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Facing the Fire: Experiencing and Expressing Anger Appropriately
The author of The Flying Boy describes how repressing anger can have profound effects on personal health and guides readers step by step through the process of getting past their fears.
“ Facing the Fire is the best book on anger I have read; it is responsible, honest, practical, and a good read. I know the techniques Lee describes work, and the exercises alone make it a valuable book. I will use Facing the Fire personally and professionally.”—Dr. Patricia Love, author of The Emotional Incest What to Do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life
Do you Anger is a “negative” emotion? “Nice” or “emotionally sophisticated” people don't get angry? Anger will disappear when you have understood intellectually what causes it? You won’t be angry if you just learn to forgive? If so, you are not alone. Anger is the most misunderstood and, consequently, painful of all our emotions. But denying, suppressing, and avoiding our own and others’ anger can have unfortunate weakened immune systems, numbing addictions, stormy relationships, lowered self-esteem.
Now, John Lee, the nationally renowned speaker, teacher, and author, shows you a better way of dealing with anger. Based on his work with clients and his own experiences with anger,
• Uses real-life scenarios to help you understand what anger is, what causes it, and why it cannot and should not be avoided
• Carefully guides you through a process of confronting and getting past the fears—of losing control, of alienating people, of hurting yourself or someone you love—that keep you from honestly experiencing and accepting your anger
• Gently demonstrates ways in which you can express anger constructively—from talking it out to pounding your pillow
• Demonstrates why another person’s anger, if it is expressed appropriately, need not be threatening or harmful to you—but in fact can help you
“Anger is our most misunderstood emotion. It is a fire that will either consume or purify. In this book, through effective and practical exercises, John Lee carefully guides the reader into a healthy relationship with this powerful emotion.”—Wayne Kritsberg, author of The Invisible Wound
“ Facing the Fire is the best book on anger I have read; it is responsible, honest, practical, and a good read. I know the techniques Lee describes work, and the exercises alone make it a valuable book. I will use Facing the Fire personally and professionally.”—Dr. Patricia Love, author of The Emotional Incest What to Do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life
Do you Anger is a “negative” emotion? “Nice” or “emotionally sophisticated” people don't get angry? Anger will disappear when you have understood intellectually what causes it? You won’t be angry if you just learn to forgive? If so, you are not alone. Anger is the most misunderstood and, consequently, painful of all our emotions. But denying, suppressing, and avoiding our own and others’ anger can have unfortunate weakened immune systems, numbing addictions, stormy relationships, lowered self-esteem.
Now, John Lee, the nationally renowned speaker, teacher, and author, shows you a better way of dealing with anger. Based on his work with clients and his own experiences with anger,
• Uses real-life scenarios to help you understand what anger is, what causes it, and why it cannot and should not be avoided
• Carefully guides you through a process of confronting and getting past the fears—of losing control, of alienating people, of hurting yourself or someone you love—that keep you from honestly experiencing and accepting your anger
• Gently demonstrates ways in which you can express anger constructively—from talking it out to pounding your pillow
• Demonstrates why another person’s anger, if it is expressed appropriately, need not be threatening or harmful to you—but in fact can help you
“Anger is our most misunderstood emotion. It is a fire that will either consume or purify. In this book, through effective and practical exercises, John Lee carefully guides the reader into a healthy relationship with this powerful emotion.”—Wayne Kritsberg, author of The Invisible Wound
- GenresPsychologySelf Help
258 pages, Paperback
First published September 1, 1992
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About the author
John H. Lee
44 books29 followersJohn Lee is a pioneer in the fields of self-help, anger management, co-dependency, emotional regression, recovery, emotional intelligence, relationships, and men’s issues. His highly innovative work in these fields has made him an in-demand consultant, teacher, trainer, life coach, and speaker. His contributions in these fields have put him in the national spotlight for over 35 years.
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February 6, 2018
Some day ask me my Axe story, associated with this book, and the healing, and the irony that came from it.
Making this one of the most healing books I've ever read.
Making this one of the most healing books I've ever read.
November 12, 2008
This is the book that helped me see how much I struggling from trying to squelch my anger all the time, meanwhile it was leaking out all my seams. While I'm not sure the book helped me makes tons of progress, it created a safe place from which I could ask for help.
July 3, 2018
This book had opened my eyes about what anger really is and how important is express it Omán appropiate way. Without any doubt it is a very useful and easy-to-read book.
I like it a lot and I recommend it widely.
I like it a lot and I recommend it widely.
October 5, 2024
الكتاب يساعدنا على فهم بعد الغضب و تجسده على أماكن و اثره اعتقد انه جميل للقراءه يفهم اثر وبعد الغضب
October 15, 2019
Another book that was read over time first thing in the morning. The book focuses on Anger, sometimes a misunderstood emotion. There were many good sections of this book, including workshop ideas to use.
There were a few sections that I purposely missed as it focuses of Anger in Children, and, not having Children were irrelevant to read.
A good morning and thoughtful read.
There were a few sections that I purposely missed as it focuses of Anger in Children, and, not having Children were irrelevant to read.
A good morning and thoughtful read.
June 13, 2024
One of the best books I've ever read to help heal your anger issues. It gives tips, reasons, solutions, practices, and it explains that anger is a physical emotion and can not be bottled up. This book was genuinely insightful, and I recommend it to anyone learning how to cope with bottled up emotion, or anger in general.
October 15, 2019
Some good points but in parts just felt like it went on forever
March 14, 2023
Pretty helpful, but it went on longer than it should have
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