during these 2 years both parties have been dealing with challenging silently that they haven’t communicated to each other effectively.
The last straw was when Udoka missed their second marriage anniversary. Iriah had all her fears confirmed to her , he never loved her the way she did , if he did ,he wouldn’t put work and making money before her.
Udoka is dealing with the challenge of being not being the provider. He is married to an heiress , who comes from legacy money. He lives in her house , she buys herself whatever she want or needs without consulting him first. It looks like he is living off her.
Anuli is a successful psychologist who we met in book 1 and is the bestfriend of Iriah. She suggests a 4 week long marriage therapy retreat, that can help them through the challenges .
Both Udoka and Irish agree to go after seeing how badly their parents want them to go their separate ways. The family meeting that was meant to help them was rather making things worse.
They recognise in the moment that they are in love but need to resolve their marital issues . Their aim is not to divorce but to find a solution to their problems.
Will 4 weeks been enough to repair their marriage!
Read the story to find out
August 29, 2025
“It Started With I Do” by @amaka.azie
5🌟
“It Started With I Do” is a perfect second chance romance, if you’re a lover of second chance romance, this is your best bet, trust me!
This story follows Iriah, a trust fund kid, and Udoka, Iriah’s husband, who comes from an average family and now his career is overshadowing his marriage. The worse happened 2 years into their marriage, Iriah wasn’t getting the attention she deserves, for someone who her love language is quality time, she definitely wanted more from her husband. She decides walking away is her best option. But Iriah’s friend, Anuli, comes in and suggests a couple’s retreat to help them in fixing their marriage and sorting out their differences.
Do you think a 4weeks couple’s retreat on an island with no phones, no external communications, could be their first step to a healthy relationship/marriage?? Hmmm🤔
ISWID talks about these two individuals from different backgrounds, trying to match up and navigate their love life and the realization that love wasn’t enough dawned on them.
This book explores the value of friendship, family, communication and most importantly, the value of therapy. Therapy is not the most talked about in Nigeria, but Amaka Azie showed us in this book that therapy is worth it!! One thing that stands out for me whenever I pick up any AA’s books is how she passes her messages so perfectly.
This book is like a guide to having and experiencing a healthy relationship, it’s not just another love story. Do not belittle the power of therapy!!!
If all these catches your attention, matches your vibes, a second chance romance that is real, that teaches, then you must read this book!!😊📚🫶🏽.
5🌟
“It Started With I Do” is a perfect second chance romance, if you’re a lover of second chance romance, this is your best bet, trust me!
This story follows Iriah, a trust fund kid, and Udoka, Iriah’s husband, who comes from an average family and now his career is overshadowing his marriage. The worse happened 2 years into their marriage, Iriah wasn’t getting the attention she deserves, for someone who her love language is quality time, she definitely wanted more from her husband. She decides walking away is her best option. But Iriah’s friend, Anuli, comes in and suggests a couple’s retreat to help them in fixing their marriage and sorting out their differences.
Do you think a 4weeks couple’s retreat on an island with no phones, no external communications, could be their first step to a healthy relationship/marriage?? Hmmm🤔
ISWID talks about these two individuals from different backgrounds, trying to match up and navigate their love life and the realization that love wasn’t enough dawned on them.
This book explores the value of friendship, family, communication and most importantly, the value of therapy. Therapy is not the most talked about in Nigeria, but Amaka Azie showed us in this book that therapy is worth it!! One thing that stands out for me whenever I pick up any AA’s books is how she passes her messages so perfectly.
This book is like a guide to having and experiencing a healthy relationship, it’s not just another love story. Do not belittle the power of therapy!!!
If all these catches your attention, matches your vibes, a second chance romance that is real, that teaches, then you must read this book!!😊📚🫶🏽.
July 2, 2025
Thank you to to the author for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
This is the second book in an interconnected romance series set in Nigeria, told from the first person of both Iriah and Udoka.
In my mind (not the layout) this book is broken up into three sections and the middle was the most interesting part to me.
Iriah is the daughter of a multibillionaire with a trust fund and makes millions working. Udoka is a workaholic who started a profitable business as a celebrity manager, but his wealth doesn’t compare.
Getting both of their perspectives allowed me to understand and sympathize with where they were both coming from. Ego, pride, and self-sufficiency were at play, but I don’t think either of them were wrong. They just weren’t communicating effectively because they were both only dealing with surface-level feelings.
Like most things, what was fracturing their marriage was deeper than it appeared to be on the surface. That mixed with the opinions of their families made things more complicated.
Seeing them unpack the root of their problems and work on their marriage was satisfying. I felt the animosity and resentment that builded up, but I also felt the love and adoration they had for each other. I felt like they did eventually understand each other and grow in their own right.
Read for:
💍 Nigerian leads / Set in Nigeria
💍 Marriage in Crisis
💍 Heiress FMC x Workaholic MMC
💍 Family Interference
💍 Couple’s Therapy
💍 Dual POV
OVERALL
Overall, I give this a 4 out of 5 stars. This is my first book by this author and I love the writing style of the book. I want to go back to the first.
This is the second book in an interconnected romance series set in Nigeria, told from the first person of both Iriah and Udoka.
In my mind (not the layout) this book is broken up into three sections and the middle was the most interesting part to me.
Iriah is the daughter of a multibillionaire with a trust fund and makes millions working. Udoka is a workaholic who started a profitable business as a celebrity manager, but his wealth doesn’t compare.
Getting both of their perspectives allowed me to understand and sympathize with where they were both coming from. Ego, pride, and self-sufficiency were at play, but I don’t think either of them were wrong. They just weren’t communicating effectively because they were both only dealing with surface-level feelings.
Like most things, what was fracturing their marriage was deeper than it appeared to be on the surface. That mixed with the opinions of their families made things more complicated.
Seeing them unpack the root of their problems and work on their marriage was satisfying. I felt the animosity and resentment that builded up, but I also felt the love and adoration they had for each other. I felt like they did eventually understand each other and grow in their own right.
Read for:
💍 Nigerian leads / Set in Nigeria
💍 Marriage in Crisis
💍 Heiress FMC x Workaholic MMC
💍 Family Interference
💍 Couple’s Therapy
💍 Dual POV
OVERALL
Overall, I give this a 4 out of 5 stars. This is my first book by this author and I love the writing style of the book. I want to go back to the first.
July 22, 2025
💍ARC review : It started with I do - Amaka Azie @amaka.azie
The book title speaks for itself. Whoever said marriage was easy clearly lied 😂
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She’s an heiress, the only child of their helicopter parents. He’s hardworking, ambitious, and often absent for key moments. He’s a proud igbo boy too, always trying to prove he can take care of his wife, even with the constant tension with the in-laws. But despite it all, they love each other.
The real breaking point? He misses their wedding anniversary dinner. And for her, that’s too much. She’s tired of apologies. That’s Iriah and Udoka’s story.
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For me, marriage isn’t the finish line. it’s the beginning of everything. It comes with its own set of challenges. This novel completely echoed that belief, and I really enjoyed it.
The author’s writing is smooth and easy to read, even for French speakers like me. The emotions felt so real, and I spent a good time with this story.
What I appreciated most? The reminder that there’s no shame in asking for help. When you’re sick, you go to a doctor. So why do we hesitate to see a professional when our relationship is hurting ? It might not be a magical fix, but it’s worth trying.
Love alone isn’t enough in a relationship. It needs humility, forgiveness, communication… and lots of compromise.
One more thing : if you bring someone else into your issues, make sure they’re neutral oh ! And let’s not lie—sex doesn’t fix everything 🤭
✨ I recommend this book.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️✨/5
🌶️🌶️/5 (open doors scenes)
The book title speaks for itself. Whoever said marriage was easy clearly lied 😂
——
She’s an heiress, the only child of their helicopter parents. He’s hardworking, ambitious, and often absent for key moments. He’s a proud igbo boy too, always trying to prove he can take care of his wife, even with the constant tension with the in-laws. But despite it all, they love each other.
The real breaking point? He misses their wedding anniversary dinner. And for her, that’s too much. She’s tired of apologies. That’s Iriah and Udoka’s story.
——
For me, marriage isn’t the finish line. it’s the beginning of everything. It comes with its own set of challenges. This novel completely echoed that belief, and I really enjoyed it.
The author’s writing is smooth and easy to read, even for French speakers like me. The emotions felt so real, and I spent a good time with this story.
What I appreciated most? The reminder that there’s no shame in asking for help. When you’re sick, you go to a doctor. So why do we hesitate to see a professional when our relationship is hurting ? It might not be a magical fix, but it’s worth trying.
Love alone isn’t enough in a relationship. It needs humility, forgiveness, communication… and lots of compromise.
One more thing : if you bring someone else into your issues, make sure they’re neutral oh ! And let’s not lie—sex doesn’t fix everything 🤭
✨ I recommend this book.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️✨/5
🌶️🌶️/5 (open doors scenes)
June 8, 2025
When it comes to relationship fiction in Nigeria, Amaka Azie’s books are among the best I can recommend.
Just like she does in her previous works, this book takes you on a journey through a troubled marriage, love, and the things that sustain marriage in the long run.
The simplicity of this book makes it so easy to read in just a couple of hours. I think it took me about three to four hours of straight reading to finish it.
This story follows Iriah Ozah, our female main character, who is ready to walk away from her marriage to her husband, Udoka.
There are several things I really love about this book. First is the concept of Iriah being much wealthier than her husband. In a society like Nigeria that leans heavily patriarchal, the idea of a woman being wealthier than the man doesn’t often sit well. It bruises egos and makes some men feel incapacitated. I love how this dynamic is portrayed in the story.
Also, while some might view Iriah’s justification for leaving the marriage as childish, I tend to disagree. One thing I learn from this book is the importance of understanding your partner’s love language and learning to speak it.
Then there’s the third-party theme explored in the book. Lol, dem no dey put mouth for relationship matter ooo!😂
As much as this book is an eye-opener, it isn’t my favorite by Amaka Azie. There are some parts that feel a bit underwhelming for me.
Just like she does in her previous works, this book takes you on a journey through a troubled marriage, love, and the things that sustain marriage in the long run.
The simplicity of this book makes it so easy to read in just a couple of hours. I think it took me about three to four hours of straight reading to finish it.
This story follows Iriah Ozah, our female main character, who is ready to walk away from her marriage to her husband, Udoka.
There are several things I really love about this book. First is the concept of Iriah being much wealthier than her husband. In a society like Nigeria that leans heavily patriarchal, the idea of a woman being wealthier than the man doesn’t often sit well. It bruises egos and makes some men feel incapacitated. I love how this dynamic is portrayed in the story.
Also, while some might view Iriah’s justification for leaving the marriage as childish, I tend to disagree. One thing I learn from this book is the importance of understanding your partner’s love language and learning to speak it.
Then there’s the third-party theme explored in the book. Lol, dem no dey put mouth for relationship matter ooo!😂
As much as this book is an eye-opener, it isn’t my favorite by Amaka Azie. There are some parts that feel a bit underwhelming for me.
June 28, 2025
ARC REVIEW
It started with I do by Amaka Azie
Pub date: 30th July 2025
A second chance Novel
Book two in the Self Discovery series
Rating : ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
It started with I do is a thought provoking swoon worthy easy to read novel.
So much to learn. Thou the FMC is rich rich , she is down to earth, respects her man and is still working a 9-5 ( that’s new )
The story revolves around Ariah the rich heiress and Udoka a normal hardworking Igbo man.
They had a phenomenal relationship until they said “ I Do.
With a lot of things in play, life work balance, expectations, miss communication and secrets, their marriage is hanging by a thread.
Will they survive their differences.
This book is a clear representation of relationships work both ways. Both parties putting in the effort to make things happen and showing up for your person and loving them the way they need you to not how you think they should be loved. ✨
The character development is impeccable, the story is cohesive, duo POVs , things I love. The supporting characters were also well written. I high key want to read more about Cole’s story.
The little message at the end of every chapter ( Book made for rytaha@gmail.com ) was heartwarming 😍 had me blushing all the time. TY
I enjoyed this book, would definitely recommend and I look forward to reading more of Amaka Azie’s work.
Thank you @AmakaAzie for the ARC.
It started with I do by Amaka Azie
Pub date: 30th July 2025
A second chance Novel
Book two in the Self Discovery series
Rating : ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
It started with I do is a thought provoking swoon worthy easy to read novel.
So much to learn. Thou the FMC is rich rich , she is down to earth, respects her man and is still working a 9-5 ( that’s new )
The story revolves around Ariah the rich heiress and Udoka a normal hardworking Igbo man.
They had a phenomenal relationship until they said “ I Do.
With a lot of things in play, life work balance, expectations, miss communication and secrets, their marriage is hanging by a thread.
Will they survive their differences.
This book is a clear representation of relationships work both ways. Both parties putting in the effort to make things happen and showing up for your person and loving them the way they need you to not how you think they should be loved. ✨
The character development is impeccable, the story is cohesive, duo POVs , things I love. The supporting characters were also well written. I high key want to read more about Cole’s story.
The little message at the end of every chapter ( Book made for rytaha@gmail.com ) was heartwarming 😍 had me blushing all the time. TY
I enjoyed this book, would definitely recommend and I look forward to reading more of Amaka Azie’s work.
Thank you @AmakaAzie for the ARC.
June 28, 2025
Mood: Second Chance Romance. Mature love. Nigerian culture. Therapy & Healing.
You know how they say marriage is not a fairytale? This book shows you exactly why.
This is the story of Iriah and Udoka, a Nigerian couple whose marriage is hanging by a thread just two years after saying “I do.” Iriah is tired not just physically, but emotionally. The kind of tiredness that silence brings.
She’s already halfway out the door, until a best friend and a bold decision take her and her husband to a four-week couples’ retreat on Bonny Island.
That’s where everything shifts.
What I loved most about this book is how real it is.
This isn’t insta-love. This is love that’s been bruised and tested. The kind that’s gotten lost under responsibilities, past trauma, parental expectations, and emotional neglect and now needs to be found again.
But the biggest lesson here?
Love alone isn’t enough. It takes commitment, conscious action, and two people willing to show up daily for it to work.
Iriah and Udoka both had to confront their own shortcomings and the damage caused by miscommunication, unspoken hurt, and years of silence.
I loved how Amaka Azie used this to show that intimacy is more than just sex, it’s communication, vulnerability, shared silence, and slow healing.
I really enjoyed reading this book and would definitely recommend it to anyone.
You know how they say marriage is not a fairytale? This book shows you exactly why.
This is the story of Iriah and Udoka, a Nigerian couple whose marriage is hanging by a thread just two years after saying “I do.” Iriah is tired not just physically, but emotionally. The kind of tiredness that silence brings.
She’s already halfway out the door, until a best friend and a bold decision take her and her husband to a four-week couples’ retreat on Bonny Island.
That’s where everything shifts.
What I loved most about this book is how real it is.
This isn’t insta-love. This is love that’s been bruised and tested. The kind that’s gotten lost under responsibilities, past trauma, parental expectations, and emotional neglect and now needs to be found again.
But the biggest lesson here?
Love alone isn’t enough. It takes commitment, conscious action, and two people willing to show up daily for it to work.
Iriah and Udoka both had to confront their own shortcomings and the damage caused by miscommunication, unspoken hurt, and years of silence.
I loved how Amaka Azie used this to show that intimacy is more than just sex, it’s communication, vulnerability, shared silence, and slow healing.
I really enjoyed reading this book and would definitely recommend it to anyone.
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